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Does Islam Oppress Women?
By: Abdur-Raheem Green
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We begin by praising Allah, and we praise Him and
we seek His help and we ask for His forgiveness. We
seek refuge with Allah from the evil of ourselves and
from the evil consequence of our evil actions.
Whomsoever Allah guides there is none to
misguide, and whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray
there is none to guide, and I testify that Allah alone is
worthy of worship and that Muhammad (pbuh)1, he is the
worshipper of Allah, the servant of Allah, the slave of
Allah, and he is 'Rassul Allah', he is the messenger of
Allah.
After that, the best speech is the book of Allah, and
the best way is the way of Muhammad (pbuh) and the
worst of all the affairs are those matters that have been
newly introduced into the religion, and every matter that
has been newly introduced into the religion of Islam is a
"bed’aa" an innovation and all of the innovations are
misguidance, all misguidance is going astray, and all
going astray is in the fire.
Brothers and sisters may Allah (SWT)2 have mercy
upon you. Today we want to talk about an important
question. A question that is on the tongues and in the
1 May Allah's peace and blessings be upon him. 2 Glorious and Exalted Is He.
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minds of many people. It is a claim that is made against
our religion, the religion of Islam. An accusation, in fact,
a slander against our religion; that our religion oppresses
women.
I intend here today, I hope to demonstrate, not only
that this is a lie and a slander, but actually we will see
who are the people, and which is the nation and which is
the ideology that is in fact really responsible for really
oppressing women.
Sometimes when you get into a discussion with
people, it’s very important to define your terms. Try and
understand what is it exactly you are talking about. When
you say “Islam oppresses women” we want to understand
what these terms mean?
Now hopefully, most of us understand what the term
'women' means – we hope anyway – ok, but the term we
want to talk about today is the term ‘oppression’. What
does oppression mean? And I’m going to spend a little
bit of time defining and looking into the concept of
oppression. What does it mean? What is its reality? and
this is very important. So let's define this term
‘oppression’.
First of all, there’s no doubt that oppression is
something that everybody hates and despises. Nobody
likes oppression.
The use of the word oppression is a type of an
offensive derogatory term. We know that the Prophet
(pbuh) said that oppression will stand as darkness on the
day of judgement, and Allah (SWT) He tells us in the
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Quran that He does not love the 'Dhalimun', the
oppressors.
So it is very clear that Islam itself and the Qur'an
itself condemns oppression, and in fact, our noble
religion orders us and it is one of our duties and
obligations to fight against oppression.
That is one of the very reasons why we are called to
'Jihad'; to relieve people from tyranny and from
oppression. So oppression is not something that Islam
tolerates. Oppression is something that this noble
religion condemns; it is something of course that all
human beings hate.
So let us therefore define actually what we mean
by oppression. Implicit, in the meaning of the
word oppression, is the consent of denying something its
rights.
Now we are very used to hearing a lot about rights.
Especially so called "human rights", we hear often
about humans rights being violate, we also have animal
rights, and different sections of society have different
rights.
So in order to understand what oppression is, we
have to make a further understanding. What is right?
What is the 'right' of something? What does that mean
when we talk about human 'rights' or this is the 'right' of
something?
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Ok, the right of something means it implies that it is
something that is natural to it. So the right of something
implies and that is understood in its meaning that it is
something that is a part of its nature, it is natural to it.
Let's give an example.. No has anyone seen the film
Free Willy?
Ok, it made you cry? Did it make you cry, that film?
It made me cry. Ok, so if you haven't seen it, Free Willy
is about this great big killer whale, and this great big
beautiful killer whale is locked up in a small little
compound for people's entertainment.
Now of course I don't know if any of you went, or
have ever been to see these killer whales or some of these
dolphins put on display in these small little pens were
they jump and they go through hoops on so on and so
forth, and of course as little children we go on and watch
it and it is all very amusing isn't that fantastic!
But a lot of people must go away thinking about how
an animal, such a beautiful animal, could be confined to
such a narrow space. An animal that was created whose
natural environment is to swim in thousands of miles of
ocean. And so without doubt some people would
recognise that this is a type oppression that this animal is
oppressed because, why, it has been taken from its
natural environment. It's taken away from what is
naturally due to it, to be free, so this is oppression.
