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Nascent NLP and T A Circle creates WavesSubscription collection crosses 1 lakh in 4 months!

Members would recall the inauguration of NLP and TA Circle 4 months backin our April monthly meeting.Many of our Members immediately chose to become Members of NLP andTA Circle also. It�s a real good pointer to our Members� thirst and quest forlearning the nuances of these two useful Subjects : NLP and TA.The first meeting of the new-born Circle was held on 28th April 2013 atNahar Hall, Whites Road, Royapettah, with 65 enthusiastic participants.President Karthik opened the account with a Big Bang making a highlyinteractive, participative presentation on STROKES and offered themunconditionally to everyone. Since then, 4 more meetings have gone by withthe average attendance hovering around 60.Great learning takes place between 4.00 and 6.30 pm on the last Sunday ofevery month at Nahar Hall. Seasoned speakers and experts in the fields whetthe members� appetite by providing excellent presentations on various aspectsof NLP and TA.It gives us immense delight to let you all know that in this short span of4 months, the Circle�s Membership Subscription collection has crossed themagical 6 figure - One lakh !Very clear proof that the Circle is positively promoting the use values of NLPand TA to a large number of people in the Society!The credit for adroitly managing the finances go to Mr Arunkumar andMs Swarna and to all those at the helm of affairs navigating the circleseamlessly. YES, TEAM WORK WORKS!Our next target will be to enroll and ensure 80 to 100 people participatingin our monthly meetings and a Membership collection of Rs.2 lakhs. Hopefullywe would achieve these results and announce the same in our first anniversarycelebrations. We have already started visualizing them using Hypnosis.Once again, Big thanks to all our members for their overwhelming support &contributions in creating and propelling the Circle forward. We definitely hopeto scale much greater heights in the days to come!Everyday, in every way, we are becoming better and better - Emile Coue!

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12 Universal Skills You Need to Succeed at AnythingThere are a lot of skills you don't need. You can be happy andsuccessful without knowing how to rebuild a car's engine, program aweb application, or replace a drywall. Sure, these are useful skills tohave, but they aren't absolutely necessary.

However, there are other skillsthat can't be avoided skills that tie intovarious aspects of everyday life- that are not only useful, but totallyindispensable. For instance, you can't get far in today's world withoutbeing able to read or write. And today the ability use a computerproficiently is simply assumed.

We are going to skip the super basic skills like reading, driving, andusing a computer, and discuss twelve slightly more advanced skillsthat are woefully under-taught, and universally applicable. Here theyare.

1. Prioritizing and time management. - If success depends on effectiveaction, effective action depends on the ability to focus your attentionwhere it is needed most, when it is needed most. This is the abilityto separate the important from the unimportant, which is a muchneeded skill in all walks of life, especially where there are ever increasingopportunities and distractions.

2. Keeping a clean, organized space. - Successful people havesystems in place to help them find what they need when they needit they can quickly locate the information required to support theiractivities. When you're disorganized, that extra time spent looking fora phone number, email address or a certain file forces you to dropyour focus. Once it's gone, it takes a while to get it back and that'swhere the real time is wasted. Keeping both your living and workingspaces organized is crucial.

3. Critical thinking and information analysis. - We are living in theinformation age where, on a daily basis, we are constantly exposedto an ever growing and rapidly changing pool of information. Beingable to evaluate this information, sort the valuable from the trivial,analyze its relevance and meaning, and relate it to other informationis a priceless skill with universal applicability.

4. Logical, informed decision making. - Decision making is simplyknowing what to do based on the information available. Being able torespond quickly and effectively with the information you have in yourhead is essential to accomplishing anything.

