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Oh`ersoaohts
B hoo`o` tnbs leei. B wms ruhhbhk eh oapty trybhk te
aoot etnors oxpoftmtbehs eg ao. Korb nocpo` ao bmkheso
ay sbtumtbeh mh` kmvo ao prmftbfmc, mppcbfmlco, lblcbfmc
wmys te m``ross bt. Pnmhi yeu, Korb. Pnbs bs m aust-rom`.Bt bs groobhk!
\utn Krmnma, mutner
B rom` Korb Vfmzzores leei eh m `my tnmt nm` looh
pmrtbfucmrcy fnmccohkbhkeho eg tneso B fmht nmh`comhetnor tnbhk! ibh` eg `mys. B wms mlco te cbstoh te nor
wbs`ea wbtneut mcc tno `ogohsbvo lmrrbors B abknt her-
amccy oroft wnoh B `eht wmht te lo gmfo` wbtn uhfea-
gertmlco trutn. Korbs wer`s ohfeurmko` aomh` ovoh
pusno` aote oxmabho ay pmttorhs eg rocmtbhk te Ke`
mh` te tneso fcesost te ao. Nor oxmapco eg cbvbhk bh tnogroo`ea tnmt feaos grea lobhk fehgb`oht eg Ke`s cevo
bhspbros ao te `e seao bhtohtbehmc seuc weri. Pnmhi yeu,
Korb.
Imy [mrroh, oxofutbvo `brofter,NBW/MB@V Bhbtbmtbvo, Vm``colmfiFnurfn
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Vtep Zrotoh`bhk Ovorytnbhk Bs Gbho
mh` Fnmhko Reur Cbgo
Korb Vfmzzore Zotor VfmzzorewbtnFromters eg Oaetbehmccy Nomctny Vpbrbtumcbty
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TEH@O\WMH
B ]ubt!
Fepyrbknt -:-6=:-6
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Pe Amrbm, Fnrbsty, Gmbtn, mh` Ovm,
tnmt yeu abknt ihew, bh yeur bhaest lobhk,
tno cevo eg Fnrbst tnmt bs lottor tnmh cbgo
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Fehtohts
Mfihewco`kaohts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .2Gerower`4Zoto Vfmzzore. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . =6
Bhtre`uftbeh4[noh Reu Fmht Pmio Bt Mhyaero. . . . . . .=?
= ]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi . . . . . . . .
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Mfihewco`kaohts
Pnbs leei weuc` het nmvo looh wrbttoh wbtneut ay nus-
lmh`, Zoto. B ma m peh`oror. No bs m wrbtor. Mctneukn B
ma tno eho wne b`ohtbgbo`, hmao`, mh` mrtbfucmto` tno
siocoteh eg tno B ]ubts, no bs tno eho wne bhsbsto`, Reu
nmvo m wneco leei bh yeu. B ]ubt!rogcofts eur toma oggert
grea tno lokbhhbhk te tno oh`. Bt rogcofts wnmt wo letn
comrho` eh tnbs abssbhk mspoft eg spbrbtumc geramtbeh evor
m geurtooh-yomr porbe`.
Zoto bs m uhbquocy weh`orguc porseh wnea B wms se
cufiy te amrry. Eho eg Zotos aest mttrmftbvo qumcbtbos bs
nbs nuabcbty mh` epohhoss te comrh, krew, mh` fnmhko. Nonms mcwmys looh rospehsbvo te ay B ]ubts mh` omkorcy
mppcbo` tnoa te nbs ewh cbgo. [o mcse ihew new vory,
vory lcosso` wo mro te ohdey tno ehkebhk oxporbohfo eg
krewbhk tekotnor bh tnbs weh`orguc deurhoy wo hew cmloc
oaetbehmccy nomctny spbrbtumcbty. B fnorbsn tnbs weh`or-
guc kbgt tnmt wo roambh eh m sbabcmr comrhbhk furvo mgtortwohty-sbx yomrs eg amrrbmko.
B locehk te twe sbkhbgbfmht feaauhbtbos tnmt nmvo
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=: B ]_BP!
bapmfto` ay cbgo loyeh` aomsuro. Pno gbrst bs ay
oxtoh`o` gmabcy eg pmrohts, sblcbhks, bh-cmws, hbofos, mh`
hopnows, wnbfn nms mcwmys looh m pcmfo eg fehhoftbeh,locehkbhk, mh` cevo. Reu ioop ao reeto` bh tno hehho-
ketbmlco vmcuo mh` suppert eg gmabcy. Reu nmvo kbvoh ao
m troaoh`eus cokmfy ger wnbfn B ma otorhmccy krmtoguc. B
weuc` het nmvo nm` tno kee`s te qubt bg bt woro het ger
wnmt yeu `opesbto` bhte ao.
B wmht mcse te tnmhi ay etnor feaauhbty How Cbgo
Goccewsnbp Fnurfn. B ma m trmhsgerao` porseh eut eg
eur amhy yomrs tekotnor. Reu nmvo mccewo` us te pbehoor
how pmtnwmys eg spbrbtumc geramtbeh. [o nmvo trusto`
mh` cevo` omfn etnor ger m qumrtor eg m fohtury. Pnmhi
yeu ger lobhk tno ibh` eg fnurfn tnmt oalrmfos tno trutns
oxprosso` bh B ]ubt!.
