7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens: Habit 1- 2
Intrinsic & Extrinsic Motivation
Habit 1: You are the Driver, Not the Passenger
Habit 1: Be Proactive
• Proactive people make choices based on values
Habit 1: Be Proactive
• They think before they act
Habit 1: Be Proactive
• Know they can’t control everything, but you can control what you do about it
Habit 1: Be Proactive
• Calm, cool and controlled
Habit 1: Reactive Qualities
• Take no responsibility for life
• Reactive people make choices based on impulse
Habit 1: Reactive Qualities
• Like a can of soda pop—if life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they explode
Habit 1: Reactive Qualities
• Reactive people are victims– Parents– Stupid teachers– Lousy neighborhood– Boyfriend or girlfriend– Government– Something or somebody else
Habit 1: Reactive Qualities
• Act like an animal– If hungry, eat– If someone yells, yell back– If feel like doing something wrong, just do it
Habit 1: Reactive Qualities
• Struggle with communicating fear of life
Habit 1: Scenario
• Your parents discover your math grade recently went from an 80 to a 69
• REACTIVE RESPONSES– Lie to them and tell them you worked harder
than you really did– Tell them you have a bad teacher and you
can’t learn the way they teach– Yell at them and blame them for always being
quick to point out your faults
Habit 1: Scenario• Your parents discover your
math grade recently went from an 80 to a 69
• PROACTIVE RESPONSES– Tell them you made some bad choices with
your class and study time and hold yourself accountable to improving your habits
– Tell them that you struggle with learning from your teacher; work out a plan to talk to your teacher privately
– Tell them that this class is really hard and you need help figuring out what to do
Habit 1: Circle of Control
• Myself
• Choices
• Responses
• Attitudes
Habit 1: Circle of Control
• How do you respond to what happens to you?
• What is beyond your circle of control?
Habit 1: Circle of Control
• What happens when you spend your time and energy worrying about something you can’t control?
• Answer: Feel more out of control
Habit 2: Since You’re the Driver, Decide Where You Want to Go &
Draw a Map to Get There
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
• Develop a clear picture of where you want to go in life
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
• Decide what your values are
• Set goals
Habit 2: Personal Mission Statement
• Personal credo or motto that states what your life is about
• Blueprint for your life
• Gives direction & focus
Habit 2: Personal Mission Statement
• “…Life is a mission, not a career. A career is a profession. A mission is a cause.
• A career asks, “What’s in it for me?” • A mission asks, “How can I make a
difference?” –S. Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
• Stable, alive and continually growing
Habit 2: Mission Statement Examples
Habit 2: Mission Statement Examples
Intrinsic Motivation• Something you do because you enjoy
doing it
• Reward is inside
Extrinsic Motivation
• Something you do and may not have any interest in doing
• The reward is external
• Required for life
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