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Cooperative Discipline. Revenge and Power!. STAGES. There are three different stages and techniques in power/revenge situations: The Rumbling Stage: Make a Graceful Exit The Eruption Stage: Use Time Out The Resolution Stage: Set Consequences; Conduct a student-teacher conference. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
REVENGE AND POWER!
Cooperative Discipline
STAGES
There are three different stages and techniques in power/revenge situations:
The Rumbling Stage: Make a Graceful ExitThe Eruption Stage: Use Time OutThe Resolution Stage: Set Consequences;
Conduct a student-teacher conference
Always keep in mind:Be Prepared – these situations are going to
happen, we can take steps to minimize the fallout.
Remain Unimpressed – students want our full attention. They feel powerful when we react. Always remember how students are trying to manipulate us and keep your cool.
Use Mental Reminders The only person I have control over is me. I can control my personal reaction to what’s
happening. I am a good teacher. Just because ___ is exploding
right now doesn’t change that fact. I can handle this situation. It’s not so awful. I only
have to decide which graceful exit to use right now. Students will know I’m in control if I remain calm.
Check the barometer: Meet and greet students at the door; this allows us to check their pressure reading.
Keep your black belt handy: Have the mindset to go with the flow NOT fight back or retreat.
THE RUMBLING STAGE
Warning signs: students’ face or body language, hear it in their voice, smile when disregarding rules
We must remain calm. Do not use sarcasm or animosity. Humor directed at the teacher or situation may bring a more graceful exit. Sarcasm directed at the student will not help the situation. It’s like adding fuel to the fire!
THE RUMBLING STAGE
Teachers cannot actually make students do anything. We can acknowledge this and show that we are both human. This fuels cooperation. When students know that we are not superior and in turn they are not inferior, they tend to cooperate more than confront. The more we try to control students, the more they resist.
THE RUMBLING STAGE
Strategy #1: Remove the AudienceWhen others stand by to see who “wins,” confrontations
invariably intensify. We can’t send the class room somewhere else, but we can remove their attention.
Make an important announcement.Start a discussion on a topic of general interestChange the activityDo something unexpectedThe key is to distract the rest of the class and also move
away from the studentPostpone confrontation – “We’ll finish this discussion
after class.”
THE RUMBLING STAGE
Strategy #2: Table the MatterWhen we are tired, we have less patience.
Students often know this and will try and push our buttons either directly or indirectly.
Use simple sentences to postpone resolutionThen we can choose the time and place to
continue the discussionImplement a “gripe box” (with guidelines)
You can use the comments/suggestions to hold a conference or start a class discussion at a later date.
THE RUMBLING STAGE
Strategy #3: Schedule a Conference Keep a clipboard handy with a note that says “Please choose the
time you prefer a conference with me” and list the times you are best available.
If a student challenges you, hand her the clipboard and walk away. Pick up the clipboard at the end of class. If the student didn’t sign up, select the conference time yourself
and state the time to the student. What are possible times? Before school, after school, lunch,
between classes, during planning periods. You can also do impromptu conferences during independent practices, small-group work, or cooperative learning activities.
Conferences can be as short as two minutes or as along as fifteen.
THE RUMBLING STAGE
Strategy #4: Use a Fogging Technique Respond to inflammatory statements as if they are of little or no
importance. Agree with student -- one of the most effective because this is the
last response they would expect When we agree, students have no way to continue the argument. Change the subject -- this deflates the student’s challenge We aren’t condoning the student’s words when we don’t reply; our
goal is to get the student to end the misbehavior. State both viewpoints -- uses reflective listening and states the
teacher’s position. The format is “To you _______________. To me ________________.”
Make the distinction between understanding and agreeing; ask for understanding, but let the student save face and see the outcome as a draw.
Refuse responsibility -- Counteract with a positive statement **make sure student really doesn’t need help first before refusing
to help Dodge irrelevant issues -- inform the student that is not the issue,
restate the issue and move on. “That’s not the issue. The issue is _______.” That puts us back in
control. Dodge “I don’t agree” statements, too because you are not asking for agreement, just understanding.
Deliver a closing statement -- this is a one-liner to communicate to the student the confrontation has ended. We must remain calm!
“Are you done yet?” “You’ve mistake me for someone who wants to fight.” “You’re confusing me with someone else. I don’t argue with students.” “Unless you have something new to add, I’m finished with this conversation.”
Call the student’s bluff -- “Let me get this straight. I asked you to __________ and you are refusing. Is this correct?”
The choice is to choose more appropriate behavior immediately or be held accountable. You can have a notebook or tape recorder handy to record the answer.
Take a teacher time out -- If you are losing your cool, remove yourself from the situation; this allows you to save face, regroup, and resolve later.
“What’s happening is not OK with me. I need some teacher time-out to think about it. We’ll talk later.” “I need some time to get control of my thoughts. Give me a few minutes, please.” “I’m calling a time-out. I need a few minutes to calm down.” “I’m going to walk away now and give myself some time to chill out. We’ll talk later.”
