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Hi Reader,
re you enjoying this issue of EFP (Elegance Flawless
Personalities).
Let me introduce myself, my name is Rita and I am proud to say, I am a Ghanaian born with a British influence. I grew up in the UK and although I was born and raised in Ghana, I have adapted to the life in the UK. I am blessed with a medium family and they are my best and worse critics. My husband John is a loving, kind and above all understanding man. I really appreciate his support and specific encour-agement. To my parents and my siblings, I say keep push-ing and inspiring me. To my lovely daughter Adrianna, you are the reason, I am having sleepless nights. To all my mentors (Mrs Irene Clarke & Uncle Maxwell, Mama Grace & Mr & Mrs. Vondee) keep challenging me to reach for higher heights. To you my readers—thank you for mak-ing my lifelong dream come true. For without you I will
not have acquired my goal and purpose.
We decided to add “Flawless
Personalities” to the name as it is best suited for you our readers because we cater for a flawless personality which is you. I used to struggle with myself and appreciating my-self then my mentor said Rita, you are a flawless personality and since then, I have always learnt to appreciate my hard efforts. Say to yourself from today “I am a flawless per-sonality”.
This issue is all about Spring-ing into the mood of summer (the sun will come) so get those summer slippers out of the closet and get your color-ful wardrobe ready for the sun.
In this issue, we show you how to get the catwalk looks without breaking your bank account. We get you to em-brace your culture and influ-ence it with your own style.
Getting a tailed made to fit your size dresses. Elegance Flawless Personalities has now signed a permanent contract with house of Aranu designer and CEO Eli Buady.
We have signed a contract with an Adver-tising, Sales and Marketing Consultant (Kwadoi). I personally believe these two ladies will be a strong foundational assert to us.
There is a lot for everyone in this issue.
We are also open to comments and complaints.
Email: [email protected] or Face book us on Ele-gance Personified.
Enjoy the issue!
(Rita Antwi-Frempong)
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Contents June 2013
12 Introducing
Elegance
56 Health & Fitness
57 Homex-
ercise-
keeping Fit
& Sexy
58 “Rhythm on the
Run way 2013”
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36 Do’s & Don’ts in a Rela-
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6 Sisterhood Mother & Daughter Event 38 Shimmery Summer Nails Summer Scarves
67 Single & Selfish
How to enjoy being single
Flawless Events
The first Sisterhood mother and daughter branch was
held at Trinity Baptist Church and hosted by the
CEO and founder of Sisterhood Evelyn Asante. The
event began with an inspirational introduction of the
team and how the mentoring program began. The
team spoke honestly about their personal reasons for
joining such an intimate program. We watched the
video that lunched this mentoring program to the
wider borough of Croydon. Speaker for the day were
Pastor Cynthia Appiagyei, Mrs Beatrice Achampong
and radio host Blessing Mandy (Evelyn Addo).
These three spoke intensively about Communication,
Listening and Trust the most powerful ingredients to
ever relationship. The branch was a success and it has
certainly paved a way for events like these as moth-
ers are truly one of a kind and daughters will always
be a blessing to the family if time is invested into
them accordingly and lovingly.
The organisation and appearance of the team was in-
credible, the day was well organised and presentable.
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FLAWLESS PERSONALITIES
Introducing Elegance
Elegance magazine forms
part of a large corporation
of business within Elegance
Personalities Limited (EPL).
As a company and a brand
we are devoted to our
readers and our consumers.
We cater to young ladies
between the ages of 14-28,
because we believe it is
during these years that
young ladies become com-
mitted to their personalities,
their beliefs and to them-
selves. We desire to be the
first magazine to bridge the
age gap and cultural
boundary. As a brand we
aim to supply you our read-
ers with the relevant infor-
mation and life training skills
require to become the ex-
cellent woman.
Elegance began in 2009
with a small group of young
ladies in Leyton Newham.
Every week it became par-
amount that these young
ladies were extremely curi-
ous and wanted more infor-
mation about life, love, sex
and the future. Unfortunate-
ly, the current media only
imprints the unrealistic as-
pects of these. Elegance
gives a fair somehow realist
truth without tarnishing or
damaging your view. We
stand apart from our com-
petitors; we do not wish to
blend in with the various
magazines on sales at the
moment.
Elegance believes every la-
dy who has a flawless, dy-
namic, excellent and a
unique personality. The Afri-
can symbols of excellence
embody the characteristics
of an Elegant Woman.
Elegance Personalities Per-
sonified is a dynamic tool
we aim to use to bridge the
gap. We interview young
ladies who are succeeding
or trying hard to achieve
their goals. We also use this
as a platform to encourage
other young ladies to feel
more confident about
themselves and their
dreams.
Who are Elegance Flawless
Personalities?
We have categorized
these age groups and each
has a specific character
trait that society has identi-
fied with them. Elegance re-
alizes the needs of all these
ladies and as a brand we
aim to give them the sup-
port and answers they re-
quire to become better
women for their families,
their society and the world.
