beyond the backyard: growing pain

7/31/2019 Beyond the Backyard: Growing Pain

1/21


2/21

T{m r`m{%{octi rol~ir tyehfid m` toi ieixlfd kxlrr ma l hck

hlbjslxd.

(C rlcd tolt {lr ES ty`l,( toi relffix ackyxi

r|yilfid& bixyfil` isir roc`c`k. Toi mtoix bfi`boid ocr

tiito. (Smyx ty`l. Es ty`l. @m dcaaixi`bi,( oi eim{id.

Tois {ixi t{m ~flsayf jctti`r& ldmxlhfi Hfyi l`d oix

hxmtoix& Gy`cmx.

L`mtoix jctti` rtmmd ìlxhs& {lroc`k oix ~l{r. Roi

{lr l rcrtix tm toi rol~ir axmfcbjc`k m` toi kxlrr. Oix rfiij&

fctoi hmds {lr emrtfsbmqixid {cto {octi ayx& fcji oix rchfc`kr& hyt roi old

kc`kix ~lttix`r m` oix amxioild l`d oc`d fikr& lr {iff lr l t{cxfc`k tlhhs

tlcf. Roi {lr Ai`tmy& l jctti` j`m{` amx hic`k toi c`di~i`di`t hyt

r`mhhcro l`d by``c`k blt c` toi alecfs.

Roi fmmjid y~ lt Hfyi l`d Gy`cmx& {om {ixi axcrjc`k lhmyt m` toi

kxlrr& toicx ayx ~flrtixid tm toicx lkcfi hmdcir {cto {it emx`c`k di{.

(Lff tolt ackotc`k(

Roi {lr c`tixxy~tid hs Hfyi rtl`dc`k y~. Toi ~itcti jctti` ~lddid

mqix tm oix rcrtix& filqc`k Gy`cmx& {om old l flws recfi ~flrtixid m` ocr albil`d bm`ti`tid rfctr amx isir. Oi {lr fiat r~xl{fid c` toi kxlrr lr ocr fcttfi

rcrtix rommj lff toi dcxt axme oix kfilec`k {octi ~ift.

(Mqix l difcbcmyr& gycbs& l~~itcwc`k ~c`j ty`l rfcbi...toi flrt mì c`

toi hm{f& roi ei{id& ac`croc`k Ai`tmyr ri`ti`bi. ([lct...bmxxibtcm`7 toi

ty`l cr lfrm toi flrt ~cibi c` eshm{f. L`d rmei bltrromyfd `mt rtilf ammd

axme toicx rcrtix& roi r~lt& hiamxi rommtc`k l` càyxcltid kfl`bi lt Gy`cmx.

Ai`tmy txmttid mqix& fmmjc`k qixs hyrcìrrfcji& l`d rtybj oix `mri c`

toi lcx ce~ixcmyrfs. (@m {mxxcir& C olqi l rmfytcm`& roi eyttixid.

Smy dm= Hmto Hfyir l`d Gy`cmxr ilxr ~ixjid y~.

Gyrt xlbi ilbo mtoix tm toi ty`l hm{f. [omiqix kitr toixi acxrt kitr toi

ty`l& Ai`tmy i~flcìd elttix%ma%albtfs.


3/21

Lfemrt ceeidcltifs& roi {lr j`mbjid mqix hs {olt riieid fcji t{m

fckot`c`k hmftr {cto {octi ayx l`d hck ilkix isir wmmec`k tm{lxdr toi hm{f.

Toi t{m bltr rtlxtid bcxbfc`k toi hm{f& acxrt {cto difckot& toi` {cto

hi{cfdixei`t. Toicx ~xibcmyr ~cibi ma ty`l old esrtixcmyrfs dcrl~~ilxid,

Hfyi rtlxid lt toi ie~ts hm{f c` lelwiei`t.

([olt toi=( roi el`lkid tm eim{.

Gy`cmx+r isir hykkid myt. (Om{ dcd=(

Ai`tmy dmyhfid mqix {cto flykotix. (Mo es kmro, Tolt

{lr rm ay``s,(

Hfyi dcd`+t toc`j ct {lr ay``s lt lff. (Smy...smy lti ct&

xckot=(

Ai`tmy rl{ oix rcrtix+r emxmri albi& l`d oix recfi

eiftid l{ls lt m`bi. (C+e rmxxs. C tomykot ct {myfd riie ay``s...( Oix qmcbi

{lqixid lr Hfyi tyxìd tlcf l`d rtlfjid maa. Gy`cmx kflxid lt Ai`tmy {cto

bm`tie~t l`d ei{id {cto l rmehix qmcbi

hiamxi rfc`jc`k maa& (^filri dm`+t dm tolt

lklc`.

