don't be you injunction
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This injunction can be conveyed to a child by parents who have a boy when they wanted a girl or vice versa. Their non verbal message is “Don’t be the sex you are”.TRANSCRIPT
Don’t Be You Injunction
Prepared By Manu Melwin JoyResearch Scholar
School of Management StudiesCUSAT, Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114
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Don’t Be You
This injunction can be
conveyed to a child by
parents who have a boy
when they wanted a girl
or vice versa. Their non
verbal message is “Don’t
be the sex you are”.
Don’t Be You
This may be reflected in the
choice of a name for the
child. Maybe a girl is called
Jacky or a boy is christened
Vivian. Parents may dress
their daughter in butch
clothes or their son in frilly
collars and bows.
Don’t Be You
In grown up life, the
person carrying “Don’t
be the sex you are” may
continue to cultivate the
dress or manners that
suggest the opposite sex.
Don’t Be You
Don’t be you may be
more general, and simply
convey “Don’t be you, be
some other child”.
Parents may prefer a
younger to an elder child
or a brother to a sister.
Don’t Be You
A mother feels rejecting
towards her child may
continually compare him
with other children : “Little
Johnny down the road can
ride a two wheeler bicycle –
isn’t he clever? And he is a
year younger than you are
too.”
Don’t Be You
Here, the parent may be
holding an image of the
ideal child she wishes.
She reacts positively
only to the aspects of
her actual child which
resemble that image,
and discounts the rest.
Don’t Be You
Parents may also make
statements like : “ You are
just like your no – good
uncle Harry.” Then, the
more the child acts like
Uncle Harry the more
strokes he gets.
Thank You
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