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TablE o ConTEnTs
01 Eit Pc
04 Quti t Ak Wh Ppig Mig
09 T Supig Gl: MigLi th Gly G
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Sxul Rlti i Mig
33 Mig, Sigl, thChiti Vitu Hpitlity
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EdiTors PrEaCE
Ppig wll mig m kig ch th ll thh quti.
Gttig t kw tht pcil m iclu ligut mily i chlig thltic, it
ptim, k, mi, li t mmt wt, th
ightt plc i u ckgu th kt.But wht ut thlgy? E thik t k ut tht?At Diig G, u mt cc pg li i
t quti Jh Pip put tgth cupl pp-ig mig (chpt 1 i thi Bk). T i m thtypicl tulik i ttimt lityl chilut my h u tht Jh wy puttig th
quti hlp gt ight t m ptty p tu.A th th th quti ut thlg y, whip
ti, th l hu wiquti tht t my cupl t thik t k. Wh ppig mig, i jut giig t ci it, it i im-m hlp t h th ppcti t ly hu-
40 y, ut l pt thlgi.
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Ti i ht Bk. Ou ii it i huml. Ou hpi tht w cupl, whth tig ciig mig,
gg ppig mig, wul m -t h, gt t kw ch th tt i m li mtigict mtt, m t t ic G lig thi li.
W pckg th itil uc with th migquti hpig t ich yu ppti. Chpt 2 i p-hp Jh Pip igl mt imptt mg mig.
T h g m mc th my u h tg i thikig ut wht mig i, wht G igit . Ti i up imptt chpt.
Sxul lti i mig i th tpic chpt 3. (Wkw m yu my ippig tight t tht , wtht yu kw it th. Tt ky. D cm ck t th chp-t 1 2, wh yu c.) H th i much pttil
plu, much pttil pi. Dt hy wy mgiig th tpic x g citi ht icu-i uig ggmt.
Filly, chpt 4 i ut mii tgth. Mig i mii t. I pticul, th cu h i hpitlity. It m m th i tht cm th k Tis Momen-tary Marriage: A Parable o Permanence, which i wh w
yu t l m ut mig llwig thi Bk.F Chiti, tlkig ut miity tgth, icluig h-pitlity (litlly, i th Nw tmt, l tg) itil ppti.
Mig i ig. Wht yu ciig ppig h i ti. Dt thik yu c jut mig -
th ly t ly uy li. Mig m ull
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tt. Rlut yu cmmitmt, chck yu piiti,thik yu ml. Hpully thi Bk th uc-
lik it will hlp. It wll wth th itmt iuquti cul thught. F yu jy, th g th, th gly th chuch Gm.
David Mathis
Executive Editor
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1QuEsTions To ask WhEn
PrEParing or MarriagE
I ch th cti, itm cul tht I ht lit, mly, Hw yu hl li with i-c? Hw yu ci wht c mi ic with-ut jpizig th ltihip? S yu l with ch u-
hig, iclu tht i th icui.
Te
Wht yu li ut...ythig?
Php thugh th Diig G Amti Fitht wh ch th i iu ilicl cti.
Dic hw yu m yu iw. Wht i th ig--liig pc? Hw yu hl th Bil?
Wp det
Hw imptt i cpt whip? Wht ut th ki
pticipti i chuch li?
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Hw imptt i it t pt mllccutility/uppt gup?
Wht i th imptc muic i li whip?
Wht yu ily pl til pctic?(py, ig, mitti, mmizti)
Wht wul u mily ti lk lik? Wh l i thi?
A w ig thi w i pppit wy (pyig tgth
ut u li utu, ig th Bil tgth)?
h We
Wht i th mig hhip umii i th Bil i u mig?
Wht xpctti ut ituti wh yu might
l with m th ppit x?
Hw tk h i th hm (c, clig, ckig,whig ih, y wk, c upkp, pi, hppig , huhl tu )?
Wht th xpctti tgth?
Wht i il -pcil ig?Hw yu ut wh iitit x hw f?
Wh th chckk th tw?
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Ce
I wh, hul w h chil? Why?
Hw my?
Hw pt?
Wul w ci pti?
Wht th t hi?
Wht th pppit wy t icipli thm? Hw mytik thy wht?
Wht th xpctti tim pt with thm whthy g t ?
Wht ig cti will yu hw thm?
Wht ut chl? Hm chl? Chiti chl?Pulic chl?
lete
Ow hm t? Why?
Wht ki ighh? Why?
Hw my c? Nw? U?
Viw my i gl? Hw much t th chuch?
Hw yu mk my cii?
Wh will yu uy clth? Dptmt t? Tif t?I tw? Why?
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Etetmet
Hw much my hul w p ttimt?
Hw f hul w t ut? Wh?
Wht ki cti pppit hlpul u?
Hw my ty? Swmil, t, ci?
Shul w h tlii? Wh? Wht i ttig t wtch?Hw much?
Wht th citi mi tht? Wht will uguili th ki?
Cct
Wht mk yu gy?
Hw yu hl yu utti g?
Wh hul ig up iu tht i thm?
Wht i w ig th ut wht hul whth it i iu?
Will w g t gy t ch th?
Wht i u iw gttig hlp m i cul?
W
Wh i th mi wi?
Shul th wi wk uti th hm? B ki? With
ki t hm? Af ki?
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Wht yu iw yc chil?
