collaboration, not confrontation parents and teachers working together
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“COLLABORATION, NOT
CONFRONTATION”
Parents and Teachers Working Together
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Respect is a Two-Way Street
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7 Ways Parents & Teachers Build Partnerships
Research shows that parents and teachers build
partnerships that help children succeed when they:
• 1) Engage together in meaningful dialogue
• 2) Show mutual respect
• 3) Actively listen to one another
• 4) Collaborate on issues that affect student learning
• 5) Empathize with one another
• 6) Open themselves to learning from each other
• 7) Involve students as responsible collaborators in their
own learning• Source: http://mpricemitchell.visibli.com/share/f1VnHq ‘Parent Engagement:
A Paradigm Shift’, Marilyn Price-Mitchell.
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“Collaboration, Not confrontation”
• Global #gtchat Powered by TAGT recently held its 1st Back to School Special ~ “Collaboration, Not Confrontation …Parents and Teachers Working Together” with a guest panel of teachers who work with high ability students.
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Guest Panelists
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Guest Panelists
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Guest Panelists
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What comments serve as roadblocks to productive
parent-teacher meetings?
My child is BORED!
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What the parent thinks they are saying …
• My child is not being
challenged
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What the teacher is hearing …
• You’re not doing
enough to help my
child!
• You are incompetent
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The result …
• “It closes the door to
communication,
immediately.”
• “Hearing this from a
parent does not help
the conference be
productive”.
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What should be done on both sides …
• Teachers should request more details. Sometimes it is about kids racing through material, but resisting going deeper.
• It is important for parents to provide as much information as possible about why they feel this way.
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What comments serve as roadblocks to productive
parent-teacher meetings?
When teachers say, “ALL children are GIFTED!”
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What the parent is hearing …
• Your child does not
possess any
exceptional academic
abilities.
• “Your child doesn’t
belong in my class.”
• “If he’s so gifted, why
can’t he …”
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The result …
• Parent becomes
defensive/offensive
• Emotions take over
• Communication breaks
down
• Too often damage is
irreparable
• Child may suffer
consequences
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What should be said.
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What parents should do …
• Educate yourselves
about giftedness
• Prepare notes to take
to conference to rebut
this statement
• Remain calm
• Realize when it’s best
to move the
conversation forward
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What comments serve as roadblocks to productive
parent-teacher meetings?
• Mrs. Jones, being a
helicopter parent isn’t
helping!
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What is a ‘helicopter parent’?
• The parent who is
always at the school
and in the classroom;
asking unnecessary
questions.
• They have 0% faith in
the teacher before
even giving them a
chance.
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What is a helicopter parent?
• The parent who sends
multiple emails every
week, who ‘pops in’
after school, who
questions every
decision.
• They trust neither their
child or their child’s
teacher to do anything
right.
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What is a helicopter parent?
• The parent who ‘swoops in’ when the child is finally being challenged and they don’t make a 100% or need to work to show mastery.
• They are afraid their child will fail; they don’t let them advocate for themselves.
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What is a helicopter parent?
• A parent who doesn’t
leave the teacher the
time and energy to do
what you are asking.
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What strategies have you, the teacher, used in
diffusing tense situations involving parents?
• Listen, listen, listen
• Restate what you’ve
heard & listen
• Listen for the story
behind the emotion
• Be genuine, respond
to concerns … it’s not
a power struggle; it’s a
team effort.
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What strategies have you, the teacher, used in diffusing
tense situations involving parents?
• Have detailed notes
• Address issues as
soon as they happen
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What strategies have you, the teacher, used in diffusing
tense situations involving parents?
• Let parents know you are open to feedback.
• Remind parents that their child is a ‘work in progress’
• Remember that parents may be intense – intensity in students may come from home environment
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What strategies have you, the teacher, used in diffusing
tense situations involving parents?
• Focus on the student.
They are the reason
you are talking.
Sometimes people
forget this.
• Remember, we are
talking about unusual
kids; they aren’t like
other students.
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What is the best way to resolve issues between teachers of
gifted students & regular education teachers? Should
parents get involved?
• Ideally, teachers need to sort it out themselves
• Teachers should sit down together. Professional discussion can diffuse tension.
• Parents should only become involved if the student is being affected.
• Parents should go to administration to avoid repercussions on their child.
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What strategies can parents use to successfully
advocate for their identified gifted child with teachers
who are uncooperative?
• Talk to the teacher
directly; meet 1:1
• Focus on child’s needs
• If necessary, meet with
teacher & administrator
• If unresolved, request
change of teacher
• If principal
uncooperative, change
schools … FAST
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What strategies can parents use to successfully
advocate for their identified gifted child with teachers
who are uncooperative?
• Ensure that your child
is doing what is
needed in class first.
• Ask specific questions
about how class is
helping student.
• Document answers in
case further action is
required.
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What strategies can parents use to successfully
advocate for their identified gifted child with teachers
who are uncooperative?
• Consider why the
teacher is resistant ~ Is
it the extra work/effort
required to challenge
the student? Is it a lack
of belief in the label
‘gifted’? Is it personal
dislike?
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What strategies can parents use to successfully
advocate for their identified gifted child with teachers
who are uncooperative?
• Take an advocate such
as a psychologist to
the meeting even if not
recognized by district.
• Plan in advance.
• Write down proposed
actions to be taken.
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What strategies can parents use to successfully
advocate for their identified gifted child with teachers
who are uncooperative?
• Find ways to be
supportive of the
school; bank goodwill.
• This can result in
positive things for your
child.
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What strategies can parents use to successfully
advocate for their identified gifted child with teachers
who are uncooperative?
• Remember that you
are modeling for your
child on how to handle
a less-than-perfect
situation.
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This was a brief glimpse of what a Twitter chat has
to offer! Follow @gtchatmod on Twitter for the latest
updates on #gtchat.
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Thank you to the Texas Association for the
Gifted and Talented