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Opening the door to new life with your strong willed child

TRANSFORMATION WEEK

The ConFident & Connected

It is possible1.To gain your child's

cooperation2.Not break their

spirit

WHAT'S AT STAKE

IN HOW YOU RAISE YOUR

STRONG WILLED CHILD??

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Your child's emotional health

Your child meetingtheir full potential

in life

Your relationship with your child

Your parenting journey + family

life

Of how you approach your strong-willed child as a parent

4 THINGS HANG IN THE balance

CYCLE OF NEGATIVITY AND DISCONNECTION

Our behaviors become routine. You are constantly getting emotionally triggered and your child continues negative behaviors because they begin to view themselves negatively as a result of parent feedback.

2. Parent reactivity/disconnection

3.Child continuesto seek connectionand primary needs

Strong-willed kids engage in more challenging behaviors throughout the day.

Parents get emotionally triggered by behaviors such as not listening and reactive instinctively with criticism and negative feedback.

Your child doesn't get the underlying need met and continues unhelpful attempts to gain connection and power.

1.Challengingbehaviors

4.Repeat

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You are responsible for how your parenting journey plays

out, not your child

You don't want to look back in 20 years

down the road andcarry guilt about the way you

raised your child

Don't spend this precious

time in a battleyou'll always

regret

• 5 to 1 ratio

• Your child elicits more negative feedback due to their

challenging behaviors

• the language and tone used to respond to their

behaviors matters

• self-esteem/self confidence will predict life success

• anxiety, depression

PRESERVING YOURCHILD'S EMOTIONAL

HEALTH

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"THE WAY YOU SPEAKTO YOUR CHILD

MATTERS, FOR THOSE WORDS TRAVEL

BEYOND THEIR EARSSETTLING INTO THE

CREASES OF THEIR HEARTS AND THE CREVICES

OF THEIR SELF-WORTH"

Angela Pruess

• Interactions now shape your relationship for life

• Cycle of negativity with strong willed kids

• Resenting your child is toxic to your relationship

• Trust and security are built in the primary years

BUILDING A STRONGPARENT-CHILDRELATIONSHIP

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HELPING YOUR CHILDMEET THEIR FULL

Potential• negativity bias

• when you're focused on the negatives you miss the positives

• it takes more energy to focus on their strengths

• strong willed child characteristics are strengths when looked atdifferently

• what you focus on grows

"WHEN A STRONG-WILLED CHILD IS RAISED IN THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT

TODAY, THEY'LL GROW UP TO BE A STRONG-WILLED

LEADER THAT WILL CHANGE THE WORLD TOMORROW"

Angela Pruess

The world needs who your child

was meant to be

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• You feel guilty when you overreact to your child's behaviors

• You doubt yourself as a parent and are exhausted by the

judgments of others

• You feel confused and unsure of how to discipline your child

• You feel stuck in a cycle of irritation and resentment adding more

guilt

• Your family feels overwhelming and stressful very often- this is

not what you expected when you thought of having children.

Your confidence as a parent

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An unbreakable with your child+

confidence in your parentingconnection

How would your life be different if you had...

YOUR ACTIONS NOWWILL AFFECT THE

PERSON YOUR CHILD

You can't control your child,

but you can control the

environment they're raised in.

Becomes

LET'

S RE

CAP!

• You'll help your child meet their greatest potential

• You'll end each day feeling confident and proud of your parenting

• You'll lay the groundwork for a strong life-long parent child

relationship

• You'll bring peace and happiness to family life and have the strong

bonds you've always wanted

WHY IT'S WELL-WORTH PRESERVING YOUR CHILD'S SPIRIT