THE ERUPTION STAGE
Strategy #1: Time out in the classroomThis should be out of the direct line of vision
of the rest of the students. You can partition off a small area of the room with a bookcase, moveable chalkboard or bulletin board.
Strategy #2: Time out in another classroomPartner with a fellow teacher so that you
each can send students to his/her room. The students in another class usually aren’t interested in being an audience for the misbehaving student.
THE ERUPTION STAGE
Strategy #3: Time out in a special roomThis is a step between another classroom and the
principal’s office. Check with your school about a time out area.
Strategy #4: Time out in the officeThis is the last resort. You might have to use this when
all in-school choices have failed or the misbehavior is so malicious that intermediate steps are not an option.
Strategy #5: Time out in the homeThe most sever time-out technique is suspension from
school. This should be avoided when possible. Plus many students see this as a reward.
THE ERUPTION STAGE
Implementing Time Out:Language of Choice“You may sit quietly in your seat without bothering others
or you many go chill out in Mr. J’s room. You decide.”Defuses confrontation because we are not commanding or
threatening.Simply state the specific behavior expected and the
consequence of noncompliance.Having a choice makes students feel in control.The only time this is useless is when the behavior is so
disruptive or dangerous the student must be removed immediately
Time Out
The Who SquadWhen a student refuses the teacher gives a
second choice“Would you like to go by yourself or would
you like me to get someone who will help you go?”
Squad should be called immediately whenever a teacher feels physically threatened.
Time Out
Duration of time out: First offenders can be given five minutes.Older students or repeat offenders might get
fifteen to thirty minutes.Don’t offer the student the option of setting
the time limit.Students can create a re-entry plan while in
time out“What I will do differently in class is
__________”
THE RESOLUTION STAGE
Guidelines for effective consequences: Related Consequences Logically connected to misbehavior Must establish consequences that take place at school not at home Reasonable Consequences Equal in proportion and intensity to misbehavior Use consequences to teach students to behave appropriately not to
make them suffer Respectful Consequences Stated and carried out to preserve student’s self-esteem No name-calling, blaming, shaming or implied moral judgement Not accompanied by a lecture or discussion about behavior Consequence is state in polite, unemotional, matter-of-fact terms
THE RESOLUTION STAGE
Reliably Enforced ConsequencesTactic 1: Buttering Up (give a compliment, offer a helping
hand, or express appreciation; it’s hard to give a punishment when they are friendly and compliant)
Tactic 2: Promises, Promises (promises are often all talk and no action)
Tactic 3: I’m Sorry (apologies are appropriate, but not a consequence)
Tactic 4: Invoking Guilt (students can bring up difficult home life or poor treatment by others to make us feel guilty. We are not to make them feel like victims, but choose productive behavior)
Tactic 5: Competition (when students compare you to another teacher)
THE RESOLUTION STAGE
Selecting the ConsequenceLoss or Delay of PrivilegesLoss or delay of activityWhen students misuse time we can deny or
delay an activity or have them come back before/after school or during lunch to make up the time
Loss or Delay of using objectsLoss or Delay of access to school areas
THE RESOLUTION STAGE
Loss or Delay of Freedom of InteractionDenied interactions with other studentsRequired interactions with school personnelSet up a meeting with the principal, guidance counselor, or
dean of students; purpose is to talk about what has happened and to come up with a plan so it doesn’t happen again
Required interactions with parentsCalling home during class and having student speak directly
to a parent is effectiveRequired interactions with policeVandalism, stealing, dealing drugs, or bringing weapons
require police involvement
THE RESOLUTION STAGE
RestitutionReturn, repair, or replacement of objectsRepayment of timeCompensation to classmates and teachersSchool serviceReteach Appropriate BehaviorExtended practiceWritten reportsWrite an assigned report that is logically connected
to the misbehavior and emphasizes the value of making the more appropriate choice.
Forming Relationships with Students We Dislike: Change our Perceptions Turn weakness into strengths; “stubborn” become “steadfast” or
“persistent” Use positive language Change our Reactions Five A’s of encouragement: acceptance, attention, appreciation,
affirmation, and affection Act Confident in our ability We must appear confident; students can sense weakness Demonstrate that we care Caring is an action, not a feeling; we do it on behalf to the
students. We can control our actions even if our feelings are contrary.
Teaching Students to Deal with Their Emotions:Verbalize feelingsAsk students to tell us what they are feeling or
we can take a guessOur job is to simply listen and indicate we hear
what they are sayingWe do not tell students what they should or
shouldn’t be feelingAfter they’ve expressed feelings, we can ask
“What brings on these feelings?” “Is there anything I do that makes you feel that way?”
Developing Anger Management Plans Classroom
Move to a study carrel or “peace table” Write down feelings Brief exit of classroom (use the water fountain, run an
errand, etc) Have an agreed-upon signal
Personal “What triggers my anger?” “What are my body responses to anger?” “How do I deal with my anger?” “Is my approach effective?” “If not, what else could I do?”