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The coldest winterBy Thamizharasan Karunakaran

It was autumn and the tribals asked their new chief whether the winter was goingto be cold or mild. As he was a chief in a modern society, he had not muchwisdom to predict what the weather was going to be, unlike his wise ancestors.So, to be on the safer side, he replied to his tribe that the winter was indeed goingto be cold and that the members of the village should collect enough wood tosee them through the winter. Several days passed.Being a practical leader, he thought for a moment and hit upon an idea.He went to the phone booth, called the National Weather Service and asked �Isthe coming winter going to be cold?��It looks like this winter is going to be slightly cold indeed,� the weather manresponded. So the chief went back to his people and told them to collect evenmore wood.A week later, he called the National Weather Service again. �Is it going to be a verycold winter?��Yes,� the man at National Weather Service again replied, �It's definitely going tobe a very cold winter.�The chief again went back to his people and ordered themto collect every scrap of wood they could find.Two weeks later, he called the National Weather Service again.'Are you absolutely sure that the winter is going to be very cold?��Absolutely,' the man replied, �It's going to be one of the coldest winters ever.��Oh,I see. How can you be so sure?� the chief asked.The weatherman replied, �Simple. Because the tribals are collecting wood likecrazy!�Moral : A lot of phenomena happens like this in real world as well, and the lessonin this story should teach us one simple thing:�It is good to believe the trend, seethe pattern, consult 'experts', but in the end, there's no substitute for the wise mansitting inside of you.

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5. Using Google proficiently for online research. - You don't haveto know everything, but you should be able to quickly and painlesslyfind out what you need to know. Google is a gateway to nearlyinfinite knowledge; it has indexed websites - containing information onjust about everything and everyone. If you're having trouble findingsomething using Google, it's time to learn a few new tricks.

6. Basic accounting and money management. - It's a simple factthat our modern society is governed by the constant exchange ofmoney. Money allows you to maintain a roof over your head and getfood on the table each night. Knowing how to properly manage yourmoney tracking and recording your expenses and income, saving andinvesting is not only an important skill for thriving, it's an importantskill that helps you survive.

7. Effective communication and negotiating. - Give the people inyour life the information they need rather than expecting them to knowthe unknowable. Don't try to read other people's minds, and don'tmake other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small,within a family, friendship, or business relationship, start with badcommunication. Speak honestly, and then give others a voice andshow them that their words matter. And remember that compromiseand effective negotiating are vital parts of effective communication.

8. Relaxation. - Stress leads to poor health, poor decision-making,poor thinking, and poor socialization. So be attentive to your stresslevel and take short breaks when you need to. Slow down. Breathe.Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward withclarity and purpose. When you're at your busiest, a brief recess canrejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity. These shortbreaks will help you regain your sanity, and allow you to reflect onyour recent actions so you can be sure they're in line with your goals.

9. Proficient writing and note-taking. - The written word isn't goingaway; it is used in every walk of life. Learning to write proficiently sothat others can understand you is critical. Also, using your writingskills to take useful notes is one of the most productive things youcan do, regardless of the task at hand. Writing things down takingnotes helps us remember what we hear, see, or read when we'relearning something new, or trying to remember something specific.

10. Relationship networking. - In a world dominated by constantinnovation and information exchange, relationship networking createsthe channel through which ideas and information flow, and in whichnew ideas are shared, discussed and perfected. A large relationship

network, carefully cultivated, can be leveraged to meet the right people,find jobs, build businesses, learn about new trends, spread ideas, etc.

11. Positivity. - Research shows that although we think that we actbecause of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the waywe act. A great attitude always leads to great experiences. Peoplewho think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endlessopportunities, especially in trying times. Be positive, smile, and makeit count. Pretend today is going to be great. Do so, and it will be.

12. Self-discipline. - Self-discipline is a skill. It is the ability to focusand overcome distractions. It involves acting according to what youthink instead of how you feel in the moment. It often requires sacrificingthe pleasure and thrill for what matters most in life. Therefore it is self-discipline that drives you to succeed in the long-term.

