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Changing Families:. A Small Group Approach to Help Children Cope with Parental Divorce. Doug Williamson International School Bangkok. Background. Pre-K to Gr. 12: 1825 students Students from 60 countries American 34% Thai 20% Japanese 8% - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Changing Families:A Small Group Approach to Help Children
Cope with Parental Divorce
Doug Williamson International School Bangkok
Background• Pre-K to Gr. 12: 1825 students• Students from 60 countries
– American 34%– Thai 20%– Japanese 8%– Korean 8%
• Each year 22% of students are new, approx. 425 students
• Parents work for embassies, oil companies, banking firms, etc.
• 60% are second-language speakers.
• 20% are in EAL.
Structural Overview• Groups require written parental
consent.• Groups are held during lunch.• Size is typically 8 students.• Groups meet weekly for eight
sessions.• Sessions are typically 40-45
minutes.
What’s in a Name?• Changing Families?• Children of Divorce?• Friendship group?• Other suggestions?
These include:• Finding eligible students and advertising group• Consent from both parents• Questionnaire for parents• Location for group • Reporting back/taking notes
Points to Consider
Session One• Introduce rules of group:
– One person speaks at a time.– It is o.k. to say “pass.”– It needs to be a safe place.– If we make a mess, we clean it up.– What we say in here, stays in
here.• Getting to Know You Activity.
– Statistical Treasure Hunt• Why are we here and who’s in
our house.• Divorce pretest• Close: one word how you feel.
Session Two• Welcome new members.• Poll students on rules of group.• Icebreaker: This week at home
was . . . ? • Art activity: Family Album• Share art activity.• Closing: What color do you
feel and why?
Session Three• Icebreaker: Thunderstorm in
round• Explain concept of change and
everyone affected.• Changes boxes:
– Check the applicable boxes– Color, cut and paste– Circle the one that hurt the most– Draw a heart around a good
change– Share any box(es)
• Close: One thing I liked today was . . . ?
Session Four• Icebreaker: If I could do magic,
I would . . . ?• Play “My 2 Homes.”• Close: One thing I learned
today was . . . ?
Session Five A• Icebreaker: Play emotional
Simon Says.• Complete “Stages of
Experience” solo and then pair-and-share.
• Students color stage(s) they are in.
• Complete personal plan for anger.
• Share one strategy.• Close: I hope . . .
Session Five B• Icebreaker: Play emotional
Simon Says.• Play film “Taking the Duh out
of Divorce.”• Discuss film and reaction.• Close: I hope . . .
Session Six (A)• Icebreaker: Good news I have
to share is . . . • Explain “unfinished business.” • Students write letters to Mom
and Dad with what they really wish they could say.
• Process:– How was it for you?– Easy to write? Hard?– Which letter was more difficult to
write? Why?• Let volunteers share aloud.
Discuss sending/giving.• Close: One thing I learned
today was . . . ?
Session Six (B)• Icebreaker: My favorite book is
. . . • Discuss fairy tales with
stepparents. Are they real? Fair? How do you feel about your stepparent?
• Read fairy tale (Cinderella, Hansel and Gretel, etc.)
• Discuss feelings sheet from character POV.
• Complete sheet for self and process.
• Close: I’m happy when . . .
Session Seven• Icebreaker: Write the ugliest
thing you can think of. What is the most beautiful? Share.
• How do you know it is ugly or beautiful?
• Explain “Good Side” sheet and have students share. Emphasize the good in divorce.
• If time allows, draw their future.
• Close: Introduce closure and plan party.
Session Eight• Closure and keeping door
open.• Party.• Divorce post-test• Group feedback form.• Reunion?
Resources• DVD: www.trevorromain.com• “My 2 Homes” at www.childworks.com• “Guiding Kids Through Divorce” by Jill
Riethmayer