breakout to #happiness
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I ended my last presentation on
“Innovation” with following slides…
Thatwas
Me…
PeopleLiked
Me…
ILiked
Me…
Creative Innovative Employed Optimist Proactive Go Getter Smart Somewhat intelligent
Ambitious Adaptive Respectable Popular Nice to talk to
Initiator Social stable Contributor Friendly
Confidant Healthy Loving Relations Self Belief
Creative Innovative Employed Optimist Proactive Go Getter Smart Somewhat intelligent
Ambitious Adaptive Respectable Popular Nice to talk to
Initiator Social stable Contributor Friendly
Confidant Healthy Loving Relations Self Belief
Juggling
became
TOUGH
Mornings
became
DIFFICULT
Until I was
Completely
drained out of
ENERGY
state of emotional, mental, and physical
exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged
stress
eggs
I had put all my eggs in one basket,
I had put all my eggs in one basket,
And that basket fell!!!
How many eggs could I have caught…?
I am still not able to figure out…
How many eggs could I have caught…?
I am still not able to figure out…
How many eggs could I have caught…?
OK… I am talking Metaphorically
What lead
ME
Work stress, personal issues at home, Father’s health, inability
to concentrate, losing faith in supervisors and vice versa, kicking out the ones who care, couldn’t reach out to people for help,
surprisingly deteriorating economy, broken relationship,
hurtful past, alienated friends, indecisiveness, pessimism
…and all that I thought was not ME.
When Self-Awareness is lost, harmony is lost and life is thrown out of balance.
- Dr Frank Kinslow
And today…
continents apart…
in a far away land…
i QUIT !
i QUIT !Sounds Negative???
i QUIT !Looks COOL!!!
i QUIT !No?
i QUIT !Wasn’t either!
"Brought you here, the galaxy has. Your path, clearly, this is."
"You know what I'm looking for."
"Something lost. A part of yourself, perhaps. That which you
seek, inside, you will find."
Work related causes
Lack of recognition for
good work,
lack of thrust
Doing work that’s monotonous orunchallenging
Unclear or overly demanding
job expectations
Working in a chaotic or
high-pressureenvironment
Feeling like you have little or
no control over your work
Lifestyle related causes
?Taking on too
many responsibilities, without enough help from others
Working too much, without
enough time for relaxing and socializing
Expected to be too many things
to too many people
?Lack of close supportive
relationships
Lack of sleep,
not taking enough rest
Personality related causes
Pessimistic view of yourself and
the world
Perfectionistic tendencies;
nothing is ever good enough
The need to be in control
reluctance to delegate to
others
High-achieving, Goal oriented
‘A’ personality
BE YOURSELF
The beauty of SOLIPSISM – every th ing that i s wrong is me… everyth ing that i s r ight i s me again.
RecognizeWatch for the warning signs of burnout
Nothing you do makes a difference or is appreciated
The majority of your day is spent on tasks you find either mind-numbingly dull or overwhelming
Caring about work or home life seems like a total waste of energy
Loss of interest or motivation that led to take on the role in the first place
Not able to meet constant demands
You are exhausted all the time
Every day is a bad day
Getting out of bed requires the will of Hercules
The
Road to
Burnout
Feeling easily tired and drained most timesLowered immunity, feeling sick a lotFrequent headaches, back painDigestive problems and change in appetiteFatigue and muscle tension, taut musclesChange sleep habits with restless dreamsBreathlessness, nausea
Physical Patterns
Repetitive thoughtsMuddled Thinking and impaired judgmentDifficulty in taking decisionsDifficulty in concentrating Procrastinating, difficulty is taking actionMore than occasional anxiety, numbnessNegative thoughts
Mental Patterns
Past comes back at you, can’t let goSense of failure, struggling with self-doubtAlienation, detachment from social circleMoody, Hiding in but emotionally needyLoss of motivation, giving away the daily fightIncreasingly cynical and negative outlookLow satisfaction “why to do it?”
Emotional Patterns
Accident proneLosing sense of direction, forgetting thingsLosing the chronology and order of happeningLoss of appetite or use of food/drugs/alcoholLoss of sex drive, Insomnia, RestlessnessIrritability, hasty DecisionsIsolation, frequent outbursts of frustration
Behavioral Patterns
RecognizeWatch for the warning signs of burnout
ReverseUndo the damage by managing stress and seeking support
Switch it OFF: Take 15 min break from technology every now and then, purposefully switch off laptop and mobile.
