The Missing Feeling Technique

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3Unlock the circuit with emotional fluidity

Cycle Tool

Natural Flow of Feelings

Any “missing feeling” derailsthe technique

The orphan feeling technique.

• Identify the missing feeling.• Strengthen implicit memory systems of

emotional expression and feeling the feeling.• Strengthen explicit memory systems of affect

labeling.• Includes practicing 10 – 20 expressions daily for 5

days with an EBT Connection Buddy.• 10 X 10 to rewire allostatic circuits that blocked

emotional expression and feeling the feeling.

“Hostility Buddies”Provider demonstration: A+ Anger (primitive, sub-cortical, body activation, effective) vs. C- anger (non-primitive, neocortical, no body activation, ineffective).

Voluntary. Hostility Buddy. Instruct to stop if not safe. After 1 – 2 weeks, continue with 10 X 10 on circuits that blocked anger expression.

Model humor, delight, warmth and gritty joy!