Another example of oppression, that I'm sure is very
easy for us to understand. It is a right of a worker. If you
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work for somebody, and you are employed by somebody.
Implicit in the nature of being a worker is that you get
paid for your work.
If someone does not pay you for your work, then
without doubt we will all agree that this is oppression,
that we have been deprived of our right. I worked, my
right is to be paid. If someone deprives me, I have been
oppressed.
Ok, so I hope therefore that we have understood
oppression. Oppression means to deprive something of
its rights, which means to deprive something of what its
nature requires of it, so therefore let's go back to our
discussion.
The point at hand: 'Does Islam oppress women?'
Does Islam oppress women? Therefore we ask the
question again!
With our definitions:
Does Islam deny women their rights? Does Islam
deprive women of what is natural to them? Does
Islam take them away from their nature? Does Islam
deprive them of what naturally they should have?
THIS IS THE QUESTION
And of course to answer that question we also have to
answer before that, another question!
“What the nature of women?”
What is their nature?
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We can only really talk about whether something or
someone oppresses women or not when we understand
what is the nature of women?
Does Islam deprive women of their nature?
Does Islam take away from them their rights that are
naturally due to them, due to their nature?
THIS IS THE QUESTION
And then we will see certainly, without a doubt, that
there is no way that Islam oppresses women!
Because Islam is the religion that recognizes, in fact,
the true nature of women!
Because it is from the One who created women! It is
from the One who created the universe.
Islam is from Allah! It is from God, it is from the
Creator and He knows us better than we know ourselves.
He is closer to us in His knowledge than our jugular vein.
He is intimate in His knowledge, with every single detail
of our existence. Allah, He is “Al-Latif”, He is the
one who is aware of every single subtlety.
And Islam has been revealed by Allah, and Allah is
the one who is the most acquainted with the nature of the
woman and the nature of the man.
And so what we find in the religion of Islam, is that
Islam has set a paradigm, Islam set an example, Islam has
given us and defined for us the roles of men and the roles
of women according to our natures, not according to
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some ideology, not according to some hopeful or wishful
thinking, that wouldn’t it be nice if this, and wouldn’t it
be nice with that.
But this is not actually connected in anyway with the
reality of how people are.
And what we’re going to find indeed, is that the
western world has been experimenting with human
beings on a massive scale for the past sixty years.
Humanity has been going through a massive
experiment, and I'm sure we are all familiar with the
ideology prevalence in the west, the ideology that tells
us, not that men and women are different, but that men
and women are the same. There is no difference between
the man and the woman, and as they claim our
differences are a product of conditioning, our differences
are a product of conditioning.
This is the old debate between nature and nurture,
nature and nurture, what is your nature, and what have
you been nurtured, what have you grown up with? How
much of our mentality, how much of our behaviour is a
product of our nature? And how much is a product of our
environment and our upbringing.
And of course, as you know the western ideological
system, and not only the western, I mean weather of
course communism is not really existing anymore except
perhaps in China, but it has been a prevalence ideology
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in the west and then by necessity not only in the west but
this has been hoisted upon the rest of humanity. Because
without doubt as we know the west controls the mass
media. The west has the most influential say in the
ideologies that are prevalent in the world so this is their
ideology, men and women are the same and the reason
as they have been claiming that boys like to play with
guns and cars and they like mechanical things is because
that’s the way we’ve been brought up. Our parents
indoctrinate us, boys wear blue, boys play with cars and
boys like guns, and girls they wear pink and they play
with dolls, and they like makeup and earrings and stuff
like that because they’ve been conditioned to be like that.
This is what they have been saying. In fact, there is
no reason why girls should not play with guns and cars
and wear blue and there is no reason why boys shouldn’t
wear earrings and wear pink and play with dolls. There
is no reason.