We will be the mothering
voice to those who have
lost their mothers and the
friend to those who are
seeking for love.
Curiously Coarse 14-17 years
them to a rough diamond, they are deli-
cate and need answers and will go the
extreme to find it – a very tender stage
Fiercely vile Age 18-21years
Seeking independence, freedom be-
cause they are full of life and energy
Adventurous Age 22-24years
these ladies want to take the world, they want
to settle down and they are constantly making
very difficult choices. The fear of not achieving
Sophisticatedly Simple Age 25-28years
ready for a family, ready for love, they
search for the partners or for love
DJ CHRIS VIBES
The best DJ in the UK
he is fine” whispered Ike to himself as Chantelle’s cab disappears from his sight.
“Forget it Ike, this girl if off limit” his friend Eric said confidently, “a girl that only meets footballers and mature men. She will not give you the time or day”.
Ike was determined to win Chantel-le’s heart regardless of the challeng-es. That same evening, he drove to-wards the campus where Chantelle lived. He did this consistently for two weeks hoping to meet Chantel-le and investigate her lifestyle and movements.
Two weeks of failed attempts he finally confronts Chantelle face-to-face after her lectures.
“Hello!” Ike said smiling
“Hi!” Chantelle responded pretend-ing to not know who he was
“Chantelle, I have been calling you? I want to speak with you? Can we go for coffee or drinks?” He insisted
“I don’t think I can do that?” she regretted and walked away to-wards her friends
“Chantelle!” he called for her “You have my number should you
change your mind”. He signed and walked away disappointedly.
Chantelle had secretly had a few of her friends investigate Ike’s lifestyle at the campus and she de-termined not to be as-sociated with him or
his lifestyle. Her friends insisted that she joined Ike for coffee and a chat but Chantelle declined and re-turned to her room.
Back at the apartment, Chantelle informs her friends about the re-sults of her search.
“Grace, do you know this boy has been stocking my every move since the party.” She said disgustedly
“Chan, it seems he won’t stop until you agree to go for coffee”
“I know, all I want to know is why he is desperately stocking me and what he wants from me because I am not looking of a part time love affair. I want love the real kind. I want a man who is prepared to be with me for love not sex”.
“If you meet this dream man, please let me know for now just go for coffee”. Fortunately for Ike, Chantelle’s friends wanted to get Chantelle away from her books so they convinced her to agree to a date.
One the phone, Ike and Chantelle agree to a coffee at Starbucks on Fri-day afternoon. Ike agreed to meet her at 2.30pm as he had to go home
and help his mother.
At 2:00pm Chantelle was already in Starbucks with her friends and they waited for Ike to show up. He ar-rived 10minutes late and looked very handsome with his hair cut shorter. Chantelle gazed at him in-tensively. His dark brown skin and thick black eye browns were very inviting. It seems he had somehow changed from and the environment had improved his appurtenance.
“Hi everyone” he smiled at Chan-telle’s friends and invited Chantelle into his arms with an embrace. She hesitantly returned the gesture.
“Should we get a table?” he asked
“No need, we are leaving?” Grace said as she took her bag and asked the others to leave with her “see you later Chan and call me when you get home”.
“See you later”, she watched them depart from the shop and returned to Ike’s gaze.“Take a seat Chantelle, I don’t bit!” he joked.
“I know you don’t” she responded rudely
“Do you hate me?” he asked “I en-joyed dancing with you all night at the part and I thought we had a connection”. “ I disagree, you danced with me out of pity and how can I be sure you are not play-ing a game and saying this to get into my life just to hurt me”
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At the other side of the table they both got each oth-er’s glance and for a second it seemed there was a con-nection between them.
They spent an hour talking and getting to know each other and unfortunately, Chantelle had to leave so Ike insisted on driving her home.
On the way, Chantelle asked Ike, “What do you want from me”
“I want to love you” confidently smiled at her as he kept driving. “Chantelle, I want to be with you be-cause I see my future in you and I want to let that
come true”.
“Yeah right!” reluctantly stated “your future is in you not me so that will not work with me. Thank you Ike for bringing me home but I am a very busy woman and I don’t need you
chasing after me”
“No! I will not stop until you give me a chance” he holds her hands tight and asks for another chance.
What will Chantelle do? Will she give in to Ike’s proposal or will she stand on her strong view and refuse it. Find out in the next edition of Elegance Flawless Personalities.
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Eli began her aspiring career during her early years at
“Babysat”. She learnt how to design, make and alter
her creations from her inspirational
designer, aunty and mentor. Eli picked
up designing skills from the tender age
of five,
she has natured her interest in
sowing and developed it into a
lasting passion and now a lifestyle
and a career.
Eli is surrounded by a family of dress
makers and this has certainly inspired
her to create her own brand, designing
tailed to fit outfits with a quality fin-
ish. Eli owns her own studio where she
designs and creates magic with materi-
als she finds inspiring. Apart from her
aunty, her mum is also her inspiration
as she used to design and sow most of her clothes in
her younger days. Eli comes from a family of well-
established fashion designers and dress makers.