Wht tmi wh yu will lct? J? Wh j?
Chuch? Fmily?
e
I it g t thig with i ut withut pu?
Wht will yu i yu lly lik t hg ut withm th th t?
het sce
D yu h, h yu h y, ick phyicl p-lm tht cul ct u ltihip? (llgi, cc, t-ig i, l i, tc.)
D yu li i ii hlig, hw wul py ltt micl ttti?
Hw yu thik ut xci hlthy tig?
D yu h y hit tht ly ct hlth?
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2ThE surPassing goal:
MarriagE livEd or ThEglory o god
My tpic thi chpt i Mig li th gly G.T cii w i tht tpic i th w . Mig li
or th gly G. T tpic i t: T gly Gor
th liig mig. A t: Mig li by th gly G. But: Mig li th gly G.
Ti littl w m tht th i pi-ity. T i ultimcy. A th i pli: Gi ultimt, mig i t. G i th mt impttRlity; mig i l imptt l imptt, i-itly l imptt.
Mig xit t mgiy th tuth wth u-ty gt G; G t xit t mgiy m-ig. Util thi i ii luutil it i mig will t xpic lti G gly ut il G gly.
I tk my titl, Mig li th gly G, t
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w t th quti: Why marriage?Why i th m-ig? Why mig xit? Why w li i mig?
Ti m tht my tpic i pt lg quti: Why ythig xit? Why yu xit? Why x xit?Why th u m t xit? Why i-ml plt c muti tm gl-xi xit?
T w t ll th quti, icluig th utmig i: All thm xit t th gly G. Tt i,
thy xit t mgiy th tuth wth uty gt- G. Nt th wy microscope mgi, ut th wy telescope mgi.
Miccp mgiy y mkig tiy thig lk iggth thy . lcp mgiy y mkig uimgily igthig lk lik wht thy lly . Miccp m th p-
pc iz wy m lity. lcp m th pp-
c iz tw lity.Wh I y tht ll thig xit t mgiy th tuth
wth uty gt G, I m tht ll thig mig i pticulxit t m th ppc G i ppl mi tw Rlity.
G i uimgily gt iitly lul uup i uty. Gt i th Lord, gtly t
pi, hi gt i uchl (P. 145:3, esv).Eythig tht xit i mt t mgiy tht Rlity. Gci ut thugh th ppht Iih (43:67, esv), Big my m my ught m th th th, -y wh i cll y my m, whm I ctor my glory(mphi ). W h ct t iply th gly
G. Pul cclu th t l chpt hi gt
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ltt t th Rm with th xltti G th uc ll thig: F m him thugh him t
him l l thig. him gly . Am (11:36, esv,mphi ). H mk it cl i Cli 1:16,wh h y, By [Chit] ll thig w ct, i h th ll thig w ct thugh him him (mphi ).
A w t u i w thik tht Him m Hi, Hi t, Hi impmt. Pul
m it cytl cl i Act 17:25 tht G i t yhum h, thugh h ythig, ic h himlgi t ll mki li th ythig (esv). N,th tm Hi gly Him m, th iply Hi gly, th hwig Hi gly, th mg-iyig Hi gly.
W t lt thi ik i. Oc th w G, ly
G. T ui i Hi cti. It i t ctl with G.It i t G. I th giig w th W, th Ww with G, th W w G . All thig w mthugh him (Jh 1:1, 3, esv). All thig. All tht i t G
w m y G. S c th w ly G.T G i lut Rlity. W t. T ui
i t. Mig i t. W iti. T ui i c-
y imptc, t pimy. T hum c i t th ul-timt lity, th ultimt lu, th ultimt mu-ig wht i g wht i tu wht i utiul. Gi. G i th ultimt lut i xitc. Eythig li m Him thugh Him Him.
Tt i th ttig plc utig mig. I
w gt thi wg, ythig g wg. A i w gt it
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ightlly ight, i u h i u htth m-ig will tm y it. Mig will cm wht it
w ct y G t iply th tuth wth uty gt G.Ti l t y impl cclui impl yt
-chig. I w wt t mig h th plc i thwl i th chuch tht it i upp t htht i, iw wt mig t gliy th tuth wth uty gt Gw mut tch pch l ut m-
ig m ut G.Mt yug ppl ty t ig t thi cuthip
mig gt ii Gwh H i, wht H ilik, hw H ct. I th wl th i lmt ii G. H i t th lit t iit. H i imply thtkigly mitt. A i th chuch th iw Gtht yug cupl ig t thi ltihip i mll i-
t hug, mgil it ctl, guit cl, imptt it ll-tmiig, uipiig it ihig, tht wh thy my,th thught liig mig t th gly G i withutmig withut ctt.
Wht wul th gly G m t yug wi hu wh gi lmt tim thught t kwig
th gly G, th gly Ju Chit, Hi ii S
th gly Hi tlity tht mk th mi wt t x-pl with th iit thught tht G h gi-ig, ut imply lwy w;
th gly Hi kwlg tht mk th Liy
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Cg lk lik mtchx qutum phyic lik t g ;
th gly Hi wim tht h c cul y m;
th gly Hi uthity h th hll,withut wh pmii m m cm ich;
th gly Hi pic withut which t i
ll t th gu igl hi tu gy;
th gly Hi w tht uphl th ui kpll th tm mlcul tgth;
th gly Hi pw t wlk wt, cl lp, hlth lm, p th y th li, cu th t h,
till tm with w, i th ; th gly Hi puity t i, t h tw-c
ttitu il thught;
th gly Hi tutwthi t k Hi w lt pmi ll t th gu;
th gly Hi jutic t ll ml ccut i th
ui ttl ith th c i hll;
th gly Hi ptic t u u ull cf c;
th gly Hi ig, l-lik ic t mcth xcucitig pi th c willigly;
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th gly Hi wth tht will y cu ppl t cllut th ck th muti t ll thm;
th gly Hi gc tht juti th ugly;
th gly Hi l tht i u whil w wi.
