dating questions and answers
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Dating Q & AWhat You Have Always Wanted to Know
But Were Afraid to Ask
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What’s the Big Deal with Dating?
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What’s the Big Deal with Dating?Why do people date?
It’s all about ________.NEEDS
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What’s the Big Deal with Dating?What are your needs?
Rearrange your needs into the three categories: spiritual, emotional, and physical.
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What’s the Big Deal with Dating?Mark 2:3-12
What spiritual needs did this man have?
What emotional needs did this man have?
What physical needs did this man have?
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What’s the Big Deal with Dating?1 Thessalonians 4:18__________________________
James 5:16 __________________________
John 13:35 __________________________
Galatians 6:2 __________________________
encouragement
confession & prayer
love
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What’s the Big Deal with Dating?1 Corinthians 12:25 __________________________
Hebrews 10:24 __________________________
1 John 3:11 __________________________
have concern
encourage to love & service
love
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Who are You Looking for?
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Who are You Looking For?What do you look for in a date?
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Who are You Looking For?List the godly characteristics of the men in these verses:
1 Peter 3:7-9
1 Timothy 5:1-2
1 Timothy 3:8-9
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Who are You Looking For?Check out what these passages say about being a woman of God:
1 Peter 3:1-6
Proverbs 31:10-30
Titus 2:4-5
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out
for You?
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
Do you believe you have a soul mate?
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
Look at how God worked in Isaac’s life in Genesis 24.
[1] This servant believed that God had ________________ a wife for Isaac. (v. 14)
[2] Abraham believed that God would ______________________ to help him find a wife. (v. 40)
chosen
send an angel
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
[3] Rebekah’s parents believed God ______________________ for her to become Isaac’s wife. (v. 50-51)
arranged
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
Check out the Book of Ruth and her love story.
[1] Ruth’s first husband, Malhon, led her to _______________. (1:16)
[2] After Malhon died, God’s law said she should marry her ____________ _________________________. (4:3-5)
God
closestnext-of-kin
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
[3] After the person who should have married Ruth refused, Ruth married ________________. (4:9-10)Boaz
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
Check out Hosea’s love story.
[1] God asked Hosea to marry a woman who would ___________________. (1:2)
[2] Hosea obeyed God and chose to marry _____________. (1:3)
cheat on him
Gomer
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
How do you find that special someone God has for you?
Return to the story of Isaac in Genesis 24.
[1] Choose someone with a __________________ foundation. (v. 3-4)
[2] ____________ for God to bring you someone. (v. 12)
spiritual
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Does God Have Someone Picked Out for You?
[3] Look for someone with a _________________ heart. (v. 13-14)servant
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How Do You Build a Spiritual
Relationship?
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How Do You Build a Spiritual Relationship?What kinds of things do you like to do on a date?
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How Do You Build a Spiritual Relationship?How do you keep your dating relationship God-centered?
Here are 4 dating secrets:
[1] Spend time _______________ with God. (James 5:13, 16)
[2] Spend time ______________ with God. (Luke 5:16)
together
alone
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How Do You Build a Spiritual Relationship?[3] Give God ______________. (Luke 6:46)
[4] _________________ God together. (Matthew 25:34-36)
control
Serve
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Do You Believe In Love at First Sight?
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Do You Believe In Love at First Sight?Do you believe in love at first sight?
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Do You Believe In Love at First Sight?[1] At first, Jacob and Rachel’s relationship began with a __________________ attraction. (29:17)
[2] Their relationship soon was based on an ___________________ attraction. (29:18-20)
physical
emotional
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Do You Believe In Love at First Sight?[3] After they were married, _______________ set in. (30:1-2)
Rachel became _____________.
Jacob became ______________.
[4] Their _____________________ lasted to the end. (33:1-2; 35:16-18)
reality
commitment
angry
jealous
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What Do You Need?
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What Do You Need?What are your emotional needs?
Here are two of your greatest emotional needs that often go overlooked:
___________ and ________________trust reassurance
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What Do You Need?When you trust or do not trust, you usually judge someone’s:
___________________ (1 Timothy 3:8-11)
___________________ (Hebrews 11:6)
sincerity
reliability
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What Do You Need?Here are just a look at some of the “trust” dilemmas that people face:
Can I trust _________ person? Can I trust that I am ________ ____________ for a Christian relationship? Can I trust ___________? Can I trust ________?
good
another
enough
myself
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What Do You Need?What do these verses say about listening?
