communication. parts of communication body language wordstone 7%38% 55% congruence
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Communication
Parts of communication
BodyLanguage
Words Tone
7% 38%
55%
Congruence
Basic of model for effective communication
Push
Assertive
My Agenda Your Agenda
Pull
Responsive
Energy Energy
Assertive
Being assertive is:
– using your energy to move another person towards an outcome that you believe is right.
Key:– clear purpose – Language clear and concise– Express idea/emotion/expectation first
• Reason later
Responsive
• Being responsive is: – about using your energy to respond to another person,
• understand them & their problems
– letting them know that you are listening
• Key: – Putting aside own ideas– Genuine interest– Actively listening– Questioning to understand them– Working at their pace– Letting them do most of the talking
If you are being assertivewhat would they be like?
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If you are being responsivewhat would they be like?
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Responsive
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Can you tell me more about….? Where is it we disagree?
In what way? What happened next?
Which did you find worked best?
Reflect & Summarise
Reflecting that of the speaker
Softer, rather than forceful
Use of silence to enable thinking
“Uh huh” etc. to encourage further disclosure
Reflecting that of the speaker
Good eye contact, maybe sitting rather than standing
Nodding to encourage further speech
Paying full attention to speaker
Listening activity
The robber
Questioning
What types of questions can you use?
Types of useful questioning
Open
Probing
Closed
In what way is my homework not good enough?
What would I need to do better?
So if I change that it will be good?
Listening & questioning activity
Assertive
Being assertive is:
– using your energy to move another person towards an outcome that you believe is right.
Key:– clear purpose – Language clear and concise– Express idea/emotion/expectation first
• Reason later
Assertive
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Tone
Body Language
Typically starting with I/My…
My view is …/I strongly recommend … /I’m devastated about…. because/I want us to have reached a decision by…….
Concise
State idea first…..before any reason
Calm & natural pace – not over fast
Using level of emotion appropriate to your statement
Natural rise and fallStrong volume
Firm even stance – think of string
Strong level eye contact
Feet firmly planted on floor
Free large gestures & movement
Assertive activity
“My name is…and I’ve got something to say”
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