cpr talk 3 taming the tongue (roniecolomacfcbrunei) 07.2014.pptx
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Couples for Christ BruneiChristian Personal Relationship (CPR)Talk Number 3
Taming the TONGUE!
“Tremendous POWER of the
TONGUE.”
A. Christian IdealTremendous Power of the Tongue
Can be used for blessing,
honor and encouragement
Far too often used for evil and destruction
A. Christian IdealTremendous Power of the Tongue
A. Christian Ideal...
Much wrongdoing is committed with
the tongue….
A. Christian Ideal....
Wrongdoing in speech can be very harmful to
our unity and loving relationships in CFC.
A. The Christian Ideal (Modern Climate)
Hostile to the notion of
controlling speech.
A. The Christian Ideal (Modern Climate)
Commu-nicate your
feelings.
A. Introduction(The Christian Ideal)
Having speech in order is a vital aspect of love.
Love must be communicated.
A. Introduction(The Christian Ideal)
Ephesians 4:29Do not let any unwholesome talk
come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building
others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those
who listen.
A. Introduction(The Christian Ideal)
Having speech in order is a crucial aspect of righteousness.
Having speech in order is a vital aspect of our relationships in CFC.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
1. SlanderThe dictionary
defines slander as the utterance of false charges or
misrepresentations which defame or damage another's
reputation.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...1. Speaking against
(2 Cor. 12:20) For I am afraid that when I come I may not find you as I want you to be, and you may not find me as
you want me to be. I fear that there may be
discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition,
slander, gossip, arrogance and disorder.
C. Destroys trusts and undermines committed personal relationship....
Never speak in a way that causes brethren to mistrust
one another.
Don't speak in a way that stirs up quarreling or conflict.
D. How do we handle problems of wrongdoing or incompetence?
Go directly to the person concerned.
If necessary, talk to his household head or other CFC leader
who has responsibility for him.
It is possible to talk to another mature person in order to get help in knowing how to handle the
matter. In this case, do not name names.
E. "Exceptions" to the general rule of not speaking against:
When we reprove people
When we have a dispute with someone that we cannot resolve.
When we tell a person's head that we know of or have heard of something wrong
the person has done .
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
2. GossipGossip is
information shared without constructive
purpose or in an inappropriate way with wrong people
or in the wrong time.
Fun
Fact
s....
20,0007,000
Fun Facts....
Video:Gossip
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
b. When we do talk about others
• It is OK to talk about others' good qualities or successes.
• It is OK to share about good things that have happened.
• It is OK to pass on neutral information.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
c. We should not listen to gossipProverbs 17:4
A wicked person listens to
deceitful lips; a liar pays
attention to a destructive
tongue.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...d. We are all called to live in the light with one another.
Ephesians 5:8-13For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the
light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose
them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible and everything that is illuminated
becomes a light.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
e. Confidentiality
• Many things we should not speak
about when they are told to us unless we
have a clear responsibility
to do so.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
e. Confidentiality…
• We should not ask others to promise us to keep something we have told them secret.
• We should not promise anyone to keep something secret before they tell us what it
is. Nor should we promise afterwards.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...f. There are times when we are clearly responsible to speak about what we know:
• When we know about wrongdoing
in the life of someone in CFC that is not being
handled properly.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
3. BusybodiesTaking on
matters which are not our
responsibility or concern.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
3. Busybodies… (criticism)
• We are to take responsibility for our responsibilities and trust others to do
the same.
• If it is a serious matter, go to the appropriate authority and then leave it
with them.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
• Don’t pass on another's criticism it.
• Evaluate something you were not involved in.
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
4. Negative Humour A joke or
something that passes for humor
that is at the expense of another
human being.
…..dami kong tawa dito mga singkwenta #corrupt #sikat #artist ha ha…
B. Some Key Problem Areas...
4. Negative humor….
• Sometimes the humor we engage in is based on something negative about
another person.
• Negative humor is usually a poor attempt at expressing something
positive.
C. Speech that Strengthens...
1. Our speech should increase love and trust
and respect for the person
spoken about.
C. Speech that Strengthens...
2. Our speech should
increase faith and hope.
C. Speech that Strengthens...
3. Our speech should
express love, affection and
support
Take interest in the lives of others!!!
(Matthew 12:36-37)“But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day
of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by
your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be
condemned.”
“Let us learn how to speak so that
everything we say will impart grace to those
who hear.”
The Challenge...
Question:Are you ready to
tame your Tongue?