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Bullying(FromBISD’sCodeofConduct)

BullyingmeansengaginginwriCenorverbalexpressionorphysicalconductthatschoolpersonneldetermine:

Willhavetheeffectofphysicallyharmingastudent,damagingastudent’sproperty,orplacingastudentinreasonablefearofharmtothestudent’spersonorofdamagetothestudent’spropertyorissufficientlysevere,persistent,orpervasiveenoughthattheacKonorthreatcreatesaninKmidaKng,threatening,orabusiveeducaKonalenvironmentforthestudent(TexasEducaKonCode25.0342).

Nostudentshallengageinanyformofbullying,norshallanystudentencourageorassistanyotherpersoninbullying.

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Staff:Areyouabully?

InaddiKontothestate’sdefiniKonofbullying,staffalsobullywhentheyconsistentlyusedegradingnegaKvecommentsopenlyaboutastudentorstudents.Whetherthisisonestudentorawholeclass,itissKllbullying.

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Cyberbullying

Bullyingdoesn’tjusthappenfacetoface.ItincludeselectroniccommunicaKons,including:e‐mail,Facebook,TwiCer,textmessaging,etc.

CommunityofRespectEverywhereWhatBullyingisNot

Bullyingdoesnotincludenormalchildhoodbehaviorsuchassiblingrivalryorone‐on‐onefighKngofsiblingsorpeerswithcompeKngclaims.Nordoesitincludeactsofimpulsiveaggression‐—inotherwords,aggressionthatisaspontaneous,indiscriminatestrikingout,withnointendedtarget.SuchaggressionisoXenrelatedtoaphysicalormentalhandicap,suchasauKsmorAsperger’ssyndrome(highfuncKoningauKsm),andmustnotbedismissedorexcused,butitisnotbullying.Spontaneous,deliberate,indiscriminatestrikingoutalsomaybearesponsebyabulliedkidtoanaCackbyabully,butitisnotbullying.

BullyingdoesnotincludecriminalacKviKesthatmayhavebegunasaconflictandescalated.

Source:ExcerptsfromTheBullytheBullied,andtheBystander,BarbaraColoroso©2002www.kidsareworthit.comkidsareworthit,inc.800.729.1588•fax303.972.1204

CommunityofRespectEverywhereTeasingvsTaun:ng:Thereisadifference

Teasingisafunthingyoucandowithyourfriends‐‐–withpeopleyoucareabout.TaunKngisachoicetobullysomeoneforwhomyouhavecontempt.

Teasing1.  Allowstheteaserandpersonteasedtoswaproleswithease.2.  Isn’tintendedtohurttheotherperson.3.  Maintainsthebasicdignityofeveryoneinvolved.4.  Pokesfuninalighthearted,clever,andbenignway.5.  IsmeanttogetbothparKestolaugh.6.  IsonlyasmallpartoftheacKviKessharedbykidswhohavesomethingincommon.7.  IsinnocentinmoKve.8.  IsdisconKnuedwhenpersonteasedbecomesupsetorobjectstotheteasing.

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Taun)ng1.  Isbasedonanimbalanceofpowerandisone‐sided:thebullytaunts,thebullied

kidistaunted.2.  Isintendedtoharm.3.  InvolveshumiliaKng,cruel,demeaning,orbigotedcommentsthinlydisguisedas

jokes.4.  Includeslaughterdirectedatthetarget,notwiththetarget.5.  Ismeanttodiminishthesenseofself‐worthofthetarget.6.  InducesfearoffurthertaunKngorcanbeapreludetophysicalbullying.7.  IssinisterinmoKve.8.  ConKnuesespeciallywhentargetedkidsbecomedistressedorobjecttothetaunt.

