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Contents

Features16 Exploring Independent Bookstores

Take a step back from your digital domain and into the world of independent bookstores to discover a rich collection of literary gems from past to present.

20 Behind the Scenes ofThe Bourne LegacyEntertainment Editor Nick Nicholson brings us into the world of espionage with the next installment of the Bourne series. The cleverly developed storyline continues without Jason Bourne and gives viewers a broader look at the intelligence community and the origin of soldiers like Bourne.

With a flair for her straight forward and direct advice about the mortgage and real estate industries, Cathy Baker has made a name for herself and for Baker Mortgage as a mainstay in the industry during the ups and downs of the housing and mortgage markets. Described by her listeners as a cross between Mother Teresa and Judge Judy, Cathy’s no nonsense approach to educating - and advising - clients on mortgage matters has raised the bar on industry standards.

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financial savvy14 Hot Time in Washington D.C.Reach your financial potential in today’s uncertain market.

chick flicks19 BreathlessTexas trailer housewife Lorna and her best friend take matters into their own hands when Lorna finds out her husband has come into a small fortune he doesn’t plan on sharing.

22 The Bourne LegacyJeremy Renner picks up where Matt Damon left off in the enigmatic, high-octane series which follows the journey of a government

trained super soldier who is left with more questions than answers.

columns23 Ask the ExpertBy H.H. “Will” Hardee, AWMAre your finances secure?

26 Woman to WomanBy Alisa MurrayIf girls rule … where does that leave our boys?

32 The Last WordBy Tanya SterlingThe Future is NOW

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T hese are the first words that I saw when I walked into Cathy Baker’s office. Prominently displayed on a brass plaque on her desk, the phrase set the tone not only for our interview but was evident in Cathy’s philosophy in business. Her straight talking, no nonsense

approach to educating clients is refreshing. Her knowledge and unique ability to get her point across in a poignant and unique manner is what sets her apart in the mortgage industry. If you haven’t met Cathy or heard her on the radio, you haven’t heard the “real deal” on buying or refinancing a home. Cathy is a girl’s best friend because she will – despite what you want – tell you like it is.

In this issue, you’ll meet Cathy as well as explore some institutions that like Cathy, also educate and entertain. Jennifer Babisak takes a look at Houston area independent bookstores that despite today’s digital world, are still making their mark with both authors and readers. I confess that one of my guilty pleasures is visiting bookstores. I say “guilty” because I don’t just go, get what I need and leave in an efficient manner. I shop, read, enjoy a snack or beverage – all at a very leisurely pace. And, while I’m confessing, I’ve taught my children to do the same – relish in what an old-fashioned bookstore has to offer. Read about three of our best independent bookstores, and plan your own field trip with your kids or girlfriends. You’ll enjoy the unique environment, the quiet time, and yes, gain some knowledge in the process.

Nick Nicholson takes you behind the scenes of the latest in the Bourne film series – a series that began in bookstores in novels by author Robert Ludlum. The new espionage thriller fades the line between reality and fiction in technology warfare, and Nick visits with the creative minds behind the newest chapter in the saga. It’s definitely an education of how modern warfare has changed and what the not too distant future holds.

Educator, minister and Salt Lake City founder Brigham Young appreciated the value of knowledge – of education. He said, “You educate a man; you educate a man. You educate a woman; you educate a generation.” Profound words from the founder of Brigham Young University. Ladies, keep listening, keep reading, keep watching, keep learning. We have a generation to educate.

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Nick Nicholson is the Entertainment Editor for Focus on Women and the Film and, Entertainment Critic for CNN Radio, the Fort Bend Star newspaper, Fort Bend Focus and Pearland Focus magazines. He is the co-founder of the Houston Film Critics Society and is currently the President of the organization. In Behinds the Scenes of the Bourne Legacy on page 20, Nick explores the next installment of the Bourne series and the in depth research of espionage and government agencies that strive to produce the perfect soldier. Nick and his wife, Mikki, reside in Sugar Land, Texas.

Tanya Sterling, wife and mother of three, is the founder and director of the JOY Ministry, a special needs ministry at First Methodist Houston, and a freelance writer. On page 32 in The Future is Now, Tanya ponders her future role as a grandparent and the impression she wishes to leave on her grandkids. Tanya and her family reside in Sugar Land, Texas.

Jennifer Babisak has written for numerous regional and national publications. In Exploring Independent Bookstores on page 16, Jennifer showcases three Houston bookstores that offer literary gems from past and present and a human interface that rivals the less than personable process of online ordering. When she’s not shopping local, Jennifer keeps busy by home schooling her children and squeezing in time for corporate, family and travel writing. Jennifer lives in Pasadena, Texas with her husband and three children.

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For more than fifteen years, Housto-nians have heard her distinct voice regularly on the radio. Known for

her straight forward, no nonsense, and well, very direct advice about the mortgage and real estate industries, Cathy Baker has forged a name and a stellar reputation for herself and her company that has been in business since 1955. So what’s the secret to her success de-spite the ups and downs of a volatile indus-try? Educating consumers with compassion and care … and of course, telling it like it is.

