change the irresistible force what won’t help us.. knowing change is needed is not enough knowing...
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CHANGE
The irresistible force
What won’t help us..
• Knowing change is needed is not enough
• Knowing what changes are needed is not enough
We must know
1. HOW to make changes,
2. And that it doesn’t come easily
Cornell U. Study, April ‘05• Looking at self from a third person
standpoint rather than a first person standpoint can be helpful.
American Journal of Psychiatry, July ‘05• Guided self-change incorporating the use of
a manual is as effective or more effective than behavioral therapy
Breaking “change” down into “steps” is popular
Beverly Smallwood, Ph.D.
1. Early recognition of change coming
2. Clear understanding of the change
3. A plan of action
4. Acting out the plan
5. Using/adjusting the plan
6. Celebrating the “new” normal
Dr. Barry Duncan
1. C hallenge the killer “D”s
2. H onor your heroic self, validate your struggle
3. A dd a helper, recruit a partner
4. N ever underestimate your ideas
5. G ive yourself a chance, implement a plan
6. E mpower self, monitor, adjust, celebrate
A 12 Step Program for Change
1. Ponder your motivation
Romans 12:2
2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the
renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable
and perfect.
Ephesians 4:23
…be renewed in the spirit of your minds
We can be motivated by…
• Love / dedication
1 John 4:19, 9-10
19 We love because he first loved us.9 In this the love of God was made manifest
among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent
his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
2 Corinthians 8:5
…and this, not as we expected, but they gave themselves first to the Lord and then
by the will of God to us.
We can be motivated by…
• Love / dedication• Hero / model
Matthew 10:24-25
24 “A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. 25 It
is enough for the disciple to be like his teacher, and the servant like his
master.
2 Corinthians 9:1-2
2 for I know your readiness, of which I boast about you to the people of
Macedonia, saying that Achaia has been ready since last year. And your
zeal has stirred up most of them.
We can be motivated by…
• Love / dedication• Hero / model• Success / failure
1 Corinthians 9:25
25 Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a
perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.
Matthew 25:46
46 And these will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into
eternal life.”
We can be motivated by…
• Love / dedication• Hero / model• Success / failure
• We ARE motivated by the Spirit or by self
A 12 Step Program for Change
1. Ponder you motivation
2. Position yourself for change
• Pro. 4:23 - Decision is in YOUR heart
• 1 Cor. 10:13 - God is faithful
• Phil. 4:13 - “CAN DO” is a promise
Psalm 37:5- Trust in the Lord and do good…
A 12 Step Program for Change
1. Ponder you motivation
2. Position yourself for change
3. Prepare to change by study
Joshua 1:98 This Book of the Law shall not depart
from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that
you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and
then you will have good success. 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be
frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you
wherever you go.”
A 12 Step Program for Change
1. Ponder you motivation
2. Position yourself for change
3. Prepare to change by study
• God’s word is for leaders
Deuteronomy 6:6-96 And these words that I command
you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to
your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and
when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as
frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of
your house and on your gates.
A 12 Step Program for Change
1. Ponder you motivation
2. Position yourself for change
3. Prepare to change by study
• God’s word is for leaders
• God’s word is for life
• God’s word is for leaving temptation
• anger
• self-control
• drug & alcohol
• jealousy
• loneliness
• lust
• depression
• gambling
• carousing
• etc., etc., etc.
A 12 Step Program for Change
1. Ponder you motivation
2. Position yourself for change
3. Prepare to change by study
4. Purposely turn
Acts 17:30
30 The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people
everywhere to repent,Acts 8:22
Repent, therefore, of this wickedness of yours, and pray to the Lord that, if possible,
the intent of your heart may be forgiven you.
Proverbs 28:13Whoever conceals his transgressions will not
prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.
Our Heavenly Father requires it
One will NEVER
change until the decision
is made.
The turn/change starts in the
mind, will,
commitment
Spiritual decisions are 100% OUR choice and
OUR decision
What will you change
?