blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of god. mt 5.9
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Blessed are the
peacemakers,
for they will be called
children of God.
Mt 5.9
Taming the WolfTaming the WolfPeace through Faith
Taming the WolfTaming the WolfPeace through Faith
Resolving Conflicts Ruining Your Life
The Little Flowers The Little Flowers of St. Francis of St. Francis
The Little Flowers The Little Flowers of St. Francis of St. Francis
Mediation:Facilitated
Conversation
MEDIATIONMEDIATIONArt of Restoring Art of Restoring
Harmony by seeking Harmony by seeking Unity Unity
in the Presence in the Presence of the Holy Spirit. of the Holy Spirit.
MEDIATIONMEDIATIONArt of Restoring Art of Restoring
Harmony by seeking Harmony by seeking Unity Unity
in the Presence in the Presence of the Holy Spirit. of the Holy Spirit.
Taming the Wolf Institute
SpirituallyTransformative
Mediation
““The whole of human The whole of human
history has been history has been the story the story
of dour combatof dour combat with the with the
powers of evil...”powers of evil...”
— Gaudium et Spes — Gaudium et Spes
37 - 2 37 - 2
““The whole of human The whole of human
history has been history has been the story the story
of dour combatof dour combat with the with the
powers of evil...”powers of evil...”
— Gaudium et Spes — Gaudium et Spes
37 - 2 37 - 2
“...an essential responsibility of the Church, namely, a well-ordered love of neighbor.”
– Deus Caritas Est, Benedict XVI
“...an essential responsibility of the Church, namely, a well-ordered love of neighbor.”
– Deus Caritas Est, Benedict XVI
Conflict Created Conflict Created byby Opposing ForcesOpposing Forces
Conflict Created Conflict Created byby Opposing ForcesOpposing Forces
After the Fall
Align withWill of God
... increases in a communion of
thought and sentiment, and
thus our will and God’s will
increasingly coincide...”
— Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict
XVI
... increases in a communion of
thought and sentiment, and
thus our will and God’s will
increasingly coincide...”
— Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict
XVI
“The love-story between
God and man consists in
the very fact that this
communion of will ...
“The love-story between
God and man consists in
the very fact that this
communion of will ...
Power
Rights
Interests
Matthew 18:15 Interests
Matthew 18:16 Rights
Matthew 18:17 Power
Positions vs. Positions vs. InterestsInterests
Positions vs. Positions vs. InterestsInterests
PositionsPositionsPositionsPositions
InterestsInterestsInterestsInterests
Compete
Avoid
Compromise
Collaborate
Accommodate
Sati
sfy O
wn In
tere
sts
Satisfy Other’s Interests
Satisfy Other’s Interests
Accommodate
Avoid
Other
Self
Self
Compete
Compromise
Self
Other
Self
Other
Collaborate
Distributive vs. IntegrativeDistributive vs. IntegrativeBargainingBargaining
Distributive vs. IntegrativeDistributive vs. IntegrativeBargainingBargaining
Cut the Pie Expand the Pie
Sati
sfy O
wn In
tere
sts
Satisfy Other’s Interests
DivineCollaboration
Satisfy Will of God
Align withWill of God
Discerning the Will of God
Compete
Avoid
Compromise
AccommodateSati
sfy O
wn In
tere
sts
Satisfy Other’s Interests
DivineCollaboration
Skills to DevelopSkills to DevelopSkills to DevelopSkills to Develop
Recognize habitual responses.
Redirect toward collaboration.
Direct attention to Will of God.
Convening:Convening:Getting Getting to theto the
TableTable
Convening:Convening:Getting Getting to theto the
TableTable
Safety,Safety,Hope & Hope &
WillingnessWillingness
Safety,Safety,Hope & Hope &
WillingnessWillingness
Increase Increase security security and love.and love.
Increase Increase security security and love.and love.
Reduce fear.Reduce fear.
Be Not AfraidBe Not Afraid
Reduce fear.Reduce fear.
Be Not AfraidBe Not Afraid
AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have
AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have
What do you want to What do you want to BeBe that has been opposed?that has been opposed?What do you want to What do you want to BeBe that has been opposed?that has been opposed?