Cathy began at Baker Mortgage 35 years ago because of a special request. Her father, Gordon Baker, started the company, and when Cathy was taking accounting courses with her sights set on a career at IBM, her fa-ther came to her with a dilemma. “My father came to me and asked for my help because he discovered someone who had worked for him for years was embezzling from him,” said Cathy. “Since he was my father, he of-fered me $50 more a month than I was mak-ing and asked me if I could come on board with him until he gained an element of trust

back within the company. It was intended to be a temporary situation.”

Though Cathy didn’t know anything about mortgages, that did not dissuade her father from bringing her into the business. “We had a family insurance agency in the same office, and I worked for years in both sides of the business. I had the opportunity to stay in the comfortable insurance business or go out on a ledge with my father in the mortgage business during the ugly 80’s when interest rates were horrible. I chose the lat-ter.” Cathy’s temp job turned into a lifelong career, and she enjoyed 18 years working side by side with a great teacher: her father.

In addition to the mortgage business, Gordon Baker instilled in Cathy what she calls the golden rule. “If you can’t afford it, you don’t buy it. And, most importantly, treat everyone with respect, the way you want to be treated,” said Cathy.

In an industry where encouraging people to spend more is the norm, Cathy’s approach is very different. Her straight-shooting ad-vice is not always what her clients want to

hear, but it’s what they need to hear. “Unfor-tunately, the mortgage industry is ripe with people who are self-dealing rather than look-ing out after the best interest of their clients. I figured out a long time ago that if I looked after my clients, they looked after me. I tell clients by watching out over their bottom line, mine gets taken care of.”

Cathy devotes a great deal of time to sim-ply talking with and educating clients and potential clients. Sometimes she may not hear from a client again for years, but because she spent time listening – and educating – clients come back when they are ready to buy. “I have people who come to me who think they are ready to buy a home, and if they’re not ready, I tell them that. I’m risk-ing that I may never see or hear from them again, but more often than not, I hear from them later when they are ready.”

Cathy’s greatest joy in her business is be-ing a resource for people, which comes across when listening to her on the radio. On air, she’s been described as a cross between Mother Teresa and Judge Judy. “Being on

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the radio started as fluke,” said Cathy. A radio station that she used to advertise with said wanted to try something new and asked her to call in to a show about money manage-ment and give a mortgage tip for the day. “I did it, and the next day, the station called and asked me to do it again – every day. For three years at 4:22 pm five days a week, I was on air with the mortgage tip of the day.”

In typical Cathy Baker style, her tips were – and still are – to the point. “If I scared someone out of doing something stupid on a loan, I’m glad. I know it sounds harsh, but when it comes to a mortgage, you can’t take it back if you decide you don’t want it. If you have a problem or change your mind with a mortgage, you’ve got a big problem.”

A male-dominated industry, there are still few women in leadership positions in the mortgage industry. As president and chief executive officer of Baker Mortgage for over sixteen years, Cathy knows – and has what it takes – to be successful in a good ole boys club. “In many large companies, the major-ity of the big money winners are still men. It takes women who are very strong-willed and have a lot of endurance willing to put in long, hard hours to succeed in the mortgage industry,” said Cathy. “To be good at it, you have to be willing to tell people no and when they are making a mistake. Some women don’t feel comfortable in those positions. For women who do, it’s very appropriate. It takes a lot of teaching, mothering and hand-holding to do it right.”

With the ups and downs of the economy and the real estate industry, under Cathy’s leadership, Baker Mortgage is holding its own. “It got way too easy to buy a house; it’s a shame people at the top didn’t see this coming,” said Cathy of the numerous fore-closures over the past few years. “I saw it coming as soon as it started – way before it started. It does not make sense to give some-one a loan who has low credit scores and no money. It’s a good thing now people have to put money down and be involved in getting loans processed and approved. People don’t appreciate things they get that they haven’t worked for, and that’s why we have so many foreclosures now.”

Cathy’s passion for education isn’t lim-ited solely to her clients. She is a regular in Washington, D.C. and in Austin where she attends lobby days and has served as Out-reach Chair and Legislative Chair for the Greater Houston Association of Mortgage Brokers. She currently serves on the Board of Directors for the Better Business Bureau. And perhaps one of the most interesting – and fun, according to Cathy – activities she has participated in is attending the FBI Citi-zens Academy. An outreach program of the

Debt: Don’t pay off all of your debt before qualifying for a mortgage. Not paying your debt off usually won’t keep you from qualifying for a mortgage but having no money will.

Changing Jobs: Get your house bought or refinanced be-fore you change jobs or become self-employed because it’s a lot tougher afterwards.

Closings: Let the lender you are working with know that you want to make sure your papers are at the title company a day or two prior to closing. Don’t go to a title company for a closing where you haven’t received the documents ahead of time, in particular the closing statement and the note. If they have to delay the closing, that’s okay. You need to know what you’re signing up for; surprises are for parties, not for closings.