Now interestingly enough, believe it or not, in Israel
or we should call it occupied Palestine, they have been
conducting for many years now, for the past 40 years
there has been a famous experiment on a "kibbutz" and
in this "kibbutz" what they did, is they separated as much
as possible from the earliest possible age, they separated
children from their parents, and the reason they did that
is because they did not want their parents to influence the
children in their habits and their behaviour, in other
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words, what they were attempting to do was to eliminate
the ‘nurture’ side and let their nature come forward and
what they thought and what they believed, and this was
their ideology is that children would not care what toys
they played with and this is what they did, they left these
children in dormitories on their own as much as possible
and in the dormitories they put toy guns, toy cars,
mechano sets, dolls, makeup, jewellery so on and so
forth, and they thought that what would be proven from
this experiment that went on for 40 years is that they
wouldn’t care, the boys would be just as happy playing
with dolls as the girls, and the girls would be just as
happy playing with cars and guns as the boys, but what
did they actually discover, after forty years of
experimentation, consistently time after time after time?
The boys took the toys that were guns and cars and
mechanical things, and the girls would take the dolls and
the makeup and the jewellery. This is what they
discovered; forty years they did this experiment. And in
fact, they’ve been experimenting with humanity. They've
been experimenting with society on a massive scale.
They have been trying to indoctrinate us for years and
years, under the guise of what they call feminism, the
same ideology. And what they have discovered now,
scientifically they have proven that boys and girls are
different. From the very earliest age, and they have done
controlled scientific experiments that have been
reviewed by peer groups and confirmed, again and again
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that boys look at certain things and certain toys and they
concentrate them from birth.
From the moment they can start seeing, they
concentrate on certain things that are of a mechanical
nature. And girls, they concentrate on things that are
what they call the girly things. And so there’s no
possibility for these babies to be subjected to some kind
of brainwashing by society.
In other words, it’s biological. In other words, it’s
in-built into us. It’s our nature. Men and women are
different. That is a fact. It’s in our biology; it’s in our
very makeup.
Now let us read something that has been mentioned
by a French Nobel laureates, his name is Alexis Carrel,
and this is what he said: “The difference between men
and women are of more fundamental nature than is
usually realised, and that these differences are caused by
the very structure of the tissue, and by the impregnation
of the entire organism with specific chemical substances
secreted by the ovary. Ignorance of these fundamental
facts has led promoters of feminism to believe that both
sexes should have the same responsibilities. In reality,
woman differs profoundly from man. Every one of the
cells of her body bears the mark of her sex. The same is
true for her organs and above all her nervous system.
Woman should develop their aptitudes without imitating
the males.”
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This is what this French scientist said, but of course,
that is not what we are taught even today, and of course,
this exposes the lie, or the claim, that the western world
to be motivated by science because we don’t find them
promoting this ideology that has now been proven by
science, rather they still continue to promote the
misguided notion that men and women are the same.
That both men and women should be able to work,
that both men and women should be able to do the same
things and should be encouraged to, and they claim this
under the banner of noble ideals, but the facts are
brothers and sisters rather more mundane than that.
We imagine that something that I have noticed in the
economist is the famous magazine in England an
economist an article in the economist called the
liberation of women in the west one of the most enduring
revolutions of the 20th century produced by western
Europe. This is what they claimed about it but in fact
when we examine the reality of it, the reasons for their
promoting this feminism as I said is much more mundane
its actually mostly to do with economics.
They theorize that if you have half the population of
your country staying at home not being employed then
what you have done is that you have not utilized half the
economic potential of your society.
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In other words, if the only ones who are working are
men, then men are the ones who work, men are the ones
who control the money, and men are the ones who will
essentially spend the money, if we get the women
working that means we will have more disposable
income, more people buying more people spending and
the economy will increase, this is what they imagined,
and it seems to make some sort of sense doesn’t it .
If we look at the origins of this it started in the first
world war when lots of men were going out and getting
slaughtered in millions in the battlefields in France, and
also in the second world war, the women were forced to
go to the factories to produce ammunitions, and then they
got a taste of liberation and once they got the taste of
liberation as they called it and they started having their
own incomes they didn’t want to go back to the old ways
of them chained to the kitchen sink as they called it, and
it seemed that for a time it was working , wealth
increased, expenditure increased, the economy went
forward, but now amazingly economies have come
across a new reality that they’ve only woken up to quite
recently, this is quite interesting they’ve realized that
once a certain percentage of your population reaches
over 65 and in fact it’s around 30 percent so if 30 percent
of your population is over 65 years old what they
discovered is the economy of your country becomes not
viable anymore, in other words the economy won’t work.