“We chose a technology free day. In Argentina, me and my roommates didn’t use anything that ran on electricity on Sundays.”
1. Start the day with a relaxing ritual.
Take positive influence: Reach out to family, call up friends, one on one talks with real ones. Don’t keep talking about negative stuff.
“I keep separate “circles of influence” some of my friends don’t know my professional life, and some about my personal. I could switch circles to get away from the noise”
2. Improve the quality of life
Micromanage yourself: It becomes very hard to DO things, so log even the simplest ones and take pleasure in getting them done. Prepare a task list.
“I used to list “take some sun” as a part of my agenda. Slow down. It’s an indication from life to take a break.”
3. Keep yourself occupied doing things
Take control of the situation: Get on to a schedule. Don’t rush into things. Slow it down. Strategize. Talk to your boss for job description, change of role or even a leave if it has to be.
“A troubled mind will try to keep you busy yet unproductive. I made a point to get on to a schedule. Not to rush into things. Slow it down. Strategize.”
4. Prepare, plan, prioritize, perform
Hugs, kisses and laughter: Have fun and don't be afraid to share your feelings with others. But keep away from broadcasting your situations and happenings.
“Initially I was down broken alone in my home. Eventually friends pulled me out and I decided to make every weekend count as a vacation.”
5. Stop social media, be social
Be aware of your stress meter: Daily exercise will burn off the stress chemicals. Eat lots of fresh fruit, veggies, bread and water. Don’t miss the first meal of the day. Keep a check on your weight.
“I took lots of fruits, yogurt , water and made a point not to miss BREAKFAST. Started Tango schedule again and began yoga. It was good!”
6. Take extra care of your health
Lose yourself and find yourself again: Get creative. Find excuses to talk to random people. Go to movies, even if you have to go alone. You can be stupid with yourself, this is the time.
“Paint, cook, go to a park, make a PPT, do crazy stuff with friends, plan a date, write letters, post cards”
7. Nurture your creative side
Find a good mentor: Mostly your own thinking is distorted. Try to see with a different perspective. Worry less, it doesn’t get things done better or quicker.
“I was lucky to have psychologist friends. We all need help. I learnt some of the best skills and lessons at that time.”
8. Another person's point of view
Grab the opportunity: Pessimistic situation itself makes you think that you are one. In reality, you are just waiting for the opportune moment and it is bound to happen. Have the courage to grab it!
“Due to the struggle, opportunities are bound to happen. Universe sends you help… Fear of losing my family was the only thing that got the best of me”
9. Deal the surrounding pessimism
Give out good vibes: Try it: help someone selflessly, make someone happy, give something back to the society, water a plant, do something that you believe is good.
“Since emotional sensitivity is high, even small actions gave heightened pleasure. Some of the best moments of life happened at that time”
10. Have Faith, have hope, give out…
RecognizeWatch for the warning signs of burnout
ReverseUndo the damage by managing stress and seeking support
ResilienceBuild your resilience to stress by taking care of your physical and emotional health
Be cheerful
it will influence the way others
treat you
Positive attitude and outlook will
get you outcomes ive
Reach workplace with a happy
agenda on mind, leave with a
happy agenda
Judge your performance
realistically re-evaluate goals
periodically
Interesting Lifestyle with
Moderation and Balance
Interesting Hobbies;
music rather than watching
television
Vision is impactful, music is peace!
Limit Alcohol and drugs, they affect your perception
and behavior
Manage money well, seek advice and save at least 10% of what you
earn
Recap
RealizeShit happens
RealizeShit happens
RecognizeWatch for the warning signs of burnout
RealizeShit happens
RecognizeWatch for the warning signs of burnout
ReverseUndo the damage by managing stress and seeking support
RealizeShit happens
RecognizeWatch for the warning signs of burnout
ReverseUndo the damage by managing stress and seeking support
ResilienceBuild your resilience to stress by taking care of your physical and emotional health
RealizeShit happens
RecognizeWatch for the warning signs of burnout
ReverseUndo the damage by managing stress and seeking support
ResilienceBuild your resilience to stress by taking care of your physical and emotional health
ReconcileMake the best use of the downtime. Time in life is precious and there is only so much you can do with it!
Something goodis coming your way soon!
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Something goodis coming your way soon!
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