B wmht te mcse tnmhi Vmh`y Wmh`or Tbfnt mh` Teh`or-vmh, ospofbmccy ger tnobr pmtbohfo bh wmbtbhk eh ay he
prossuro sfno`uco te wrbto tno leei mh` ger tno eutstmh`-
bhk o`btbhk eh Vmh`ys pmrt. Pnmhi yeu, Imtny Nocaors,
ger roprosohtbhk tnbs aossmko eh ay lonmcg.
Pnmhi yeu, Lmrlmrm mh` Fnrbs Kbmaehhm, ger yeur
grboh`snbp mh` goo`lmfi, mcehk wbtn yeur cevo ger tnofnurfn eg Dosus Fnrbst.
Pnmhi yeu, @euk Vcmylmukn, ger yeur vbsbeh mh` com`-
orsnbp ger tnbs aossmko mh` yeur tbaocy ohtrmhfo bhte eur
cbvos m gow yomrs mke.
Gbhmccy, B wmht te tnmhi ay mhkocs grea tno Ab`wost,
wne nmh`o` ao mh exykoh amsi wnoh B wms suggefmtbhk.
Reur kohoreus nespbtmcbty mh` prevbsbeh eg eur hoo`s mtfrbtbfmc duhfturos bh eur abhbstry noro bh How Reri Fbty
ohmlco` ao te kot exykoh te ay seuc mh` porsovoro `urbhk
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Mfihewco`kaohts ==
tneso gbrst toh `bggbfuct yomrs. Ke` lreuknt amhy kbgts eg
sustohmhfo tnreukn yeu. B ma het suro B weuc` stbcc lo bh
How Reri wbtneut yeur ibh`hossos.
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Gerower`
Pno aest cevbhk tnbhk Korb ovor `b` ger ao wms te qubt
tno fnurfn B pmster. Ros, m pmrt eg ao wmhto` te ibcc nor
ger tno nuabcbmtbeh B goct. Lut Ke` uso` nor feurmkoeus
`ofbsbeh te fnmhko ay cbgo bh pregeuh` wmys.B ]ubt!bs lmso` eh Korbs stery, lut B locbovo bt bs m stery
wo mcc snmro9 mt seao pebht, qubttbhk bs seaotnbhk omfn eg
us aust `e. Ovory porseh wne geccews Dosus hoo`s te `bs-
fevor mh` mppcy tnoso trutns tnmt nmvo lofeao se `bsfeh-
hofto` grea eur spbrbtumc geramtbeh bh Fnrbst.
_htbc hew, B nmvo looh tno fnbog lohogbfbmry eg tnbs
aossmko, comrhbhk up fceso grea Korb omfn eg tno B ]ubts
`osfrblo` bh tnbs leei. Evor tno cmst gbgtooh yomrs B nmvo
comrho` new tequbt ms m pmroht, m nuslmh`, mh` m pmster/
com`or. [nbco bhbtbmccy `bggbfuct, tnbs deurhoy nms co` te m
covoc eg groo`ea mh` dey bh tno Fnrbstbmh cbgo tnmt B hovor
bamkbho` wms pessblco.
Bh gmft, tno prbhfbpcos eg B ]ubt!mro geuh`mtbehmc teeur spbrbtumc geramtbeh abhbstrbos mh` com`orsnbp vmcuos
mt How Cbgo Goccewsnbp Fnurfn bh ]uoohs, How Reri.
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=0 B ]_BP!
[btneut feurmkoeus aoh mh` weaoh wne wbcc tmio up
tno fnmccohko eg tnbs leei, B roambh `eultguc mleut eur
mlbcbty te rmbso up nomctny, lblcbfmc feaauhbtbos tnmtoggoftbvocy ohkmko tno werc` wbtn tno kespoc mh` `oopcy
trmhsgera cbvos. Ger tnbs romseh B ma se oxfbto` tnmt tno
rbfnhoss mh` lromtn eg B ]ubt!bs hew mvmbcmlco te m cmrkor
mu`bohfo tnreukn tnbs leei.
B cevo Korb. Mh` sno bs gmr grea porgoft. Hehotnocoss,
mgtor twohty-sbx yomrs eg amrrbmko, B fmh kcm`cy mggbra tnmt
sno bs ay hualor-eho nore. Nor cbgo bs nor kromtost kbgt.
ZOPO\VFMTTO\E
Vohber Zmster, How Cbgo
Goccewsnbp Fnurfn
]uoohs, How Reri Fbty
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[noh Reu FmhtPmio Bt Mhyaero
Pnbs bs m leei mleut geccewbhk Dosus mh` suaaehbhk tno
feurmko te qubt mhytnbhk tnmt `eos het locehk te nbs ibhk-
`ea er gmcc uh`or nbs ruco.Prm`btbehmccy, tno Fnrbstbmh feaauhbty nmsht pcmfo`
aufn vmcuo eh qubttbhk. Bh gmft, dust tno eppesbto bs
truo9 bt bs oh`urmhfo mh` porsovormhfo wo aest ostooa.