She has explored all the other fashionable avenues
and she has proven to have a full package. As a de-
signer, she takes pride in the arts, hair and creative
aspects of her models. She works with a large group of
models and Eli is able to ensure each outfit suited on
her models embodies the character and personalities
of that individual. After successfully finishing a Busi-
ness Studies course at college, she enrolled on a fash-
ion course and went on to study Human Resource
Management at university.
Equipped with all the business skills and knowledge,
she went back to her first love of designing and sew-
ing. At the age of 24, Eli has successful launched and
established her own fashion empire called "House of
Aranu" (The House of Great Ideas) in the summer of
2011. The "House" representing her home and family
and "Aranu" meaning Ideas in her native language
Ewe.
She has built a portfolio of designs suitable for the
modern women and her fashion house “HOUSE OF
ARANU” (HOA) has featured in various events includ-
ing the Ghana UK Fashion Show 2012, Miss Edo State
UK 2012, supplied designs for fashion models and styl-
ists, which has been featured in Pride Magazine (May
2013 edition), featured in an interview with the Swa-
team Select Show on Klear TV (Sky channel 232) and
“At Home with Joselyn Dumas” on DS TV, soon to take
part in upcoming events such
as Fashion Mist 2013 Exhibi-
tion, Ghana UK Fashion Show
2013, and many more.
Eli's ideas, styles and de-
signs are ever improving
and moves with the trend
and looks forward to mov-
ing to other business ven-
tures in the very near fu-
ture. If you want a twist in
the modern African de-
signs or looking for a com-
plementary dress for any
occasion or event.
Eli Benedicta Buady 26years
Hi Lorencia, can you tell us all
about yourself
I’m 25yrs old, a British born Gha-
naian –although I am western-
ized, I am still very much in touch
with my roots. I was born and
raised in S/W London and I am
currently working as a recruit-
ment consultant
Did you know exactly what
you wanted to do when you
left school?
When I first left school I really
wanted to get into acting but hav-
ing African parents, that wasn’t
the most ideal option so I went to-
wards the safer option of working
9-5. Acting is still one of my pas-
sions in life.
Would you say your parents
have been a great influence on
you and they way you have
turned out?
To a certain extent, my parents
have always taught me to be re-
spectful to adults and people
around me in general, also they
brought me up in a Christian
home so I would say that they
have been a great influence on the
woman I am today.
What keeps you focused?
Being a Christian and the journey
towards becoming a stronger
Christian and a better person is
what keeps me focused. My Par-
ents and also discovering who I
am.
How would you say you are
discovering who you are?
This seems to be an issue that a
lot of girls are struggling with
I pray to god to give me a better
insight, for guidance. It’s a jour-
ney but I hope that by the time
I’m 30 I would have fully discov-
ered who I really am and be the
women I truly aspire to be.
As a young lady born in June,
do you think you have any
specific qualities based on
your month of birth?
Gemini’s can be quite complex at
times, we have been known to
have double personalities! Some
times I can be very happy and all
of a sudden I can be very quite. I
would say that at times I can be a
very typical Gemini
Excellence, Beauty & Style
Lawrencia Amfo-Asiedu
Describe yourself in 5 ways
I’m very kind and loving
I like to give
I can be quite reserved (if you don’t know me I may
come across as a bit stand-offish
I love my own company
How are you coping with the challenges of being a black woman?
There can be many challenges, as you know there is a negative stereotype of black women. As work I have been told that for a black lady I’m very reserved and well spoken. This negative stereotype has developed from the media, music videos, TV programs which can portray black women as being quite vicious and domi-neering and this gets to me at times.
How do you overcome that?
I tend to let it go and not get offended as I know that I don’t live up that stereotype. Everyone has different traits no matter what race they are. I don’t think its fair to pin point a certain type of behavior or personality type on a specific race.
What advice would you give to young ladies?
Always try to be yourself – everyone is different so don’t try and mirror yourself on anyone else. Love yourself, and remember that confidence is true beauty.
Lorrencia, your words will go a long way, it’s been a pleasure interviewing you today thanks you.
FLAWLESS PERSONALITIES
FLAWLESS PERSONALITIES
My name is Masue, I’m 25yrs old
and currently in the final year of my
PhD studying Neurology and neuro-
science
How did you get accepted to do
the PhD without masters!
I did a work placement during the
3rd year of my degree and was lucky
enough to work with some top re-
searches so that meant that I didn't
have to do masters and could go
straight on to a PhD
what interested you about Neu-
roscience
The brain is an amazing organ i find
it fascinating so i really wanted to
study it
were you a child who was always
forced to study as a child or is it
something you have chosen to do
and
My mum always took an interest in
teaching me from home event before
I started school and always had a
way of making studying seem fun. I
guess studying has always been
something I take too easily.
who or what influenced you to
do what you are doing now
My mum has always been a great
influence on me in general but i
think it was the influence of my dad
which led me to the particular choice
of career as he was also a medical
researcher based on Malaria and
Tropical diseases
there aren't many women who
are interested in Science! You
are a beautiful woman, how do
you balance the beauty and
brains, what’s your secret?