Ai`tmy+r ilxr amfdid hlbj rldfs& `mt

dlxc`k tm fmmj lt oix rchfc`kr lr tois{lfjid l{ls ecrixlhfs. Oix tlcf t{ctboid

m`bi& t{cbi& toxii tceir...toi` dxmm~id

dm{` digibtidfs.

[oi` roi bmyfd oilx ìctoix Hfyi+r mx Gy`cmx+r ammtrti~r l`semxi&

roi amxbid oixrifa tm fmmj y~& mhqcmyr rmxxm{ c` oix flxki lehix isir. Toi

{omfi hlbjslxd {lr ie~ts ibi~t amx oix& l tc`s jctti`& lfmì& rcfomyittid

lklc`rt toi dlxj iqi`c`k rjs.

Roi rckoid lr l relff qmcbi ocrrid c`rcdi oix oild.

[olt olqi smy dmì& ammf= @mtoc`k xilffs& smy rls...gyrt hxmji` t{m

ma es hirt axci`dr+ oilxtr.


4/21

Emx`c`k blei {cto hcxdr rc`kc`k l`d hyttixafcir afyttixc`k lxmy`d toi

hlbjslxd. Hfyi rtm~~id ailrtc`k m` oix hxiljalrt l`d {ckkfid oix tlcf lt oix

bmyrc`& l fm`k%ayxxid dila blt blffid Afyaa. Lff toi bltr fcqid c` tocr

bme~my`d& blffid Fi Fiel` Flji. Hfyi l`d oix rchfc`kr fcqid c` toi

hlbjslxd ma toi omyri ;2. Toicx bmyrc`& Afyaa& fcqid {cto toie. Toicx `cbi

m{ìxr& toi ~im~fi fcqc`k c` toi omyri& aid toie l`d ~flsid {cto toie&

txiltc`k toie fcji omyribltr. C` xityx`& toi bltr fmqid toicx m{ìxr l`d

{ixi qixs fmslf.

Toi tlcf {ckkfi eil`t (oc( c` l r~ibclf bmdi toi bltr diqifm~id amx toicx

axci`dr {om old oilxc`k ~xmhfier& {ocbo {lr blffid CBL@TOILX l`d {lryrid axi|yi`tfs lxmy`d Fi Fiel` Flji.

Afyaa ei{id oc hlbj& l`d oix hck rjs%hfyi isir romì kfldfs. Hfyi

`mtcbid tolt oix hydds kfl`bid hioc`d oixrifa qixs |ycbjfs. [oi` roi

albid Hfyi lklc`& Hfyi rl{ tolt roi {lr hfyroc`k.

Hfyi fmmjid lxmy`d& l`d rl{ oix mtoix hxmtoix

Siffm{. [cto l t{ctbo ma oix ilx tm rom{ tolt roi

y`dixrtmmd Afyaar xilbtcm`r& roi xieiehixid tolt Afyaa

tomykot Siffm{ {lr toi hirt blt c` toi {mxfd.

Toixi {lr l xyrtfi c` toi hyroir& l`d Hfyi {ocrjid lxmy`d rolx~fs.

([om+rmo& smy& roi eim{id& lr Ai`tmy rfy`j myt ma toi filqir.

Roi {lr rtcff qixs l`kxs lt oix rcrtix amx oix ty`l txcbj& toixiamxi roi

tyxìd oix hlbj tm Ai`tmy {cto l oyaa.

Roi oilxd Ai`tmy kcqi l tc`s rcko ma kxcia& reift xikxit c` toi lcx& l`d

aift rfckotfs kycfts.

Latix bm`rcdixc`k l~mfmkcwc`k& Hfyi rtm~~id oixrifa |ycbjfs. @m {ls,

Roi {lr toi mì {om ìidid l` l~mfmks. Ai`tmy dcd `mt dirixqi oix

axci`droc~.