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Why? because the money you need to spend to care
for the over 65s is more than the money that those people
who are earning and working can generate, and it’s
nothing to do with they care about old people now they
want to introduce new laws to let people work till they’re
75, it’s nothing to do with their caring about old people,
they started to realize that they’re getting an increasing
age in population and they’re not going to be able to
sustain the economy.
And now having told women that you should leave
the home, liberate yourself from your husband, liberate
yourself from that kitchen sink, what do you wanna have
kids for anyway, waste your time with that, go out and
earn some money.
Now they’re try to get them to get back in the home,
back to the kitchen sink and having babies again, because
there’s not enough young people in society, and of course
what is this proving is the complete nonsense of those
people who try to live their lives according to the feeble
opinions and ideologies imagined in the minds of human
beings, and when they abandoned the perfect guidance
of Allah, they will only end up destroying themselves, in
fact what we find is that western society is the society
that oppresses women, because the nature of the woman
is to be a mother, the nature of the woman is to be caring
for children, the nature of the woman her whole biology,
her whole chemistry, her nervous system, her mental
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system is all constructed whether you believe in Allah or
you believe in evolution it’s not something you can argue
about, either Allah has created women like that or
evolution over millions of years has made women like
that, to be the ones that bare the children that carry them
that give birth to them that feed them that care for them
that nurture them, and believe me the one who is most
capable of doing it is the woman, the man can have a goal
and maybe he has to do that sometimes, but the reality is
as every single one of us who have got kids here.
We know the reality, we know the reality of who can
really look after the children, we know that, and ask men
no it’s not us, we can do it for a day or maybe half a day,
and if we do it for a day then we say now I know what
my wife has to put up with every day and I don’t know
how she does it.
You know, that’s the reality, because that’s the way
Allah made us. So what do we find? We find as usual,
and it’s not surprising, we shouldn’t go “Oh that’s
amazing” because you know what, it’s not really that
amazing. If we are believers in Allah and we believe in
Islam and we believe Islam is from Allah, we would
expect that what Allah teaches us is to be in agreement
with what has been scientifically proven.
And, of course, the Qur'an confirms this reality. We
know that Allah (SWT) mentioned, the wife of Imran
who dedicated her child, who is of course Mariam, to the
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service of Allah, but of course, when she gave birth to
Mariam, the wife of Imran said “I have given birth to a
female child”, and Allah knows very well what she had
given birth to. The male is not like the female. This is
what Allah, (SWT) tells us.
Brothers and Sisters, dear guests. The male is not
like the female. Science tells us, reason tells us,
experience tells us and Allah reminds us men and women
are different.
So it is the society that oppresses women. It is the
society that takes women away from their nature. A
society that tells women that being a mother, that being
a housekeeper, that the one doing perhaps the most
essential job in society, is a degrading position!
They talk about it, “she’s chained to the kitchen
sink”, like she’s some slave, like it’s some menial task.,
and rather who is honored is what? The actress, the
model, the super businesswoman, and the more clothes
she takes off, the more honored she is.
This is the woman they honor in this society. The
career woman, the politician, the woman who’s a doctor,
the woman who’s this and who’s that. Look at her how
“successful” she is. How “independent” she is, and
anyone who stays at home, looking after the children,
“Oh look at that poor little thing. Look at her”, oh yes
you know what I’m taking about.
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This is the society that oppresses women, and you
know what, you see it everywhere. You see miserable
women, women who have reached 35 years old and
they’re desperate to have kids. Suddenly, it hits them.
Suddenly, their nature over takes them. And now what
do we find? In order to overcome this, science comes in.
They’ve introduced this “in vitro fertilization” and
women are being fertilized when they are not even
capable of producing eggs anymore, but they get
fertilized and they’re having children at 40 or 50 because
they have missed out, because of the pressure society put
on them.
This is oppressing women! This is taking women
away from her nature, this is making her feel inadequate
if she is a mother and if she is a wife and she is a home
keeper, she is made to feel inferior; that is oppression.
It is the society that treats women as a commodity.
That is a society that oppresses and denigrates women. It
is an evil and unjust and tyrannical society.
Do not be confused my brothers and sisters in Islam.