Well the beauty side had nothing to
do with me at all! God made me who
I am but as for the
brains, I can say I
probably got the in-
terest in learning
from my parents.
When you reach a certain age, you
have to make a choice if education is
what you want to. Many people
think education stops at 16 or 18 but
for many career paths, you have to
invest allot more time in education
than that- it’s all about dedication
and determination.
How would you describe your-
self?
I am confident, laid back and driven
to achieve at the same time. I love to
socialise and laugh a lot and I love to
dance
Give the girls out their some ad-
vice
Everyone is beautiful in their own
way. it takes some people a while to
discover how they look best in terms
of hair style, finding clothes that suit
them and make up etc. Even if you
are at an awkward stage where you
don't feel you look stunning, don’t
worry, it’s always good to experiment
with different looks to see what suits
you the best. Don't feel like you have
to follow every trend.
Everyone
has to have
a focus and
be disci-
plined in
life. Dedi-
cate yourself
to an end
goal and do
everything
you can to
achieve it.
Think of
your goals
as 100%
achievable
and don't let
anyone tell
you that you
will fail.
Excellence, Beauty & Style Masue Marbiah
FLAWLESS PERSONALITIES
Excellence, Beauty & Style
Chyvonne Bright-Brown 27yrs
As you know elegance is celebrating profession-
al women
Currently working in an achievement research cen-
tre for English whiles developing the curriculum in
English Language plus completing a second degree
in English Language. I am also organizing a fund
raising event for Cancer Research
Where did your passion for English and Can-
cer stem from?
I have always being passionate about English from
when I left secondary school, I wasn’t happen with
the level of 16yrs olds who were leaving secondary
school with English as a pass , c grade or above so I
decided to retrain from a Primary School Teacher to
Secondary English teacher and support these girls.
The fund raising event came to me because I have
lost quiet a lot of people to cancer so I wanted to
raise awareness and celebrate the lives that have
been lost over the last ten years and bring to-
gether a Diaspora to creative artists to raise
money.
Is there a show or event being hosted?
I have always seen cancer research adverts and
people do race for life so I wanted to do my own
event to bring creative people around. I wanted
to bring my events coordinating skills together.
Date set for the event is 27th July in Elephant
and Castle, Ticket is £20 and the event is for
young people from 20 upwards as the topic is
very serious.
Challenges faced at work and home?
In my personal life being a black woman isn’t a
problem, but juggling time and trying to maintain a
personal life is proving to be very difficult. I know if
I put the hard work in now I will gain later on and
they would all benefit from it.
What advice will you give to young girls who have
given up on life in general?
I think for a young people the key is;
1. find something you enjoy doing then you find a
sense of purpose and you can turn that into a career
2. Something you will need to reach beyond what is
normal in order to achieve the best so dare to be dif-
ferent. I will say push the bar and go for jobs that
you think may not suit you.
This is why I have been somehow success because I
have gone beyond the odds and the norm and it will
get you further and be willing to volunteer.
FLAWLESS PERSONALITIES
Yvonne Adu-Darko How will you describe yourself?
I am pleased to say my name is Yvonne Adu-Darko and I am 26years
and working as a Coordinator. I am an easy going, God loving, funny,
humble, respectful, shy, mindful, caring and kind. I enjoy life and
building life long memories with loved ones and families.
What are your greatest challenges as a young woman?
Although I struggle daily with challenges I can honestly say, is being
more committed to God’s work and staying in line with my personal
goals are my strongest challenges. , how I do my best to daily overcome
these challenges by praying every day before I leave the house, I spend
time doing my quiet time and seek God’s guidance for my life. I practi-
cally make the effort to make more time for church activities. I try to
keep the relationships with friends going as they impact somehow in
my life and with the pressures of work and home; sometime I try to
spend time with friends so I can stay connected to everything happen-
ing around me.
What keeps you focus?
Hand on my heart my God will never fail me; he is
my focus and my passion. I stay connected to him
and I know I can be the best He wants me to be.
My mother is my strength and I appreciate every
word she says to me.
What inspires you?
I am extremely focused on my culture. I am happy
to be a Ghanaian born. My mother has thought me
to love my culture because it is who I am. I can
honestly say I know who I am and where I came
from and where I am today is a result of that. I al-
ways keep a reminder of my past at my bedside so
each morning it acts as a reminder to stray me in
the path that I need to be in. I don’t want to get
myself entangled in anything that would harm or
destroy my family name because “a good name is
better than riches”.
What advice would you give to young girls?
My advice to every person reading this magazine is
life is full of ups and downs, you may be happy one
moment but the next be extremely sad. So don’t
expect everything to be rosy and easy. You need to
work hard to achieve that dream. Another this is
its not how you start this life but how you end it, so
now you may be young, full of life and yet not do-
ing the will of God over your life. Get yourself
straight, build the relationships around you and
make all the memories you leave behind be a lega-
cy for you.