Ai`tmy klqi oix rcrtix mì flrt om~iayf kfl`bi& om~c`k roi {myfd tyx`

lxmy`d l`d rls rmxxs. Hyt toi r`m{%{octi roi%blt+r hlbj {lr rtcff albc`k

oix& l`d oix ayx old hikl` tm hxcrtfi.


5/21

[cto l` yòl~~s rcko& Ai`tmy+r

romyfdixr rlkkid l`d roi txmttid l{ls

tm{lxdr oix hm{f& ayff ma ty`l. Toi reiff ma

toi acro eldi oix kycftcix& l`d roi bmyfd

m`fs el`lki l ai{ olfaoilxtid emytoayfr.

Ai`tmy rtlxtid {lroc`k oix ~l{r& hyt

oix ec`d {lr `mt m` ~l{%bfil`c`k lt lff. Roi dir~ixltifs txcid tm toc`j ma l

{ls tm y`tl`kfi toi tixxchfi eirr roi old eldi.

Hfyi {ltboid oix rcrtix axme toi bmxìx ma oix isi. Roi dcd`+t fmmj lr

ca roi {lr rmxxs: Hfyi tomykot tolt roi {lr lbtylffs fcbjc`k oix ayx qixs

tomxmykofs.

Mo& ca roi m`fs jì{ {olt oix rcrtix {lr toc`jc`k,


6/21

Ai`tmy+r rtmelbo kxm{fid. Roi rckoid. Roi ~lbid lxmy`d& txcid tm

oy`t l toxyro& l`d oix rtmelbo kxm{fid m`bi emxi. Oix m{ìxr old`t aid

oix amx l {omfi dls, Roi fil~t y~ m`tm toi jctboi` {c`dm{r fidki& {oixi

toi bltr {myfd rct lr l rck` tm toi oyel`r tolt tois {ixi oy`kxs. [oi`

`mtoc`k ol~~iìd& Ai`tmy gye~id hlbj dm{` tm toi afmmx {cto l oyaa ma

ilr~ixltcm`.

([olt+r y~ {cto toie=( Siffm{+r tlcf t{ctboid ce~ltci`tfs lr oi kflxid

lt toi jctboi` {c`dm{.

(Oixi kmir es tocxts%riqi`to txs&( Hfyi kxmlìd lr roi om~~id m`tm

toi {c`dm{rcff. Ai`tmy l`d Siffm{ amffm{id oix.

Hfyi ~yt m` oix emrt ldmxlhfi fmmj l`d ei{id c` oix ocko%~ctboid

qmcbi. Mì ma toicx m{ìxr& l kcxfs ~xitii` {om old fm`k dlxj%hxm{` olcx

l`d ldmxid bltr& xyroid c`tm toi jctboi` l`d bmmid lt Hfyi.

Toi kcxf siffid& l`d l`mtoix mì ma toicx m{ìxr siffid hlbj. Hfyi

eldi oixrifa fmmj iqi` bytix& l`d oix `mxelf dyeh fmmj txl`ramxeid c`tm

i`dilxc`k difckot lr roi rl{ toi kcxf ~myx rmei blt txiltr c`tm l fcttfi hfyi

hm{f.

(Tmfd smy C {lr oix alqmxcti,( Hfyi ei{id txcye~ol`tfs lr toi

toxii bltr gye~id dm{` axme toi {c`dm{rcff lt m`bi& fcji r{ceeixr

dcqc`k c`tm toi {ltix {oi` toi {ocrtfi {lr hfm{`. C kyirr tocxts

riqi` cr es fybjs `yehixmx Ce gyrt tmm ldmxlhfi, Hfyi t{cxfid

oix tlcf ol~~cfs. Ai`tmy kxmlìd. Hfyi {lr rybo l kmmds%t{m%romir,

Toi kcxf l~~xmlboid toie lr roi oifd toi hfyi hm{f tckot. Hfyi

rbyxxcid tm eiit oix& l`d {lr xi{lxdid {cto difckotid kckkfir.

Lff toi bltr tybjid c`tm toicx difcbcmyr eilf. Toi kcxf rtlxtid tm

rtxmji Hfyi& {om ~yxxid fmydfs lt toi ltti`tcm`.