Ger amhy eg us, tno hetbeh eg qubttbhk bs
feapcotocy gerobkh. [noh B wms krewbhk
up, qubttors woro fehsb`oro` womi, lm`sperts, mh` lmlbos. B hovor qubt mhy eg tno
kreups er tomas B wms pmrt eg. B `e roaoa-
lor lrbogcy qubttbhk tno Kbrc Vfeuts, lut B
seeh rodebho`. ]ubttbhk bs het m qumcbty wo
m`abro bh eursocvos er bh etnors.
Pno ibh` eg qubttbhk Ba tmcibhk mleut bsht mleut
womihoss er kbvbhk up bh `ospmbr. Bt bs mleut strohktn mh`fneesbhk te cbvo bh tno trutn. Pnbs roqubros tno `omtn eg
bccusbehs. Bt aomhs fomsbhk te protoh` tnmt ovorytnbhk bs
Pno ibh` egqubttbhk Ba
tmcibhk mleutbsht mleut
womihoss erkbvbhk up bh
`ospmbr.
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gbho wnoh bt bs het. Zorpotumtbhk bccusbehs bs m uhbvorsmc
prelcoa bh amrrbmkos, gmabcbos, grboh`snbps, mh` weri
pcmfos. Prmkbfmccy, protoh`bhk ovorytnbhk bs gbho wnoh btshet mcse nmppohs mt fnurfn, tno vory pcmfo wnoro trutn
mh` cevo mro aomht te snbho aest lrbkntcy.
Lblcbfmc qubttbhkkeos nmh` bh nmh` wbtn fneesbhk. [noh
wo qubt tneso tnbhks tnmt mro `mamkbhk te eur seucs er tno
seucs eg etnors, wo mro groo` up te fneeso etnor wmys eg
lobhk mh` rocmtbhk tnmt mro reeto` bh cevo mh` com` te cbgo.
Ger oxmapco . . .
[noh wo qubt gomr eg wnmt etnors tnbhi, wo fneeso
groo`ea.
[noh wo qubtcbos, wofneesotrutn.
[noh wo qubtlcmabhk, wofneesote tmio rospehsblbcbty.
[noh woqubtgmucty tnbhibhk, wofneesote cbvo bh romcbty.
]ubttbhk bs m wmy eg puttbhk egg wnmt Vfrbpturo fmccsgmcsonee` mh` tno ec` socg. Ms tno mpestco Zmuc wrbtos, Zut
egg yeur ec` socg . . . mh` te put eh tno how socg, fromto` te
lo cbio Ke` bh truo rbkntoeushoss mh` necbhoss. Pnorogero
omfn eg yeu aust put egg gmcsonee` (Opnosbmhs 04
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[noh Reu Fmht Pmio Bt Mhyaero =;
Futtbhk tno \epo
Bh =2>?, Vbaeh Rmtos mh` nbs fcbalbhk pmrthor, Deo Vbap-
seh, nm` dust romfno` tno tep eg m
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=> B ]_BP!
fmap ehcy neurs logero Rmtos nm` pcmhho` te comvo. Bh
`osfrblbhk nbs `ofbsbeh te fut tno repo, Rmtos mrtbfucmtos
tno fero bhhor strukkco ger omfn eg us bh `ebhk B ]ubt!.
B nm` hovor goct se wrotfno`cy mceho . . . Bg B nm`ht
fut tno repo, B weuc` fortmbhcy nmvo `bo`. He eho
futs tno repo! Bt feuc` hovor nmvo looh tnmt lm`! [ny
`b`ht yeu `e tnbs er try tnmt5 B feuc` nomr tno quos-
tbehs, mh` soo tno `eults bh tno oyos eg tneso wne
mffopto` ay stery. Bt wms lbzmrro mh` bt wms fruoc . . .Newovor amhy tbaos B porsum`o` aysocg tnmt B nm` he
fnebfo lut te fut tno repo, m hmkkbhk tneuknt smb` etn-
orwbso. Bt sooao` cbio m lcmspnoay te nmvo `eho sufn
m tnbhk. Bt woht mkmbhst ovory bhstbhft4 ovoh mkmbhst
socg-prosorvmtbeh. B feuc` cbstoh te he rmtbehmc mrku-
aohts mkmbhst tno goocbhks eg kubct mh` fewmr`bfo . . . B
rosbkho` aysocg te puhbsnaoht. Bt sooao` rbknt te lo
puhbsno`9 te mteho ger comvbhk nba `om` ms bg sbapcy
survbvbhk nm` looh m frbao bh btsocg.=
]ubttbhk fmh gooc cbio wo mro sovorbhk m cbgocbho, tnmt
seaoeho, pessblcy ovoh eursocvos, bs kebhk te `bo. Ger tnbs
romseh qubttbhk bs uhtnbhimlco te amhy, ospofbmccy bh tno
fnurfn. Bt mppomrs lbzmrro mh` fruoc. [ne wmhts te
lo uhpepucmr mh` refi tno lemt er `bsrupt tnbhks5 B suro
`b`ht.
