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Decide: Who You are Going to Talk To?
• Is it a good time to start a conversation?• In a hurry?• Supposed to be working?
Decide: Who You are Going to Talk To?
• Is he/she approachable?• Open vs. closed body posture• Busy?• Talking privately?
Starting a Conversation• Greet the other person
• Ask or say something about PRESENT, PAST or FUTURE
From: Social Skills Training – Jed Baker
PRESENT“What are you (doing, eating,
reading)?”
“How do you like this (class, lunch, project, game)?”
“I like that (shirt, hat, book).
Where did you get it?”
PAST“How was your
(day, week, weekend, vacation)?
“I saw our science teacher at the store
yesterday”
“Did you hear about (something in the news, TV show, a
sports game)?”
FUTURE“What are you
going to do (after school, Friday
night, this evening, this
weekend, during the summer, next
year)?”
“I’m going to camp next summer.”
Starting a Conversation
• Greet the other person
• Ask or say something about PRESENT, PAST or FUTURE
• Or, Ask something about the other person’s interests
“How Do I Know What the Other Person is
Interested In?”• Something they are wearing, doing, or watching.
• Something you know about them from the past
• Common interests• Same class• Favorite TV show• Same club or group• Favorite music group
“Friendly Files”From Inside Out by Michelle
Garcia Winner
Starting a Conversation• Greet the other person
• Ask or say something about PRESENT, PAST or FUTURE
• Or, Ask something about the other person’s interests
• Listen – Show you are interested
Show You Are Interested
Give Feedback
“hmm”“uh-huh”“really!”
Nod your head
Look at or face the other person
Starting a Conversation
• Greet the other person• Ask something about PRESENT,
PAST or FUTURE• Or, Ask something about the other
person’s interests• Listen – Show you are interested• If the other person seems interested,
follow up with on-topic questions and/or comments
How Do I Know When the Other Person is
Interested?”• Expression – Friendly? Interested?
• Eye contact – facing you or turning away?
• Busy?
Sentence Starters
I can’t believe…
Did you ever…
What are you going to…
Did you know…
It would be great if…
I wonder if…
I can’t wait until…