Ai`tmy blrt l rcdi{lsr kfl`bi lt oix rcrtix. Lf{lsr ackotc`k tm

hi iqixsmì+r alqmxcti, Tomri oyel`r old`+t aid oix amx rybo l fm`k


7/21

tcei. Roi {myfd`+t xyro amx{lxd& r|yiljc`k fcji l` cdcmt& gyrt tm kit toicx

rty~cd ltti`tcm`,

Ryddi`fs& Ai`tmy oilxd l`mtoix ~yxx& l`d roi tyxìd l`d rl{ Siffm{

`ydkc`k lklc`rt toi kcxf+r fikr. Roi {lr difckotid& hyt Ai`tmy rtcff dibcdid

tolt roi {lr`+t kmc`k tm olqi l`stoc`k tm dm {cto toi oyel`r.

Latix toi kcxf xityxìd tm oix omyri& Siffm{ l`d Hfyi rtlxid lt Ai`tmy

lr ca roi old tyxìd c`tm l kmfdi` xitxciqix

~y~~s.

([os dcd`+t smy bmei ~fls {cto yr l`d

toi kcxf=( Hfyi c`|ycxid& bmbjc`k oix oild

|yirtcm`c`kfs.

([olt+r {xm`k {cto smy=( Siffm{ lrjid&`lxxm{c`k ocr isir ryr~cbcmyrfs.

Ai`tmy {lr r~iibofirr. (Smy, Tyx`c`k m` smyx m{` rcrtix gyrt tm {c`

toi ~y`s oilxt ma rmei oyel` kcxf, [oixi dm smyx fmslftcir fci=( roi ac`lffs

el`lkid tm eim{. Roi tyxìd lxmy`d ryfjcfs l`d txmttid l{ls& tlcf

r{croc`k cxxctlhfs.

[olt+r oix ~xmhfie= [os dmir roi olqi tm hi rm dcaacbyft=Hfyi

tomykot& r`caac`k.

L`d& {os bl`+t {i gyrt hi axci`dr lklc`& fcji hiamxi=

Blrtc`k l kfmmes kfl`bi lt oix rcrtix& Hfyi rfy`j l{ls tm oix hid.


8/21

Acro l`d ecbi. Acro l`d ecbi. Difcbcmyrfs `cbi. Difcbcmyrfs `cbi.

Ai`tmy {lr axmfcbjc`k c` oix dxile fl`d& {oixi iqixstoc`k {lr eldi

myt ma ammd. Sls& ~flsc`k c` acifdr ma fyro& kxii` blt`c~. Eee& bfcehc`k l

BltRtcbj txii. L`d `m{& oy`tc`k kfiiayffs

(AIIIIIIIII@TMMMYYYYYY,( Toi bocbji` fik Ai`tmy {lr

rtlfjc`k fit myt l r|yl{j ma lflxe l`d om~~id

l{ls. Ai`tmy rckoid& l``msid& l`d hfc`jid tm

l{lji l`d rii {om old c`tixxy~tid oix oy`t.

T{m kckl`tcb lwyxi isir {ixi rtlxc`k lt

Ai`tmy. (LLLXXKKOO,( Ai`tmy rbxileid.

(Hfyi& rtm~ ct.(

(Ammd& ammd& ammmmmmmmmmmmd,( Hfyi

romytid. Ai`tmy r`caaid. Rtxl`ki& toi emyto%

{ltixc`k rbi`t ma oix dxilefl`d rtcff oy`k c`

toi lcx. Roi fmmjid lxmy`d l`d rl{ ty`l& hiia&

l`d bocbji` relroid y~ tmkitoix c`tm l kmmis

~lrti. Isir {cdi`c`k {cto kfiiayf ryx~xcri&

Ai`tmy xyroid amx{lxd tm ilt ct...

(Lo,( Ai`tmy bxcid lr t{m ol`dr kxlhhid oix l`d fcatid oix y~. Oix

~l{r aflcfid c` toi lcx lr roi rtxykkfid l`d txcid tm irbl~i l`d gye~ m`tm

toi kxmy`d.

Bmàyrid l`d l`kxs& roi hct mì ma toi ol`dr& l`d {lr toxm{` m`tm

toi afmmx. Roi fmmjid y~ l`d rl{ mì ma oix m{ìxr bfytboc`k ocr ol`d {cto

~lc`.

Hfyi {lr rtlxc`k lt oix lr ca roi old jcrrid l hfmmdtocxrts Xmtt{icfix.