Do not be confused. Do not be taken in by their
propaganda. Do not be influenced by their lies.
And believe me, they have sown the seeds of their
own destruction. They have sown the seeds of their own
destruction, and you see it, because who is looking after
kids? Who gives the kids the love and the care and the
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attention that they need? Who is there to teach the kids
morality, right from wrong, manners? You know who it
is? MTV, Play Station, because mummy is out working
along with daddy, huh? And who else is looking after the
children, who is looking after them? Can anyone look
after a child like the mother? No. And so you find
children coming with no morals, no concept of right and
wrong, violence, sex, drugs, music, fantasy, it’s the norm
for them.
That is the norm for them, and love? They haven’t
found love in the home. So what do they do? They join
gangs. That’s what they do, they join gangs. They look
for it somewhere. If they can’t find it in the home, they’ll
try to find somewhere else to belong. It’s happening in
America, it happens in England, I’m sure it happens here
in Australia.
Kids on the streets, doing all sorts of things. Why?
Because there was no one who nurtured them. They are
sowing the seeds of their own destruction. They have
already done it, and now they are reaping the evil rewards
of their evil philosophy and their injustice and their
tyranny. They blame us?! And they point the finger at
us?! They point the finger at Islam?! They are the guilty
ones, they are the oppressors, they are the tyrants, they
are the ones who’ve degraded women and taken them
from their nature that Allah (SWT) created them for.
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They are the ones who have degraded women, and
taken them, from their nature that Allah (SWT), created
them for. In which they should feel pride.
Look what Islam teaches, my brothers and sisters.
Look at the words of Allah, (SWT). Look to the
teachings of Rasulu Allah, (pbuh). The woman is
honoured in Islam. The woman is honoured, revered in
Islam.
Allah (SWT), He tells us: Reverence Allah, and the
wombs that bore you. Reverence Allah, and the wombs
that bore you.
And the name of Allah, Al Rahman; and the word
'Rahm', for womb, it's from the same roots. And whoever
cuts off from the womb, then Allah will cut off from
them, as the Prophet (pbuh) said. It is one of the greatest
sins in Islam, to disobey your parents, especially your
mother. Especially, your mother.
Al-Aa'raf. What is Al-Aa'raf? As Abdullah Ibn Al-
Abbasy said: Al Aa'raf is the heights, it is the place of
mountains between the Hell fire, and Paradise.
And who is on Al Aaraf? Abdullah Ibn Al A'bbas,
he described it. Some mountains, with some rivers, and
some lakes, and on this place and on these mountains are
people who fought "Jihad" in the path of Allah and were
killed martyrs. But they went and fought that "Jihad"
against their parents’ wishes. So the good of their
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fighting "Jihad", is equalled by the evil, of their
disobeying their parents. Subhanallah3.
When a man came to the Prophet (pbuh), he said,
"Oh Messenger of Allah, who has the most right to my
kindness?" and the Prophet (pbuh) said, "Your mother."
"And after that, Messenger of Allah?"
"Your mother."
"And after that, Messenger of Allah?"
"Your mother."
"And after that, Messenger of Allah?"
"Then, your father," he replied, "Your mother, your
mother, your mother. Then your father."
Paradise lies at the feet of your mother. May your
face be rubbed in the dust. May you be humiliated. A
person, whose parents reach old age and they do not enter
paradise, by failing to serve them. They do not enter
paradise because they fail to serve their old parents. May
you be humiliated, the person who reaches that time.
Allah has accorded such honour to the parents, but
and particularly to the mother. Particularly, to the
mother. She is the one who bore you. For nine months,
in pain and suffering. She gave birth to you, and cared
3 May He Be Exhalted.
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for you. You could never, ever, ever, ever pay your
mother back. Ever.
There is nothing you can do to pay your mother
back, this is what our religion, Islam, teaches, to respect
the woman, you can never pay her back, if you found
your father a slave, you bought him and set him free, you
pay him back, but your mother, there is nothing you can
do.
A man came with his mother on his back to Omar
bin al khatab, “Ya Amir el momeneen4, I have taken my
mother on my back through the whole of the hedge, did
I pay her back”? Omar, he replied, “Young man, you did
not pay her back for one tear she shed when she gave
birth to you”.