Buying a Car: If you are getting ready to buy or refinance and need a new car, there’s a great way to get around this problem: rent a car. That way a car payment won’t be held against you as part of your debt ratio. I’ve never had a client not be able to get a car because they have a house, but I’ve had lots of clients who couldn’t get a house or the house they wanted because they just bought a car.

FBI, Cathy was selected to participate in the program she describes as “the most fun I have ever had.” The last day of the course cul-minated at the FBI’s shooting range where Cathy was able to shoot targets with the elite law enforcement group. The target now hangs in her office, and you guessed it, she shoots just as straight with a handgun as she does with her no-nonsense advice.

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“It takes women who are very strong-willed and have a lot of endurance willing to put in long, hard hours to succeed in the mortgage industry,” said Cathy.

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In today’s digital world, hardcopy books are quickly fading into oblivion. Of course, many bookstores are following in this trail of demise with even large chain stores liquidating stock and shutting their doors.

However, many independent bookstores continue to thrive in the face of techno-logical and economic adversity. In fact, independent bookstores experienced strong sales during 2011. “These sales numbers reflect what we are hearing from our members across the country,” said Oren Teicher, CEO of the American Booksellers Association. “An array of factors are fueling the resurgence of independent bookstores including the growing acceptance of the ‘local first’ movement; an extraordinary level of innovative and creative entrepreneurship; a willingness to adapt to changing retail trends includ-ing selling both print and digital books online; and, most importantly, continuing to be an unmatched source of credible information about books and authors.”

Fortunately, Houston boasts several fabulous independent bookstores that offer the innovation and creativity that Teicher describes.

For a rich immersion into the world of words including exceptional customer service and carefully refined selection, check out these three literary havens:

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Valerie Koehler, a lifelong book lover, opened Blue Willow in 1996 when her sons were in elementary school. With an almost entirely female staff, (Koehler says that they have employed “token” males from time to time) the shop offers a unique working en-vironment. “To have so many woman of all ages on staff means that we work hard to re-spect everyone and to be attuned to each per-son's strengths,” Koehler said. “It also means we can dish all the time!”

And, Blue Willow trumps online retailers in one important way: human interaction. “I think most people – not all – want some sort of human interaction on a daily basis. People want to be with like-minded people.” Koe-hler reflected, “We want the opportunity to discuss our interests, our families, our lives. I also firmly believe that buying a book is not like buying mayonnaise. You wouldn't think of asking the clerk in the supermarket line what she or he might make with the mayon-naise. You just hope they are courteous and ac-curate. But when you browse for books, you want opinions, recommendations, and valida-tion.”

Though it’s often difficult to pull today’s young-sters away from their video games and into the pages of a book, parents can lead by example, reading vari-ous forms of print throughout the day. “Buy what-ever you can afford. Go to the library regularly,” Koehler recommends. “Be generous with newspa-pers and magazines. Have them everywhere in your home, car, and bag. Never pass up a moment of reading. And read yourself all kinds of material. Talk to your kids about what you are reading. Talk to your

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BLUE WILLOW BOOKSHOPThis West Houston shop boasts a terrific selection for both adults and children in ad-

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friends and family while they are in ear-shot. Make it key to your life, and your children will learn by example.”

Blue Willow anticipates a busy Au-gust hosting two in-store book clubs, a regular Thursday toddler story time, and a visit by Jan-Philipp Sendker, the author of The Art of Hear-ing Heartbeats, on August 9th at 7 pm.

BRAZOS BOOKSTORELocated in Rice Village, Brazos Bookstore appeals to literary readers

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Today, the store is managed by Jeremy Ellis, who emphasizes that Brazos Bookstore offers an experience incomparable to that of imper-sonal online shopping. “The experience of browsing well-curated book-shelves is not easily duplicated online or in big box stores that focus on bestsellers first,” he said. “Brazos Bookstore works hard to expand a curious reader's literary horizons. Each of our seven employees is a pas-sionate reader. We're always glad to talk books and help our customers find perfect pages for them.”

The shop’s curator, Danielle DuBois Dimond, sorts through the hundreds of thousands of books published each year to select the most interesting, exciting and unusual titles to sell at Brazos. Ellis points out that even if a customer can’t find their preferred title in the store, the staff will go to great lengths to find the book, “Our number one goal is to solve the customer's problem,” he said. “Whether that means plac-ing a special order, calling other stores, or doing online research to deter-mine where in the world the book is, we are committed to connecting readers with the books they want.”

In addition, the store is committed to supporting the Houston writ-ing community, which Ellis describes as “arguably, the most vibrant in Texas.” The store hosts frequent author visits in addition to partnering with Inprint and the University of Houston Creative Writing Program. They also offer a consignment program to sell the works of local and regional authors.

On September 12th, the store will host acclaimed short story author Andrew Porter, whose debut novel In Between Days, is set in Montrose.