What do you want to What do you want to DoDo that has been opposed?that has been opposed?What do you want to What do you want to DoDo that has been opposed?that has been opposed?
What do you want to What do you want to HaveHave that has been opposed?that has been opposed?
What do you want to What do you want to HaveHave that has been opposed?that has been opposed?
AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have
AssessAssessBe, Do, HaveBe, Do, Have
Power Power
PrestigePrestige
PossessionsPossessions
PridePride
Power Power
PrestigePrestige
PossessionsPossessions
PridePride
Human Needs Human Needs & Spiritual Needs& Spiritual NeedsHuman Needs Human Needs & Spiritual Needs& Spiritual Needs
Human Human NeedsNeedsHuman Human NeedsNeeds
Spiritual Needs
God
Brother Brother
[ Trinity ]1
51
5
... love of neighbor is a path that leads to the encounter with God and ... closing our eyes to our neighbor also blinds us to God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI
... love of neighbor is a path that leads to the encounter with God and ... closing our eyes to our neighbor also blinds us to God. — Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI
BrotherBrother
Mediator
Reconciliation
We can not love the God we can not see
unless we love the God we see within ourselves
and in others. – St. Bonaventure
We can not love the God we can not see
unless we love the God we see within ourselves
and in others. – St. Bonaventure
God
Brother
[ Trinity ]
15
Christ Christ the the
MediatorMediator
Christ Christ the the
MediatorMediatorPriest as Priest as mediatormediatorPriest as Priest as mediatormediator
If I have no contact whatsoever with God in my life, then I cannot see in the other anything more than the other, and I am incapable of seeing in him the image of God.
— Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI
If I have no contact whatsoever with God in my life, then I cannot see in the other anything more than the other, and I am incapable of seeing in him the image of God.
— Deus Caritas Est, Pope Benedict XVI
See the Divine See the Divine in in the Otherthe Other
See the Divine See the Divine in in the Otherthe Other
God
Brother Brother
[ Trinity ]1
51
5
IMPASSEIMPASSEIMPASSEIMPASSE
Barriers to ConveningBarriers to ConveningBarriers to ConveningBarriers to Convening
ExpectationsExpectationsExpectationsExpectations
Need toNeed to Be RightBe Right
Being MadeBeing Made WrongWrong
Need toNeed to Be RightBe Right
Being MadeBeing Made WrongWrong
Emotions Color Emotions Color the the
Story & Story & PerceptionsPerceptions
Emotions Color Emotions Color the the
Story & Story & PerceptionsPerceptions
Destructive Destructive EmotionsEmotions
Destructive Destructive EmotionsEmotions
Faulty Faulty PerceptionsPerceptions
Faulty Faulty PerceptionsPerceptions
The situation was perceived
inaccurately
Prejudice or bias clouded perception
False attributions skewed perception
Perception Errors
The other party’s “inner story” is assumed
Emotional attachments color perception
Senses were impaired
WallsWallsWallsWalls
Desire for Desire for RevengeRevenge
Desire for Desire for RevengeRevenge
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NarcissismNarcissismNarcissismNarcissism
Spiritual Spiritual
DirectionDirection
Spiritual Spiritual
DirectionDirection
FALSE SELFFALSE SELFvs.vs.
Divine SelfDivine Self
FALSE SELFFALSE SELFvs.vs.
Divine SelfDivine Self
Two False Selves FightTwo False Selves Fight
Settlement Settlement CriteriaCriteria
Settlement Settlement CriteriaCriteria
SatisfactionSatisfactionSatisfactionSatisfactionSubstantive
Procedural Psychological
Opposition to Will of God
Problem of Evil
Confronting EvilConfronting EvilConfronting EvilConfronting Evil
The The Hidden Hidden
InfluenceInfluence
The The Hidden Hidden
InfluenceInfluence
Destructive Third PartyDestructive Third PartyDestructive Third PartyDestructive Third Party
System Design System Design GoalsGoals
System Design System Design GoalsGoals