(Smy hct l oyel`,( roi klr~id& l`d afid l{ls. Siffm{ l`d Gy`cmx rtlxid lt

oix& toi` roxcijid {cto axckot l`d rbyttfid y~ l txii.


9/21

Toi ìckohmx+r blt l`d Afyaar hxmtoix& `leid ^xc`bi C~lf& {lr

{ltboc`k.

[oi` Ai`tmy blykot ocr isi& ocr fm`k& hyros {octi tlcf hxcrtfid l`d

oi dlxtid hlbj c`tm ocr tixxctmxs.

Ai`tmy fmmjid lxmy`d. Toi oyel`r old kmì

hlbj c`tm toi omyri& hyt kfm{c`k isir kflxid lt oix

axme toi hyroir. Lff toi bltr ma toi bme~my`d {ixi

lttxlbtid hs toi `mcri& l`d `m{& tois kfm{ixid lt

Ai`tmy {cto ~yxi oltxid.

Ai`tmy klr~id. Lff tomri hxcrtfc`k ~iftr& lff tomri acixbi fmmjr& lff tomri

y`roiltoid bfl{r...

(C BL@+T HIFCIQI C DCD TOCR,( roi sm{fid {cto rombj& l`d xyroidl{ls. Oix ec`d {lr {ocxfc`k {cto tomykotr& l`d roi dcd`+t iqi` j`m{

{oixi roi {lr kmc`k. Roi lbbcdi`tlffs hye~id c`tm l ai`bi& toi` rtmmd y~

l`d xl` maa lklc`.

Lff {lr rcfi`t lr toi axmrts {c`d xyaafid toi bltr+ ayx l`d toi {c`tix

ry` fmmjid dm{` lt toi yòl~~s rbiì.

Toi silx+r acxrt r`m{afljir hikl` tm alff lr toi bltr c` toi fcttfi

bme~my`d xityxìd tm toicx omeir.


10/21

Hfyi bxmyboid c` oix di`& lr toi r`m{ aiff oilqcfs mytrcdi. Afyaa {lr

hioc`d oix: l rocqixc`k hlff ma fm`k {octi ayx.

Gy`cmx l`d Siffm{ {ixi |ycqixc`k axme toi bmfd c` toicx m{` hid.

Dir~cti toi albt tolt tois {ixi `mt c` toi rlei blt%hid& tois {ixi lff

toc`jc`k lhmyt toi rlei |yirtcm`7 [oixi {lr Ai`tmy=

'''

Eil`{ocfi& latix l fmtma xy``c`k l{ls axme dmkr

l`d rtyehfc`k c`tm txiir&

Ai`tmy lxxcqid lt toi

bme~my`dr flkmm`. Toi

ryxalbi {lr bmqixid {cto l

tocbj flsix ma axmwi` cbi l`d

r~lxjfc`k axmrt. Iqi` tomyko

Ai`tmy old bmei oixi el`s tceir hiamxi& tm dlh lt toi acro c` toi {ltix&

roi old ìqix rii` toi {ltix oixi axmwi` rmfcd.

Ti`tltcqifs& Ai tmy mytrtxitboid l ìxqmyr ~l{ l`d ~flbid ct

y`bixtlc`fs m` toi cbi& tirtc`k ctr di~to. Latix roi {lr ryxi ct bmyfd omfd oix

{ickot& roi rti~~id m`tm ct blxiayffs. Rmm`& roi {lr rjltc`k lxmy`d gmsayffs

c` toi ecdrt ma l oyki r`m{rtmxe& lff ma oix {mxxcir amxkmtti`. Roi aift lr

axii lr l hcxd tolt {lr afsc`k toxmyko l amxirt ma tlff txiir. Yì~ibtidfs& roi

rtm~~id. Toixi {lr l acro y`dix oix ~l{r, [lr toi cbi xilffs tolt toc`= Roi

hikl` tm xitxilt& hyt toi` `mtcbid tolt toixi {lr cbi y`dixtoi acro lr {iff.

Ct {lr axmwi`& txl~~id c` l` cbs ~xcrm`. Ai`tmy hikl` tm dck fcji bxlws.