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Offering a selection of 25,000 books in-cluding a substantial used section as well as collectibles and first editions, the shop fre-quently hosts author events. In 2011 alone,

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The store prides itself on customer service, going so far as to give first time customers a tour to acquaint them with the layout. “I think one of the reasons customers choose our store over online retailers is that we really try to give them an experience when they come to the store,” said Kwiatkowski, “If someone comes in and mentions they've never been in before, we take the time to give them a quick tour and explain how our store is laid out. We love giving personalized recommendations, and if someone tells us they liked a certain book, we're able to recommend other titles and new authors that would appeal to them.”

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can burn out when dealing with things on a daily basis. Exercise moderation.

Group Activities: Exercise groups, book clubs, social groups, special interests and even the internet, but remember to be careful and balance your online time with one-on-one, person-to-person interaction if possible.

Faith-Based Groups: Religious or spiritu-al, these groups can provide powerful support.

Civic Organizations: Nothing gets your mind off that “negative thinking” like helping someone else and feeling good about it. The benefits of volunteering may surprise you.

Pets: Pets can be an amazing, comforting support, but a word of caution: research what type of pet fits your lifestyle and the breed. You do not want to re-home a pet.

Emotional Wellness Team: Your life coaches, therapists, psychologists and psychia-trists for when a little more support is need-ed. We truly have to get over any “stigma” associated with someone seeing a therapist.

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Support Groups: There is something to be said for people who share similar circum-stances and situations.

Ourselves: Last but not least, we have to count ourselves in this formula. We need to be committed to doing better, feeling better and having the best quality of life for ourselves.

There are so many ways assembling your wellness team can help. We hope that these tips on putting your team together makes a dif-ference in your life and is collected along with other gems in this segment of Pearls of Wisdom. Until next time.

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As the filmmakers of the Bourne fran-chise pondered the next chapter in the series, they faced a conundrum:

At the end of The Bourne Ultimatum, the pro-tagonist had been involved in a shootout in London’s Waterloo Station and then an even more high-profile car chase gunfight through the streets of New York City. Jason Bourne had gone public in a big way. He was poised to expose the U.S. government for its litany of crimes when he vanished. Producer Frank Marshall explained the hurdle: “The challenge was ‘Where are we going to go now?’ Jason Bourne knew who he was, didn’t want to be in the same business anymore and wanted to go off on his own. We had to create a new set of circumstances for the story to go forward.”

Despite the hesitancy, Patrick Crowley, who, alongside Marshall, produced the three previous entries in the series, admits that it was the fans’ interest in additional stories that kept the franchise alive. “We touched a nerve with people who would come up to us and say, ‘I like those movies so much. I hope you’re going to do another one,’” offered Crowley.

In April 2010, several months after Paul Greengrass and Matt Damon opted not to

participate in this chapter of the series, pro-ducers Jeffrey Weiner and Ben Smith met with the franchise’s narrative architect, Tony Gilroy, and asked him if he might spend some time thinking about how to move for-ward. Gilroy was intrigued and agreed to see if he could find an exciting way to continue this world that had launched a new kind of spy thriller. Several weeks later, Gilroy came back to the producers with a concept for how to approach the material. “The thing that separated Bourne most clearly from the action films of the moment was the depth and complexity of the character’s problem. The idea of an assassin ‘coming to’ with no recollection of his dark past and paying the price for recovering his memory by realizing that he’s not the person he wants to be was an incredibly compelling motor. In the hands of an actor like Matt Damon, there was no limit on how honest and detailed those ideas could be expressed. It was fun to think of ways to stage the Legacy story, but until there was a new character with a new problem that felt as powerful, there wasn’t going to be a script. When that last piece fell into place, when Aaron Cross came into focus, became as clear

and soulful to me as what we’d gone after with Bourne, that’s when everyone decided it made sense to move forward.”

Gilroy then began work on a treatment for the project even as he outlined a blueprint for where the story might go after The Bourne Legacy. He began an in-depth research process that would serve as the underpinning for both documents. He looked most particularly at the secretive U.S. government agency known as DARPA (Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency) that is hard at work trying to figure out how to make better soldiers. DARPA and its intelligence counterpart, IARPA (Intelli-gence Advanced Research Projects Activity), fund many research programs with the objec-tive of enhancing the cognitive and physical performance of American soldiers and spies. According to Gilroy, “There’s no drug testing in war. There’s a very real appetite to have sol-diers with increased energy, higher pain thresh-olds and less need for sleep. The warrior who heals, learns and processes information faster is the dream of every commanding officer.”

Just as in The Bourne Legacy, DARPA and its counterparts are working closely with the pharmaceutical industry, medi-cal researchers, Silicon Valley and others to find ways to make humans into better war-riors. Gilroy found that there was a bur-geoning post-9/11 marriage of biology and warfare: a top-secret America that has pro-liferated, funded by the U.S. government and staffed by scientists often working for large corporations. It has, in fact, become so large that it is impossible to fully oversee by any one branch of the U.S. government.

According to the director, “This was an odd story to research because I was do-ing more confirmation than prospecting. I kept finding that my imaginative ideas for Outcome and Candent and NRAG were already there and in play. Every hint that we’d laid along the way in the trilogy about Treadstone and its science-medical background fit perfectly into the existing reality.”

