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The Relationship Between Wasting Seed and Prohibited SpeechE-

mailYou can beat the Evil Inclination indirectly. Submitted by User Tuvia.

Indeed, wasting seed is prohibited by the Torah, and it is a serious prohibition. But it isdi erent than other negative commandments. The Torah tells about Er and !nan who

"wasted #seed$ on the ground,% and that it was "bad in &-d's eyes.% #&enesis, (((I(, )-*+$owhere, however, in the Bible is it written, "Thou shalt not waste seed.% The reason is that

#i this sin becomes a habit$ it is impossible or one to control himsel by telling himsel , " o %This Inclination cannot be battled directly, with sel -control, by resisting. Through direct battlewith the Evil Inclination, a person will succeed or a limited period at best, but a terwards will

ail again and again. ctually, this Inclination eeds o Thought. ny thin/ing or mentalpreoccupation with masturbation 0 even about resisting the desire or it 0 even aboutstopping the sin 0 even about eeling guilty 0 sto/es the ires o the Evil Inclination. *

1hat, then, can be done2 The answer is that this Evil Inclination can be beaten indirectly .

3ontrol 4rohibited Speech. Seed and Speech are both products o Thought. The lessone's thoughts are e5pressed in prohibited speech, the less one's thoughts will result inwasted seed. The less reedom o speech, the less reedom in masturbation. 3ontrol o onewill build control o the other. So, study the Se er 3ho et6 3haim and ac7uire control overgossip and slander. 3ontrol other types o prohibited speech also, such as vulgar language,lying, hurting people's eelings, etc. 8

1hen the desire or masturbation comes, ight it with all your aculties. But i you ail,&-d orbid, forget about it , 9ust as you orget about what you ate or brea/ ast. The moreyou thin/ about it, the worse it will be. You need to develop a "split personality% about thismatter: ter a ailure you orget it as i it's not important, but in every other way you opposeit with all your ability . ;

#This was the hardest part or me. 0Submitter$

Other Useful Torah Lessons


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1e must be selective in our recreation and en9oyment. 3ertain /inds o " oolingaround,% li/e wildness, silliness, or pushing the boundaries o propriety, can lead to se5ualla5ity. Gabbi /iva tells us in 4er/ei vos #III, *)$, "Ho/ing and light-headedness get a personused pattern a person's behavior to immorality.%

Improvement must be step by step . Serving our 3reator is li/e climbing a ladder.!ne must climb a ladder step by step. The Talmud teaches, " person should always occupyhimsel with Torah and Dit6vos #the commandments$ even with an impure motivationC or apure motivation will grow out o an impure one.% #4'sachim, +b$ I one tries to s/ip steps ona ladder, what will happen2 Ae will all #Aashem loves each one o us more than we canimagine. So, what do you thin/ Ae would say to us when we go one step up the ladder2 Aewould encourage us and validate us 0 as would all our riends who love us 0 as we ourselveswould or our riends whom we love. Ae wouldn't say, "So what2 !ne lousy step You shouldhave been higher on the ladder already anyhow % So, love and praise yoursel or every stepup the ladder 0 even a step up a ter ailure. Tell yoursel , "That's the way % Geali6e also thatthe di erence between one step on the ladder and another could be the di erence betweenthrowing o &-d's yo/e and accepting it to a degree. Juite a di erence. 0 Submitter$

Torah study wea/ens every Evil Inclination. &-d says, "I created the Evil InclinationC Icreated its antidote: Torah study.% #


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1e ind a source or this tip in the Torah. Yose aMh was saved rom sinning with eishet4otiphar by envisioning the image o his holy ather. 4erhaps similarly gedolim could be saidto be li/e spiritual M athersM - or the entire generation.

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;. The lmighty /nows whatMs best or each one o us. 1hen you combine these three rules, youMre le t with no reason in the world to worry or tobe angry.O 1orry and the above three rules o thumb simply donMt go together. 1ithoutworry, you too will be eeling healthy and happy at age ninety-two.