Ryddi`fs& roi rl{ rmeitoc`k emqi c` toi r`m{& l`d roi rtm~~id&

isir lr {cdi lr rlybixr. [lr ct l`mtoix ma tomri hxcrtfc`k%~ift bltr& rblxid

l`d l`kxs lt oix amx hctc`k oix m{ìx=


11/21

^xc`bi C~lf& roi tomykot lr roi kfce~rid l alecfclx tocbj {octi ~ift

blemyaflkid c` toi r`m{& l`d roi aift rcbj {cto {mxxs. Mo& `m, C dm`+t {l`t

l`mtoix blt tm xy` l{ls axme ei lklc`.

(Oc. Lxi smy ocdc`k axme tolt axiljs oyel`%hctc`k blt lr {iff=( ^xc`bi

blffid axme lbxmrr toi flkmm`. Ai`tmy {lr yttixfs

bmàyrid. [olt {lr oi tlfjc`k lhmyt=,, C LE toi

axiljs oyel`%hctc`k blt,

Roi fmmjid dm{` lt oix tlhhs tlcf. Ct {lr

bmqixid c`

r`m{, Roi l~~ilxid {octi, Oix ~ift {lr bmltid {cto l

tocbj flsix ma axmrt l`d r`m{. Roi fmmjid fcji l {octi

blt, L`d toi r`m{ eyrt olqi dcrkycrid oix rbi`t& rm

^xc`bi bmyfd`t reiff oix myt.

(Olqi`+t rii` smy lxmy`d toi bme~my`d.(

^xc`bi om~~id m`tm toi cbi difcbltifs& l`d ocr tlcf t{cxfid {cto c`tixirt lr oi

l~~xmlboid rosfs. (C+e ^xc`bi.(

(C+e...yo...Elbji`wci. Ceyeeaxme l`mtoix bme~my`d. Silo. Ce

Elbji`wci axme l`mtoix bme~my`d& Ai`tmy rtleeixid. Toi albt tolt roi

old yrid Hfyi+r alqmxcti `lei lr oix

dcrkycri {lr toi filrt ma oix {mxxcir. Amx

toi acxrt tcei roi `mtcbid om{ afyaas l`d{iff%kxmmeid ^xc`bi+r tlcf {lr& om{ rfiij

ocr tocbj ~ift {lr& l`d om{ ocr isir

r~lxjfid {cto ol~~cìrrl`d rmeitoc`k

emxi. Dm`+t hi rixcmyr,Ai`tmy rbmfdid

oixrifa. Smy+xi mt...alffc`k c` fmqi,...=

(Ois toixi& Elbji`wci. Dm smy ìid

l`s oif~ dckkc`k y~ tolt acro=( ^xc`bi

maaixid. Ai`tmy hfyroid l`d `mddid.

^xc`bi+r ~l{r hfyxxid lr oi dyk toi acro.

Boc~r ma cbi l`d mtoix dihxcr afi{ c`tm toi lcx lr

Ai`tmy ldecxid toi fm`k%ayxxid tmer

ditixec`ltcm`. Lt flrt& ^xc`bi gyhcfl`tfs ommjid toi

acro m`tm mì ma ocr bfl{r l`d afcbjid ctr rcfqix amxe


12/21

m`tm toi axmrts cbi. Iqi` tomyko Ai`tmy+r klwi {lr aywws axme toi hfcwwlxd&

roi bmyfd rii ^xc`bi+r qcbtmxcmyr recfi lr bfilx lr dls.

^xc`bi ~lrrid toi acro tm Ai`tmy. (L kcat& ecflds& oi ei{id {cto l

oyemxmyr tmì. Ai`tmy flykoid& hiblyri roi jì{ {olt oi {lr toc`jc`k.

(Rii smy lxmy`d. Dm smy {l`t tm bmei oixi lklc` tmemxxm{& elshi lt

dl{`=( roi maaixid.

^xc`bi+r isir fct y~ ol~~cfs. (Mo...ma bmyxri& Elbji`wci, Tolt {myfd hi

fmqifs.(

Ai`tmy tyxìd& recfc`k l{j{lxdfs& l`d ~cbjid y~ toi acro.


13/21

L` mxl`ki%l`d%hflbj hyttixafs {ocwwid c` toi lcx lr toi flrt

r`m{afljir aiff dm{` axme toi oilqi`r. Hfyi+r ilx t{ctboid lr roi r`caaid

toi axiro lcx& rtcff olfa%lrfii~.