FLAWLESS PERSONALITIES
I am Liberian born but consider myself to be British/
Liberian. I’m 26 and live in S/W London and currently
work in Marketing and business development for a Law
firm in London
Wow your job sounds impressive; tell us how you got to
where you are
well I studied Marketing Management at DeMontfort
University in Leicester, I graduated at the start of the
recession because of this I struggled to find marketing
jobs so went on to work at the home office as a case work-
er. From there I worked my way into marketing through
perseverance and that’s how I got to where I am today. I
think the main thing that helped me was my work expe-
rience gap year at university - I would really recommend
that.
Do you think the working gap year made a difference to
your prospects?
I didn't do that then I would have come out of university
with no experience like so many others and that is never
a good thing.
How would you describe yourself?
I am a motivated and confident individual. I think if you
are confident then you radiate positivity and that to me
is the best way to live.
What are your biggest challenges as a strong woman?
There are so many challenges for most young women
these days- especially in 2013
the western world these days.
Generally, pressure coming
from people expecting you to
look and act in a certain way.
How do you overcome the chal-
lenge
Coming from a family like mine,
my mum has always been a
good support. Being a Christian
also helps because i know there
is a greater power that you can
rely on everyday
So you mentioned your mum
but didn't say anything about
your father?
My dad passed away sadly
People say that without a dads influence, children tend to
stray away, how did you managed to stay so focused and
get to where you are today?
Only through the grace of God! because my dad actually
passed away when I was in my 3rd year of University
which of course you know is a very important time but i
still made it through - by the grace if God and the
strength of my Mother
Can you tell us a bit more about your mother?
Well she's a wonderful woman, always there for my sister
and I through thick and thin, she has worked hard and
provided for us and done so many amazing things, I am
forever grateful for her.
What advice would you give to other girls out there who
tend not to take advice from others such s their parents?
I would say respect your parents and listen to their ad-
vice because they always know best. it took me a long
time to realize that and it’s a hard thing to admit but its
so true and as they say, you will probably only really re-
alise how much your parents mean to you after you have
your own kids.
That was very inspiring! Please give us 3 things that you
think will help young ladies out there
Self belief, confidence and most of all being a God fearing
person
KWADOI Marbiah
EMBRACING YOUR CULTURE
itting in the tram on
my way to work, I
see a young girl of
about 5 years speaking
French with her mother in
the tram. This child seemed
pleased to be communicating
her with her mother and she
sounded confident and I could
see the pride in her mother’s
face.
Then I saw another woman
who spoke her native tongue
on the phone but when her
daughter was chatting with
her, she spoke English. I then
concluded that this woman
has short changed her child
because she has failed to pass
her heritage to her child. Her
child could one day ask her
why she failed to teach her
the native language.
Are you a British African,
British Caribbean, British
Indian or British born Mixed?
If you come from another
country but are a British, I
will advice that you feel
proud of your culture and let
that be seen. We live in a
multi-cultural society. Until
you become proud of your
history and culture, you will
never appreciate your present
so begin to embrace your cul-
ture.
Your culture is who you
are and it doesn't change you
as a person it only helps you
understand where you came
from and it will certainly help
you measure where you want
to go.
Life is not a race so don't feel
shy of asking the questions,
for if you don't ask you will
never get the answers. Who
are you? Where are you from?
What is your history and
what part does it play in your
future?
Infuse your culture with your
personal style. Let your cul-
ture speak for you in what
you wear. A traditional wear
speaks volume of a confident
and self knowing person. Add
a modern twist to your tradi-
tional style and show off your
personality and your culture.
You are a flawless personality
so don't lose your culture .
Embrace your culture and
love it for it is who you are.
BE PROUD OF YOUR CULTURE
ITS WHO YOU ARE
If you lose your culture,
you lose yourself and it
takes years and time to
find it. Ask the right ques-
tions today and get the
answers .
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Daniella Osei Nana Akua
Looks flawless with this maxi summer dress. The flower detailed on the side draws attention to the small waist.
Combine the traditional accessories and mod-ern styles to complete Daniella’s simple and chic look.
Anita Osei Obaa Yaa Kunadu
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“Whatever your shape or size, a woman should always seek to wear clothes that flatter her curves”
Relationships are guarded with rhe-
torical non stated rules. These rules
define or defile the existence of the
relationship. The beauty about
building a common mutual, lasting
friendship and partnership lies in
this. You can’t build a relation with
anyone if you don’t go into the ship
of life. The ship signifies the strug-
gles, challenges and the ‘getting to
know each other period’. In the
ship, you discover yourself, your
personalities and also your partner
and friend. The destination of this
ship is marriage.
What are the untold roles in a rela-
tionship?
Be Supportive
A secret attitude I took from my
mother, give people the benefit of a
doubt. Take
time to under-
stand the pas-
sions and de-
sires of your
partner and if
possible try and
see things from
their point of
view. Before you conclude or make
an assumption please give him a
chance and if you are insecure de-
liberately take part so you can give
your option in love.