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Learning to Receive with GraceBy Mr. T.T. Srinath

(Courtesy : The Hindu, Dated 05 Aug 2013)

Khalil Gibran, in his famous book, �The Prophet�, succinctly says thatwhile it is the nature of a bee to suck honey from a flower, it is thenature of the flower to give the honey. Thus neither is inferior orsuperior to the other.

When we receive from someone, it is very likely that we begin to feelin debt. Thus we either try to quickly give back and repay the obligationor continue to live with a sense of indebtedness.

What we do not realise is that it is as much the giver's need to giveas it is ours to receive. We are not diminished by receiving nor doesthe giver become superior. When the fruit is ripe it falls to the groundand does not ask the ground whether it is ready to receive. So alsowe must recognise that the giver also has a need to share, to giveand discharge his or her obligation.

As a receiver, we must learn that there will come a time when we willalso have to give and if we only nourish the thought of indebtedness,we will never be able to give with a full heart. If we cannot receivewith an open heart, with genuine thanks and belief that it is our rightto receive, we will never give back with the same alacrity and gratitude.

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Receiving therefore does not make me less of who I am, nor doesgiving make me superior. Each role has a part to play in maintainingthe balance of life, for if there is no one to receive who will we giveto? Likewise if there is no one to give us where can we receivefrom?

The next time we receive let us recall Gibran's wise thought andcelebrate the reception, in so doing we will be able to rejoice whenwe give.

(The writer is an organisational and behavioural consultant. He can becontacted at ttsrinath@vsnl.net)

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How to Connect with AnyoneBy Scott Dinsmore

(First of a two part series)

The world's best connectors do things in a pretty similar way.Whetherthey know it or not, they all follow a set of habits. Let these habitsserve as guidance for how to approach the people around you. Oncepracticed, it will become a way of life for you. Without them you'renowhere. With them anything's possible.

The 31 Habits of People Who Connect with Anyone

1. Make friends. This is the foundation. Making genuine connectionsis nothing more than making friends. When you're about to approachsomeone, ask �how would I treat this person if they were my closefriend or someone I'd want to be a close friend?� You don't havehidden agendas and constantly push products and talk about yourselfwith your friends. You put friends first. You listen to them. You heartheir problems so you can help in any way you can. Act accordingly.

2. Smile. This is by far the fastest way in the world to create aconnection. It's also a powerful show of confidence, which peoplerespect and are drawn to. Smiles are contagious and the simple actmakes people feel better. Whether it's a close friend, a bus driver,someone you're dying to meet or you're just walking down the streetor into a room of strangers, there is no stronger opener.

3. Be genuine. If you're not connecting with people because you careabout having them a part of your life, then stop. If you're connectingjust because you want to get yourself further up the ladder, thenyou've come to the wrong place. There is only one type of connection

one you genuinely care about. Find someone you actually do care tomeet and get to know. Anything else is a waste of time.

4. Contribute. Meeting people is about making their lives better.Whether that's by giving them a smile, a new job or anything inbetween there is a way to help everyone. See everyone as a chanceto help. Give like crazy, embrace generosity and make others moresuccessful.

5. Know what matters to them do your research. The more specificyou can help someone the better. This comes from learning all youcan about the people you want to meet. Not to manipulate, but soyou can actually do something meaningful for them. Read their blogsand books, take their courses, sign up for their newsletters, learnabout their interests, family, passions and charity work. Anything isgame. With today's online tools, there is no excuse not to learn aboutsomeone before trying to interact with them.

6. Start immediately & connect long before you want something.Don't wait for the right time, more credentials or some arbitrarymilestone. Those are excuses for inaction. Connecting is similar toplanting trees the best time to start was 20 years ago, but thesecond best is right now. No one wants to connect with someonewho's just out to get something. You will no doubt ask for help in allkinds of ways from the people you know, but that is far from the firststep. Start as early as possible and connect because you want to,not because you need something. There's really no other way to begenuine.

7. Make people a priority. There is no more important task for anyonethan surrounding yourself with the right people. It's all of our job anda part of every day. It's not something we do for an hour every weekor two. It's a way of being. A way of life.