And Islam oppresses women? No, Islam honours
women for what Allah has created her for, for her nature,
it honours her for what is her nature and that is giving
someone their rights.
And that is why Allah made men ,the maintainers
and protectors of women, they are the glass vessels, the
best of you are the ones who are the best to their wives,
this is what Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) taught , how far
unfortunately many Muslims are from the commands of
Allah , from the "Sunnah"5 of the messenger (pbuh),
4 Prince/Leader of the believers. 5 According to the scholars of Hadeeth, is everything that has been related from the Messenger (pbuh),
of his statements, actions, tacit approvals, personality, physical description, or biography.
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there is no doubt that there are many Muslims who are
abusive and tyrannical and who do oppress their women
but that is not Islam.
Islam is not responsible for that any more, Islam is
responsible for a Muslim who drinks alcohol, or takes
drugs, or kills innocent human beings. Islam is free from
that.
Islam teaches us to honour women, to respect them
but for their nature, the best of you those who are best to
their wives, and of course the Prophet (pbuh) was the one
who is best to the wives.
And Allah has made men the maintainers and
protectors of women, they are the glass vessels, they are
delicate, they are sensitive, they need to be treated with
care, and with love and with patience, Allah has given
them a certain nature, they need that nature in order to be
able to look after the children, you can never do it
brothers, never, but that nature means that there is
something about them they have certain emotions, they
have certain emotional responses that they need those
responses to deal with the important task of raising their
children, and that means you have to deal with them
brothers in a certain way, you have to be patient with
them, there is certain things that happen to them in a
certain time of the month that means that sometimes they
behave in quiet a crazy way, but they need that, that is
the way Allah created them.
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Those chemicals are there for a reason, it happens
for a reason, and we should honour that, this is Allah’s
creation, perfect creation, perfect, and doing what Allah
intended it to do, and we have to respect that, they are
glass vessels, treat them with kindness, treat them with
softness, leave them the way they are, yes. The Prophet
(pbuh) said: “Treat women kindly, for woman was
created from a bent rib, and the most crooked part of the
rib is the top part, so treat women kindly.” so enjoy the
women the way they are, with this bendiness, because if
you tried to straighten them you are never going to be
able to do it, and the straightening of it in fact will be
divorce.
You are trying to change Allah’s nature that he
created, don’t do it enjoy them the way they are , this part
of their beautiful quality that makes the women the thing
that we love, and especially the righteous women, about
whom, the Prophet (pbuh) said: the whole world is green
and verdant but the most precious thing in this life is the
righteous woman, there is nothing better and nothing
more precious than a righteous woman, and whoever
marries a righteous woman "in-shaa Allah"6 will
succeed, whoever marries a woman for just her beauty,
or just her wealth or her lineage, what will you get,
believe me, misery, marry the righteous one, marry the
pious one, marry the religious one, and be successful, this
6 If Allah wills.
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is the nature, that Allah created, this is the path to a
beautiful and successful society, it is the foundation of it
, Islam recognizes it, Confucianism recognized it, in fact
every sensible society knows that the very foundation of
society is the family and at the heart of every family is
the woman who teaches and cares and nurtures for the
children so we honour her. Islam teaches us to honour
her to respect her, as our mother, to revere her, and they
say that Islam does not give women their rights!? And
they say that Islam oppresses women!? you know there
is a saying that we should give back to them a saying that
, from their own books that they say they believe it, a
beautiful saying attributed to Jesus, you know what it is,
it says: take the log out of your eye before you try and
take the twig out of somebody else’s
You got a great big log in your eye and you are
trying to take a twig out of someone else's eye? Huh?
That is what they are doing. They see a twig in our
eye and they got a great big log in theirs. They are so
busy criticizing us, but if we compare the two, surely
they are people on complete -- almost complete --
misguidance in that regard.
So my dear brothers and sisters and dear listeners,
when we really examine Islam when we study the Qur'an
when we study the example of our noble Prophet
Muhammad (pbuh) we will truly see that Islam is the
religion that accords women their rights.
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Men are there to maintain and protect women. It is
the job of the man. Our job to make sure that the women
can stay at home and she can look after the house, look
after the kids, feel comfortable there, and feel happy
there. That is our job to maintain them and to protect
them. That is our responsibility. Because that is a
weighty responsibility, Allah has also required
something from the women in respect to the man and that
is that God made him, because Allah made the man the
maintainer and the protector. Allah gave him that
responsibility.