Be Confident
Being confident doesn’t mean being
loud or aggressive. If your partner
knows how confident you are it
somehow relaxes him. A confident
lady knows who she is inwardly and
she exudes charm, charisma and
clarity. Trust me it is a rare quality
to have and your partner know this.
I have always being confident and I
never hid it in fact it was my
strongest weapon.
Be Open Minded
Going into a relation with a close
mindset is stupid. You need to un-
derstand that the person you aim to
build the relationship with is com-
pletely different to you. They be-
long to a different family, they may
have some things in common with
you abut they are not you. Being
open allows you to see his weak-
ness, strengths, vulnerable sides. It
allows you to speak to each other in
love. I must say it took me a while
to understand this.
Be a Goddess
A goddess is beautiful, flawless,
caring, loving, understanding, pow-
erful, determined and above all they
controlled their lovers. You have
the power of influence; you can get
whatever you want from a man just
by being a goddess. If you treat him
like a king, a new born baby and a
man you will never feel insecure
because he will do whatever it
takes just to please you. The secret
here is to determine to love him –
the best way to do this is to daily
renew your love for him even when
he does you wrong.
DO’s & Don’ts
Here are things to avoid :
Don’t give up your past
I used to make that silly mistake of
telling prospective partners about
my past. Usually it begins with them
asking me a simple question like
“so tell me about yourself?”
Of course he/she knows you have a
past and that is part of your identity
and definitely will be part of you so
don’t rush into tell him all about
your failed relationships. Don’t seek
for sympathy; just leave the past in
the past. I am not saying that you
should lie or not tell them. All I am
saying is that you give the relation-
ship the chance to develop without
any preconceived image of you.
Don’t get too comfortable
When I was single, I was extremely
flamboyant. I spend time and hours
getting myself beautified for a night
out. The fact that he is in a rela-
tionship with you doesn’t mean you
should get comfortable and forget
how to look good and impress him.
At home look your best, dress up to
make him proud to be yours. Give
him the opportunity to always
remember you. Don’t get too
comfortable and forget what he
likes and doesn’t like.
Don’t be insecure
Get rid of insecurity, self doubt,
lack of confidence and low self es-
teem. A woman with these negative
attitudes logged in her will never
feel safe with a man. I will suggest
that you get professional counseling
or speak with a trusted mentor and
let them help you get over these. If
you enter a relationship with these
qualities, I promise you, there will
always be issues and you will not
experience real love.
Don’t let your heart rule
your head
To be in love doesn’t mean you lose
your sense of reason. You got to
use common sense to overcome
some silly issues which arises in a
relationship. Don’t through away
years of memories with friends and
family because you are in love. Be-
cause you don’t know the future, I
will say be careful and guard your
heart as once it’s broken it may or
may not heal.
Don’t rush it – love comes
when you’re not expecting it
Anything began in a hurry without
preparation and planning won’t last.
Take your time to get to know him
and understand his background,
family and friends. These will play a
significant part in the relationship
so take your time to learn.
Don’t pretend or fake it
Be yourself! Smile don’t smile, it’s
all you so be you every time you
are together. Don’t hind behind
masks, made up foundations and
others because it won’t work.
Don’t be too generous
Money is a sensitive issue, so don’t
ever build your relationship with it.
You are allowed to be generous and
be willing to help your partner if
you can but do not break you bank
just to make him love or appreciate
you. If you are constantly giving
then there is an issue and you
should learn to say “No”. You can
test the heart of your partner by
using money as the bait. If he loves
you, he won’t expect you to always
get him out of his financial mess but
rather seek for your approval be-
fore he makes financial commit-
ments. Don’t give up your credit
DO’s & Don’ts
A FEMININE TOUCH A SIMPLE WATCH COMPLETES A STYLE
Spring clean your style and your makeup bag with
flawless colours that draws attention. Try peach &
Love for a romantic effect. Adding a touch of col-
our to your personality brings healing and it’s ther-
apeutic to the mind and the heart. A single touch of
colour makes you sexy inside and outside.
Let us introduce you to three elegant pieces that
should be added to your personal style. Draw atten-
tion to yourself this summer with and get noticed
with a feminine scarf, a shimmery shine lip gloss
and soft colourful nails.
A Feminine Scarf
Scarves have always being an elegant accessory. It
adds a flawless touch to every simple look. A scarf
elongates your neck and gives a sensual appeal to
your neck. It makes you feel confident, bold, pow-
erful and in control. The flowery soft material
around your neck certainly makes you standout in a
large crowd.
The best thing is, a scarf is a timeless, limitless and
space less accessory. It can be worn as an addition-
al accessory over a boring plain office style or a
glamorous evening wear.
Feminine Touch of Lip Gloss
A shimmery smile with a touch of gloss gives off
sex and love. Choosing and knowing the best colours
to wear is as important as it pops your lips for the
right occasion. Your lips are your first key impres-
sion - it is visible for all to see during you communi-
cation.
