congruent coaching: an exploration
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We have opportunities to coach people all the time. Much of what we see as coaching is actually undercover training. Real coaching is richer—offering support while explaining options. In this interactive session, Johanna Rothman invites you to explore how to coach, regardless of your position in the organization. Teaching is just one option for coaching. You have many other options, depending on your coaching stance. You may select a counselor’s stance if you are managing up or a partner’s stance if you are a peer. You might even select a reflective observer’s stance or a technical advisor’s stance, depending on the situation. We will explore what to do when you see opportunities for coaching but you haven’t been asked to coach. Bring your coaching concerns, whether you are coaching onsite, or coaching at a distance, coaching one-on-one, or coaching teams. Let’s learn and build our coaching skills together.TRANSCRIPT
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Johanna Rothman Rothman Consulting Group, Inc.
Known as the “Pragmatic Manager,”Johanna Rothman helps organizational leaders identify problems and risks in their product development and recognize potential “gotchas,” seize opportunities, and remove impediments. Johanna is the technical editor foragileconnection.com and is author of Manage Your Job Search, Hiring Geeks That Fit, Manage Your Project Portfolio: Increase Your Capacity and Finish More Projects, the 2008 Jolt Productivity award-winning Manage It! Your Guide to Modern, Pragmatic Project Management, and Behind Closed Doors: Secrets of Great Management. She is currently writing a book about agile program management. In addition, Johanna writes columns for Stickyminds.com and projectmanagment.com, and blogs on jrothman.com, andcreateadaptablelife.com.
Congruent Coaching: An Exploration
Johanna Rothmanwww.jrothman.com@[email protected]
781-641-4046
© 2013 Johanna Rothman
Why Are You Here?
What are your objectives today?
Everyone: write three cards about a situation where you
would like some coaching, one to a card. Keep those cards
for later.
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Let’s Do a Little Practice
Pair up into coach/coachee
Send me your coach
I’ll give you a project
You’ll practice some coaching
We’ll debrief together
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What is Coaching vs. Others?
Coaching: Offering options with support
Feedback: Information given in the present about an event in
the (recent) past with the hope of influencing the future
Mentoring: professional developmental partnership through
which one person shares knowledge, skills, information and
perspective to foster the personal and professional growth of
someone else.
Teaching: instruction. Formal guidance in studies. 4
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Feedback “Recipe” From BCD
Create an opening to deliver feedback.
Describe the behavior or result in a way the person can
hear.
State the impact using “I” language.
Make a request for changed behavior.
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Coaching Checklist
Could this person be more effective if he or she made
some changes?
Is the coaching about the work or behaviors related to
the job?
Does the person want to work on this?
Does the person want your help?
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How to Coach
Ask questions
Generate options with support
Help person see results of each option
Develop SMART goals
Decide when to check in again
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Ask Questions
Help people see the real problem
Ask questions
Ask the person to collect data
Ask the coachee to ask questions of themselves
What else can you do/have you done?
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Generate Options With Support
Use the Rule of Three
Consider using “Steps” instead of options
Use alternatives other than teaching
When possible, do not lead the coachee to your answer
Active listening skills count
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Evaluate Results/Consequences of Options/Alternatives
Help people see the potential results of their options
Help people see the potential consequences of their next
steps
Language matters!
What else can you say?
What other tools can you use?
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SMART Goals
Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Relevant, Timely/
Timebound
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Action Plans
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Action Who When
Starts with a verb Real name of a human being
Date in this millenium
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Speed Coaching
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Organize yourselves into triads: Coach, coachee, observer
You will each have the opportunity to take one of the positions.
Coachee, take one of your cards.
Coach, start coaching.
Observer, you will provide feedback at the end of the time.
I will timebox you.
After everyone has a chance, we will debrief together.
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What’s Your Preferred Coaching Role?
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Explore Coaching Stances
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Do You Ever Inflict Help?
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In your triads,
Did you find yourself inflicting help?
Did you want to inflict help?
Brainstorm all the ways you inflict help
We’ll debrief together
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How Do We Not Inflict Help?
In your teams
Brainstorm ways to prevent yourselves from inflicting
help
We’ll debrief together
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References
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Champion, Douglas, David Kiel, and Jean McLendon.
Advisor’s Roles- Choosing a Consulting Role: Principles and
Dynamics of Matching Role to Situation. Originally published
in Training and Development Journal February 1990
Bolton, Robert. People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to
Others, and Resolve Conflicts. Simon & Schuster, 1979.
Rothman, Johanna and Esther Derby. Behind Closed Doors:
Secrets of Great Management. Pragmatic Bookshelf. 2005.
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Stay in Touch?
Pragmatic Manager: www.jrothman.com/
pragmaticmanager
Please link with me on LinkedIn
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