communications: quest for excellence
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A presentation about attitude, communication, and how they work together by productivity expert and CRP (Chief Recovering Perfectionist) of www.ThisTimeIMeanIt.com, Scott "Q" Marcus. The presentation was for owners of residential care centers on the 2014 Quest for Excellence cruise in the Eastern Caribbean in January of 2014.TRANSCRIPT
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(a.k.a “Understanding how attitude enhances and affects communication.”)
Scott “Q” MarcusCRP, www.ThisTimeIMeanIt.com707.442.6243Facebook.com/ThisTimeIMeanIt@ThisTimeIMeanIt
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Your Attitude
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Your Attitude
Pretty Good69%
Extremely Upbeat10%
Average19%
Below Average1%
79%
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Co-Workers’
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Pretty Good49%
Extremely Upbeat3%
Average36%
Below Average10%
Extremely Poor1%
52%
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Others’
Extremely Upbeat1%
Pretty Good30%
Average57%
Below Average12%
31%
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Attitude
“Complex interaction between feelings and beliefs that affect how we react to our environment.”
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Honest Attitude PrayerSo far today, God, I've done
all right.
I haven't gossiped, haven't lost
my temper, haven't been
greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish,
over-indulgent, or told
anyone to mind their own
business and stay out of mine.
I'm really glad about that!…
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Honest Attitude Prayer
But, in a few minutes,
God, I'm going to get out
of bed, and from then on
I'm probably going to need
a lot more help.
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Examples of Attitude 7
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I bet living in a nudist colony takes all the fun out of Halloween. -‐Age 13
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Examples of Attitude 7
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Logical
Physical
Emotional
Spiritual
< Activity! Inspiration >
< Execution Creation >
The Basics
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Logical
Physical
<<<<Change
Emotional
Spiritual
< Activity! Inspiration >
< Execution Creation >
The Basics
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Logical
Physical
<<<<Change
Emotional
Spiritual
< Activity! Inspiration >
< Execution Creation >
The Basics
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Attitude
Feelings Beliefs
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Feelings
Experience(Observations)
Attitude
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Feelings
Experience(Observations)
Biology
Attitude
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Response
Feelings
Experience(Observations)
Biology
Attitude
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Conflict Cycle
Expectations
CALM
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Noise
Conflict Cycle
Expectations
CALM
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Noise
Conflict Cycle
Expectations
Resolution
CALM
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Noise
Conflict Cycle
Expectations
Resolution
Follow Up
CALM
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Reasons for Conflict
•Shoulds
•Disqualifying
•Inappropriate Rescue
•Perfectionism
•Boundary Violation
•Selective Viewing
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Support vs. Saving
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• Can I help?
• Want my help?
• Do I want to help?
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Conflict Styles
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•firecracker•cold shoulder•backstabber
•memory lane•social zinger•last word
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Dealing with Others
• Happy or Right?
• Five Year Rule
• Understand intentions
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The 3 Rs
• Recognize
• Reflect
• Redirect
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Think “LAST”
L isten
A pologize (Acknowledge)
S olve
T hank
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L
A
S
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• Begin with “I”• No Interruptions
• No Denials• No Cross Complaints
Fair Fighting
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1. In
tent
ion
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Putting it all Together
2. Pr
iming
3. Q
uesti
oning
4. Li
stenin
g
5. C
larify
ing
6. Su
gges
ting
7. T
hank
ing
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(a.k.a “Understanding how attitude enhances and affects communication.”)
Scott “Q” MarcusCRP, www.ThisTimeIMeanIt.com707.442.6243Facebook.com/ThisTimeIMeanIt@ThisTimeIMeanIt