B U I L D I N G C O N F I D E N C E

CHAPTER 2

WHO HAS CONFIDENCE?

• Get into groups of 4• List 10 people that have a lot of confidence

CONFIDENCE

• Not a trait you are born with• Must understand the definition of confidence• DEF: belief that you have when you believe that

you are capable of handling a situation successfully• Preparation and practice• One speed bump- stage fright

STAGE FRIGHT

• Also called communication apprehension• DEF: person afraid to speak, usually in public

situations • 80-90% of Americans

STAGE FRIGHT EXAMPLE

• http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3k9TNhTaP6g

STAGE FRIGHT & FEAR

• Fear is designed to protect us from harm• Activates our emergency systems to deal with

danger• Fight or flight emergency system• Avoid something fearful- can become a phobia

SYMPTOMS OF STAGE FRIGHT

• Forgetting the words• Upset stomach• Dizziness• Heartbeat• Shortness of breath

ESTABLISHING AN ACCURATE PERCEPTION

• Perception: how you see things• Perceive: to gain an awareness or understanding

of a person, idea, or a situation• Accurate perception: gain knowledge• Inaccurate: blow out of proportion, make issue

larger

YOUR PERCEPTION OF THE AUDIENCE

• Giving a speech is not life or death• Speaking fears are often unwarranted • Audience often unaware of the nerves of the

speaker

PERCEPTION OF THE SPEECH

• Problem is what the speech should mean• Speech is not a show• Speech should be the opportunity to share, enjoy

a meaningful moment, etc.

YOUR PERCEPTION OF YOURSELF

• Sometimes difficult to accept who we are• Easy to perceive ourselves as not good enough• Should not always have to be perfect- but while

still striving for excellence• See yourself as unique• Don’t‘ fear being human• Self-esteem

EXAMINING CONFIDENCE

• 10 components to help you build self confidence• Content• Organization• Notes• Friendliness• Impression• Dedication• Empathy• Newness• Conviction• Enthusiasm

CONTENT

• Have something worth while to say• Be confident in your content• Build evidence

ORGANIZATION

• Have some type of an outline that is easy for both you and your audience• Every speech needs organization• Have a main point or idea that is being addressed• Audience will appreciate your guidance

NOTES

• Jot down ideas in outline form• Notecards are security nets, but not a substitute

for preparation • Avoid the two biggest problems with notes:• Having too many words on one single notecard• Having too many notecards

FRIENDLINESS

• Be congenial• Gain confidence when you show friendliness and

receive positive feedback from your audience• Don’t view your audience as faceless people

IMPRESSION

• Getting off to a good start is essential• How your audience perceives you from the start

is very important• Also refers to the way that you are dressed and

groomed• But not draw away from your main message

DEDICATION

• Practice, practice, practice!• Rehearse the delivery of the speech• Similar to practicing for a sport

EMPATHY

• Know how it feels to feel the same way as others• Empathy- a sincere understanding of the feelings,

thoughts, and motives of others• You can feel much more at ease after knowing

how your audience feels• Understand feedback better• Find common ground

NEWNESS

• Apply some originality• Could mean taking a different approach to

discuss a topic in a unique way• One of the best ways is to tell a personal story

CONVICTION

• Believe in what you say• Boring without conviction• Confidence is strongly magnified with a strong

belief in your topic

ENTHUSIASM

• Get fired up!• No one wants to listen to a monotone mannequin• Inspire your audience by showing them you are

fired up in two ways:• Intellectually• Physically

CHAPTER 2 WRAP UP

• Ensuring success with your spoken words• Solid speech with confidence and strong

communication