If you leave your lips blunt, dull and boring, they
make you uncomfortable and you lose your respect,
reputation and creditability.
Before words are spoken why not decorate your lips
with a touch of gloss. Choose fierce colours like
peach, pink, plain and clear gloss.
A Feminine Touch of Nail Vanish
Your nails need to be sparkled up. Bring some col-
ours to your nails this summer and get them look-
ing beautiful and pleasant. Getting your nails paint-
ed or using already created nails to add colour
makes you happy inside and out. You don’t need to
let your toes or your finger nails suffer the burns
of the autumn weather but bring them some seri-
ous attention by adding a slash of colour.
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Style—
Summer’s is here put your favor-
ite music on and dance your
flawless body into shape.
How do you get toned and in
shape for the summer holidays?
Simple Homexercise routines
will get you sorted and on your
way.
The best thing about the Homex-
ercise program is that you cre-
ate your own routine base on
your personality and your style.
Simple routines from the mo-
ment you wake up to the last
moment you lay down to sleep,
we can teach you simple tech-
niques that will help you get into
shape.
Morning: In your bed
Spread your legs wide and lift
your top
body up –
repeat this
8 times to
increase
your heart
beat.
Sitting up with legs wide apart,
touch both legs from side to side
– repeat 8 times
until you heart
starts to beat fast-
er
Bath Time – Inside
the bath/shower
Bend your knees
and move your
waist down in a squat position.
Lift yourself up and down with
the water running until you feel
yourself out of breath. Complete
up to 30squates before coming
out of the bath.
In bedroom – applying cream to
your body
Put your legs
up and stretch
your arms to
your toes – re-
peat 10 for
both legs
Lift your right arm and stretch
over your shoulder and stretch it
over your shoulder
In the Kitchen – Cooking, Chop-
ping & Washing the dishes
Put music on and swing your
hips to the music. Swing, squat
and shake your body to the mu-
sic as you cook the family din-
ner.
Add 20 star jumps
Lift and touch your knees
Shake your hips and stretch
them
Feel free to add your own style
to these routines they are easy
Homexercise for you to enjoy
and love
FUN WAY TO KEEP FIT & SEXY
Brain Develop-ment:
If I told you mushrooms are good for
your brain and physical development.
Will you believe me? No! But it’s the
truth, they are full of natural goodness
which is good for the development of
your immune system. It can be eaten
cooked or raw.
Mushroom are a great source of protein
so try this in a nice dish and see the
difference.
The dietary fibre in mushrooms also
helps promote good bowel function and
Weight Loss Would you believe me if I say that a
totally lean protein diet is ideal for los-
ing fat and building muscle mass? Per-
haps no! But it is true. A lot of fats are
burnt to digest (break-down) proteins
in the food, more so when the protein
is accompanied by a very low carbohy-
drate, zero fats and cholesterol and a
good amount of fibre. This is exactly
what mushrooms offer.
No Calories They’re naturally low in kilojoules and
fat, with only about 80 to 120 kilojoules
per 80 gram serving, depending on the
variety.
Mushrooms themselves provide you
with lean proteins as they have zero
cholesterol, fats and very low carbohy-
drates.
The fibre and certain enzymes in them
also help lower cholesterol level. More-
over, the high lean protein content in
mushrooms helps burn cholesterol
when they are digested.
Natural source of Protein & Minerals Many varieties of contain
proteins, carbohydrates, vita-
mins, trace elements, beta-
glucans (sugar molecules)
and naturally-occurring plant
compounds like sterols, phe-
nols, and terponoids, which
are all known to have health
benefits.
Mushrooms may also be a good source of Vitamin
D, which is not found in many food sources. They
contain a compound called ergosterol that con-
verts to Vitamin D when exposed to sunlight. A
very popular mushroom variety, white or button
mushrooms (Agaricus bisporus) has been found to
contain an abundance of ergosterol.
HOW TO EAT MUSHROOM:
As part of the experience we ask you take 5 days a
week routine.
Breakfast
Mushroom on Toast with a lovely cup of tea
Fresh tomatoes, mushroom & Scrambled eggs sea-
soned with basil
Lunch
Sandwich filled with chopped mushroom, sweet corn
and tuna
Roasted bread topped with chicken, mushroom &
Tomatoes
Roasted tomato, cheese and mushroom served with
French bread
Diner
Jolloff / Rice or pasta served with stir fried sweet pep-
pers and mushroom
Roast potatoes, seasoned roast chicken filled with
mushrooms and red chilly peppers.
Mushroom Bagel
Mushrooms on Toast
MUSHROOMS
4 WEEKS Challenge—Add a portion to
your meal
At this years “Rhythm on the Runway 2013” in Ghana West Africa at the Golden Tulip, Ophelia’s designs brought colour and life to the
show. Her choice of design stem from her designer husband Kofi Okyere Darko and daughter.
Her passion for arts comes from her grandmother who was a fashion designer and schooled at Vogue Style School of Fashion and De-
sign. As a wife and mother she always devotes her creations to them. She began her designing career in 2004 after graduating from
University.