Lut tnoro feaos m pebht wnoh wo fress m tnrosnec`
mh` wo fmht tmio bt mhyaero. Cbio Rmtos, wo ihew wo
wbcc `bo spbrbtumccy, oaetbehmccy, er etnorwbso uhcoss wo
qubt mh` fneeso te `e seaotnbhk `bggorohtcy. [o gbhmccystop evor eur gomrs bhte tno kromt uhihewh torrbtery tnmt
cbos logero us.
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[noh Reu Fmht Pmio Bt Mhyaero =2
Rmtos wms frbtbfbzo` ly seao bh tno aeuhtmbh-fcbalbhk
feaauhbty ger vbecmtbhk m smfro` ruco eg hovor mlmh`eh-
bhk ehos pmrthor ovoh bg letn `bo` bh tno prefoss. DeoVbapseh nbasocg pmssbehmtocy `ogoh`o` Rmtos fnebfo.
_ctbamtocy, Rmtoss `ofbsbeh te fut tno repo smvo` letn
tnobr cbvos.
Pno _hgroo Fnrbstbmh
[noh B gocc bh cevo wbtn Fnrbst, B gocc nmr`. Ms m hbhotooh-
yomr-ec` feccoko stu`oht, tno oherabty eg Ke`s cevo evor-
wnocao` ao. B baao`bmtocy lokmh m pmssbehmto quost te
ihew tnbs cbvbhk Dosus, mh` B wms wbccbhk te `e wnmtovor bt
teei te pcomso nba.
B omkorcy strufturo` ay cbgo mreuh` ioy spbrbtumc `bsfb-
pcbhos sufn ms rom`bhk mh` aoaerbzbhk Vfrbpturo, prmyor,goccewsnbp, wersnbp, gmstbhk, kbvbhk gbhmhfbmccy, sorvbhk,
sbcohfo mh` secbtu`o, mh` snmrbhk ay gmbtn wbtn etnors.
Bh ay pursubt eg Fnrbstcbiohoss, B mlserlo` leeis mleut
tno bapertmhfo eg spbrbtumc `bsfbpcbhos ly sufn mutners ms
\bfnmr` Gestor, D. B. Zmfior, mh` Denh Vtett. Pnoy woro
nocpguc bh lrem`ohbhk ay uh`orstmh`bhk eg Fnrbstbmhbtymh` bhspbrbhk ao te ioop Fnrbst mt tno fohtor eg ay cbgo.
Newovor, B gmbco` te krmsp tno trutn tnmt m nomctny spbrb-
tumc cbgo bhfcu`os m fmroguc lmcmhfo lotwooh sorvbhk etnor
poepcos hoo`s mh` `osbros mh` vmcubhk ay ewh hoo`s mh`
`osbros. Bhstom`, B put aest eg ay oggerts bhte fmrbhk ger
etnors mt tno oxpohso eg ay ewh seuc.
Pno mffuaucmto` pmbh mh` rosohtaoht eg tnbs balmc-mhfo co` te ay gbrst lbk qubt mt mko tnbrty-sovoh. Mgtor
sovohtooh yomrs eg lobhk m feaabtto` Fnrbstbmh, B fmao
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[noh Reu Fmht Pmio Bt Mhyaero 46?). Mh`
tnmt wms wnmt nmppoho` wnoh B qubt B
ket ay cbgo lmfi. Mh` wnmt geccewo` woro
ovoh aero trmhsgeramtbehs tnmt het ehcy fnmhko` ao lut
mcse lreuknt how cbgo te Zoto, eur amrrbmko, eur fnbc`roh,eur fnurfn, mh` te feuhtcoss etnors.
]ubttbhk nms purbgbo` ay nomrt. Bt nms `oamh`o` B
]ubttbhk nms`oamh`o`
B m`abt trutnsmleut aysocg
tnmt B progorro`te lury mh`
mveb`.
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[noh Reu Fmht Pmio Bt Mhyaero
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi
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B ]_BP!
How Reri Fbty. B tneuknt no sneuc` gooc ay `bstross mt
tno `bggbfuctbos bh eur cbvos cehk neurs, cbttco aehoy, he
lromis, `bggbfuct poepco.[o woro mcse debho` mt tno nbp bh goocbhk rospehsblco
ger omfn etnors sm`hoss, mhkor, mh` mhxboty. Ms m rosuct,
wo cbvo` bh romftbeh te eho mhetnor abhbabzbhk, lcma-
bhk, ohybhk, mh` ogoh`bhk eursocvos mkmbhst omfn etnors
oaetbehs. \m`bfmc surkory wms roqubro` te sopmrmto eur
oaetbehmc werc`s. [o woroht sopmrmto oheukn ms bh`b-
vb`umcs te ohdey kohubho fehhoftbeh mh` tekotnorhoss. B
gomro` tno hokmtbvo fehsoquohfos bg B fnmhko` eur oae-
tbehmc `mhfo. [nbco Zoto wms het mh ekro ly mhy aomhs,
B stbcc gomro` nbs `bsmpprevmc lofmuso bt woht rbknt te tno
fero eg ay b`ohtbty4 bg Zoto wms am` mt ao, tnoh B goct B
aust lo lm`. Pno vory tneuknt eg Zoto, er mhyeho ger tnmt
amttor, tnbhibhk peercy eg ao goct werso tnmh `omtn.Lut eho tnbhk wms fcomr4 B wms mcrom`y ybhk. B feuc`ht
lromtno.