8. Be open to conversation. Embrace conversation with those aroundyou. Everyone is a chance to learn something. Your server, the guynext to you on a park bench or plane flight. Even if you came toread a book, realize the best part of your day might be learningabout the world of the person next to you.

9. Be well-groomed. I hate to have to mention this but if you smelllike you haven't showered for three weeks, look like you just spent thepast four days strung out in Vegas, or have the breath of a dead cat,people are not going to want to talk to you. It's not about wearingexpensive clothes and watches, but it is about being presentable andphysically enjoyable to be around.

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10. Embrace persistence. Be comfortable with not getting responses.Most connections take a while and can't be rushed. And while you'reat it, get used to �No� too. People are busy. Especially the well-known high-up folks. Just because you don't hear back or get a noat first, does not mean it's over. Most people send one email or makeone phone call and think they've done their job. Not even closethat's just the very beginning. If you have a way to uniquely helpthem, then it's your job to get in touch. They will thank you for it.Don't be a stalker. Don't be the annoying nag. Friendly genuinepersistence is a power few use.

11. Make days & provide memorable experiences. Get in the habitof making peoples' days better. This could be as simple as a smile,compliment or heartfelt thank you. Provide fun/unique/enjoyableexperiences that make life at least a little better.

12. Know who you are & who you want in your life. Know yourpassions, goals, talents, interests and the impact you want to have onthe world. These will serve as your guiding light for how you can helpand who you actually want to write into your story. Act with intention.

13. Be uniquely YOU. Don't try to be someone you're not. Don't tryto look and sound like someone else and don't hold back! Bevulnerable and open. Share your real story and goals. Tell othersabout your wife, kids and parenting struggles. Talking about the weatherdoes not build connection. Being real does.

14. Create trust. Every interaction is a chance to either build trust orerode it. Do what you say. Show up on time. Share who you are.Slowly open up your real world to others and they'll do the same foryou.

15. Keep track of everything. After every meeting or interaction, writedown what stood out, what you learned about them, their goals, theirinterests, family, birthdays.

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(To be concluded in Oct '13 Issue)

How to Respond to Negativity - A case studyby Peter Bregman

I'm getting to the end of my patience," Dan,* the head of sales fora financial services firm, told me. "There is so much opportunity herethe business is growing, the work is interesting, and bonuses shouldbe pretty good this year, but all I hear is complaining."

When he passed his employees in the hall and asked how it wasgoing, they would respond with a critical comment about a client orthey would grumble about the amount of work they were juggling.

"How can I turn around the negativity that pervades my team?" heasked me.

I asked him what he was doing now. "At first, I told them how muchopportunity we had in front of us, and I reiterated our missionstatement," he said. "I wanted to remind them what we're all workingtowards. Now though?" he threw his hands up in the air, "I'm justpissed. I want to shake them out of their slump."

Dan's response is completely natural and intuitive. Unfortunately, it'salso completely ineffective.

Initially, he tried to counter the negativity with positivity. When thatdidn't work, he became negative himself. Both responses reaped thesame outcome: More negativity.

Here's why: Countering someone's negativity with your positivity doesn'twork because it's argumentative. People don't like to be emotionallycontradicted and if you try to convince them that they shouldn't feelsomething, they'll only feel it more stubbornly. And if you're a leadertrying to be positive, it comes off even worse because you'll appearout of touch and aloof to the reality that people are experiencing.

The other instinctive approach confronting someone's negativity withyour own negativity doesn't work because it's additive. Your negativereaction to their negative reaction simply adds fuel to the fire. Negativitybreeds negativity.

So how can you turn around negativity?

I discovered the answer when I made Dan's mistake with my wifeEleanor, when she was complaining about our kids fighting. At first Itried to convince her that all kids fight and ours weren't so bad. ThenI became frustrated with her complaining and told her as much.