After finishing the treatment for The Bourne Legacy, Gilroy decided he would be in-terested in making this his next directorial ef-fort. Although he began his career as a screen-writer, Gilroy has become an accomplished director with two features to his credit: 2007’s Best Motion Picture nominee Michael Clay-ton, starring George Clooney, for which Gilroy

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received Oscar nominations for both directing and writing, and Duplicity, the 2009 romantic caper starring Julia Roberts and Clive Owen.

Marshall said, “One of the best things about the movie was getting to work with Tony as a director. I’ve been involved with him on the other three movies as the writer, but way back on The Bourne Identity, I knew that someday he was going to direct.”

To collaborate on the screenplay, Gilroy called upon his brother, fellow screenwriter Dan Gilroy, for their first professional teaming in many years.

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The two writers expanded upon the re-search that Tony Gilroy had done for the treat-ment, while also developing the intense drama of the story. “We hope Legacy lives up to its title by expanding the mythology in smart, imaginative and absolutely realistic direc-tions,” shared Dan Gilroy. “All technology ref-erenced in the film is either in development or in use by the U.S. intel community. The hard-est part of the job was creating a character with a need that makes the film personal, and Tony had the core of that before I came on. Aaron Cross has a primal need that creates constant intimacy with the audience.”

Marshall was thrilled with the resulting script. “The genius idea was Tony and Dan’s: expand the world that Bourne lived in and see what else was out there and who is controlling

whom. This way, we could build upon the world the audience had discovered via Jason Bourne and then have an opportunity to see new characters and the bigger picture.”

Crowley agrees that the writer/director and his brother nailed it. The producer marvels at their crafting of a language specific to this se-ries and how they connected everything in this world. “Tony’s obsessed with the intelligence community. He lives and breathes it, asking, ‘How would these people think, how would they act, and what are the relationships that you would have in the intelligence commu-nity?’ It thrilled me that we have a writer who is the soul of the whole series come on board to direct this one.”

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The narrative architect behind the Bourne film series, Tony Gilroy, takes the helm in the next chapter of the

hugely popular espionage franchise that has earned almost $1 billion at the global box office: The Bourne Legacy. Building on the foundation of the Bourne universe created by Robert Ludlum, the writer/director expands the saga with an original story that reveals a larger conspiracy.

Twelve years ago, audiences were intro-duced to Jason Bourne when he was pulled unconscious from the Mediterranean. Over the course of three films, they followed his journey to survive and discover his identity. They watched his CIA handlers mount an increasingly desperate worldwide manhunt. They learned about the Treadstone program and Bourne’s special skills and abilities, and at the trilogy’s conclusion, they may have even felt the story was complete.

The Bourne Legacy pulls back the curtain to expose a darker layer of intrigue, a deeper mythology, and a new hero who must battle to stay alive when his program suddenly be-comes a liability. Jeremy Renner is Outcome agent Aaron Cross in The Bourne Legacy. Bourne’s public exposure at the end of The Bourne Ultimatum sparks a bonfire that threatens to burn down decades of research and development into the building of better spies and warriors. Audiences will discover

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that there are actually a variety of intelligence programs, that the CIA’s Treadstone was but one of the early developments and that Bourne’s actions are creating a tremendous anxiety that other programs may be exposed.

Aaron Cross (Jeremy Renner) is one of six agents in a program called Outcome. Un-like the CIA’s Treadstone, Outcome agents have been developed and trained for use by the Department of Defense. More than as-sassins, Outcome agents are designed for use in isolated, high-risk, long-term intelligence assignments.

Edward Norton plays retired Colonel Eric Byer, the director of a black-line agency, NRAG (National Research Assay Group), at the heart of the Bourne universe. Byer is the man who’s built these programs, fought to keep them funded and shopped them to a variety of eager U.S. intelligence services in the vast, post-9/11 espionocracy. Pulling back the curtain, we realize he’s been there all the while, watching as the three previous

films have played out. It’s Byer’s world that’s being threatened as the CIA fails to contain Bourne, and with the realization that Tread-stone’s fall will expose the close working re-lationship between two of his chief medical directors, Byer has no choice but to sacrifice Outcome. That means eliminating everyone involved, including the science and medical researchers who helped to create it.

Academy Award-winning actress Ra-chel Weisz stars alongside Renner as Dr. Marta Shearing, a research scientist with top-security clearance and a high paying job in the Maryland laboratory of cor-porate pharma-giant Candent. It’s the groundbreaking science developed in her lab that’s responsible for Outcome, and her job includes monitoring the Outcome agents on the rare occasion that they pass through the area. She knows Aaron as she knows the rest of them: as a number, as a clinical subject, as a

guinea-pig. She’s ignored the ethical conflict of her work, but when the entire program needs to be terminated and it’s her life in jeopardy, she’s forced to confront the moral-ity of her choices as she fights to stay alive.