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Rabbi Nachman sSecret of !appinessby Rabbi Nasan "aimon

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Long ago, Gabbi achman o Breslov had recogni6ed Simcha as the /ey to success in religionand coming truly close to AaShem. In stressing the importance o Simcha he went so ar assaying that depression - the antithesis o Simcha - constitutes Othe main bite o the serpent#the Yet6er Aarah$O. Aow ar should a person struggle to remain stead ast and avoiddepression2 The lesson is best illustrated by the ollowing story Gabbi achman told to his

disciples:

OBut what is the antidote or the person who eels so heavy, so depressed, that no words oencouragement or advice have any e ect2O

There was once a poor man who earned a living digging clay and selling it. !nce, whiledigging clay, he discovered a precious stone which was obviously worth a great deal. Sincehe had no idea o itMs worth, he too/ it to an e5pert to tell him Its value. The e5pertanswered, O o one here will be able to a ord such a stone. &o to London, the capital, andthere you will be able to sell it.O The man was so poor that he could not a ord to ma/e the

9ourney. Ae sold everything he had, and went rom house to house, collecting unds or thetrip. inally he had enough to ta/e him as ar as the sea.

Ae then went to board a ship, but he did not have any money. Ae went to the shipMs captainand showed him the 9ewel. The captain immediately welcomed him aboard the ship withgreat honor, assuming he was a very trustworthy person. Ae gave the poor man a special

irst class cabin, and treated him li/e a wealthy personage. The poor manMs cabin had a viewo the sea, and he sat there, constantly loo/ing at the diamond and re9oicing. Ae wasespecially particular to do this during his meals, since eating in good spirits is highlybene icial or digestion. Then one day, he sat down to eat, with the diamond lying in ront ohim on the table where he could en9oy it. Si ting there he do6ed o . Deanwhile, the messboy came and cleared the table, sha/ing the tablecloth with itMs crumbs and the diamond intothe sea. 1hen he wo/e up and reali6ed what had happened, he almost went mad with grie .Besides, the captain was a ruthless man who would not hesitate to /ill him or his are.Aaving no other choice, he continued to act happy, as i nothing had happened. The captainwould usually spea/ to him a ew hours every day, and on this day, he put himsel in goodspirits, so that the captain was not aware that anything was wrong. The captain said to him,

OI want to buy a large 7uantity o wheat and I will be able to Sell it in London or a hugepro it. But I am a raid that I will be accused o stealing rom the /ingMs treasury. There ore, Iwill arrange or the wheat to be bought in your name. I will pay you well or your trouble.OThe poor man agreed. But as soon as they arrived in London the captain died. The entireshipload o wheat was in the poor manMs name and it was worth many times as much as thediamond.

Gabbi achman concluded, OThe diamond did not belong to the poor man, and the proo isthat he did not /eep it. The wheat, however, did belong to him, and the proo is that he /eptit. But he got what he deserved only because he remained happy. Q

It is up to each o us never to lose hope, and li/e the poor man in the story to whomeverything appeared lost, orce onesel to be happy. Even a a/ed, ungenuine, happiness,has the power to trans orm our situation and lead us to genuine 9oy.

But what is the antidote or the person who eels so heavy, so depressed, that no words oencouragement or advise have any e ect2 To the one who eels he has reached the end o
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his rope ... eeling so low and discouraged about himsel that he can only term himselOdead.O Gabbi achman throws a li eline: Ae stresses the statement o the &emara that inthe uture, Aashem will resurrect the entire body through a certain bone /nown as the OLu6O.Invisible to the eye, the Lu6 de ies destruction. 4laced on a stone and pounded repeatedlywith a sledgehammer, eventually the sledgehammer will brea/ in two and the stone willshatter into a thousand pieces - but the Lu6 will remain intact and unharmed. OThus we see,Osays Gabbi achman, Othat no matter how low a person has allen, there e5ists anindestructible part in him, that can orm the basis or a new resurrection - a new li e.O

ocus on your Lu6 , advises Gabbi achman. s/ AaShem to help you ind that indestructiblepart, that essence o yoursel that no sin or mis ortune can erase. Bind yoursel to it.3oncentrate on it. llow it to gladden you and ma/e you happy. Then, even i you indyoursel in the deepest, dar/est pit without the slightest trace o hope or light - still, you willalways ind your way out.