Proverbs 12:15
Proverbs 31:28,31
1 Timothy 3:7
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What Do You Say?
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What Do You Say?What kinds of things do you talk about on a date?
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What Do You Say?
Girls talk to get information and to connect or to gain rapport. They talk about people rather than things. They convey feelings and details. They are relationship oriented.
Girl Tendencies
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What Do You Say?
In general, boys talk to give information or to report. They talk about things -- school, sports, and food -- rather than people. They convey facts, not details. They are goal-oriented. They focus on solving problems.
Boy Tendencies
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What Do You Say?List the communication principles found in the following verses:
Proverbs 31:28 Proverbs 28:13
Proverbs 18:13 Proverbs 11:13
Proverbs 12:19 Proverbs 12:18
Proverbs 16:28 Proverbs 22:11
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What Do You Say?Emotional Benefits
Saying the right things in the right ways lead to your partner being:
__________________________
__________________________
__________________________
noticed
valued
loved
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How Do You Know if Someone Really
Loves You?
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How Do You Know if Someone Really Loves You?
How do you know if someone loves you?
How does a person learn to love?
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What Do You Say?Show Me Love
Here are three ways in which people show other people love:
__________________________
__________________________
_________________________
what they say
touchwhat they do
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How Do You Know if Someone Really Loves You?
Check out God’s pictures of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7:
Love ... Love does not ... is patient
is kind keeps no record of wrongs
rejoices with the truth always protects always trusts always hopes
always perseveres
envy boast
act proud act rude
act self-seeking get easily angry
delight in evil
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How Do You Keep the Relationship Together?
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How Do You Keep the Relationship Together?
What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do to maintain a relationship?
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How Do You Keep the Relationship Together?
God’s Super Glue
God offers one thing that will keep relationships together and strong. Check out the answer in Ephesians 5:21:
_____________________________SUBMISSION
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How Do You Keep the Relationship Together?
What it is.
1. _____________________________
2. _____________________________
yielding your rights
willing to suffer
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How Do You Keep the Relationship Together?
What it isn’t.
1. _____________________________
2. _____________________________
3. _____________________________
4. _____________________________
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How Do You Keep the Relationship Together?
Peter offers these submissive tipsfor both women and men in
1 Peter 3:1-7:
Women Men
_____________ _____________
_____________ _____________
gentle
quiet spiritconsideraterespectful
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What are You Waiting For?
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What are You Waiting For?List all the physical needs you have.
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What are You Waiting For?Sex principles from Genesis 2:
[1] You are not an _______________ (2:18-20)
[2] Best in _________________ (2:24) Hebrews 13:4 by definitions
______________________
______________________
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marriage
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What are You Waiting For?[3] Sex is about becoming ________
(2:24)one
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What are You Waiting For?God gives at least three reasons
why sex is so good.
[1] Sex is ___________________
[2] Sex creates ______________
[3] Sex is ______________________
spiritual
babies
fun and romantic
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How Far is too Far?
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How Far is too Far?Where would you draw the line?
How far is too far?
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How Far is too Far?sexual boundaries principles:
[1] Avoid ___________________ ___________________ . (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5)
[2] Don’t look __________________ . (Matthew 25:27-30)
sexualimmorality
lustfully
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How Far is too Far?You are probably going too far when
you experience sexual _________. arousal
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How Far is too Far?How can you stay pure and not go
too far?
[1] Determine where you are going to ________________________ before you are on a ____________.
[2] ________________ about your boundary with your date.
draw the linedate
Talk
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How Far is too Far?[3] Take it _________________.
[4] Take steps __________________ when you feel like you are about to go too far.
slow
backwards
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What if You Have Already Gone too
Far?
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What if You Have Already Gone too Far?List 5 Reasons You Should Wait
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What if You Have Already Gone too Far?Set a Game Plan
[1] You do not have to ___________.
[2] Let Jesus and others meet your ________________.
date
needs
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What if You Have Already Gone too Far?[3] Choose to date someone for
______________________ than because he/she is HOT, will say yes, and your friends will like him/her.
[4] Meet each others’ _____________ needs first, then _______________ needs, and last — ___________________ needs.
deeper reasons
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