Byer has built his NRAG network at the Beltway nexus of the intelligence, mili-tary and corporate communities. Stacy Keach plays retired Admiral Mark Turso, Byer’s chief advisor Dr. Marta Shearing (Ra-chel Weisz) views Cross as simply a research subject and link to the Pentagon. Dennis Boutsikaris plays Terrence Ward, the CEO of The Candent Group, the big-pharma gi-ant working beyond the cutting-edge of sci-ence and medical ethics under the banner of national security. The appetite for enhanced warriors, a very real military/intel dream over the last 60 years, has finally met the moment where breakthroughs in biochemistry and ge-nomics are making things possible. We learn very early in The Bourne Legacy that Tread-stone was but one of Byer’s early programs, and as the film progresses, we discover that even Outcome has been upgraded. But just as each of these programs carries the promise of more perfect agents, so do they each pres-ent their own unique bugs and flaws. Aaron Cross’s physical enhancements will feel famil-iar to fans of Jason Bourne. His cognitive lift, however, makes for a more adaptive and pro-vocative skill set. It also holds a great danger: The Outcome agents have proven difficult to control, and Cross, once cut free of the leash, makes for an even more dangerous threat to his creators with this brilliant conclusion to the epic Bourne series.

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H as it occurred to you that the dichotomy of genders in our so-ciety has gotten so misconstrued

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majority of childrearing is neither here nor there in terms of better or best. Yes, those decisions are personal and at least most of us can agree amongst ourselves that within the context of a marriage, it is between the husband and wife to know who is better at it. Getting down to the real bottom of it is this, and these are the cold hard facts: The greatest task we have is to rear and grow up new babies and carve out a progressive and sustainable generation of competent and educated, as well as morally sound, people. At some point, and I am quite frankly in the throes of it parenting a teenage daugh-ter and raising a son, something has got to give. By my best observation both in read-ing and paying attention to what is happen-ing in the world is girls rule and boys are, well, left behind. It’s a brave new world for boys, and I am not digging it!

Recently, I became aware that our sons are so displaced in the classrooms that they are failing in terms of grades and falling, as it were, by the wayside. The very things we love about girls such as sitting still and raising their hands politely are looked upon as the ideal student, and squirmy boys are frowned upon, especially talkative ones.

“Please sit quietly, do all these work sheets.” And God forbid you need to ask questions! That appears to now be the unwritten rule for education, and this has made it nearly impossible to be surprised at where we are headed as a society.

I love the fact that men are staying at home. Are you kidding me? I hate to clean, can’t bake a thing and forget the laun-dry! I love the fact that we have pregnant women being crowned CEO’s all over the land. Who in their right mind wouldn’t be? What I am perplexed about is that we have to stop acting like being crowned a CEO while pregnant is a big deal because it really isn’t a big deal at all . . . at least not anymore. She is a woman, and by the virtue of being so, can bear a child.

What is a big deal is who is going to edu-cate the boys – rear them and uplift them into becoming men? With the emphasis on what is best for a convenient and passive aggressive educational environment, I am very worried.

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well woman I By Irfan Lalani, M.D., Neurologist, and Azul Jaffer, M.D., Plastic Surgeon

Early Diagnosis and Treatment Prevents Serious Complications

A my, a woman in her early 30s, wasn’t prone to headaches. Then suddenly she began experiencing

severe headaches that only improved when she would lie down. Her headaches wors-ened upon sitting or standing to the point she could barely function. Fortunately for her, Amy’s rare condition was diagnosed through a neurological evaluation and a series of neuro-imaging tests.

Not A Migraineor Tension Headache

“Spontaneous intracranial hypoten-sion (SIH) is an uncommon condition characterized by unprovoked leakage of cerebrospinal fluid from the spinal canal,” says Irfan Lalani, M.D., board certified neurologist on staff at Methodist Sugar Land Hospital. “The resultant drop in pressure in the brain results in severe head-aches when in an upright position. The headaches are also often accompanied by tinnitus (ringing in the ears), nausea and vomiting, and can be debilitating.”

SIH may be mistaken for migraines or tension headaches, but it is a more serious condition with potentially life-threatening consequences. “SIH is not easily diag-nosed,” says Dr. Lalani. “The diagnosis is made by taking a detailed patient head-ache history, combined with a complete neurological examination. Subsequent specialized neuro-imaging techniques are used to identify the location of the spinal fluid leak.”

Diagnostic tests used to detect SIH in-clude:

• MRI• CT myelography• Radionuclide cisternography (nuclear

scan test to diagnose spinal fluid circula-tion problems)

All of these specialized imaging tests are available at Methodist Sugar Land Hospi-tal. “Because diagnosis of SIH is difficult,

it is important to have a sub-specialized radiology department with the technol-ogy and expertise to uncover this condi-tion,” says Dr. Lalani. “Our community is very fortunate to have a top-notch team of radiologists at Methodist Sugar Land Hospital.”

Young women in their 20s to 40s are the most likely demographic to experience SIH.

Early Detection Is Key

“Early diagnosis is critical in SIH cas-es,” says Dr. Lalani. “The procedure for treating the condition is relatively simple and very effective when performed early. The area of leakage is repaired by per-forming an epidural blood patch, which is using the patient’s own blood to form a blood clot in the affected area. It can pre-vent life-threatening complications.”