She got angry. Who wouldn't? But then she did something reallyhelpful to me: She told me what she needed from me.

"I don't want to feel that I'm alone in this," she said, "I want to knowyou understand. I want you to tell me that we're in this together. Andif you share my frustrations, I want to know that too."

In fact, I did share her frustrations, but I was trying not to be negative- which, of course, made the whole interaction more negative.

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After my conversation with Eleanor, I had a surprising insight: Youdon't need to change your response. You just need to redirect it.

What Dan had done with his employees is respond negatively againstthem ("I want to shake them out of their slump") and positively againstthem ("I told them how much opportunity we had in front of us").

But a much more productive response is to respond negatively withothers and positively with them.

Here's what I'm suggesting, translated into a three-step process foreffectively turning around negative people:

1. Understand how they feel and validate it. This might be hardbecause it could feel like you're reinforcing their negative feelings. Butyou're not. You're not agreeing with them or justifying their negativity.You're simply showing them that you understand how they feel.

2. Find a place to agree with them. You don't have to agree witheverything they've said, but, see if you can, agree with some of whatthey're feeling. If you share some of their frustrations, let them knowwhich.

During steps 1 and 2 you are responding negatively with others, notagainst them. This relaxes and opens them. It helps them feel thatthey are not alone and you are not out of touch.

Instead of telling Eleanor she shouldn't be so negative about ourchildren, I told her that I shared her frustrations about their fighting -That I was also lost about how to deal with it and that it made mefeel helpless all of which was true. It's not enough to simply say "Iunderstand how you feel." For this to work, you need to be specific.

3. Find out what they are positive about and reinforce it. Thisdoesn't mean trying to convince them to be positive. It means givingattention to whatever positive feelings they do show and chances arethey will have shown some because it's unusual to find people whoare purely negative. If they are purely negative, then make sure theysee you supporting others who have shown positivity. The idea is togive positive attention to positive feeling. And to offer concrete hope.It's concrete because it's based on actual positive feelings peoplealready have, rather than harping on positive feelings you think theyshould have.

During step 3 you are responding positively with others, not againstthem. You are showing them that you support them. And you areshowing them that they will be rewarded with your support and

attention when they do and say things that are positive. During step3 you are transforming the downward spiral into an upward one.

In less than five minutes, my conversation with Eleanor reversed itscourse from negative to positive.

These three steps are not easy to do because we have to fight ourown highly emotional and even reasonable tendency to be negativeabout people who are complaining.

When I initially spoke with Dan, he was ready to fire some of histeam. That would have, of course, simply exacerbated the negativityof those who stayed.

Instead, he started to listen and validate their negative feelings. Whathe found underneath the complaining was fear. The company hadrecently experienced lay-offs and the survivors were still shaken. Weretheir jobs at risk? (Step 1.)

Dan couldn't say that they weren't especially since he was ready tofire some of the complainers. But what he did do was listen and tellthem that he shared some of their anxiety not about being fired, butabout feeling unsettled with so much to accomplish and fewer peopleto get the job done. In other words, he was negative with them.(Step 2.)

Then he highlighted some positive things he noticed on his teampeople taking smart risks, working together on complex sales, andpartnering successfully with clients that were helping to grow thecompany and secure people's jobs. In other words, he was positivewith them. (Step 3.)

Before, he never missed an opportunity to highlight and criticize aperson's negativity. Now he didn't miss an opportunity to highlightand praise a person's positivity.

And it worked. Eventually the mood in the sales group turned andthey worked together to bring in the largest client the company hadever won.

As for me? The truth is, it's often easier to teach this stuff than it isto do it. In the heat of the moment, I can still get frustrated with otherpeople's frustrations. But following these three steps has helpedtremendously. And having a partner who reminds me of them? Thathelps even more.