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Flir:ngvs.SexualBullyingFlir:ng1.  Allowsandinvitesbothpersonstoswaproleswithease.2.  Isn’tintendedtohurttheotherperson—isanexpressionofdesire.3.  Maintainsthebasicdignityofbothpersons.4.  IsmeanttobeflaCeringandcomplimentary.5.  IsaninvitaKontohavefuntogetherandenjoyeachother’scompany.6.  InvitedsexualaCenKon.7.  Isintendedtomaketheotherpersonfeelwanted,aCracKve,andincontrol.8.  IsdisconKnuedwhenthepersonwhoisbeingflirtedwithbecomesupset,objectstotheflirKng,or

isnotinterested.FlirKnghasplayfulnessaboutitthatsexualbullyingdoesnot.Itisneverintendedtoharmandisan

invitaKonfortwopeopletogettoknoweachotherbeCer.AswithanyotherinvitaKon,itcanbeacceptedorrejected—andthepersonwhoiniKatedtheflirKnghonorseitherresponse.

CommunityofRespectEverywhereSexualBullying1.  Isbasedonanimbalanceofpowerandisone‐sided:thebullysexuallytaunts,thebulliedkidis

demeanedanddegraded.2.  Isintendedtoharmandexploit.3.  Isinvasiveandintendedtoassertthestatusofthebully.4.  Isintendedtobedegradinganddemeaning.5.  IsintendedtoexpresscontrolanddominaKon.6.  Isintendedtoviolatetheboundariesofthetarget.7.  Isintendedtomaketheotherpersonfeelrejected,ugly,powerless,oruncomfortable.8.  ConKnuesespeciallywhentargetedkidbecomesdistressedorobjectstothesexualcomment.InsexualbullyingthereisnoinvitaKon—justanaCack.Thetargetisembarrassed,humiliated,and

shamedandtendstofeelpowerless.ItisnottheintenKonofthebullytoengageinhealthysexualflirtaKonwithanotherperson—theaCackismeanttohurt.Ifthetargetprotests,he/sheisoXenlabeleda“bitch”whoisupKghtandcan’ttakeajoke.

Source:ExcerptsfromTheBullytheBullied,andtheBystander,BarbaraColoroso©2002www.kidsareworthit.comkidsareworthit,inc.800.729.1588•fax303.972.1204

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Whathavewedone?

•  DevelopedprotocolandproceduresforreporKngincidentsoncampus.

•  ContactedandconsultedwithBarbaraColoroso,internaKonallyrenownedexpert

•  ArrangedpresentaKonbyspeakerJusKnLookadooforcounselors,taskforcemembers,principalsandLeadershiponcommunicaKon,respectandclimatechange

•  ExpandCrimeStoppersoneverycampus

•  ReinstatecharactereducaKon/virtues…C.O.R.E.values

•  DevelopedSafetyZonewebsite

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CommunityofRespectEverywhere,C.O.R.E.,isanongoinginiKaKvethroughoutBirdvilleISDbackedbythephilosophythatpromotesposiKveandsafelearningclimateswhiledevelopingresponsibility,accountabilityandrespect.EachofusteachescharactereducaKonbythewaywetalk,thebehaviorswemodel,theconductwetolerate,thedeedsweencourage,andtheexpectaKonswetransmit.

Itisnotonemorethingonourplate…itistheplate.

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C.O.R.E.Valuesfor2010‐11SchoolYear•  Firstsixweeks–Responsibility•  Secondsixweeks–Empathy•  Thirdsixweeks–Kindness•  Fourthsixweeks–Honesty•  FiXhsixweeks–Acceptance•  Sixthsixweeks–Courage

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CommunityofRespectEverywhere–C.O.R.E.SuggesKonsforCampusImplementaKon

•  Establishacampustaskforcetofacilitate/overseeiniKaKves–includestudentsfromallranges

•  Writecampuspledge,signedbyallstaffmembers,outliningcodeofconduct•  Incorporateweeklymessagesofrespect/responsibilityoverannouncements,in

newsleCers,onwebsiteusingvideoclips,publicserviceannouncements,moKvaKonalquotes,etc.

•  AdoptacommunityserviceprojectinwhichallstaffandstudentscanparKcipate

•  DevelopmentoringprogramsbetweenstaffandstudentsofHS/MS/ESfeeders•  Honorrandomactsofkindness/communityheroes

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