Recovery consists of a couple days of rest as the blood clot heals.

If you suddenly begin suffering from unusual or debilitating headaches, make an appointment to be evaluated by a neu-rologist. For an appointment with Dr. Lalani or another neurologist in your area, please call our physician referral line at 281-274-7500.

For chronic migraine sufferers, there is hope when all other treat-ment options have fallen short. “There is a small subset of headache pa-tients who continue to experience debilitating headaches even after trying multiple therapies, including behavior modification, medications, tablets, creams and stimulators,” says Azul Jaffer, M.D., board certified plastic surgeon on staff at Methodist Sugar Land Hospital. “For those pa-tients who can’t function due to their extreme headaches, neuroplasty, a micro-surgical procedure, may offer relief.”

Dr. Jaffer explains, “Most nerves pass between two separate muscles. However, in some cases, nerves come through the muscle itself, re-sulting in severe pinching all around the nerve. To relieve this pinching or squeezing of the nerve, a micro-surgeon (typically a plastic surgeon with experience working on delicate, small nerves) removes a small seg-ment of the muscle tissue surround-ing the trapped nerve. This allows the nerve to expand, relieving the pres-sure and the pain.”

“The success rate for this proce-dure is extremely high at 90%,” says Dr. Jaffer. “Of that 90%, 30% of pa-tients will no longer experience head-aches. For the rest, headaches are less frequent and less severe, making them much more tolerable.”

Methodist Sugar Land Hospital has the personnel, equipment and technology to offer this solution to headache patients who have tried everything else. Dr. Jaffer is the first physician in Fort Bend County and is one of two physicians in the Houston area to perform this procedure. A re-ferral from a neurologist is required before proceeding to neuroplasty.

Relief through Neuroplasty

Neurologists And Plastic Surgeons Working Together

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W hile visions of swimsuits and flip flops may be filling your head this summer, vi-

sions of hearts and peace signs are filling the dreams of Fort Bend Junior Service League (FBJSL) members as they plan the 12th annual Sugar Plum Market with the theme, “Peace, Love, Sugar Plum.”

Presented by title sponsor Methodist Sugar Land Hospital and supported by the City of Stafford, the event will again be held at the Stafford Centre Perform-ing Arts Theatre and Convention Center. The festive and groovy Market dates are Friday, November 2nd and Saturday, No-vember 3rd, plus Preview Night the eve-ning of Thursday, November 1st.

Last year’s market raised a record $200,000 which was distributed to 15 lo-cal Fort Bend charities. The Sugar Plum Market committee appreciates the com-munity’s role in its success and welcomes the continued support for the 2012 Mar-ket. “Trustmark Bank is honored to once again be a part of the Sugar Plum Market, which is such an important event that does

FBJSL and Sponsors to Create a Peaceful Holiday Market

Kaelyn Bujnoch and Leena Taneja, Methodist Sugar Land Hospital; Jamie Hill and Ann Smith, Pamela Printing; Rebecca Hathorn, Stafford Centre; Haley Millis and Susanne Hiegel, Sugar Plum Market Co-Chairs; Laura Thompson, FBJSL President; Stephanie Van Horn, Sugar Plum Market Co-Chair; Ryan Davis, Fidelity Investments; Patti Parish-Kaminski, Focus on Women and Travis Van Horn, Trustmark Bank.

so much for our community,” said Travis Van Horn of Trustmark Bank.

Sponsorship and underwriting oppor-tunities range from $250 to $5,000 with a variety of benefits suited to both individu-als and businesses. In addition to the Sugar Plum Market’s title sponsor, Methodist Sugar Land Hospital, top sponsors to date include City of Stafford, Pamela Printing,

Fidelity Investments-Sugar Land, Focus on Women and Trustmark Bank. For infor-mation on sponsorship opportunities or vendors, please visit www.sugarplummar-ket.com or call 281-636-6272.

Individual tickets are $10 and will be available for purchase September 1st. Pre-view Night tickets are $60 each and also available beginning September 1st.

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August 17 – 18: Comedy Sportz Houston Annual School Supply Drive Benefiting West Houston Assistance Ministries. Receive $2 off ticket prices for Comedy Sportz by reserving tickets and committing to bring school supplies for the West Houston Assistance Ministries which helps Houston and Alief school districts have an easier start to the school year. Comedy Sportz is Houston’s longest running interactive, competitive improv show. It focuses on clean hilarity and so is good for comedy fans of all ages. Friday & Saturday, 8 & 10:30 pmComedy Sportz Houstonwww.comedysportzhouston.com

SYMPHONY

September 1 – 30: Best of Brahms’ Work. Explore the timeless work of Johannes Brahms, composer and pianist, with the Houston Symphony as Conductor Hans Graf explores the dramatic, exhilarating Romantic period. Thursday, Saturday & Sunday, 8 pm Friday, 2:30 pm Jones Hallwww.houstonsymphony.com