Ophelia began her collections with her kids clothing which she dedicated to her loving daughter. The child line is called “Ohemaa Kids
Klub”.
To locate Ophelia in Ghana you must locate her at:
Sarahs fabrics in Osu Accra, Ghana. Behind the Penta Hotel
Telephone +0050 0758 5856
Email her at: [email protected]
Face book: Ophelia Crossland
Get the latest hairstyles at af-fordable prices.
We only give the best customer service to all our clients.
HENRY’S BARBERS Hairdresser—Diana
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075333 76079
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Norbury
SW16 4DG
Meet Eunice Elegance Fitness and
Heath Editor and creator of the
Homexercise routines.
She a qualified Fitness trainer and
offers consultations and diet advice.
Do you want to lose weight and stay
fit for the summer? Are you too busy
for the gym? Do you want help with
your body weight
If you want support and advice on
the best weight loss and fat burning
techniques contact Eunice at:
Excellence, Beauty & Style
It feels like just yesterday when I was single, free and inde-
pendent without a care in the world. Now I am married to a hand-
some man and a mother to a beautiful outgoing girl. It’s strange
how time can change a person. I am certainly a witness to this
because I was not one who was desperately looking for love or a
relationship. As a matter of fact when I was single, I was busy
looking for opportunities to enjoy myself, expand my career and
build my future. I never thought I would be at the point where I
had to stop and see things from the perspective of another per-
son.
It saddens my heart and when I read books and hear stories
about people who are desperately searching for love and hating
being single. My deal reader, please see read this and have a
change of mind. To those who are searching for love, I will say,
let love go and live your life because love comes when you are
not expecting it. Being single is a blessing cos you are supposed
to create memories and collect these life stories to tell your part-
ner and your children. Enjoy your days as a single woman and
feel confident that you will not be single forever.
Single people are not all selfish but being single makes you self-
ish. When I was single I could do no wrong because I answered
to myself. My choices and decisions were for my benefits. My
time was my precious jewel so I daily built on it. I was constantly
breaking set rules and making new ones. I built my character, my
personality and my career when I was single and now I am enjoy-
ing the benefits. I understood who I was and what my purpose
was when I was a single lady. I never let any bad relationship
break me or change my personality. When I was dating my hus-
band, he was made aware of this, not in words but my actions. I
never lost my identity to him during courtship because he was not
mine. Being single maybe daunting and sometime quite boring
but you must try and get out there. I learnt the hard way by appre-
ciating my own company and taking myself out on regular dates
after all I was single and supposed to be selfish. I find myself in
now although married enjoying my own company and this has
certainly made me a better mother to my child.
I used to pamper myself every month on payday by going shop-
ping for expensive latest perfumes and shoes. I was able to save
and go on crazy wild adventures each time I needed a break
away from my boring life. Funny thing, I stayed focused with God
and I felt my relationship with God grew a lot more when I was
single.
I dare and challenge you to get excited about being single.
Send me your crazy single stories and share your adventures
with me at [email protected]
SINGLE & SELFISH
Exams are now and officially over! Yah!
Bring on summer break. I can’t wait!
I put all my life on hold so I could complete the GCSE’s, A-Levels and University Exams. Exams are extremely stressful and definitely self motivating. Now they are over there are 5 main things I will like to do over the summer period.
Here are my 5 Spring into summer memories for my 2013 dairy.
Spring into summer
Prepare for Prom & Graduation The fun begins with plan-ning for the prom or the graduation. The excite-ment and release of these events begins with looking for the best colour to wear.
It’s all about the dress. Finding the best dress and the best style to fit your personality is essential.
The next thing is getting your make up and accessories on point.
Graduation Prom night will certainly be a night to remem-ber.……
Plan a getaway trip The best way to release stress after an exam is to plan a getaway trip.
A lovely retreat away from your usual lifestyle is the best solution to distress and calm your nerves.
A 3 days or 5days vacation will help you get ex-cited about the next phase of your life.
Have a girls outing and Sleepover One thing to know is you and your girls may potentially sepa-rate after the summer break so plan a very girly night out and a sleepover.
Create a full day of pampering with cupcakes and chocolates. Add some romantic movies and ice creams and that will be the perfect event.
Get an Apprenticeship / Vocational Work experience
To boost your confidence and your self esteem, an apprentice or summer voca-tional work experience will help get you ready. Due to the large volume of stu-dents graduating and starting University and College, I will advice that you set a target to complete and gain at least a six months to one year apprenticeship or voluntary service skills.
You set yourself apart as an employable candidate and by volunteering and getting the experience you develop yourself and your CV will certainly standout.
Enjoy the Summer You cannot let the summer go without enjoying the very best of it.
Take to the beach, go out with family, have a barbeque, plan a summer fair party.
Whatever crazy ideas you get, do them and create lasting memories for the rest of the year and for 2014.
Summer goes and goes quickly so make the most of it!!