Ger tno gbrst hbho yomrs eg eur amrrbmko, B fehgerao`
mh` mffeaae`mto` aysocg te Zotos `osbros. B qubficy `bs-
absso` ay `osbro te ke lmfi te sfneec lofmuso bt fcmsno`
wbtn Zotos mcrom`y evorcem`o` sfno`uco. B mveb`o` netlutteh tepbfs B suspofto` abknt mreuso tohsbeh bh eur
amrrbmko. B wms uhmlco te tecormto tno bsfeagert mh` pmbh
eg Zotos peutbhk er, werso yot, nbs mhkor tewmr` ao. [nmt
wms B te `e5 [euc`ht no lo absormlco bg B stmrto` te lo
ay ewh porseh5
Rot, B seeh romcbzo` tnbs bssuo woht aufn `oopor mh`
wb`or tnmh ay rocmtbehsnbp wbtn Zoto. _hnomctny pmt-torhs eg socg-smfrbgbfo mh` mffeaae`mtbeh evorgcewo` bhte
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi
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6: B ]_BP!
trutn eg Fnrbsts cevo ger ao. Ay mbcy romcbty wms tnmt ay
cevmlbcbty fmao het grea Fnrbst lut grea new etnors por-
fobvo` ao. B hoo`o` poepco te tnbhi B wms m kromt Fnrbs-tbmh mh` m kee` porseh. Ms m rosuct, B egtoh geuh` aysocg
smybhk yos wnoh B wmhto` te smy he ovoh
wnoh B wms absormlco.
B rocmto te tno mpestco Zotor bh nbs
strukkco te lofeao groo grea wnmt etn-
ors tnbhi. Mgtor Dosus mrrost, tno twocvo
`bsfbpcos `osort nba mh` gcoo. Zotor, new-
ovor, geccews nba bhte mh eutsb`o feurt-
ymr` `urbhk Dosus trbmc mh` bs rofekhbzo`
ly vmrbeus poepco ms nbs grboh`. Rot no `ohbos ihewbhk
nba tnroo tbaos. Nbs gomr eg bsmpprevmc evorrb`os wnmt no
ihews mh` locbovos bhtoccoftumccy te lo truo. Zotor provb-
euscy fehgosso` Dosus ms tno Aossbmn, yot tnbs fehvbftbehbs het oop oheukn bh nba te stmh` up te poepcos pessblco
rodoftbeh mh` `bsmpprevmc (Amttnow
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi 6=
Lblcbfmc Noreos [mh`orbhk Egg Prmfi
Reu mh` B mro het mceho bh tnbs mpprevmc m``bftbeh. Vfrbp-
turo bs gbcco` wbtn oxmapcos eg poepco wne ket sb`otrmfio`
ly ceeibhk te etnors te tocc tnoa tnoy woro eimy.
Mlrmnma, ger oxmapco, cbo` eut eg gomr ger nbs ewh
smgoty m gomr eg wnmt tno Okyptbmh ibhk abknt `e bg no
geuh` eut Vmrmn wms Mlrmnmas wbgo (Kohosbs =
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi 66
amhy bh nor fnurfn. Deyfo trbos eut m how nmbr stycbst rof-
eaaoh`o` ly m kee` grboh`. Newovor, ms sno sbts bh tno
fnmbr, sno krews uhomsy mleut wnmt sno bs soobhk bh tnoabrrer.
Bhsb`o, sno bs tnbhibhk, En, he! B `eht cbio tnbs nmbr-
fut mt mcc! Pnbs bs m `bsmstor. @ospbto nor krewbhk mcmra,
sno smys hetnbhk te tno stycbst. Vno fehtbhuos te sabco eh
tno eutsb`o mh` amio samcc tmci, mcc tno wnbco prmybhk
tno terturo wbcc oh` seeh mh` tnmt tno `mamko wbcc lo
amhmkomlco.
[noh tno lomutbfbmh gbhmccy gbhbsnos, Deyfo fmh
sfmrfocy fehtmbh nor mhkor. Hovortnocoss, sno tnmhis tno
stycbst pregusocy bh greht eg tno etnor fusteaors. Bh gmft,
sno goocs se kubcty mleut nor mhkor tewmr` tno weamh tnmt
sno tbps nor `eulco!
Veaotbaos eur hoo` ger etnors te tocc us wo mro eimy bsse sultco mh` porvmsbvo bt fmh lo letn `bggbfuct mh` grbknt-
ohbhk te rofekhbzo bt bh eursocvos. Cots fehsb`or m gow
aero sfohmrbes.
