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for your essay submissions.

I look forward to reading them!




3recap

understandinginterpersonalrelationships

debate


debate(not the thing you catch fish with)

details

** those debating in week 5 please see me after tute**


3recap


debate


exchange ofsymbols

role of self and perception

non-verbal communication

think: how much of it isintentional or non-intentional

communication

how do you see it?

ALC101 so far...

mental mirror/perceptual tendencieslanguage is symbolic,

obeys rules, subjective

how much of a message’seffectiveness depends on NVC?


even eyebrows communicate!


3recap


debate


http://www.sarajofrieden.com/artworks/portfolio-3/two-people

sarajo frieden, 2005

Understanding Communication inInterpersonal Relationships




http://www.sarajofrieden.com/

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DYAD = SOCIOLOGICAL TERM TO DESCRIBE GROUP OF TWO PEOPLE

= SMALLEST POSSIBLE SOCIAL GROUP

Communication in a dyad therefore,is interpersonal/dyadic communication.


two sides tocommunication

in an interpersonal

context

contextually interpersonal

communication

qualitatively interpersonal

communication

there are two ways to look at this.

individuals are unique

sales clerk and customer‘I might as well have been

talking to a machine’

asking stranger for directions

hardly interpersonal

transaction?

regardless ofcontext

scarce -gives itmore value!

DYADIC COMMUNCATION

precious - has moremeaning

try and recall some of thedyadic interactions you had

recently.which were contextual and which were qualitative?


why do we form relationships?

let us now dig deeper


recap from lecture:why we form relationships

appearance

similarity complementarity

reciprocal attraction

competence

disclosure

proximity

rewardsrewards - costs =

outcome

we know what we like.

we like people who are like us.

but, we also like people with skills/attributes we don’t have.

we like people who like us!

we like to share and have shared, personal information.

very simple principle here, we are more likely to form a relationship with someone geographically close. But the internet… has changed things hasn’t it?

social exchange theory, will the relationship ‘give’ us more than it ‘costs’ us?

we like talented people, but not too talented, thanks.


http://interpersonaldivaz.blogspot.com/

Computer-mediated communication is the way in which we communicate through computers.

The computer is the vessel in which the communication takes place. CMC occurs through a network of computers whether that is in a chat room, instant message, or email.

A relationship could start because of CMC. Sometimes CMC can be a way for people to become comfortable with someone before they actually meet.

CMC

and in the 21st century...

... is proximity irrelevant with the Internet?


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let us take a look at modelson how interpersonal relationships

develop, and how communication changes along the way.

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no, not them.

:P


Knapp’s model of relational development

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a key indicator of the level of closenessin an interpersonal relationship can be reflected in

intimacy


4 dimensions of intimacydictionary: ‘close union, contact, association & aquaintance’ is limiteddoes not explain what kinds of closeness create a state of intimacy

Physical IntimacyBeing rocked, fed, hugged, held, yes not just sexual!!!, kisses, struggles (companions who have endured physical challenges together - sport or emergencies can form life-long bonds

Intellectual ExchangeTalking to me about your essays may not necessarily forge strong relational bonds, but when you engage in a person in an exchange of important ideas, a kind of closeness develops that can be powerful and exciting.

Emotional Disclosure Exchanging important feelings

Shared ActivitiesFrom working side by side at a job to meeting regularly for exercise. Not a guarantee of intimacy, but it may develop unique ways of relating that transform the relationship from an impersonal one. Partners may also invent private codes.


the digital age and CMC has transformed the way we communicate, and our handling

of intimacy!

http://thenextweb.com/2009/09/14/intimacy-in-communication/




we’ve

1. discussed the dyadic nature of interpersonal relations

2.figured out the reasons why we form relationships and

3. discovered the steps to relational development


time to put all that to good use.


Interpersonal Communication: ACTIVITY 2: Analysing your relationships

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10 min

In groups of 2 or 3

EACH identify two key relationships in your life to analyse

(hint - you need to be comfortable talking about them)

For each relationship

- Identify which attraction criteria each person meets (textbook p.130-133)

- Determine if/where on Knapp’s relationship development model eachrelationship fits (p.138-141)

- What type of intimacy can be identified in each relationship (p.146-148)


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now let’s look at the conceptof self-disclosure

in an interpersonal relationship.

thanks for sharing!


Self-Disclosure in Interpersonal Relationshipsthe process of deliberately revealing information about oneself that is significant and that would not be normally known by others.

more likely to occur in a qualitative interpersonal relationship?


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8p2dYpeO6U&feature=related

self-disclosure in contextual

interpersonal relationship?

not a good idea,perhaps.




this is the point where self-conceptand self-disclosure meet


Johari Window

how well do you know yourself and how welldo you think people know you?

So.


Johari Window

http://www.chimaeraconsulting.com/johari.htm

Joe Luft and Harry Ingham were researching human personality at the University of California in the 1950's when they devised their Johari Window. Using a form of word derivation normally reserved for suburban house names, they based the title on their two first names.

- useful tool to know ourselves better

Ra the r t han measu r i ng personality, the Window offers a way of looking at how personality is expressed.




let’s give it a try


remember the 1-word & 3-word descriptions

in week 1 and 2?


1. The public area contains things that are openly known and talked about - and which may be seen as strengths or weaknesses. This is the self that we choose to share with others

2. The hidden area contains things that others observe that we don't know about. Again, they could be positive or negative behaviours, and will affect the way that others act towards us.

3. The unknown area contains things that nobody knows about us - including ourselves. This may be because we've never exposed those areas of our personality, or because they're buried deep in the subconscious.

4. The private area contains aspects of our self that we know about and keep hidden from others.http://www.chimaeraconsulting.com/johari.htm




http://kevan.org/johari.cgi

Give it a try yourself!




‘self concept’ revisited?






"Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after."

Anne Morrow Lindberghpioneering American aviator and author

June 22, 1906 – February 7, 2001

parting words.

week 4 reflection question:what are your thoughts on the quote above?

this is not compulsory, but it helps me help you think deeper into our unit. :)

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