by pastor phillips koh. “marriage is made in heaven, but its maintenance begins on this earth.”
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By Pastor Phillips Koh
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““ Marriage is Marriage is made in made in
heaven, but heaven, but its its
maintenance maintenance begins on this begins on this
earth.”earth.”
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How do we build a strong
marriage?
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1. AGAPE LOVE
A strong marriage rests on a strong foundation of love
The Leaning Tower of Pisa
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What are the other Greek What are the other Greek words for love?words for love?
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What are the fundamental What are the fundamental characteristics of Agape characteristics of Agape love? love? (John 13:34-35)(John 13:34-35)
† Unconditional
† Sacrificial
† Unlimited
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Ultimately, agape love has Ultimately, agape love has more to do with our volition more to do with our volition rather than our emotionrather than our emotion
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2. BIBLICAL ROLES BASED ON EPHESIANS 5:22-33
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2. BIBLICAL ROLES BASED ON EPHESIANS 5:22-33 (cont’d)
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A confusion today about A confusion today about male headship and male male headship and male dominancedominance
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A stereotyping of gender A stereotyping of gender rolesroles
to cookto cleanto nurture children
to serve husband
Culturally conditioned role of wives
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3. UNLIMITED FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness functions as a
spiritual lubricant for smoothing
frictions in relationships
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4. GOOD COMMUNICATION
5 Levels of Communication (based on John Powell’s book)
1) Cliché conversation Superficial in nature
2) Reports about others No personal issues
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4. GOOD COMMUNICATION (cont’d)
3) Judgment Offering personal opinions
on some issues or people
4) Gut level Sharing of personal feelings
5) Peak Making oneself vulnerable
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5. PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT
A commitment to develop your
partner’s spiritual gifts and natural talents
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6. EMOTIONAL INTIMACY
3 Different kinds of intimacy:
Physical EmotionalSpiritual
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7. DEPENDENCY ON GOD
Only God can give us complete
satisfaction or total fulfillment (John 10:10; John 4:13-
14)
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