!n a larger scale, the ailure to ind the Ogood point,O is responsible or undermining all ourrelationships-especially in marriage. ll con lict arises rom an inability to see the good inanother person. ault- inders abound.

The /ey is, e5plains Gabbi achman, to 6ero in on the good point -- the pure, untarnishable,

indestructible, utterly redeeming eature that e5ists in each and every one o us, and use itto rebuild our image o others and ourselves.


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person who /nows the techni7ues o battle and can ight consistently little by little until hereaches the day that he has completely destroyed his enemy. This person will rise up andcontinue no matter what alls and obstacles are placed in his path.

The way the Yeter Aarah wor/s is very simple. t a general point in time when a person is incontrol o his mind he has almost no control over him. Ae then draws him in little by little, itcould start by having him loo/ at an impure picture, bring an impure thought into his head orany number o ways. Ae then draws him more and more into his trap. In the beginning aperson can still pull bac/ however as a person transcends into the impurity he starts loosinghis will to pull bac/ little by little until he reaches a point where he thin/s that it is impossibleto stop.

The Solution to this is very simple although very hard to cary out. I t is, to stop it be ore itstarts to demolish it be ore it begins. The second a person eels this Yeter Aare gaining eventhe smallest entrance over him he must run and do everything in his power to get away.Even i he eels that he is miles away rom committing the actual sin.

The only way a person can do this is to start ma/ing boundaries. Every person must analy6ewhere he alls and start chopping away at those places. ot at the sin itsel but ten steps in

ront o the sin.

There is also another issue that even when a person does all within his might not to go ne5tto a sin there are going to be times when he will be tested and he will be placed in asituation against his will. In this place he must ma/e use o e5tremely drastic methods toescape at all costs. It is here that he proves that he is truly Shomer Aabris. It is here that hereceives his biggest Ti/un when he is orcibly passed through those same situations in thesame constricted mind rame and he immerges victorious.

Aowever all this is very hard as a person will be placed through thousands o tests which hemust pass. Ae must van7uish impure thoughts rom his mind hundreds o thousands o timesuntil he is victorious. 1hen a person loo/s at all this it seems humanly impossible to do. Thisis because he is not aware o the important act that the more times he wins the stronger hebecomes. Every time he passes a test the easer it becomes to pass it again. There will be apoint when he will loo/ bac/ and the tests that loomed in ront o him li/e huge dar/mountains will suddenly appear to be nothing more then little pebbles. Ae will reach a timethat he will laugh at the past wea/nesses that controlled his li e.

Aowever even i a person accepts this act as being true since he can not actively e5perienceit, it is e5tremely di icult or him to act upon it and use it as a motivation to ight such ahuge battle.

person who wishes to become Shomer Aabris must do the ollowing tune out everythingelse and say I am going to try being Shomer Aabris or the ne5t wee/ a ter that what everhappens happens. ter that wee/ a person must start again i a person alls on the way it isnot a big deal he should orget about it immediately he 9ust has to re ocused his energiesand start again. Every time a person wins it becomes easier and easier until he has totallyle t his previous actions and has gained ull control over himsel .

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person may say the ollowing OIt is very good i I was living in T6 at or Deah Shiarimstudying Torah all day, then it would be very easy to be Shomer Aabris. Un ortunately li ehas placed me in a situation that I have to travel to the 3ity every day and wor/ in a mi5edo ice with non 9ewish and unreligious cowor/ers. I also hardly have time to pray and studyTorah. I am being e5posed to the


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Hust li/e a small child who has not yet de iled himsel can wal/ through the streets and ismuch less e ected, so to a person who does Ti/unim can wal/ through the streets and hasmuch protection rom the


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modern Di/vas have nice showers with decent pressure and hot water. Dost o the time theshowers are divided and have curtains.Di/vas are very rarely crowded, only in the hours right be ore Shabbat or a Aoliday.

lso i you want, you can ta/e a shower a ter you dip in the Di/vah.

You can bring soap and shampoo with you.

o one will loo/ at you li/e you are cra6y i you bring shower slippers.

