Goals for today… (amended)
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A bit of planning, a bit of having the right tools on hand and
a good set of discipline and you are on your way!
Quotes from Stephen Covey
The more aware we are of our
basic paradigms, maps, or
assumptions, the more we can
take responsibility for those
paradigms, examine them, test
them against reality, listen to
others and be open to their
perceptions as well.
1
It becomes obvious that if we
want to make relatively minor
changes in our lives, we can focus
on our attitudes and behaviors.
Bit if we want to make
significant, quantum change, we
need to work on our basic
paradigms.
2
Highly effective people really do
not manage time – they manage
themselves.
3
Agenda: How to plan so that your graduate work blends easily with your life
This Discussion• the 5fs survey and what we know
• Principles / Roles / Centeredness
• The Covey Quadrant
• Taking proactive to a new level: win/win
• Now look at your life/work/graduate work
• What we can Influence
• Understanding before being understood
• Tricks to maintain work-life balance
• Planning your year graduate and otherwise
• Exercise
• Tools to help
• What’s New at MN & DN?
Comin Up Next…• How to LOVE Your Masters or Doctoral Work in
2018• Beginning with the end in mind
• What does it take to love something?
• Connections• People
• Your field
• Others who like to think
• Conferences
• First things first
• Moving from individual to interdependent strength• Dynamic or Static decisions?
• Centeredness, getting your needs met w/o trapping yourself
• Synergy• Sharpening the saw
Principles
There are basic principles of effective living, and people can
only experience true success and enduring happiness as they
learn and integrate these principles into their basic
character.
No enterprise or person can become or remain truly great
without a core set of principles to preserve, to build upon to serve as an anchor, to provide
guidance in the face of an ever-changing world.
Acting out of principle can be preventative such as preventing disease or problems by aligning
with you lifestyle with the principles of harmony and
actions of good health
What roles are you responsible for?
• Parent
• Teacher
• Student
• Friend
• Boss or Employee
• Leader
• What matters most to you?
• Your family
• Your children
• Your work
• Your degree
• Your future plans
• Your friends
• Having a good time
Roles and Centered-ness
• How can your behavior in those groups not
only advance what you need but he needs of
others?
• How can your behavior help everyone
succeed?
• How do your principles support those
behaviors?
• What roles are you fulfilling?
What groups do you work in? Who do you work with?
For an example…
1. The principle of cooperation is important to you
2. You take some extra time relationship building (Quad 2)
3. You learn that colleagues/committee chair have deadlines coming up (their Quad 1)
4. So you negotiate a different timing that you would have for your review
Putting it together…
Seligman’s research has shown
that three people benefit from
acts of kindness. The person to
who was the giver, the receiver
and anyone who witnessed the
exchange.
Covey says: The challenge is the
same: how can we do the most
good for the greatest number
with the resources we have?
(Habit 2: Begin with the end in
mind)
Influence
Self control
Circle of
Influence
Outside of
your
control
What you can influence & what you can’t
In the example used before….
Can you influence….
1. Your mood about turning in your work to your committee chair?
2. Your relationship with your committee chair?
3. The requirements of your university on committee chairs?
4. Whether their review is helpful to you?
5. Whether their review is turned right around?
Self control
Circle of Influence
Outside of your control
1. Someone who is crystal clear about what they want and why?
2. Someone who understands the full dynamic of needs and desires of both people?
3. Someone who knows the other is on their side?
4. Someone who is suspicious that they have to protect themselves from bad attitudes in the other?
Who it the better negotiator?
Exercise One
Define for yourself…
• Which of the 5fs is most frustrating to you?
• What principles are the most important for you to live by?
• What matters to you most and how does that sync with the principles you want to live by?
• Which roles are in alignment? Which are likely to interfere?
Spend time dreaming of ways in which these come closer together?
Exercise Two
1. Look at Covey’s quadrant and plot your weekly activities.
2. What negotiations can you make with others to move more into quadrant 2?
3. Think about the people in your life… What more can you understand about them in order to deepen your relationship?
4. What aspects of your life and your relationships can you move to a more win/win level?
5. What do you want to influence but its outside of your control? What else can be influenced to improve the situation from another angle?
Tools for planning – sign onto your DN/MN Portal and then add this ending to the url…
1. Just starting – see the maps first under each menu • and milestones: https://resources.doctoralnet.com/other-resources/doctoral-milestone-
checklist.html
2. Backwards map from graduation backwards to now –• Video: Strategic Planning for Graduate Students• What Does It Take to Graduate This Year? Part One: Backward-Mapping• Finish Your Dissertation in Two Years – Year Two• Planning and Time Management
3. What skills do you need more of (on your resources menu)1. Academic writing (new boxed set): https://resources.doctoralnet.com/boxed-sets/academic-
writing-tools-to-get-it-done.html2. Writing habit: 30 day challenge https://resources.doctoralnet.com/optins/30-day-writing-
challenge.html3. Work-Life Balance: https://resources.doctoralnet.com/optins/30-day-challenge-4-work-life-
balance.html4. Motivation: https://resources.doctoralnet.com/optins/365-phd-motivation.html