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Welcome to UC DavisWelcome to UC Davis
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How Can I Miss You If You Won’t Go AwayHow Can I Miss You If You Won’t Go Away
Emil Rodolfa, Ph.D., Director
Counseling and Psychological Services
(CAPS)[email protected]
Emil Rodolfa, Ph.D., Director
Counseling and Psychological Services
(CAPS)[email protected]
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What are we going to discuss?
What are we going to discuss?
CAPS and other resourcesCollege Student Mental HealthTransitionsTime for questions and comments
CAPS and other resourcesCollege Student Mental HealthTransitionsTime for questions and comments
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College student mental health
is more than a professional issue
College student mental health
is more than a professional issue
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Who Is Here?Who Is Here?
Northern, Central, Southern California
Out of StateOut of the CountryFirst Child Off to College (2nd, 3rd, 4th)
Last Child Off to CollegeSad to see your child goExcited to see your child go
Northern, Central, Southern California
Out of StateOut of the CountryFirst Child Off to College (2nd, 3rd, 4th)
Last Child Off to CollegeSad to see your child goExcited to see your child go
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Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)
Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)
Location Staffing Eligibility for
Service Counseling Services Confidentiality Consultation The House Contacting CAPS
www.caps.ucdavis.edu 530-752-0871 then “0”
Location Staffing Eligibility for
Service Counseling Services Confidentiality Consultation The House Contacting CAPS
www.caps.ucdavis.edu 530-752-0871 then “0”
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A Caring Environment for Students
A Caring Environment for Students
StudentAffairs
CAPS
Other Students
Advisors
Faculty
Deans
Housing
Student
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A Team Approach To Respond to Student
Mental Health Needs
A Team Approach To Respond to Student
Mental Health Needs
Student
Affairs
Deans
Health
Services
Faculty
Advisors
Housing
CAPS
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This TransitionThis Transition
How are you feeling?
How is your child feeling?
How are you feeling?
How is your child feeling?
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A Contributor to our Feelings: We Were Young
Once
A Contributor to our Feelings: We Were Young
Once
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QuickTime™ and a decompressor
are needed to see this picture.
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College Student Challenges
College Student Challenges
Three Basic QuestionsWho am I?
Who will I be with?What am I going to do?
Three Basic QuestionsWho am I?
Who will I be with?What am I going to do?
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College Student Challenges
College Student Challenges
Three Basic ActivitiesStudySleep
Socialize
Three Basic ActivitiesStudySleep
Socialize
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A Model of Student Distress
A Model of Student Distress
Personal FactorsSchool Factors
StressAttempt to Cope
(unsuccessful)
Distress
Intervention
Personal FactorsSchool Factors
StressAttempt to Cope
(unsuccessful)
Distress
Intervention
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Graduate School Challenges
Graduate School Challenges
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College Student Mental Health:
ACHA 2004 Data
College Student Mental Health:
ACHA 2004 DataTop 10 Health Impediment to Academic Performance 32.4% Stress 25.6% Cold/flu24.6% Sleep18.1% Concern for troubled friend15.9% Relationship15.3% Depression/Anxiety13.4% Internet use/Computer games8.6% Death of family/friend8.5% Sinus/Ear Infection7.6% Alcohol use
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SELF
ENVIRONMENT FUTURE
Cognitive Triad = Negative/Distorted Feelings• about self• about environment• about the future
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Family RelationshipsFamily Relationships
Influence student feelings and behavior
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ExpectationsExpectations
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Saying GoodbyeSaying Goodbye
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Individuation/Separation
Individuation/Separation
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MotivationMotivation
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Transitioning to UC Davis: The BeginningTransitioning to UC
Davis: The BeginningIssues Navigate a new
environment Develop a new social group Separate from friends Cope with feelings of
anonymity Adapt to different
academic expectations and standards
Issues Navigate a new
environment Develop a new social group Separate from friends Cope with feelings of
anonymity Adapt to different
academic expectations and standards
Suggestions Have contact Be a good listener-
what do they want from you
Provide reassurance Note common
experiences Encourage to use
resources Keep fit, sleep, eat,
use the ARC
Suggestions Have contact Be a good listener-
what do they want from you
Provide reassurance Note common
experiences Encourage to use
resources Keep fit, sleep, eat,
use the ARC
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Transitioning to UC Davis: Settle In
Transitioning to UC Davis: Settle In
Issues Homesickness may intensify
= disconnect from UC Davis Disenchantment with UC
Davis “Small fish in a big pond” Worry about family
problems Academic reality sets in Conflicts Choosing a major
Issues Homesickness may intensify
= disconnect from UC Davis Disenchantment with UC
Davis “Small fish in a big pond” Worry about family
problems Academic reality sets in Conflicts Choosing a major
Suggestions Pay a visit, bring a
treat, take them out to eat
