Do you love me...

what do you mean, asking me if I love you? what love got to do with

this?

Thursday, December 8, 2005

Bible Study Lesson: by, Arthur Hardwick

...amanofpurpose!!!

What did Jesus say about love? Re-affirm our definition of love Answer the question, “do I need love?” How do I love others, and not lose myself? Communicate your love languages Action steps to love

Love is.... Bible study objectives for this lesson:

This is the question we must ALL answer!

Do I need love, and should I give love in return?

Jesus answered... Matthew 22:36-40

Master, which is the greatest commandment. Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God will all thy heart, and will all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thy as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

Re-affirm our definition of love

According to Vines Dictionary Love means – as a verb, means a strong emotional

attachment to a desire either to possess or to be in the presence of the object. as a noun it can refer to family, friend, romantic or sexual “love’ as a state of being, or actions of strong affection and commitment. What the three kinds of love often referred to in the bible?

1. Eros - is generally known as physical love

2. Phileo - is brotherly love

3. Agape - is generally known as divine love

Eros kind of love....

Eros means romantic love in which the word erotic come from.  It's the  chemical reaction that happens between two people.  It's the spark that happens to people.  It's the blushing of the face.  It's infatuation between people.  It's puppy love. It's the most common type of love that we can associate.  When you see a couple holding hands or kissing and people say,

"Yes, they are in love."  This type of love is called Eros.

Phileo kind of love...

The Greeks also has a second definition of love, and that is Philia in which the word the philanthropy come from.  Philia means brotherly love.  We all know city of Philadelphia as the city of brotherly love. Philia does not contain romantic love.  Philia is the love you and I express to our father, mother, brother, sister, or a friend. 

People say, "I love my brother to death". Well, this type of love is Philia love.

Agape kind of love...

Agapao, means “Agapa/e” (Usually pronounced ah-guh-pay.)

A state of unconditional love for everything. This is considered the ultimate goal of all sentient evolution. it is different from erotic love. It is supposed to be the characteristic attitude of Christians toward one another. It means loving someone without expecting love in return.  Parents can relate to this, especially a mother.  Perhaps this may be a difficult concept in today's selfish society because this type of love requires sacrifice and selflessness.

Answer the question, “do I need love?”

Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man

should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

A did Apostle Paul say about love? 1st Corinthians 13:1-13 (lets read together)

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am becoming as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have faith, so that I could remove mountains and have not charity.......

What did Jesus said about love? John 14:23-28 (lets read together)

If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him. He that loveth me not keepth not my sayings; and the words which ye hear is not mine, but the Father’s which sent me....

1st John 4:16-21 (lets read together) ...God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in

God. Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world....

Answer the question, “do I need love?” Cont.

1st Corinthians 12:12-26..... (lets read together).

We can conclude, we all need each other Common errors Christians make

Being too proud of their abilities Thinking they have nothing to give to the body of

believers. Instead of comparing ourselves to one another, we must use our different gifts, together, to spread the Good News of salvation

Give what you need in return Love like you want to be loved in return Care like you want to be cared for in return Do unto others as you would want them to do

for you.

How do I love others, and not lose myself?

Communicate you love languages

Words of affirmation Proverbs -18:21, Death and Life are in the power

of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Try words like: I know our future we be bright I will always love you You light my fire I miss you soooooooooo much I support you We can make it What can I do to love you better, because I

want to please you

Communicate you love languages

Give gifts & Quality time Genesis 24:53, And the servant brought forth

jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and raiment, and gave them to Rebekah.

Here are some gift ideals Find out several things your spouse enjoys

receiving....give that Give an I love you notes, write a letter Give a laugh, smile, warm hug, that special

look, hold hands, walk slower together

Communicate you love languages

Act of service & Physical touch Luke 8:44-47. (lets read together) And He turned to

the woman, and said unto Simon, Seest thou this woman? I entered into thine house, thou gavest me no water for my feet...

Here are some ideals Learn to wash each others feet Create a relaxing atmosphere at home Give yourself...dedicate 2 hours or ½ day or a

day to your spouse, to help them on whatever task you can or whatever they think is important

Get out of the house, plan something

Action steps to love

1. Say “I love you” at least once a day2. Surprise your partner3. Look at Difficulties as learning experiences4. Candlelight everywhere5. Exercise together6. Read poetry or romantic or humorous sections of

novels to each other7. Take turns giving head-to-toe massages8. Dance in your living room9. Trust and be trustworthy10. Set aside private time for just the two or you without

kids, the phone, the TV

Any questions