Some people are a raid to go because they are embarrassed to wal/ around with out clothes.This is not such an issue since no one is loo/ing at you. Dost people do not loo/ around at allwhile they are in the Di/vah. lso this is an unnatural eeling, i a person is doing a mit6vahhe should not be embarrassed. It is only because o your sins o 4gam Aabris that you arehaving these reactions. Someone who has puri ied himsel a little and goes to the Di/vaheveryday does not get embarrassed.

Either way, you can bring a large towel and drape it over your shoulder so it covers yourprivate parts. There are many people who do this and it is recommended. The towel youremove at the last second be ore you enter the water or shower. lso even i you areembarrassed in the beginning, a ter a number o times it will go away. 3onsider it part o yourTi/un.

There are also certain hours when the Di/vah is almost always empty. &o then, there will beno one there.

There are those that are a raid that they have so de iled themselves that they will not be ableto prevent themselves rom antasi6ing in the process and they will embarrass themselves.These people should not orget how power ul the Di/vah is and how it can protect them. Theyshould try going a number o times when it is empty and then they will see that they do havethe ability to control their thoughts.

person who goes to the Di/vah everyday besides the great Aoliness he brings upon himsel ,

he also saves himsel rom many situations and tests he would have to go through i heshowered in his own home, where he has problems controlling his thoughts and desires.

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I you canMt go every day then go at least on Erev Shabbot.It is best to go rom mid day and on. Aowever i you must, go any time on riday. This mightbe the best time to ind it empty. Dost Di/vas are open the whole day riday. Try it around**:++.

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Torah study is not only the way o overcoming temptation and cleansing one's mind. It is alsoa ma9or part o Ti/un AaBrit. This is because the Torah, the Tree o Li e, is integrally bound upwith the se irah o Yesod. Se5ual transgressions that damaged the Yesod can be can berecti ied by attaching onesel to the Yesod through the puri ying ire o the Torah.

"The violation o the Brit though the wasting o semen - to say nothing o star/ immoralityor se5ual relations prohibited by the Torah or the sages, or the words o the sages are evenmore grave - causes a blemish in the mind. There ore his ti/un is that he occupy himsel withTorah that derives rom >ivine 1isdom.% #Tanya, Igeret AaTshuva, 3h. $

"I one has strayed into transgression and has incurred the penalty o death at the hands oAeaven, what should he do that he might live2 I he was wont to study one page, let himstudy twoC to read one chapter, let him read two.% # ayi/ra Gabbah, 8 :*$

The Dishna Berurah states:

"It is /nown rom boo/s that the main ti/un or someone who has allen in this matter, &-dorbid, is to increase his Torah study or the rest o his li e. Then the merit o Torah will

protect him, as it says in Didrash Tanchumin, i a man sins and is deserving o death at thehands o Aeaven, what can he do to save himsel and live2 I he is used to learning onechapter, he should learn twoC i one page, then two. I he doesn't /now how to learn, heshould busy himsel with charity and good deeds. nd the main point o his learning shouldbe to practice what he learns? or i not, his learning will not have the power to protect him,&-d orbid.% #Laws o Yom


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meaning the more bound he was to his antasies, the worst the damage is. The ri writes thateach time a person sins he gives a sword to the Yet6er, this is the sword o the wic/ed Esav,he then ascends to the source o the souls and cuts o a holy soul. rom this he creates ahuge earsome


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names o Aashem that is alluded to in the pasu/ rom Iyov #Hob 8+:* $ O3hayil Balaaye/iyenuO #Ae swallowed wealth, but will vomit it out$. This idea alludes to the return o

blessing and she a power to a person, a ter it was removed to to sin.

V1 G I &: >ivine names should only be used in thought, >! !T 4UG !U 3E TAED,

meditate on them in your minds eye or the best o your ability.W

Be ore you seal the Bracha say the ollowing prayer:

May it be your will our G-D and the G-D of our fathers that every single drop of seed from methat went to waste, whether on purpose or by accident, whether it occurred through thoughtsor actions, whether in this reincarnation or in a past reincarnation, and were swallowed up by the Klipot. Now the Klipot should vomit these sparks of seed that they had swallowed up, inmerit of the awesome name coming from the verse Might that they swallowed they willvomit !"#$%&'($%)') and in honor of your great name *combine the name +K)K with thename !&) + D%!"#$%"#"%&'($%)')%)')%"#".

lso in the simple translation o the blessing, have in mind that you are gathering all thespar/s rom the o these /avanot three times a day in the amidah o all three prayers. You shouldoccasionally leave out the prayer, to avoi ma/ing a permanent addition to the prayers set byour sages.