THEATER

August 1 – 19: Steel Magnolias. Now an iconic film, Steel Magnolias was first an Off-Broadway play that tells the bittersweet story of southern women’s friendship, compassion and grit. The play centers on the women who gather at a beauty shop for a wedding and the ups and downs of their sometimes humorous, sometimes heartbreaking, life events over the next three years. Their light hearted humor even in the face of tragedy conveys the ability of southern women to be delicate as magnolias and tough as steel. Wednesdays & Thursdays, 7:30 pm Fridays and Saturdays, 8 pm Sundays, 3 pm Stages Reparatory Theatre www.stagestheatre.com

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September 25 – 30: Disney’s Beauty and the Beast. Experience the magical and heartwarming Disney film and Broadway masterpiece that has become an international sensation. Featuring the hit film’s Academy Award winning score with additional songs with music by Alan Menken and lyrics by Tim Rice, the show tells the tale of Belle, a smart young woman who is forced to live with the Beast, who is really a prince trapped in a monster’s body. Unless he learns to love and be loved he will remain in that form forever, but can Belle learn to love him? Tuesday – Thursday, 7:30 pmFriday & Saturday, 8 pm Saturday, 2 pmSunday, 1 & 7:30 pm The Hobby Centerwww.thehobbycenter.org

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The Future is NOW

the last word I By Tanya Sterling

As a mom, have you ever wondered what kind of grandmother you would be? If you are already at that

stage in your life, are you the grandmother you dreamed of being?

For many of us with small kids and teens, the very thought of becoming a grand-mother is in the far and distant future. My goodness, we are already busy with our children, spouses, activities, friends, family and trying to keep our house quasi-clean. However, this thought has fascinated me for a while now so let’s explore it together.

My husband and I occasionally have conversations that go some-

thing like this:Me: “I wonder where Leah and Ryan

(our two kids) will eventually live and raise their family?”

J: “It will be interesting to see, yep.” Me: “Well, wherever it is, we are going

to get a second home in that vicinity no matter where.”

J: “Why would we do that?”Me: “So we can actively help out with

the grandkids, you know – chauffeur them to their activities, babysit and spend lots of time with them.”

J: “We are not buying second homes near both of the kids, T. They may live in opposite sides of the US or even overseas. We can visit them and help out per their parent’s request.”

Me: “I get that, J., but I want to be the best, hands-on, involved grandma I can be. Those kids will love hearing all of the family stories and memories that we will have created by then and busy parents always appreciate a helping hand. We are those busy parents to-day, after all.”

At this point, my calm hubby just smiles, shakes his head and continues on with his day.

I know why I am like this, I was not fortu-nate enough to have active, healthy, hands-on grandparents due to death, illness plus living in different countries. I also know of other women who never experienced having those lovey dovey grandparents due to family con-flicts and ongoing tensions. Whatever the rea-sons, I do not have those memories but sure want my own grandkids to positively experi-

ence their grandparents ... who would be us! So, I am always checking out grandpar-

ents as they volunteer in the schools, frolic in the park with their grandchildren and take them on various outings. I have watched television programs about grandparents lov-ingly stepping in as needed when parents are overworked, ill and overwhelmed. As much as I have observed, I have made the following determinations:

• As a grandmother, I will help out their parents as they need and as much as I realistically can.

• Yes, we will be the grandparents that take our grandbabies on summer trips. I want them to have clear, positivememories of us.

• Yes, I’ll babysit and yes, I’ll need to have a few articles of clothing kept at our home.

Obviously, I have thought about this whole “when/if I am a grandmother” topic. Here are a few reasons why:

• Exposure to grandparents allows grand-kids to respect the continuity of life. Not only do they develop a healthy respect for elderly individuals, they get to see how we interact, socialize and even tend to our parents’ health needs.

• Grandparents get to stay active as well! They get to know the personalities of their grandchildren while running around with them, traveling with them or just spending time with their younger generation.

• As parents, we are constantly nurturing, disciplining and teaching our kids. While the kids are with their grandparents, we can mentally and physically relax while knowing that our precious babies are being cared for and nourished with, hopefully, some those same values we have instilled in them.

So, as I enjoy my own young kids in this specific season of life, I will continue loving on them, teaching them life lessons and exposing them to various positive aspects of life. After all, I am not only prepping for my role as a momma of successful, productive adults, I am also prepping myself as an active grandma whose life will be enhanced with grandbabies way, way, way in the hazy, distant future.

Cheers to now, and cheers to our futures!

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Pretty in Pink Town Square

Friday October 19, 2012 6-9 p.m. Sugar Land Town Square

Presented byKelly Dempsey, M.D. and Sandra Templeton, M.D.

in partnership with Methodist Sugar Land Hospital and the Fort Bend Junior Service League

Pretty in Pink – Town Square is a charity event for the entire family.

100% of the proceeds from Pretty in Pink will stay within our community to assist patients

with the personal costs associated with fighting cancer.

Keynote Speaker: Gail Parker, Breast Cancer Survivor

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