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"Don't Quit!" A simple poem to inspire(Keep your mind sharp and focused on during training)

There are times in every police officer's career when they may beseduced by thoughts of just giving up. It might be after they havebeen passed over for a job assignment, or promotion. It could beafter a judge makes a decision that shows compassion for a criminaland disregards the concerns of a victim. It could be in a ditch alongthe interstate while struggling or control of a duty weapon and theirarms are feeling like lead weights. Tragically it could be when anofficer's life blood is flowing onto the pavement, while lying seriouslywounded and tenaciously trying to hold onto life.

There is a poem that has been inspiring Americans for many years.Sadly, no one knows for certain who wrote it, but the message is sosimple it is profound to think about the impact that it has had on somany. It could have been written with police officers in mind. Theauthor received no fame, no fortune, and no credit. The writer justpenned these words and left them for all humanity to ponder:

Don't Quit!When things go wrong, and they sometimes will,When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,When the funds are low and the debts are high,And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,When care is pressing you down a bit,Rest if you must, but you mustn't quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,As everyone of us sometimes learns,And many a failure turns about,When one might have won had he stuck it out.Don't give up though the pace seems slow,You might succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than it seems to a faint andfaltering man,Often the struggler has given up,When he might have captured the victor's cup.And he learned to late, when the night slipped down,How close he was to the victor's crown.

Success is failure turned inside out,The silver tint of the cloud of doubt,And you can never tell how close you are,

It may be near when it seems afar.So stick to the fight when you are hardest hit,It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit!

Some might think these are just words, but words can be churnedinto thoughts. Thoughts can inspire decisive actions and deeds thatlead to success or even survival.

If one was to ask an Olympian if they had any poems or quotes thatthey lived by and kept posted in their training room they would mostcertainly say �yes.� Some may even pull out a dog-eared copy of apoem that spurred them on to a gold medal. When one thinks aboutit, there may come a time in a police officer's life, when the �victor'scup� may be much more precious than an Olympic Gold medal. Itmight be life itself.

Next time you are in the gym working out, on a trail running, on therange shooting, or pounding a bag in your defensive tactics class,imagine yourself facing a determined suspect on the street. Give yourtraining some context and make your preparations real rather thanmindless repetitions. Think these words:

I must stick to the fight when I'm hardest hit,It's when things seem worst that I mustn't quit.Persist, be distinct, else you will be extinct.Stay safe, stay strong, stay positive !

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The Processionary Caterpillars of LifeAs people, we expect our activities in life to be purposeful. The birdsof the air and the fish of the sea must resort to instincts deep insidetheir diminutive and primitive brains to conduct their activities, but weare different. We have the capacity to reason, to plan, and to adapt.This ability should make us unique among the animals of the world.Unfortunately, we often resemble unthinking, lower forms of life.

Case in point: the processionary caterpillar. The noted French naturalist,Jean Henri Fabre`, studied this unique little furry insect in great detail.What makes this caterpillar special is its instinct to follow in lock stepthe caterpillar in front of it. This behavior, not only gives the caterpillarits name, but a deadly characteristic also.

Fabre` demonstrated this unusual behavior with a simple experiment.He took a flowerpot and placed a number of caterpillars in single-filearound the circumference of the pot's rim. Each caterpillar's head

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touched the caterpillar in front of it. Fabre` then placed the caterpillars'favorite food in the middle of the circle created by the caterpillars'procession around the rim of the flowerpot. Each caterpillar followedthe one ahead thinking that it was heading for the food. Round andround went those silly insects--for seven days! After a week of thismindless activity, the caterpillars started to drop dead because ofexhaustion and starvation. All that they had to do to avoid death wasto stop the senseless circling of the flower pot and head directlytoward the food-less than six inches away from those ever-circlingcrawlers. However, the processionary caterpillars were locked into thislifestyle and couldn't extricate themselves from this mindless behavior.