Ti#un -% Other Ti#unimE-

mail1hile the cleansing power o the Torah is vast, Torah learning, in and o itsel , does notnecessarily uproot the deep stains caused by transgression to the Brit. s we learned, torecti y se5ual transgressions, a ocused, pinpoint tshuva is needed.

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These uni7ue and pro ound Ti/unim, when incorporated into a penitent's daily regimen oprayer and Torah learning, have the ability to puri y the deepest recesses o the soul, and to

ree a person rom the mista/es and temptations o the past. The verses o the prayers, the>ivine names they contain, and their


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t Yeshivat ahar Shalom, headed by Gabbi Benayahu Shmueli, in addition to the prayerssaid or recti ying the damage rom nocturnal emissions, prayers are also recited or otherse5ual transgressions such as having relations with a married women, homose5ualintercourse, and having relations with a gentile woman.

OEven i someone never did one o these sins, he might have done it in a past li e,O said >ror,one o ShmueliMs aides, e5pressing the /abbalistic belie in reincarnation.

Sephardi Hews are more li/ely to ta/e part in Ti//un Shovavim prayers, although there are aew sh/ena6i yeshivot or the learning o odi GMShlomo l/abet6 6tMl writes that the herbhenna Ogives one sel -control and peace o mindC he is not attracted to lust ul desiresO# yeles havim 3h.*$. You can dissolve henna in water and drin/ it every morning on anempty stomach - it will also remedy e5cessive perspiration #source the Torah boo/ onhealing: atures 1ealth p.*=*$. ote Aenna is sa e or most people - countless Sephardimhave used it or centuries or Aenna nights be ore weddings #now you /now the wisdombehind this custom - consider it$. But be care ul: my research turned up these indings:*$allergic reactions to Aenna are rare. 8$Aowever, those who have a &K4> de icinecy whichis an inherited blood type should !T use Aenna as it may cause chas veshalom severeproblems or even chas veshalom death. !bviously i you suspect you may have that bloodtype get yoursel tested be ore consuming or using henna - see &K4> websites or as/ youdoctor or more in ormation. Li/ewise i you have any other concerns spea/ to a 7uali ieddoctor. Still, or everyone else I recommend henna I have happily ta/en henna the last wee/and baruch hashem it has wor/ed as promised Da/e sure you buy pure henna - henna hairdye may have other stu in it you donMt want to eat. I got pure henna at the spice shop inthe Bucharian Shu/ #in the Beit Israel neighbourhood$ in Herusalem.

- immerse your head in Talmud and halacha - i you do this you wonMt be able to thin/ oanything else while you are learning

- i you eel lust chanel the energy into doing a /osher chesed. I donMt have proo to handbut I read once that orbidden relations #lo aleinu$ stem rom misplaced chesed. 3hanel thatenergy into doing a chesed or someone #especially your wi e$ - it will ma/e you eel all niceand warm inside

- realise that the e5tremely vast ma9ority o porn is manu actured - there e5tremely littleMtrueM pictures and even those involve bad traits. Gealise that porn is all made up and isactually very nasty and disgusting as apprent rom the swear words they use. Gealise porn

involves a lot o su ering and human degradation. Gealise porn is nothing li/e a relationship
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with a real woman.

- realise the western media is over lowing alse evil complete rubbish about unbelieveableinstant relationships and instant incredible love-ma/ing. The truth is #obviously i you thin/about it$ that li/e everything else top 7uality great relationships and great love-ma/ing ta/ea lot o time e ort, thought, trial and error, and 7uality input. Yes gentlemen, we are tal/ingyears and serious dedication here But itMs worth it - choose a wi e wisely and youMll have thebest years o your li e.

- realise that i a ter having done teshuva and ti//unim you slip chas veshalom, you are stillon a higher level than be ore. or get the slip. onMt eel guilt - guilt is I thin/ a trap o the yet6er. 1hen you have achieved some solidachievments o basic teshuva and ti//unm and separation rom ilth or some time, and eelstrong, then is the time to cry to bene it your soul. ever ever leap levels.