Hw ppl gig t li thi li tht thi migiply th tuth wth uty gt thigly, wh thy t lmt gy tim t kwig
chihig thi gly?Php yu c why th lt thity y ptl
miity I h cm t my li-mii th mii u chuch i m y ic tm: mly, I xitw x-itt p pi th upmcy G i ll thig th jy ll ppl. Tt u mt th . U-
til th i pi th upmcy th gly G ith ht mi ppl, mig will t li thgly G.
A th will t pi th upmcy thgly G i th ht mi ppl util G Himl,i Hi mil gli, i kw. A H will t kwi Hi mil gli util pt tch pk Him
tilly cttly ply iliclly ithully itictly thughly pitly. Mig li th gly G will th uit chuch pmt
with th gly G.S I y gi, i w wt mig t gliy th tuth
wth uty gt G, w mut tch pch l ut mig m ut G. Nt tht w
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pch t much mig, ut tht w pch t littl G. G i imply t mgictly ctl i th li
mt u ppl. H i t th u u which ll th pl-t u ily li hl i it thi pp, G-ppit plc. H i m lik th m, which wx
w, yu c g ight thik ut Him.
F mt u ppl, G i mgil hu gthig uup Hi plc. thik tht thi mig cul
li Hi gly y tchig th ymic ltihip,wh th gly G i piphl, i lik xpctig th hu-m y t gliy th t wh w t t t th ight ky h ught tlcp.
S kwig G chihig G luig th gly G ll thig, icluig yu pu, i th ky t li-ig mig t th gly G. It tu i mig, i -
y th ltihip: God is most glorifed in us when we aremost satisfed in Him.
H i ky tht ulck thu . Supi ti-cti i G ll thly thig, icluig yu pu yu hlth yu w li (Plm 63:3, esv, yu t-t l i tt th li) i th uc gt lg-uig
withut which hu ct l lik Chit, wi c-
t llw lik th i Chit, th chuch. Ephi 5:2225 mk pli tht hu tk thi cu lhip l m Chit, wi tk thi cu umii l m th ti th chuch whm H i. Ath th cmplmty ct lt l, t u-mit uutil th gly G withut upi
ticti i ll tht G i u i Chit.
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Lt m y it th wy. T tw ll t which thgly G my hi th m Chiti mig: O
i t th tuctul ll wh th pu ulll th l Git thmth m l lik Chit, th wi ct llw tht lhip. Wh th l li ut, th gly G l wim i Chit i i-
ply t th wl.But th i th p, m util ll wh
th gly G mut hi i th l t uti
G ig. T pw impul t cy thugh th l-il ily, mthly, yly yig tht will qui ilig impct wi pctig impct humut cm m hp-giig, ul-utiig, upi ti-cti i G. I t thik tht u l u wi thi u will gliy G util it w m ht tht light iG m th mig.
Mig will p th gly G hp th gly G wh th gly G i m pciu tu th mig. Wh w c y with th ptl Pul (iPhilippi 3:8), I cut ll thig t l i iw th u-pig lu kwig Chit Ju my L (nasb)whw c y tht ut migut u hu with tht mig will li t th gly G.
I cl y tyig t y thi m wy, mly, with pm tht I wt my hi wig y.
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le he Me le he le
For Karsten Luke Piper
At His Wedding toRochelle Ann Orvis
May 29, 1995
Te God whom we have loved, and in
Whom we have lived, and who has been
Our Rock these twenty-two good years
With you, now bids us, with sweet tears,o let you go: A man shall leave
His ather and his mother, cleave
Henceorth unto his wie, and be
One unashamd esh and ree.
Tis is the word o God today,
And we are happy to obey.
For God has given you a brideWho answers every prayer weve cried
For over twenty years, our claim
For you, beore we knew her name.
And now you ask that I should write
A poema risky thing, in light
O what you know: that I am moreTe preacher than the poet or
Te artist. I am honored by
Your bravery, and I comply.
I do not grudge these sweet connes
O rhyming pairs and metered lines.
Tey are old riends. Tey like it when
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I bid them help me once again
o gather eelings into orm
And keep them durable and warm.
And so we met in recent days,
And made the ood o love and praise
And counsel rom a athers heart
o ow within the banks o art.
Here is a portion o the stream,
My son: a sermon poem. Its theme:
A double rule o love that shocks;A doctrine in a paradox:
I you now aim your wie to bless,
Ten love her more and love her less.
I in the coming years, by some
Strange providence o God, you come
o have the riches o this age,And, painless, stride across the stage
Beside your wie, be sure in health
o love her, love her more than wealth.
And i your lie is woven in
A hundred riendships, and you spin
A estal abric out o allYour sweet afections, great and small,
Be sure, no matter how it rends,
o love her, love her more than riends.