Reu mro nurt ly m grboh`s feaaoht, lut yeu smy
hetnbhk lofmuso yeu `eht wmht te lo tneuknt eg ms
teufny er brrbtmlco. Reur aofnmhbf kbvos yeu m lbcc mcaest `eulco wnmt
no erbkbhmccy queto` te ropmbr yeur fmr, lut no bs lusy
wbtn etnor fusteaors, mh` yeu `eht wmht te amio m
sfoho ly msibhk ger mh oxpcmhmtbeh.
Reu mro eut wbtn m kreup eg grboh`s wne wmht te
soo m aevbo. Ovoryeho oxfopt yeu wmhts te ke soo m
pmrtbfucmr aevbo, lut yeu `eht wmht te lo sooh ms`bggbfuct er `bsmkroomlco, se yeu ke mcehk mh` `eht smy
mhytnbhk.
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Reur gmabcy wmhts yeu te mttoh` yeur muhts
rotbroaoht pmrty sbxty abcos mwmy. Reu `e het wmht
te mttoh`, lut yeu ke mhywmy rmtnor tnmh gmfo yeurgmabcys `bsmpprevmc.
Reu roambh bh mh uhnomctny `mtbhk rocmtbehsnbp wbtn
seaoeho lofmuso yeu `eht ihew new te oh` bt.
Reuro mgrmb` eg tno roporfussbehs wbtn autumc grboh`s
mh` weh`or bg poepco wbcc tnbhi, [nmt bs wrehk wbtn
nba5 Mhetnor gmbco` rocmtbehsnbp5 @eos no wmht te lo
sbhkco gerovor5 Reu mro vbsbtbhk wbtn hobknlers lut `eht `bsfbpcbho
yeur geur-yomr-ec` fnbc`s abslonmvber lofmuso yeu
gomr no er sno abknt oalmrrmss yeu wbtn mhetnor
toapor tmhtrua.
Reu nmvo mh oapceyoo wne bs uh`orporgerabhk mh`
lobhk m `rmk eh tno rost eg tno toma. Reu ioop nbhtbhk
mleut tno hoo` ger fnmhko, lut no bs het kottbhk tno
aossmko. Reu mro tno suporvbser lut fmhhet lomr tno
tneuknt eg fmusbhk nba te ceso nbs del. \mtnor tnmh
gbro nba, yeu nbro mhetnor porseh te fevor ger nba.
Reur rosohtaoht krews.
Reur less usos bhmppreprbmto cmhkumko mreuh` yeu,
seao eg wnbfn bs soxumc bh hmturo. Reu smy hetnbhkcost no tnbhi yeu mro m stufi-up pru`o.
Reu nmvoht fnmhko` yeur nmbrstyco ger aero tnmh toh
yomrs lofmuso yeur speuso bs se mkmbhst bt. Rot yeu
rosoht new aufn tbao yeu spoh` te tmio fmro eg bt
mh` cehk ger m fnmhko.
Reu weuc` cbio te spomi te yeur speuso mleut yeur
sox cbgo lut mro mgrmb` te smy mhytnbhk. Reu mro hetsuro new no er sno abknt romft.
Zmy mttohtbeh te yeursocg evor tno hoxt gow `mys.
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi 6?
Elsorvo yeur bhtormftbehs wbtn etnors. @otorabho tno
hualor eg tbaos yeur wer`s mh` mftbehs fnmhko bh er`or
te kmbh tno mpprevmc, er mveb` tno `bsmpprevmc, eg etnors.Pno snbgts wo amio bh eur lonmvber mro egtoh sultco mh`
lohomtn tno covoc eg eur fehsfbeushoss. Ve lo mcort!
Cevbhk Reursocg ger Ke`s Vmio
Ger amhy Fnrbstbmhs te`my, tno cevo eg Ke` bh Fnrbst
roambhs mh bhtoccoftumc locbog wo mggbra rmtnor tnmh mh
oxporbohtbmc romcbty tnmt trmhsgeras eur tneuknts mh` gooc-
bhks mleut eursocvos. Ms m rosuct, wo fehtbhuo te ceei ger
cevo grea etnor poepco bh `ostruftbvo wmys. Lorhmr` eg
Fcmbrvmux, tno kromt Fnrbstbmh com`or bh tno twocgtn foh-
tury, speio eg new tno cevo eg Ke` com`s te nomctny cevo
eg socg. No fmcco` tnbs tno geur `okroos eg cevo.=
=. Cevbhk eursocvos ger eur ewh smio.[o wmht te mveb`
nocc mh` ke te nomvoh, se wo `e tno rbknt tnbhks
sufn ms mttoh` fnurfn, prmy, mh` tbtno. [noh tno
tnromt eg nocc bs roaevo`, eur spbrbtumc cbgo qubficy
`bssbpmtos.
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0. Cevbhk eursocvos ger tno smio eg Ke`. Mt tnbs geurtn
mh` nbknost covoc, tno wb`tn, cohktn, nobknt, mh`
`optn eg Fnrbsts cevo m cevo tnmt surpmssos nuamhihewco`ko nms hew pohotrmto` tno `optn eg eur
lobhk, sottbhk us groo grea eur hoo` te lerrew tnmt
cevo grea etnors.
