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how is your communication?

moving forward

three great high-performance questions

what … should I keep on doing?

what … should I stop doing?

what … should I start doing?

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irrational thought

unwanted feelings

destructive behaviour

recognise the chimp


challenge the chimp

The key question to ask is:

“Do I want these thoughts, feelings or behaviours?”

answer “no”, and take responsibility


take responsibility

you are responsible for managing your chimp

you can’t bully your chimp

make friends with your chimp, and it will start to listen to you

gain control of your life and enable high performance


three techniques | one

allow the chimp to have its say

let the chimp say everything it wants to

you will feel better afterwards

and you can return to rational human conversation


three techniques | two

remember what your chimp says

deal with the chimp in a rational way

use facts, truth and logic

calm your chimp, and address its fears and concerns

remember fears and concerns can be real


three techniques | three

you can distract or reward your chimp

distract : count to ten before you speak

reward : give yourself a treat when you achieve something


finally

the chimp is faster than the human, but not as fast as the computer

beat it

GIGO – Garbage In, Garbage Out


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“Our beliefs become our thoughts, out thoughts become our words, our words become our habits, our habits become our values, our values become our destiny.”

Mahatma Gandhi (1868-1948)

your beliefs

BELIEFS THOUGHTS WORDS HABITS VALUES DESTINY

what are the recurring messages you communicate to yourself?

can you distinguish between positive and negative messages?


challenging negative self talk

ALTERNATIVES PERSPECTIVE PLUS …REALITY

is this actually true?

is there any evidence?

what else could this mean?

can I reframe this positively?

is it really so bad?

will it matter in five years time?

is this helping me perform?

what can I learn from this?

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building positive self talk

eliminate the negative

make positive affirmations

and tell great stories

offload negative influences

use present tense messages

confront your fears

focus on things you enjoy© Richard Longman Associates Ltd 2015

rhyme helps you remember

remember powerful stories

stories and rhymes help you believe

believing self-talk


visualisation | one

what you focus on, you attract

use all your senses

be the star, not the audience


visualisation | two

what you focus on, you attract

create a routine

put rest breaks to use


it can’t make you exceed your capabilities but it can help you reach your potential

VISUALISATION

communication & confidence

communicate with yourself

communicate with others

focus on quality messages

acknowledge the difficulties

recognise the importance of underpinning high performance with communication

recognise that beliefs influence destiny

distinguish between positive and negative

build and believe positive self talk

create a strong visualisation of your success

incorporate this mental training into your physical training


let’s talk

a word or two is all it takes to get started

if you are in pursuit of high performance and/or if confidence is something you want to develop then let’s talk

www.richardlongman.com

Richard Longman Associates Ltd Company Number: 8573663 Registered Office: 1 Chapel Terrace, Sheffield, S10 3HF

t +44 114 230 1367 m +44 7969 284464 e [email protected]

http://www.richardlongman.com

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