And i there comes a point when you
Are tired, and pity whispers, Do
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Yoursel a avor. Come, be ree;
Embrace the comorts here with me.
Know this! Your wie surpasses these:
So love her, love her more than ease.
And when your marriage bed is pure,
And there is not the slightest lure
O lust or any but your wie,
And all is ecstasy in lie,
A secret all o this protects:
Go love her, love her more than sex.
And i your taste becomes rened,
And you are moved by what the mind
O man can make, and dazzled by
His crat, remember that the why
O all this work is in the heart;
So love her, love her more than art.And i your own should someday be
Te crat that critics all agree
Is worthy o a great esteem,
And sales exceed your wildest dream,
Beware the dangers o a name.
And love her, love her more than ame.
And i, to your surprise, not mine,
God calls you by some strange design
o risk your lie or some great cause,
Let neither ear nor love give pause,
And when you ace the gate o death,
Ten love her, love her more than breath.
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Yes, love her, love her, more than lie;
Oh, love the woman called your wie.
Go love her as your earthly best.
Beyond this venture not. But, lestYour love become a ools acade,
Be sure to love her less than God.
It is not wise or kind to call
An idol by sweet names, and all,
As in humility, beore
A likeness o your God. AdoreAbove your best beloved on earth
Te God alone who gives her worth.
And she will know in second place
Tat your great love is also grace,
And that your high afections now
Are owing reely rom a vowBeneath these promises, rst made
o you by God. Nor will they ade
For being rooted by the stream
O Heavens Joy, which you esteem
And cherish more than breath and lie,
Tat you may give it to your wie.
Te greatest git you give your wie
Is loving God above her lie.
And thus I bid you now to bless:
Go love her more by loving less.
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3sExual rElaTions
in MarriagE
l m b d m , d m-
bd b dfd, gd w jd mm d
d. Kp y m v my d b
w w y v; d, i w v
y k y! hbw 13:45
It i ittig tht Hw put my th mig i y i. I ut tht i cicic, ic mt cul- ty wul put my xul lti th tp thi lit tul pt i mig. Agmt i mymtt hmy i th mig t m t cm
ily. Ou cu thi chpt i gig t xul ltii mig, t my.
Lt mig hl i h mg ll, lt th m-ig ul. Tt i, lt xul lti i mig kpt pu, cl, m lmih. All th tm lik u-l, pu, cl, withut lmih imply iul tgil mtph moral m, mly, t i i
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yu xul lti i mig. But wht i i? Si i y ct ttitu tht ipl G. But I it y hlpul t -
cu th til tu i it lt t th gt pitic i Chiti li, mly, ith. Hw 11:6 y, With-ut ith it i impil t pl G. Ti impli tw thig:
1. Sic i i ythig tht ipl G ic with-ut ith yu ct pl G, th, i yu t hith, ythig yu i i, cu ythig yu ipl G.
2. Ti uggt y tgly tht th mut y cl,php cul, ccti tw th c ith i. A Rm 14:23 cm uch ccti. Ity, Wht i t m ith i i. I th w, thtil tu th cti ttitu which w clli i tht thy t pmpt mtit y ht
ith. T thig tht mk ttitu ct iplig tG i tht it t gw m ith i G. Si i ilpcily i it ilu t th puct ith.
t, s, se ret Me
W t cliy hw it i tht u cti cm m ith
t m ith. Fit ll, wht i thi ith tht puc t-titu cti which t i? Hw 11:1 y, Fithi th uc thig hp , th cicti thigt . I th w, ith i th cc w l ith g thig tht G h pmi t u tmw t tity. W ct thm, ut ith h th uctht th pmi i which w hp will cm tu. Hw
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11:6, mti li, y, Withut ith it i impil tpl G. F wh wul w t G mut li
tht h xit tht h w th wh k him.I th w, th ith which pl G i u cmigt him with cc tht, php cty t ll ppc-, h will w u with ll th g thig h h pmi.
Nw, hw uch ith puc ttitu ct which t i? G ck with m t Hw 13:5. Kp yu li m th l my ctt with wht yu h.
T l my i i tht ipl G; it i i. Fitimthy 6:10 y, T l my i th t ll il.Nw th tit t thi iul l ll th il tht gwm it i cttmt: B ctt with wht yu h. Butth wit t l u th y ul t mhw ckup cttmt. But h g t gi i cttmt:
F G h i, I will il yu k yu. T
i cttmt i th pmi G uilig hlp llwhip. T pmi i tk m Dutmy 31:6,
B tg g cug; t i thm, it i th L yu G wh g with yu; h willt il yu k yu.
S th wit t th Hw i yig thi: G h much cmtig, uig, hp-ipiig pmi i hi
W tht, i w h ith i th pmi, w will c-tt. A cttmt i th tit t th l my
which i th t ll t il.Nw w c m clly hw it i tht cti tti-
tu cm m ith t. I w t h ith, i w t tut th pmi G, I will il yu k
yu, th w will l xiu icu, th cpti
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pw my t uy cuity pc will ttc-ti, tht it will tt t puc th il i u. W will
icli t tl, li u icm tx tu, tilizwhy w hult giig guly t th chuch, c-itly gt ut t w w i, u t py my t mk u tl ppty m lil, tc., tc.T il tht cm m th l my l. A th th il i i tht thy t cm m ith.