Allah did not ask the women to go out there and earn
the money; confront all that evil in there in society. Allah
did not ask the women to do that rather he asked the
women to care, educate, and bring up the children with
that love and that morality and that goodness that they
need. The man, however, he has to and he is responsible
for your guidance, in the deen, in the religion. He is
responsible to make sure, although quite often it may be
the other way around.
The women often "alhamdulilah"7 and that's the
righteous women make sure the men are on the straight
path.
7 [All] praise is [due] to Allah.
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But it is our responsibility and because of that Allah
requires that the woman is obedient to her husband when
he tells her to do something and he commands her she
should do her best if it’s within her capability. If it’s
within her capability that's important, she should do it
and this is the respect.
This is important in our society. The wife respects
the husband and inshallah the children will respect the
mother. And if the children respect the mother and the
wife respects the husband and the husband respects the
authority of the Amir, of the ruler, this is our religion this
is the basis of a true stable society.
But what you find is when the husband, when the
wife doesn't respect her husband, the children will not
respect her.
When the man does not respect the women and treat
her with justice and with the gentleness and the kindness
that Islam had ordered. Allah will put over him a
tyrannical ruler to oppress and make his life difficult as
he oppressed and made his wife's life difficult. And I
believe this truly “if you look at the Muslim world today,
you will see the way the ruler treats the people, reflects
the way the man treats his wife, you will find it, the way
the ruler treats the people will be the way the man treats
his wife. If he oppresses her, Allah will make a ruler to
oppress him.
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So brothers and sisters ,we know that our beautiful
“deen” is based on “taqwa” the fear of Allah , the
consciousness of Allah, observing the limits of Allah,
and this is where we have to start with our family,
rectifying ourselves .
Brothers and sisters my final appeal to you please
remove from yourself this "Jahleyah"8 this ignorance,
that is the ideology and the perverted and sick ideology
that is propagated by the western civilization.
Brothers and sisters, I ask you to remove that from
yourselves. I find it's so sad when I hear brothers and
sisters talking about that I’ve had two kids I think that’s
enough! because we know you’ve been conquered
already, they do not need to come and invade our lands
they’ve already defeated us ideologically, our minds
have already been taken over, we’ve already begun to
think like them, we push our daughters to get degrees to
become doctors to become engineers to become nuclear
physicists, look at my daughter I’m so proud of her she
and what she’s achieved…. What?? she’s had 10 kids
and brought them up in Islam that would be something
proud that you taught your daughter to be like that no she
became a doctor that’s what we’re proud of these days,
that is sick brothers and sisters, that is sick and that is not
what our religion teaches, and I am not saying please do 8 It is an Islamic concept referring to the period of time and state of affairs before the advent of Islam.
It is often translated as the "Age of Ignorance"
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not misunderstand me, and it is important, yes we need
Muslim women doctors, we need women to be educated
to educate our children, we need women to be educated
to open Muslim schools, so that they can educate our
children in Islam, in the religion and in life.
But we have to understand we must not get confused
and imagine that this is what is going to make us
successful, don’t be mentally defeated do not allow
yourselves to think with this false ideology, no brothers
and sisters think like Muslims, think with Islam, think
with the Qur'an, think with the "Sunnah" of Prophet
Muhammad (pbuh), and you will see brothers and sisters,
we will bring up a generation who are like that, you will
see the success that Allah (SWT) will bring once again
to this "Ummah"9 and you will see that once again
brothers and sisters that when our foundations are strong,
and "alhamdulilah" will give us the success of this life
and of the life to come.
May Allah's peace and blessings be upon our
Prophet Muhammad.
www.islamic-invitation.com 9 Ummah, or Muslim community, is a group of people from diverse backgrounds, ancestry, locations
and nationalities. They are a community without borders yet united in a very real way. Though separated
by distance and often constrained by borders they are united. They are one nation or community united
under the guidance of the One God. "And verily this Ummah of yours is one Ummah and I am your
Lord and Cherisher, therefore fear Me and no other." (Qur'an 23:52)