- plug yoursel into a Torah learning programme you li/e with others - youMll really bene it inmany ways.

- limit computer use - or e5ample loc/ your computer in a storage room when you are notusing it or business.

- prayC go to an empty private room and scream to Aashem or help

- pray or other guys to be shomer brit

no-nonsense ta/e on getting out o the rut. It may sound di icult at times, but everythingworthwhile in li e is. nother essay rom Bris/odesh.org

$ / There is no other option

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This is all a lie. 4gam Aabris is one o the worst sins that a person can commit. person isgoing to be punished or his actions even i he passed his li e pretending that he is ignorantand avoiding the truth.

There is absolutely no other option other then to be a mighty worrier and battle the /lipas

constantly, through every up and down until they are destroyed completely.

( / 0t is not impossible

Dany people who were raised in 1estern Society, steeped in the


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him little by little until he is committing the sin and has no ability or desire to control himsel .

There is only one solution or this and that is to never all into that situation in the irst place. person who wishes to be Shomer Aabris, especially i he has allen many times be ore must

have ten barriers between himsel and the sin. The second he bra/es through the irst two all

the alarms must start going o in his head. By the time he has bro/en the third barrier hemust even due an e5tremely anatical action to get away. Even though he is still miles awayrom the actual sin and he believes that he can pull bac/ at any second he wishes, it is not

true there will be many times when he will all. Ae is losing more o his mochin every secondand the control he has over his will now will not be the same in a short period o time. Aemust run away now even though it seems ridicules.

person must sit down and ma/e a list o all the things and situation that cause him tostumble. Ae must then set boundaries so he will not even come close to being in thatsituation.

1 / Watching ones eyes

3ha6al teach that the eyes see the heart desires and then the body acts. person should notloo/ at any improper images at any time.

person might as/ what is so bad i I read a news maga6ine, it will never cause me to sin, Iam in ull control. #besides the act that each time a person loo/s at an improper image andhas an impure thought that in itsel is a sin$. Yes this is how a person all, most times is hewas drawn into impurity rom places li/e this little by little.

2 / 3o not say no4 say later

The evil urge attac/s a person through many ways including despair and con usion. I aperson loo/s at the act that he can never commit the sin or the rest o his li e he maybelieve this to be impossible and give up all together. This is especially important when aperson is in middle o a test and barely has the ability to ight this one round. The second he

brings into his mind the act that he must orever be Shomer Aabris it is to much to handle,he then eels a complete helplessness and gives in to his temptations.

1e have also established that the whole temptation to do an act o 4gam Aabris is atemporary sprit o insanity that overcomes a person and then leaves him immediately a terhe sins. I a person manages to push o the temptation or even a short period o time manytimes he wea/ens it greatly. Ae can then easily prevent himsel rom committing the sin.

This is what a person should do. 1hen he is overcome by temptation and does not believethat he can overcome his desires. Ae should not try to completely ight o the desire to dothe sin. Instead he should say to himsel that he will commit the sin and he will do so reely,but not now rather in 8-; hours. This is not so hard to do or it is a lot easer to push o theevil urge then to ight it o completely. person can in every single case push o thetemptation or a period o time.

Even though part o the condition was that he would be allowed to commit the sin when theallotted time arrives, he might not even have the temptation to do so at that point. It is alsopossible that even i he still has a desire to commit the sin it is much wea/er then it was alittle earlier and now he can push it o again using the same techni7ue but this time it will beeven easer. lso as the allotted period o time elapses and the desire wea/ens a person canstart doing some Ti/unim and by the time the set period arrives he will be so strong that hewill laugh at the act that he wanted to commit a sin 9ust a short while ago.

Aowever all this is only a ter he has pushed o the temptation. t the time he is pushing ito , he can not thin/ o any o this. Ae is only agreeing to push it o or a period o time a terwhich he may sin reely. I these thoughts do enter his head at that time and try to convincehim that it is all a tric/ and that he will stumble in the end, so why not 9ust sin now. Still hemust say to himsel , i I all in two hours, I all and it is irrelevant to me now. Gight now I amma/ing an e ort to push it o or two hours and then what ever shall happen shall happen. I I win I win and i I lose so I lose.


