CHANGING YOUR ATTITUDE HOW TO STOP BEING AVERAGE

Prepared by: Ingrid Jonker

November 2015

Contents

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What is attitude

Task 1 – Listing your own positive and negative attitudes

Why should I change my attitude

Negatives and Positives – How to identify a negative attitude

Task 2 – What are the things that affect your attitude

How to use Questions to keep focusing on the positives

Five truths about Attitude

Task 3 – List the successful people you know

Rules for happy living

What is attitude? at·ti·tude NOUN 1.A settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior: 2."she took a tough attitude toward other people's indulgences"

“ATTITUDES ARE CONTAGIOUS. IS YOURS WORTH CATCHING?” -

Unknown

Task 1: List three positive attributes about your self

1. ________________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________________

List 1 negative attribute about your self

1. ________________________________________________________________

“You can make yourself happy or make yourself miserable, the amount of work is the same” – Don Juan

Why should I change my attitude If we really choose our attitude, why would someone choose to be negative???

“Your attitude has a profound impact on your life” – Dr John C Maxwell Author of the book ‘Attitude 101’

I CAN’T IN TO I CAN

Research that has been done, shows that money you make in any endeavour is determined only by 12.5% of your knowledge and 87.5% by your ability to deal with people – in other words your attitude.

WHY ME?

TRY ME !

The distance between I can and I cant is the distance between your ears!!!

Negatives & Positives - How to identify a negative attitude

Think of a recent example of someone you encountered with a negative attitude. What “told” you the person was negative?

Angry

Negative body language

Defensive

Confronting others

Words they use

Can’t admit mistakes

Won’t forgive

Jealousy

Critical of everything

Anti everything

Mistrustful

Uncooperative Problem orientated Hostile to happiness

If any of these characteristics sounds “familiar” then today is the day to change your attitude

Task 2: “Ability is what you are capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it” – Lou Holtz

What are some of the things that affect your attitude? What can I control? What can’t I control? ____________________________________ ________________________________ ____________________________________ ________________________________ ____________________________________ ________________________________ ____________________________________ ________________________________

Using Questions to focus on the Positives

• What else can this mean?

• I wonder what his/her story is?

• How can I benefit from this?

• How can I make this more interesting

• What can I do differently to feel better?

• How would I like to be treated in this situation?

WHENEVER YOU ARE IN A SITUATION WHERE YOUR ATTITUDE IS TESTED, ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS TO HELP YOU SEE THE POSITIVE SIDE

Five truths about attitudes • Attitudes have the power to lift up or tear down a team

• An attitude compounds when exposed to others

• Bad attitudes compound faster than good ones

• Attitudes are subjective

• Rotten attitudes, left alone, ruin everything

Task 3:

Looking at successful people

Ask yourself the question. How do you define success?? _______________________________________________

Who is someone you know personally who you would consider to be successful? List four words that would describe that person. _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________ _______________________________________________

Rules for happy living – how to change 1 Be loving to everyone you meet

2 Forgive everyone who attempted to harm you

3 You become what you think.

4 Look for ways to strengthen those that have less than

you.

5 Always seek knowledge and truth . 1 Always be honest.

2 Never waste what you are given.

3 Be grateful for what you have.

4 Develop a spirit of optimism

5 Have faith in something greater than yourself

Take 1 principle a month to live by –

then 2 then 3 until you live by all the principles

Rules for happy work environment – how to change

I LOVE MY WORK Change happens from the inside out: • You • Home • Work

Forget what /who you don’t like at work Think of why you are still here and haven’t resigned, even if it is just an income to reach your goals. Apply the rules and ideas that you have received to make work a better place

“I DON’T CARE MUCH FOR THAT MAN. I MUST GET TO KNOW HIM BETTER” Abraham Lincoln

Thank you for your time