I w h ith i th pmi, I will il yu -
k yu, th w will m th xity icuitytht c m my, w will h icty th itht ult m th l my. I yu ctt i Chit,tig i th pmi G lwy t hlp yu ty -i yu, th th cmpuli t tl li yu tx -tu, kimp yu giig, glct yu t, p-
p p t will g. It th will ht
y wk, cmplt ccucy th tx tu, gity tth chuch, ithul i tiig t, ig ut yut yu wul h thm t yu. A ll thi w -hi will t i ut ightu, cu it cm mith i th hp-giig pmi G.
Nw, jut i c yu my h lt th ccti twll thi xul lti i mig, lt g ck pick
up th th. Hw 13:4 y, Lt mig hl ih mg ll, lt th mig ul. Ttm, Lt th mig withut i; t i i yuxul lti. Nw w h tht i i wht i tm ith. Si i wht yu l thik wh yu t tkig G t hi w tig i hi pmi. S th
cmm Hw 13:4 c tt lik thi: Lt yu
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xul lti m y ct ttitu tht tcm m ith i G W. O t put it pitily: H
th ttitu th ct i yu mitl xul l-ti which gw ut th cttmt tht cm m c-c i G pmi.
W see se gtfct Me?
But w immitly plm mg. Sm my k,I I m ctt thugh ith i G pmi, why hul
I k xul gticti t ll? Tt i g qu-ti. A th t w t it i, My yu hult ky xul gticti; my yu hul ty igl. Ti i
wht Pul w ugig i 1 Cithi 7:67. H y, By m m I cmmig y t gt mi gtiyxul i. All Im yig i tht xul i i ky,
i p h cmpllig i, mig i th plc t t-iy it. But ( 7), I wih tht ll w (igl) I mylm. But ch h hi w pcil gif m G, ki th. Ti i l ly mkl . Pulcul wih tht y w igl lik him: m th -tglmt mily li m th tg ug t m-i. But h kw tht t G will: Ech h hi w gif
m G. G will m ppl t mi m t igl. H t w y lik Pul; m h -w lik Pt, wh tk hi wi with him hi miiytl (1 Cithi 9:5). S th t w t th quti,
I I h cttmt thugh ith i G pmi, whyhul I k xul gticti? i, Php yu hult.G my wt yu igl.
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But th i c w t thi quti, mly, thcttmt tht G pmi t gi t m th
ll i, pcilly ily i. E Ju, wh ithw pct, gt hugy i gt ti -i t. Sxul pptit i i thi m ctgy. T ctt-mt ith t tk it wy y m th it tk wyhug wi. Wht, th, cttmt m ilti t gig xul i? I thik it m tw thig.
1. I gticti tht i i i thugh igl,
th tht il will cmpt y ut p-ti G hlp llwhip thugh ith. I Philippi- 4:1113 Pul i, Nt tht I cmpli wt, I hl i wht tt I m t ctt I h lth ct cig plty hug, uc wt.I c ll thig thugh him wh tgth m. I Pul
cul l t ctt i hug, th w c l t ctt i G ch t t gi u xul gticti.
2. T th thig cttmt m i lti t g-ig xul i i thi: i gticti i t i u ut t u i mig, w will k it jy it lyi wy tht ct u ith. put it th wy, whilth cttmt ith t put t u hu-
g, wi, xul pptit, it tm th wyw g ut tiyig th i. Fith t tp um tig, ut it tp glutty; it t tp lp, utit kp u m ig lugg. It t tp xul p-
ptit ut But wht? Tt wht w wt t p tht thi chpt tyig t w, thugh pc h ly
llw y ptil w.
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t beee Tt se i g gt g
Fit ll, wh th ith h th w m 1 imthy
4:4 tht ythig ct y G i g thig i t jct i it i ci with thkgiig, th it i c-ct y th w G pywh th ithh tht, it li. A ith h th y it p-
ptit G g gif. Fith will t llw mi cuplt li i y t thml, Wht w ig i ity;it wht thy i th pgphic mi. It, ith
y, G ct thi ct, it i g, it i th whli kw th tuth (1 imthy 4:3). It i th wl
which h plu G gif cupt thm y miu.But thy lg ightully t th chil G, ithwill t lt u iw thm wlly l. Lt th mig hl i honory ll th mig ul.
t ee m te gt te Pt
Scly, ith ic th jy xul lti i migcu it m th guilt th pt. I h i iw, mily,u wh mi ut h t lk ck ct ic-ti, ulty, ict, hmxul ig, y hitul mtuti, pccupti with pgphy,
pmicuu pttig, ic. A wht I h t y t ui thi: I it guily li withi yu, y th gc G, tthw yul th mcy G gi, th h
will yu m th guilt th pt.
T i w cmti t th wh i ChitJu (Rm 8:1).
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th wh t wk ut tut him wh ju-ti th ugly, hi ith i ck ightu
(Rm 4:5).Bl th wh iiquiti gi whi c; l i th m git whm th L
will t ck hi i (Plm 32:12).
H t l with u ccig t u i quitu ccig t u iiquiti. F th h high
th th, gt i hi tt l tw thwh him; th t i m th wt, h m u tgi m u (Plm 103:1012).
I w c u i, h i ithul jut t gi ui t cl u m ll uightu (1 Jh 1:9).
T i chil G t cy y guilt it th
mig . But tht tk li ith cu St lt mk u l ugi th tt u m li.