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!n a larger scale, a person should sum up how o ten he alls to these sins. I a personAeaven orbid is 4ogem once a wee/ or even once a day #Gachmanah Let6lan$ on an averagebasis, he should ac/nowledge that act. ssuming he is 4ogem once a wee/, he should say tohimsel instead o being 4ogem once a wee/, rom now on I will be 4ogem only once every

two wee/s. !n this second wee/ I will be 4ogem reely and not even try to stop mysel .

This is what a person must doC most times when the allotted time arrives he will be able topush it o urther. Even i he alls and commits the sin when the time has arrived he has stillwon, because he has ul illed his condition and has only sinned one time in the time he hasnormally sinned twice. ow that he sees it wasnMt so hard to hold o until the allotted time,he can add more time to the condition and push o the sin or three wee/s.

This is what a person must do, push o the sin more and more until he wea/ens it and brea/sit completely. I he alls in the middle, it is not the end o the world he will 9ust get right bac/up and continue pushing it o again and again. I he gets bac/ up a number o times andcontinues ighting there is no doubt that soon he will brea/ this


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The bathroom is a place o impurityC it there ore leads a person to have impure thoughts i heremains there or to long. person is also undressed when going to the bathroom or ta/ing ashower, this places a person in a situation that he should not want to be in or longer then hehas to. !ne should stay in the bathroom or the shortest amount o time possible.

Dany people have mirrors in their bathroom. These should be removed, or the eye sees theheart desires and then a person sins.

Dany people have reading materiel in their bathrooms to help pass time. Dost printedmateriel today contains elements o impurity and should not be in your bathroom. Evenharmless boo/s and maga6ines are all coated in impurity. Even i it is a per ectly clean boo/one should not be in the bathroom or longer then he must.

$$/ Ne'er loo#4 touch or scratch your Bris8

It is orbidden according to Aalacha to loo/, touch or scratch ones bris or the areas around it.This is a protective barrier to /eep a person away rom 4gam Aabris. It is not hard to do atallC it is e5tremely easy once a person becomes accustomed to it. 1hen a person goes to thebathroom he should use a tissue or the end o his shirt rather then touching his Bris.

Dany times a person eels that he much scratch himsel in that area. Ae should use all hiscontrol not to do so. This is also a very huge Ti/un when a person eels the need to scratchhimsel and he does not.

$(/ 3o something e.treme

This is the real and only game. Your very li e and soul are at sta/e, you have to be ready todo even an e5tremely anatical action to save yoursel rom 4gam Aabris. or e5ample, i aperson, heaven orbid has a habit o being 4ogem Aabris while in bed. This person shouldta/e a lighter or bo5 o matches and put it by his bed. Ae must then irmly ma/e up his mindthat ne5t time he has an urge to be 4ogem he may do so, as at this stage he might not be

able to prevent himsel . Aowever irst he must burn his hand. I a person irmly commits todoing this he is guaranteed to be saved rom alling to his temptation. person must grow upand leave the immaturity o 1estern Society, there is nothing wrong with ta/ing suchpreventive measures or this is a battle that a person can not a ord to lose.

$) 9 *lean your house of all :lipot

The average home in 1estern 3ulture is illed with hundreds i not thousands o ob9ectscontaining impure material. Even amilies that will not bring ob9ects such as movies orinternet into their home, still have many boo/s and pamphlets containing impure pictures andwritings. Besides the act that these ob9ects attract spirits o impurity 9ust by laying aroundthe house, they o ten cause this person and his amily members to sin.

Every person must do a total search o his entire home and cleanse it o all ,he can easily replace the money or you. ever give or sell your de iled ob9ects to another


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Hew so he may stumble on them. Gemember the harder it is or you to throw somethingaway, the bigger Ti/un it is when you do.

$+ / 0t is not your friend it is your worst enemy

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Rectifying the sin of spilling seedE-

mailThis outline rom bris/odesh.org runs through many o the di erent aspects o restrainingyoursel and recti ying past sins.