Pno kespoc groos us te uh`orstmh` wne wo mro bh tno
cbknt eg Ke`s cevo ger us bh Fnrbst Dosus. [o nmvo vmcuo
mh` sbkhbgbfmhfo lut het ger wnmt wo `e er wnmt etnorsabknt smy. [o mro cevo wertny lofmuso Ke` cevos us.
Ke`s porgoft cevo `rbvos eut mhy gomrs eg wnmt etnors
tnbhi. [o `bsfevor tnmt nbs cevo, ms tno psmcabst wrbtos, bs
lottor tnmh cbgo (Zsmca 7646).
Geur \omsehs te Vtep Cbvbhkger tno Mpprevmc eg Etnors
Bg wo `eht lromi tnreukn eur hoo` ger tno mpprevmc eg
etnors, eur krewtn bs sorbeuscy stuhto`. [o fmhhet amturo
bhte spbrbtumc m`uctnee`. M wmcc bs orofto` tnmt stmh`s
lotwooh us mh` tno lomutbguc guturo Ke` nms ger us. [o
sottco ger tno psou`e-feagert eg lobhk eimy wbtn eursocvoslmso` eh etnors lobhk eimy wbtn us.
Gow eg us ohdey refibhk tno lemt. [o progor pcmybhk
bt smgo. Fnmhkbhk eur sbtumtbehs fmh lo grbkntohbhk mh` tno
elstmfcos amy mppomr bhsuraeuhtmlco. Pnoso gomrs rmhko
grea gomr eg cesbhk eur speusos, eur dels, mh` eur grboh`-
snbps te gomrs eg cesbhk tno rospoft eg poepco wnea wo
cevo.
[noh fnmhko sooas se evorwnocabhk, Ke` groquohtcy
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi 6;
usos pmbh te epoh us te nbs suporhmturmc pewor. [noh tno
rbfn yeuhk rucor wmcis mwmy grea tno rm`bfmc cbgo fnmhko
Dosus nms eggoro` te nba, tno `bsfbpcos, grbkntoho` tnmtfnmhko bs bapessblco, msi, [ne tnoh fmh lo smvo`5 Dosus
ropcbos, [btn nuamh lobhks tnbs bs bapes-
sblco, lut wbtn Ke` mcc tnbhks mro pessblco
(Amttnow =24
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pornmps yeur pmrohts wmht yeu te pursuo m fortmbh fmroor.
Pnoy smfrbgbfo` tnobr `romas se yeu feuc` mttoh` m pmr-
tbfucmr sfneec. Reu` progor te e seaotnbhk ocso lut fmhtbamkbho smybhk he te tnoa ospofbmccy bh cbknt eg mcc tnoy
nmvo smfrbgbfo` ger yeu. Reu gbhmccy romcbzo tnmt seaotnbhk
bhsb`o eg yeu bs `ybhk mh` tnmt yeu hoo` te rospoftguccy
spomi wbtn tnoa mleut yeur pmssbehs mh` `osbros.
[o elsorvo tnbs smao yhmabf bh eho eg tno aest `rm-
amtbf opbse`os eg tno How Postmaoht. [noh tno mpestco
Zotor gbrst mrrbvo` bh Mhtbefn grea Dorusmcoa, no woc-
feao` mh` mto wbtn uhfbrfuafbso` Kohtbco Fnrbstbmhs.
Cmtor m kreup eg pregossbhk Dowbsn Fnrbstbmhs mrrbvo`
grea Dorusmcoa, fehvbhfbhk Zotor te wbtn`rmw mh` sopm-
rmto grea tnoso Kohtbcos. Pnoy mrkuo` tnmt bt wms mkmbhst
Ke`s wbcc te omt wbtn Kohtbcos lofmuso tnoy woro feh-
sb`oro` uhfcomh. [noh tno mpestco Zmuc elsorvo` tnbs,no pulcbfcy fehgrehto` Zotor ger nbs nypefrbsy (Kmcmtbmhs
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi 62
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi 0=
0. Pno Gomr Pnmt Pnbhks [bcc Vtmy tno Vmao Bs
Kromtor Pnmh tno Gomr Pnmt Pnbhks [bcc Fnmhko
Pno hetbeh eg fnmhkbhk eur sbtumtbeh fmh omsbcy evorwnoca
us. Pnoro feaos m pebht, newovor, wnoh tno tneuknt eg
roambhbhk bh fortmbh fbrfuastmhfos mhetnor eho, gbvo, toh,
er tnbrty yomrs bs aero torrbgybhk tnmh rbsibhk fnmhko. Mt
tbaos, tnbs sorvos ms m fcomr aossmko grea Ke` te kot egg
tno rem` yeu mro eh. Fnmhko lofeaos coss sfmry tnmh tno
prespoft eg roambhbhk wnoro yeu mro.Reu mro m nbkn sfneec Ohkcbsn tomfnor. Reu cevo Ohk-
cbsn, lut tomfnbhk toohmkors bs m tuk-eg-wmr tnmt yeu cemtno.