Rit him, m i yu ith (1 Pt 5:9). Quch hi m-ig t with th hil ith (Ephi 6:16)ith i thS G wh l yu g himl yu (Glti2:20), wh yu k w m t i tht yu might -cm th ightu G (2 Cithi 5:21), wh
yu i i hi y th c (1 Pt 2:24). Ly hl yugi, tk it with yu t th mig .
Chit i yu i tht i him yu might h guilt- xul lti i mig.
Nw lt m cliy mthig I i , mly, tht thugh th guilt u i c wh wy, m
th c mi. I c imgi cupl jut thi
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ggmt ittig tgth i pk. H tu t h y,T i mthig tht I gt t y. w y g I h x-
ul lti with th gil. I w wy m th L, itw jut ight. I wpt tht ight my tim. Ili G h gi m I hp yu c. I th wktht llw, t withut t, h gi him, thy my.A thi t hym ight thy li tgth, hlk t h, th t wll up i h y h y, Whtth mtt? A h y, I jut ct hlp ut thik tht
th gil, tht h ly ight h wh I m. A y lt-, wh th lty hi wi y h w , h himl ittly ifig ck i hi imgiti t ththill tht -ight ig. Tt wht I m y c. All u h uch c. All u h cmmitt i which,thugh gi, mk u pt li m plmtic thi w ht cmmitt thm.
But I t wt t gi th impi tht Chit i pw-l git uch c. H my t m ll th plmtht th c cu u, ut h h pmi t wk ill th plm u g i w l him cll c-cig t hi pup.
k u imgiy cupl I jut t. I p tthik tht th w hppy ig. Ty cm tully t
tiyig xul ltihip cu thy wk t it plyi ctt py lic th gc G. Ty tlk- ut ll thi lig. Ty kpt thig ttl up. Tytut ch th hlp ch th, thy u thi
wy t pc xul hmy , ll, w im-i G gc.
Chit i t ly tht i him w might h guilt-
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xul lti i mig, ut l tht h might th, thugh u c, cy t u m piitul g.
t ue se Wep at st
T thi thig w tht w c y ut ith xul l-ti i mig i tht ith u x git St. Lk t 1Cithi 7:35.
T hu hul gi t hi wi h cjugl ight
likwi th wi t h hu. F th wi tul h w y, ut th hu ; likwi thhu t ul hi w y, ut th wi .D t u th, xcpt php y gmt , tht yu my t yul t py; utth cm tgth gi, lt St tmpt yu thughlck l-ctl.
I Ephi 6:16, Pul y w hul w St with thhil ith. H h y t mi ppl, W St
with ucit xul itcu. Dt ti t lg, utcm tgth , tht St wil l gi thl. Wll,which i it? D w gu ul m St with th hil ith th hil x?
T w mi ppl i tht ith mk u x-ul itcu m gc. F th ppl G lit mig, xul lti G-i m cmig tmptti t i (th i ulty, th i xul tizig, th i pgphic ig, tc.). Fithhumly ccpt uch gif thk.
Nw tic mthig l i 1 Cithi 7:35. Ti i
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y imptt. I 4 Pul y tht th m th wm- h ight ch th y. Wh th tw cm
h, thi i t ch th ipl. Ech hth ight t ly clim t th th y xul gtic-ti. But wht w lly t i wht Pul cmm i
3 5 i iw th mutul ight. H t y,T tk yu clim! k yu ight! H y, Hu-
, gi h h ight! Wi, gi him hi ight! (. 3). Ai 4, D t u th. I th w, h
t cug th hu wi wh wt xul gtic-ti t iz it withut cc th th . Ith ug th hu wi t lwy y t gi thiy wh th th wt it.
I i m thi m Ju tchig i gl ththppy ulllig xul lti i mig p ch pt imig t gi ticti t th th. I it i th
jy ch t mk th th hppy, hu plm will l.
Hu, i it i yu jy t ig h ticti, yu will iti t wht h wt. Yu will l tht th
ppti ticty xul itcu t 10 p.m. giwith t w t 7 .m. ctiu thugh th y ki pct. A wh th tim cm, yu will t
cm lik Shm tk, ut will kw h pc igh killully lg. Ul h gi yu th igl, yu will y,
H climx, t mi, i th gl. A yu will i th lgu tht it i m l t gi th t ci.
Wi, it i t lwy th c, ut f, tht yu hu- wt xul lti m f th yu . Mti
Luth i h u twic wk t mpl ptcti m
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th tmpt. I t kw i Kti w up it y tim t. But i yu t, gi it ywy. I t y t yu hu-
, k it ywy. I ct, h k yu my g with-ut. T gl i t ut th i giig wht th thwt. Bth yu, mk it yu im t tiy ch th ully pil.
Lt mig hl i h mg ll, lt th m-ig ul. Tt i, t i i yu xul l-ti. A tht m, h ly th ttitu ly
th ct which cm m ith i G hp-giig pm-i. W hul ll gully k ul: D wht I mlig ig h it t i th cttmt ith ith xiu icuity uli? Tt will gi yu hlp ihu littl ig thicl cii.
I imply ti t hw th impct ith th -pct xul lti i mig. Fit, ith li G
wh h y tht xul lti i mig g cl hul ci with thkgiig y th whli kw th tuth. Sc, ith ic th jy xul lti i mig cu it m th guilt th pt. Fith li th pmi tht Chit i llu i, tht i him w might h guilt- xul ltii mig. A lly, ith wil th wp xul i-
tcu git St. A mi cupl gi lwt th h tht cit pt wh thy im t gi much xul ticti t ch th pil. It mk mjut wt t pi th L wh I thik tht tp ll thjy tht th xul i mig ig, it l p t m wp git u cit .
