bullying christine petrillo, msed. - school counseling - tei instructor
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Bullying
Christine Petrillo, MsEd. - School Counseling - TEI Instructor
Things to Consider & Think About
1. characteristics of bullying - what does bullying look like? - identifying behaviors & attitudes 2 . who does bullying effect? 3. where does it show itself? 4. what is the prevalence of bullying in our school & community 5. when does bullying take place? 6. why does bullying occur? 7. can bullying be prevented? 8. can the cycle be interrupted? 9. what are the components of change? 10. where can we lean more about bully prevention programs? 11. can we evaluate our own progress? should we? 12. why is it important to intervene?
BULLYING – WHAT ARE THE CHARACTERISTICS OF A BULLY???
WHAT DOES BULLYING LOOK LIKE???
Characteristics of Bullying http://www.wordle
.net/show/wrdl/2800561/the_bully
Bullying is about …. Being a Power player User or threat of use of force, physical, verbal or both Alienating / isolating My way or the highway Rigid / Narrow - One dimensional view Lacking empathy Self-serving
EXAMPLES: pushing, shoving, tripping, poking, punching, tantrums, ignoring, talking behind back, left handed compliments, putdowns, name calling, internet abuse…. Lies, rumors, storytelling, isolation, threats, etc.
Who are the bullies?
WHAT DOES BULLYING LOOK LIKE?
http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800234/bullying
http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800271/bullying2
http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800361/bullying3
clips
http://abclocal.go.com/wabc/story?section=news/local&id=7448701
http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/
http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silence/index.html?gclid=CMWujtGwxKUCFQjd4Aod1XzGYA
Who are the bullies and who do bullies effect?
The Bullied The Bully The Bystanders The Community
School Home Community at large
where & when can bullying happen?
For younger kids – For pre-teens – For high school kids – For college kids – For adults -
Why does bullying happen? What conditions are present? Insecurity Self-promotion Fear Neediness Bullied gone bully (abused becomes abuser) Learning Inability to express feelings Prejudicial & bias attitudes, discriminating behaviors Lack of accountability Lack of teaching Punishment without teaching Lack of consistency Minimization: A culture of tolerance for bullying (spoken or
unspoken).
http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2803149/bullies2
Can the cycle of bullying be…
Prevented:
Interrupted:
Components for change Philosophical - mission statement Action based – common language,
expectations & rules, action/reaction plan, actual program implementation, exercises, recognition, rewards, accountability & consequences at:
Home School Peer groups Community
Components of Change: Plan of action: what can we do?
Self-created: Home, School, Community- Expectations/philosophy
- Action plan that promotes awareness, empowerment, accountability
Rules for Relationships: Summer Leadership Training Model – Robert Petrillo
• Share openly - feelings, thoughts, behaviors.• No put-downs, low-blows, or power-plays.• Label all behaviors, they aren’t always good.• Don’t side with someone to protect yourself.• Don’t talk about anyone who is not in the
room.• Own your own behavior. Take responsibility
for your words and actions.• Accept the responsibility of model and
exemplar… you are what you do.• Respect yourself.• Do a hard thing every day.
A Foundation in RespectFor self: what does it look like?For others: what does it look like?How to gain it?How to give it away?
Examples, examples, examples. they need to be genuine, sincere, authentic.
http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2800450/respect
Resources: Website worth checking out
http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/signs-that-you-bully.aspx http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/signs-that-you-bully.aspx http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silence/index.html http://www.ancomm.com/igeneration/index.html http://www.ancomm.com/code_of_silence/white_paper_a_strat
egy_for_safer_schools.asp http://blogs.smarter.com/babieskids/2009/06/04/helping-your-k
ids-deal-with-bullying/ http://aacap.org/page.ww?name=Bullying§ion=Facts+for
+Families http://www.parentsconnect.com/parenting/bullying.html?
kw=bullying&xrs=paid-google-ChildBehavior-Bullying-PhysicalBullying-bullying
http://www.stopcyberbulling.org/why-do-kids-cyberbully-each-other.html
http://www.adl.org/education/edu_awod/default.asp
More Resources:
Response to Intervention: http://www.rti4success.org/ Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports:
http://www.pbis.org/ Peace Builders – bully prevention program:
http://www.peacebuilderscom/ Bully Busters – teacher based bullying prevention:
http://www.researchpress.com/product/item/5192/ Olweus Bullying Prevention Program –
http://www.clemson.edu/olweus/ Caring School Community – school connectedness:
http://www.devstu.org/page/caring-school-community Anti-Defamation League – No Place for Hate:
http://www.adl.org/npfh_philadelphia/
FOCUS:Where do we go from here?
Home, school partnership
Identify Intervene Prevent
http://www.wordle.net/show/wrdl/2803362/schools