Vobzo` ly gomr mt tno tneuknt eg ebhk tnbs tno rost eg yeur
cbgo, yeu comvo tno sofurbty eg m pmyfnofi mh` tno fmroor
ger wnbfn yeu propmro`. Reu pursuo etnor pessblbcbtbos
mh` oxporbohfos te gbh` m lottor amtfn ger yeur kbgts mh`pmssbehs.
Reu mro sbhkco mh` bh m cehk-tora rocmtbehsnbp tnmt bs
stufi mh` kebhk hewnoro. Ms yeu bamkbho yeur cbgo toh
yomrs grea hew, tno rbsi eg lobhk mceho lofeaos coss grbknt-
ohbhk tnmh roambhbhk trmppo` bh tno smao pcmfo wbtn tnbs
porseh. Pno romcbty snefis yeu bhte gbhmccy oh`bhk tno
rocmtbehsnbp.
Reu nmvo sbxty tneusmh` `eccmrs bh fro`bt fmr` `olt
mh` gomr lmhiruptfy. Reur guturo fnebfos mro cbabto` mh`
lcomi. Pno gomr tnmt tnbs `olt bs kebhk te rubh yeu gbhmccy
lofeaos kromtor tnmh tno gomr eg `rmamtbfmccy fnmhkbhk
yeur cbgostyco. Reu lokbh mh bh-`optn lu`kotbhk feurso
mh` rm`bfmccy m`dust yeur spoh`bhk nmlbts.Pnbs gomr wms m fehtrblutbhk gmfter tnmt gbhmccy pre-
pocco` ao bhte fnmhkbhk ay sbtumtbeh. Pno gomr tnmt tnbhks
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]ubt Lobhk Mgrmb` eg [nmt Etnors Pnbhi 06
wbtn wnmt etnors tnbhi eg nor. Fnrbsts cevo mh` gerkbvo-
hoss pohotrmto nor bhaest lobhk. Pnbs pregeuh` oxporb-
ohfo het ehcy rocomsos nor grea mhy sohso eg snmao9 btbccuabhos tno trutn mleut nor ewh wertn mh` vmcuo. Nor
nomrt lrbas evor wbtn tnmhiguchoss te Dosus ger nbs cevo,
aorfy, mh` evorwnocabhk smgoty.
Amry uh`orstmh`s nor ewh sbkhbgbfmhfo bh rocmtbeh te
Dosus rmtnor tnmh bh tno epbhbehs eg etnors. Nor mftbehs
mro het `bftmto` ly wnmt bs rbknt bh tno oyos eg tno werc`
lut ly wnmt bs rbknt bh tno oyos eg Fnrbst. Pnbs kbvos nor
fehgb`ohfo te lo norsocg, rokmr`coss eg wnmt etnors abknt
tnbhi mleut nor.
Cbio Amry, yeu mro bhvbto` te kreuh` yeur b`ohtbty
bh mh ehkebhk oxporbohfo eg tno cevo eg Ke` bh Fnrbst.
Pnoh, mh` ehcy tnoh, wbcc yeu lo mlco te cbvo nehostcy mh`
mutnohtbfmccy.
\ogcoft eh tno Aevoaohts eg Reur Nomrtmh` eh tno Cevo eg Ke`
[noh bt feaos te qubttbhk tno mpprevmc eg etnors, prekross
bs lost am`o wbtn twe `mbcy prmftbfos4 rogcoftbhk eh tnoaevoaohts eg yeur nomrt mh` rogcoftbhk eh tno cevo eg
Ke`. Ger oxmapco, te rogcoft eh tno aevoaohts eg yeur
nomrt, tnbhi lmfi eh yeur rofoht bhtormftbehs wbtn poepco.
[nmt b` yeu smy te pesbtbeh yeursocg se tnmt etnors weuc`
tnbhi wocc eg yeu5 [nmt abknt yeu nmvo eho bggorohtcy5
Msi Ke` te nocp yeu lo mwmro eg tno toaptmtbeh te m`dust
yeur lonmvber er wer`s ger seaoehos mpprevmc.Pno sofeh` mbcy prmftbfo bs te fehtoapcmto tno cevo eg
Ke`. B spoh` tbao rokucmrcy bh Vfrbpturo, bh sbcohfo mh`
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00 B ]_BP!
secbtu`o, rofobvbhk tno cevo eg Ke`, mccewbhk bt te porao-
mto mh` fnmhko ovory focc bh ay le`y. Pnbs nms prevoh
geuh`mtbehmc te scewcy `bssbpmto tno gomr eg wnmt etnorstnbhi. Pno prbhfbpco bs sbapco4 tno aero yeu kreuh` yeur
b`ohtbty bh tno cevo eg Ke`, tno coss yeu hoo` tno mpprevmc
eg poepco ger yeur sohso eg cevmlbcbty.
[noh yeu mro wbccbhk te qubt fmrbhk wnmt etnors tnbhi,
yeu tmio m kbmht stop bhte tno hoxt B ]ubt qubt cybhk. Bh
tno hoxt fnmptor, wo wbcc oxpcero wnmt bt aomhs te cbvo bh
tno trutn mh` lo sot groo grea cybhk te eursocvos, te Ke`,
mh` te etnors.