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4MarriagE, singlEnEss, and ThE
ChrisTian virTuE o hosPiTaliTy
t d d; b -d
d b-mdd k y py. abv ,
kp v y, v v m-
d . sw py w m-
b. a vd , v , d wd gd vd : wv pk,
w pk gd; wv v, w
v by gd pp d
vy gd my b fd J c. t
m b y d dm v d v. am.
1 P 4:711
Wht iig thi chpt i i Chit t mgi- i th wy mi ppl igl ppl hw hpitl-ity t ch th. O, t put it th wy, i it tuwhichI li it itht G mily, tht cm it ig yw ith y ith i Chit, i m ctl m
ltig th mili tht cm it ig y mig
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pcti pti, th hw tht piitul, tl m-ily (th chuch) lt t ch th (mi igl) i
cucil wit t th wl tht u li it thupmcy Chit tht u ltihip tjut y tu, ut y Chit. I lg t Chit mgithugh mi ppl lig igl ppl it thi li, igl ppl lig mi ppl it thi li thk Chit th gpl.
bece he i dcpe
Ju i, Wh gi th littl cup cl wt because he is a disciple, tuly, I y t yu, h will y m l hi w (Mtthw 10:42). O cu, Jul i tht w hul l u enemy (Mtthw 5:44), Pul i t gi cup wt t u enemy (Rm 12:20).
Tt ki l will ci it w. Buthere
Ju y,Shw impl ki t ppl pcily because they are ol-lowers o Jesus. A tht t will ci it w.
I th w, wh yu lk it th y igl p- mi p yu th c llw
Ju th it yu w tl milythtltihip with Ju tht yu hul w ut yu ht
i pcticl kilik hpitlity Ju k. Jui th cu h. H y, thi because he is my disciple. Iwill h i pcil wy i yu gi my icipl ik tht . I yu h him it yu hm, thi myk. Tt i wht I m wh I y, I lg t Christmg-i thugh mi ppl lig igl ppl it thili, igl ppl lig mi ppl it thi li.
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Te Mte W te g g
Jut w m w itucti w lk t th txt
i 1 Pt. H yu k, Why i G gi u i mk mtil ui? A why h i u -i m th mk thm w th lit thith tht it i w th tht w c li i uw i? I G mt t h gt pi (Gt i thL gtly t pi, Plm 96:4), why t jut c-t gl with i ut gt ht wh c ly pk
t G t t ch th? Why ll th i whyhul p l t cmmuict t ch th? A
why t gu wt wi li lm lili i wi?
T l p wul w t th qu-ti. But th I wt t mti i thi: G m -
i mtil thig cu wh thy ightly ightly u, G gly i m ully kw iply.T h tllig th gly G (Plm 19:1). Cith i th i th lili th l yu will kwm G g c (Mtthw 6:2628). S ith thig h h m hi iiil ttiuthi tl
pw ii tu (Rm 1:20). Lk t mig
Chit th chuch (Ephi 5:2325). A f yut thi ik thi cup, yu cl th L thutil h cm (1 Cithi 11:26). Whth yu t ik wht yu , ll t th gly G (1 Cithi10:31). T mtil wl i t i itl; it i igt iply G gly wk u ht t kw him
lu him m.
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M se h
Phyicl lity i g. G m it lti hi gl-
y. A h it u t ctiy it whip him withittht i, t it i lti t him t u it i wytht mk much him i ig gi u jy. All thth ict ig mig igl. It ptct um ilizig x g. Ty t g; thy m y G t h G. A it ptct u m -ig x il. Ty t il; thy itumt
whipthy wy t mk much Chit. H thky txt: 1 imthy 4:15. It i th mt imptt txti th Bil th mig phyicl pptit x.
Nw th Spiit xply y tht i lt tim m willpt m th ith y tig thml t citul pi-it tchig m, thugh th iicity li
wh ccic , wh i mig quitic m tht G ct t ci withthkgiig y th wh li kw th tuth. F -ythig ct y G i g, thig i t jct iit i ci with thkgiig, it i m hly y th w G py.
Sx tw gt il i t-ctuy Ai Mi-
twty-t-ctuy Amic. A G pt th wh l th plm th ilty x y mly ucig iig thm i t y th tch- mictchig m (. 1). Wht i Gluti? Eythig ct y G i g; thig i t jct i it i ci with thkgiig m hlyy th w G py. Yu mk hly y uig
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it ccig t th w G i Chit-pt py.Yu mk x hly y uig it ccig t th w G i
Chit-pt py.
M Mc Ctse Me
All tht i imply itucti t mk cl tht i thuty mig phyicl pl th ct ltw Chit th chuch, th uty igl phyicl pl th piitul tu G m-
ily tht gw y gti ith, t pcti xt mk cl i ll th thig tht ith mig igl i iliz . Mig and clicy c iltu. Spu c whip ch th whip x whip thi chil whip ul-icm--ki uy-ig pw. Sigl c whip utmy ipc.
Sigl c lk mig c-cl Chiti cm-pmi with xul i. Mi ppl c lk up i-gl mk immtuity ipiility icmp-tc hmxulity.
