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Kevin AbdulrahmanThe Man Inspiring Millions, as he is known around
the globe, Kevin Abdulrahman is a sought after
Motivational and Inspirational Speaker who will
be writing regularly for OBTAINER WORLDWIDE
from now on. Kevin Abdulrahman is regularly in-
vited by the most varied companies to speak to,
train and conduct workshops with Direct Selling
Teams across five continents.
He is the Author of a series of books which are used
by leading Direct Selling Teams as part of their fun-
damental Development, Learning and Mind Training
to create a form of Leadership that is much needed
especially in Today’s Testing Times: “Leadership
from within.” The OBTAINER Editorial Team is very
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In my first book “Winning the Game of Life” I talked about playing a vid-eo game. However, unlike most video games, this one lacked any challeng-es. You could simply play the game through from start to finish without being challenged.
I want you to think how you would feel
if you played a game where you were
not challenged? It’s fair to say that the
chances are very high that you would
get bored very quickly and lose interest
in the game.
The reason you actually play a game
(and others do so in the first place) is
because of the challenges you face on
screen. To make it through the game,
you might have to jump, side step, take
a tumble, do whatever it takes to get to
the next level.
When I speak at conferences, every
single attendee raises their hand for
the simple fact that they are either fac-
ing challenges today, or have done so at
some point in their life.
Which means that life is not just pick-
ing on you alone.
Life is a game, and it’s no different from
a video game. We are all regularly faced
with challenges in life.
From what I have seen, I believe that
Winners face even more challenges
than most people do. However, Win-
ners understand that challenges are re-
quired ingredients to win.
In fact, the truth is, if you are not fac-
ing challenges, then chances are you’re
operating well below your true capa-
bilities.
What about if you choose to resign and
be at the complete mercy of the chal-
lenges you face? What if you continue
to do what most people are currently
doing?
Well, you won’t stand a chance at win-
ning.
I would like to suggest that it’s not the
challenges that define you.
Some challenges arise as a result of
poor choices you’ve made in the past,
whilst others are at times, out of your
control. Nevertheless, you must learn
to understand that a challenge, no mat-
ter how severe, is simply part of any
game you choose to play in life.
It’s a REQUIRED ingredient of the
game. You use challenges to get stron-
ger and move forward. What I’m talk-
ing about is an Attitude – a choice you
make on how to view challenges in your
life.
Successful people and Winners are not
shaped by the challenges they face, but
more so, by how they choose to face
their challenges.
When faced with a challenge, you need
to push through it, over it, to the side
of it. You do whatever you have to do,
to get to the other side. As difficult as it
may seem, or as hard as it may feel to
recognize this fact, an event will always
have two sides to it, just like a coin.
Take a large organization such as
Google as an example.
Do you think they let challenges hold
them back?
Do you think they bring everything to
a complete halt because they are faced
with a crisis?
No, they continue to push forward,
fine-tuning and working on their chal-
lenges along the way.
It’s important to note that Winners still
keep their eyes locked on their vision,
and therefore are constantly moving
forward as opposed to many who are
taking the “sit and wait” approach.
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How you deal with
challenges will determine whether you
make the cut. It will determine whether
you rise and inherently, whether you
win or not. For it’s not what you are hit
with, but how you deal with being hit.
It’s not how hard you are hit, but how
hard you can hit back. It’s not your size
in the fight that matters, but the size
of the fight in You that will ultimately
determine whether they will stand a
chance at winning.
What I share with my students is to re-
member this phrase when faced with
challenges - “When the winning get’s
tough, the tough FIGHT back.”
Welcome challenges into your world.
Welcome challenges from your compe-
tition. The challenges you face will help
expand your thinking. It will help you
grow stronger. Life is tough, and life
is challenging. Life is full of ups and
downs. That’s the way life is. Most peo-
ple moan about it, because they don’t
realize that everything they desire lies
on the other side of the challenges they
face.
The same holds true for you and your
life’s results.
Everything you desire is on the other
side of the challenges, which you learn
and choose to overcome.
Everyday will bring you the opportuni-
ty to give up. But why today?Hang on
in there. Most people give up on their
dreams, goals and ventures too soon.
You won’t get a gold medal for quitting.
And you certainly won’t win, or get
your desired results by quitting.
Failure is never true failure unless you
quit.
We all know that Quitters Never Win
and Winners Never Quit.
Time never stops for anyone, so those
who choose to quit are the ones who
will be in the same place five years from
now. Don’t let that be you.
Quitting in the face of challenges is not
the answer. It’s not Your Answer.
Develop a tough skin.
Learn to be resilient.
Hang on to your dreams
You will have things go against you and
when you do, simply smile at them.
Remember, Winners are not those
who are fortunate enough not to have
experienced challenges, in fact they
probably do so more than most people.
Winners simply choose to do and think
differently when faced with challenges.
They see beyond the challenges.
Winners know that if they want some-
thing, they have to go and get it. Win-
ners know that the prize is worth fight-
ing for. Challenges in the game of life
are what they have to face, play with
and win over to get to the other side
and enjoy their goals and dreams.
Keep on telling yourself that the chal-
lenges you face (and will overcome)
will make for a great story when shar-
ing your success with others, with your
kids and with your grandkids.
When you get called onto the podium
as an esteemed member of society,
someone who has inspired others to
achieve greatness through their ac-
tions to be the best that they can be,
you will be able to talk about what you
faced and how you chose to deal with
it.
Think of what a great story that would
be!
Get Excited!
Challenges are part of the game.
Always Remember - Your Persistence
Must Outlast the Resistance
Have a Winning Month.
Kevin Abdulrahman is internally rec-
ognised as The Man Inspiring Millions.
He is regularly ranked by his attendees
as The Best Motivational, Inspirational
and Leadership Speaker in Asia, the
Middle East and the Indian Subconti-
nent. You can contact him by visiting
his website www.BestMotivational-
Speaker.me
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“When the winning get’s tough, the
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