Ti/un Aabris #Gecti ying the sin o spilling seed$

Q ue to our low level and many sins this topic is ignored Q Hust the opposite, shmiras habris is the most important issue to deal with today. Q I people would be shomer habris #guard the convent$ Doshiach would come much

aster.

Q 4art o the seminal luid #shichvas 6era$ comes rom the brain, this is sent down thespine. Q 1hen a person spills seed he is wasting away part o his brain.

Q This lowers all unctions o the brain especially memory. Q Un ortunately most people were pogem since they were young and no longer remembertheir state o mind be ore they started. Q Dost people nowadays are controlled by their subconscious. Even conscious acts arestrongly tainted by their subconscious. Q This enslaves a person, strongly limiting his abilities. Q gain someone who has never been out o the /lipas can not associate with this.Through meditation one can eel this. Q Spilling seed ma/es this much worse. persons emotions are thrown totally out obalance. Q 4eople who are pogem o ten have a hard time controlling their temper, they aresub9ects o sadness and depression and lose their sel con idence.

Q 1asting seed uses up a lot o o the bodies energy this has many physicalmani estations. Q 4eople who are pogem are always tired and need more sleep. Q In addition the running o the hormones causes bad body oder and breath. Q It causes people to bald prematurely and hair growth in strange places. Q ote it has di erent e ects on di erent people. Q lso note any o the things listed above could have been caused by other reasons.

Q There is spiritual energy all over the place. Q special part o the brain is designated to receive these signals. Q Aowever the in ormation entering rom the ive senses is so strong that it bloc/s out thespirituality. Q person who studies torah /eeps halacha and meditates can eel spirituality verystrongly.

Q Even a regular person can eel spirituality to some degree. person should eel adi erence on Shabbat. Q Someone who is pogem habris loses almost all his ability to perceive /edusha.
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Q !ne also loses his desire to study torah and do mit6vos.

Q Hust li/e a person creates children through intercourse so to a person draws down soulsevery time he spills seed. Q These souls are immediately captured by the orces o evil who torture and starve them

stealing all their energy or themselves. Q The souls brought down through a persons sins are also considered his /ids. Q They are not to happy about the position their ather put them in. Q ter a person dies these souls come to ta/e revenge on their ather, causing him manyproblems. Q In addition they also come a ter his physical children and try to harm them. Q There are a number o halochos during the uneral and shivah that help prevent this.

Q Using energy ta/en rom this person, the orces o dar/ness give birth to Lilim #se5ualdemons$. Q These demons hang around a person steal his energy, con use him and stic/ thoughts inhis head. Q >o not let this ama6e you or i one meditates he will see many thoughts streamingthrough his mind are not his own. Q These thoughts include se5ual thoughts, thoughts denying &-> or 9ust the worthlessthoughts that clutter a persons mind most o the day. Q t night these demons in luence the persons dreams, and cause him to have nocturnalemissions #mi/reh lilah$.

Q I a person /nows what he is doing he can climb to high spiritual levels. Q Someone who was pogem habris has damaged the si irah o Yesod, it is impossible orhim to get ar unless he recti ies the laws he created.

Q 1hen a person wants to stop being pogem it is very important or him to start learningthe basics o o not wear tight clothing especially underwear #wear only bo5ers$. Q >o not do anything that will warm your body be ore going to sleep. Eating certain oodsand wearing certain clothes can give a person temptations. Q It is sel understood that you should not go near any boo/s, movies, maga6ines, music,Internet and newspapers. ll these are over lowing with 6uhamah. Q I one is smart he will avoid them completely. >o not say OI can continue to watchmovies, read boo/s but stop sinningO those who say this are ools. Q Everyone should analy6e their own personal situation and devise a plan to escapedestruction. This includes many ences and preventive measures.

Q s we mentioned be ore wasting seed causes a lot o damage in the spiritual worlds andhas many physical mani estation.

Q Stopping is the irst step however many recti ications #ti/unim$ must now be made. Q ote the more ti/unim a person does the better he will eel. Q Dany se orim #holy boo/s$ describe ti/unim or this sin, however many o them aree5tremely harsh and not meant or this wea/ generation.

Q lso note these ti/unim can also help a person to stop being pogem, they can remove alot o the temptations and se5ual thoughts.


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