But wht I m tyig t cliy i tht th Chit-xlt-ig wy t mi th Chit xltig wy t igl. T wy t u u i, u pptit i m-
ig i igl tht mk much Chit.
Tt im setece 1 Ct 7:9
A I thik I hul mk jut i cmmt ut tht i-mu tc i 1 Cithi 7:9: I thy ct xcil-ctl, thy hul my. F it i tt t my th t
u with pi. Rmm, thi i xplicitly t
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mandwm (. 8). A h i th thig I wt t yut it: Wh p k t mi, kwig tht
igl h h wul u with pi, it t h tm tht mig cm m chl th x i.Pul wul m tht i iw Ephi 5.
It wh p milt m imply u th m xmplh tk hi xul i, h th mthig with it tht w mut all with ll u phyicl ii w wul mk thm m whip1) h ig it it
cmity t G w; 2) h uit it t high pt-t l c; 3) h tp th muic phyicl pl-u it th muic piitul whip, 4) h lit thch G g i y ; 5) h k t ulhi plu y mkig h jy hi jy; 6) h gi thkt G m th ttm hi ht cu h kw hl tht h miut thi plu.
M Ct sw hptt
Nw t th txt, 1 Pt 4:711, wht iig thi chpt,mly, i Chit t mgi i th wy mi
ppl igl ppl hw hpitlity t ch th. Wwill wlk thugh th txt quickly with i cmmt
th w ut impl iu implicti py thtG wul u thi w pwully t chg u hi gly u jy.
Te E i ne
V 7: T ll thig i t h. Pt kw tht
with th cmig th Mih th th g h i
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(1 Cithi 10:12; Hw 12:2). T kigm G hcm (Luk 17:21). A th th cummti ll
thig cul wp th wl i y ht tim.T, jut Ju tught u t igilt u li t wtch, Pt y (. 7), T l-ctll -mi th k yu py. Tt i, cultit
y pl ltihip with th yu hp t c tc t hi cmig. Dt umili with Chit. Yu t
wt t mt him tg. A k i py ll th hlp
yu will i th lt y tht yu my t i thy gt t (Luk 21:36). A t p yuptity t ig yu t py. B l-ctll --mi th k yu py.
le i Pmt
T 8: A ll, kp lig th tly,ic l c multitu i. L i pmut, it will ll th m th w . Why? B-cu th pu t tiulti th lt ywill put ltihip u tmu t. But i thy w will ch th, th wl will wtchig t i w l: By thi l l ppl will kw tht yu my
icipl, i yu h l th (Jh 13:35). Willw c u ch th ult il, will g ul u ht?
hptt wtt gm
V 9 gi m tht l, i it tllig tht h m-
ti ig it withut gumlig? Shw hpitlity t
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th withut gumlig. I w lig tly li cig multitu i, th w will t guml -
ily will w? L c much wht mk u guml. S h-pitlity withut gumlig i th cllig Chiti i th lty. I th y y wh yu t i high, th itht cig, t guml ui th
y y, Pt y, wht w t i pctic hpitlity.Ou hm t p. Bcu u ht p.
A u ht p cu G ht i p t u. D
yu cll hw Jh th ptl cct th l G withu l ch th i lti t hpitlity? H wt i 1
Jh 3:16-17, By thi w kw l, tht [ Ju] li w hili u, w ught t ly w u li th th.But i y h th wl g hi th i [igl mi!], yt cl hi ht git him, hw G l i i him?
stew g ve gce
Tt w h pc t g i thi txt. Excpt t im-ply pit t wht hpp wh w gt tgth i u hm.V 10: A ch h ci gif, u it t -th, g tw G i gc. Stw
G i gc! I l tht ph. Ey Chiti i tw cuti, mg, w, itiut, -
t G i gc. Wht gt t li!Ey Chiti li gc. G i l t mk ll graceu t yu, tht hig ll ucicy i ll thig t lltim, yu my u i y g wk (2 Cithi9:8). I yu i hpitlitytht yu t h much
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pl tgth pl wlthg. T yu wtitimit yy. Yu will p ll th m G
gc. Yu will lk ll th m t th wk Chit tyu w wk. A O wht lig ppl will gt i yuimpl hm. Yu littl ptmt.
Wecme oe ate a Ct h Wecme y
S th it i: th Chiti itu hpitlity Chit-x-ltig ttgy l i th lt y.
Nw m clig pplicti: Fit, t y. I yulg t Chit, i yu h y ith ci hi ig hpi-tlity, which h pi with hi w l, th xt thihpitlity t th. Rm 15:7: Wlcm th Chit h wlcm yu, th gly G. Yu li gc yy. B g tw it i hpitlity.
Sc, t mi cupl. Pl tht yu hpitlity i-clu igl pplmll gup, Suy i, picic,hliy clti. A t mk ig l ut it. Jut tul. A t gt tht th ight-y-l igl ixty-y-l igl fy- ty- thity- twty-y-l igl, ml ml, mly mi mi, ic wiw. Tik lik Chi-
ti. Ti i yu mily, m ply m tlly thyu kilk.
Ti, t igl ppl. Shw hpitlity t th iglppl and t mi cupl. Php it m . Buthul it? Wul it t mk uuul mtuity t-ility? Wul it t mk G gc i yu li?
I py tht th L wul thi utiul wk mg
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