Human beings are different from caterpillars. We alone have the abilityto change our direction in life. Or do we? We often confuse motionwith meaning and activity with achievement. We can all too readily getinto ruts, which cause us to dysfunction at work, school, or home.The ruts can become vicious circles, which don't get us any furtherthan the processionary caterpillar gets on the flowerpot. Then we findourselves resembling the processionary caterpillar more than we wouldfirst think or want. If you fear that you share some of the style of theprocessionary caterpillar, here are three things you can do so that youcan breakout of that senseless circle.

1. Drive to and from your destination by a different road the nexttime. As you go a different way to work, look at the sights. You willdiscover an entire world out there that you might not have ever seen.Blaze new trails to work, school, or shopping. After you are comfortableabout changing your driving routine, dare to do other things differently.

2. Be adventuresome about your approach to life. Try an ethnicrestaurant sometime. Go to a music concert or movie that isn't yournormal fare. Dare to be different. The worst that could happen is thatyou will learn to appreciate your tried and true choice more. The bestthing that could happen would be that you would have expandedyour horizons.

3. Having broken some habitual patterns of activity, look at your work,schooling, and interpersonal relationships. It is important to try yourexploratory wings on things like types of music you listen to or theway you get to work before you attempt this final technique. I knowmyself well enough that I want to test out new ways of thinking anddoing with Page "safe" things like going to Vietnamese restaurantbefore looking at the larger and more significant issues like employmentor continuing my education. Having practiced on the least criticalareas of life, go for the truly vital ones. Take the first tentative steps

to breaking away from your processionary humdrum of life. Try reallyliving. Don't confuse vegetating with vitality. Set professional oreducational goals for the next five years. It looks safer to stay in theroutinized ruts of life, but the processionary caterpillars show us thatit doesn't really get us anywhere. Movement isn't necessarily meaningful.We are human. We possess an intelligence that enables us to bedifferent from all the lower forms of life. Be all you can be by learningfrom the pitiful processionary caterpillar.

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The TurtlesBy Thamizharasan Karunakaran

A turtle family decided to go on a picnic. Turtles, being naturally slowabout things, took seven years to prepare for their outing. Finally theturtle family left home looking for a suitable place.

During the second year of their journey they found a place ideal forthem at last!

For about six months they cleaned the area, unpacked the picnicbasket, and completed the arrangements. Then they discovered theyhad forgotten the salt. A picnic without salt would be a disaster, theyall agreed.

After a lengthy discussion, the youngest turtle was chosen to retrievethe salt from home. Although he was the fastest of the slow movingturtles, the little turtle whined, cried, and wobbled in his shell. Heagreed to go on one condition: that no one would eat until hereturned. The family consented and the little turtle left.

Three years passed and the little turtle had not returned. Five years...six years... then on the seventh year of his absence, the oldest turtlecould no longer contain his hunger. He announced that he was goingto eat and begun to unwrap a sandwich.

At that point the little turtle suddenly popped out from behind a treeshouting, "See! I knew you wouldn't wait. Now I am not going to goget the salt!"

Moral of the story: Some of us waste our time waiting for people tolive up to our expectations. We are so concerned about what othersare doing that we don't do anything ourselves. Remember, no onecan speak for you, no one can live for you & no one can think foryou. Your life is in your hands, do not waste it. Time wasted is lifewasted.

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Hotel Palmgrove, Kodambakkam High Road, Chennai � 34.Members Free Guest Investment Rs. 150/-

2.29 pm : Welcome Address2.35 pm : Self In(tro)duction by Members and Guests2.45 pm : Marital Harmony Ms Soshina, Psychological Counsellor3.00 pm : Today's Youth Mr K Raja, Insurance Consultant3.15 pm : Sexology Concepts : Explored & Explained

Panel Head : Dr C N Ramgopal, Clinical Psychologist Dr T M Perumal, Diabetologist Ms Abi Sankari, Psychological Counsellor

Ms Komala, Psychological Counsellor Mr Muthiah Ramanathan, Trainer

6.00 pm : Mass Relaxation Ms Swarna