Reassure them that their feelings are normal
Balance responsibilities and life
Use student services/CAPS
Help them manage time Be supportive-don’t try
to fix it Convey confidence in
their ability
Suggestions Pay a visit, bring a
treat, take them out to eat
Reassure them that their feelings are normal
Balance responsibilities and life
Use student services/CAPS
Help them manage time Be supportive-don’t try
to fix it Convey confidence in
their ability
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Transitioning To UC Davis:
Ending the Quarter
Transitioning To UC Davis:
Ending the QuarterIssuesCoping with academic and other stress
Manage feelings about the holidays
Study for finals; complete term papers
Separation from new friends
IssuesCoping with academic and other stress
Manage feelings about the holidays
Study for finals; complete term papers
Separation from new friends
SuggestionsEncourage them to discuss experiences
Encourage self-care
Discuss holiday plans
Familiarity with home
SuggestionsEncourage them to discuss experiences
Encourage self-care
Discuss holiday plans
Familiarity with home
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Joie’s Tips: As Your Kids Leave For
School
Joie’s Tips: As Your Kids Leave For
School1.Three types of parents: 1) parents who obsess and try to help too
much; 2) parents who can’t wait to see their kids go; 3) and ones in the middle-helpful but giving them independence….that is what your kid wants
2.Don’t pat your kids on the head as you leave3.Just because they are adults, don’t cut them off financially-realize
the world will kick them in the butt with competing demands4.Don’t fight your kids battles-let them deal with their problems rather
than fighting their battles for them5.Just be accepting of your kids….support them; be flexible6.Your kid will be busy with all the demands they will experience: If
you don’t hear from them for a period of time, things are probably ok and they are just busy. (Maybe a brief call would help)
7.Even though your kid doesn’t live at home don’t open their mail without permission
1.Three types of parents: 1) parents who obsess and try to help too much; 2) parents who can’t wait to see their kids go; 3) and ones in the middle-helpful but giving them independence….that is what your kid wants
2.Don’t pat your kids on the head as you leave3.Just because they are adults, don’t cut them off financially-realize
the world will kick them in the butt with competing demands4.Don’t fight your kids battles-let them deal with their problems rather
than fighting their battles for them5.Just be accepting of your kids….support them; be flexible6.Your kid will be busy with all the demands they will experience: If
you don’t hear from them for a period of time, things are probably ok and they are just busy. (Maybe a brief call would help)
7.Even though your kid doesn’t live at home don’t open their mail without permission
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Joie’s Tips:As They Return From School
Joie’s Tips:As They Return From School
1.Don’t boss your kids around when they come home because the more you boss them around when they are home the less they will want to come home.
2.Your kids are going to see themselves differently so you are going to need to see them differently too.
3.Don’t get your feelings hurt when they come home and spend time with their friends rather than with you
4.They are living in a new world and may see their new world as home rather than their childhood home
5.Don’t change their room or use it for storage when they are home.
1.Don’t boss your kids around when they come home because the more you boss them around when they are home the less they will want to come home.
2.Your kids are going to see themselves differently so you are going to need to see them differently too.
3.Don’t get your feelings hurt when they come home and spend time with their friends rather than with you
4.They are living in a new world and may see their new world as home rather than their childhood home
5.Don’t change their room or use it for storage when they are home.
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Transitions are Important
Transitions are Important
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In Summary: A Couple of TipsIn Summary:
A Couple of Tipsa.Encourage them to take responsibility – b.Assess when to get involved to handle any problemsc.Keep in touch…not too much…not too littled.Remember they are going through the same and
different things you are going throughe.Be careful about drastic changesf. Understand reality: theirs and yoursg.If they are talking about problems understand what
they are asking for (if anything).h.What do you want them to know: you love them, you
will be there for them, you will give them room to grow…
i. Give them roots and give them wings….now is a time for both!
a.Encourage them to take responsibility – b.Assess when to get involved to handle any problemsc.Keep in touch…not too much…not too littled.Remember they are going through the same and
different things you are going throughe.Be careful about drastic changesf. Understand reality: theirs and yoursg.If they are talking about problems understand what
they are asking for (if anything).h.What do you want them to know: you love them, you
will be there for them, you will give them room to grow…
i. Give them roots and give them wings….now is a time for both!
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Your Dream and Our Goal
Your Dream and Our Goal
CAPS is here to help your children have a terrific experience at UC Davis while gaining knowledge about themselves, their relationships and their future goals…
CAPS is here to help your children have a terrific experience at UC Davis while gaining knowledge about themselves, their relationships and their future goals…
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Thanks for ListeningThanks for Listening
QuestionsCommentsIssues
Concerns
QuestionsCommentsIssues
Concerns