Roi m~iìd oix isir& l`d rl{ l tocbj hfl`jit ma r`m{ dxl~id mqix toi

kxmy`d. R`m{,Roi fil~t mytrcdi l`d jcbjid y~ l afyxxs ma axmrt& ei{c`k

{cto difckot.

Afyaa ~mjid oix oild myt ma oix hlrjit& l`d oix isir romì {cto

ibctiei`t. (Bmei m`& fit+r ~fls,( Hfyi kirtyxid c` toicx bmdi amx dila bltr:

CBL@TOILX.

Afyaa sm{fid kfiiayffs lr roi gye~id y~ l`d

fl`did m` Hfyi. Tmkitoix& tois i`gmsid l axci`dfs

{c`tixtcei {xirtfi. Siffm{ l`d Gy`cmx {mji y~& l`d toi

hmsr gmcìd toi ay`.

Hfyi ~cbjid y~ l ol`dayf ma r`m{ l`d afy`k ct lt

Afyaa& {om r|yilfid l`d dybjid. Siffm{& {om {lr&

yàmxty`ltifs& rtl`dc`k hioc`d Afyaa& kmt oct c` toi albi.

Rmm`& lff toi bltr {ixi olqc`k l r`m{hlff ackot& l`d eim{r& roxcijr&

l`d sm{fr ~cixbid toi bocffs {c`tix lcx.

Lff toicx {mxxcir lhmyt toi {oixilhmytr ma Ai`tmy {ixi amxkmtti` lr

tois axmfcbjid lem`k toicx axci`dr.

Ryddi`fs& Gy`cmx+r {octi ilxr ~xcbjid y~& l`d hmto ocr siffm{ isi l`d

hfyi isi {ixi lfixt. (Fcrti`,( oi ei{id olxrofs.

Lff ma toi bltr mhisid& ibi~t amx Afyaa& mhqcmyrfs. L`d sir& toi mìr

{om bmyfd fcrti` oilxd toi~lt%~lt%~ltrmy`d ma l blt xy``c`k toxmyko toi

r`m{ axl`tcblffs.


14/21

Hfyi fmmjid lt oix axci`dr& lflxeid. ([om cr ct=( roi ei{id rolx~fs.

Tois r`caaid toi lcx& hyt toi reiff ma r`m{& cbi& l`d axmrt old hfmbjid myt lff

ma toi mtoix rbi`tr.

Yì~ibtidfs& l hxcrtfc`k hflbj rol~i rfcd toxmyko toi ai`bi. Ct {lr

Ecd`ckot& l hck hflbj tlhhs axme lbxmrr toi flkmm`. Ocr

lehix isir {ixi lr xmy`d lr rlybixr& l`d ocr emyto

{lr m~i` {cto l rcfi`t rbxile.

Bm`bix` aflroid c` Hfyi+r flxki bixyfil` isir. (E=

Smy lfxckot=( Ecd`ckot rtlxid lt oix. (Es m{ìxr olqi kmì.

(Kmì=( Siffm{ lrjid yxki`tfs.

(Rmeihmds txl`rflti,( Afyaa emlìd& l`d Gy`cmx rck`lfid iqixs {mxd

tm oix olfaoilxtidfs.

Ecd`ckot+r isir {ixi kflwid {cto tcxidìrr& hyt oi dcd `mt xi~fs.

(Kmì= @mt c` toicx omyri= Hfyi c`|ycxid.

Ecd`ckot rtlxid lt oix lklc`& l`d amx l ribm`d& ocr yrylf i~xirrcm`

afcbjixid c` ocr isir.

Ocr emyto m~iìd c` l rcfi`t rbxile.

(Tois fiat sirtixdls& c` toicx blx. L`d tois olqi`t bmei hlbj,Ecd`ckot sm{fid.

'''


15/21

Afm~. Ai`tmy kxmlìd. Oix rcfqixs dild acro aiff myt ma oix emyto amx

toi amxts%`c`to tcei. Roi ~cbjid ct y~ m`bi emxi& l`d bm`tc`yid {lfjc`k.

Roi old`+t lrjid ^xc`bi amx oif~. @m{ tolt toi hfcwwlxd old rtm~~id&

oi {myfd hi lhfi tm reiff oix myt. Lfrm& toi r`m{ {myfd rtlxt eiftc`k&

txl`ramxec`k Elbji`wci c`tm Ai`tmy. Toixiamxi roi old tm lbt alrt.

M` toi mtoix ~l{& roi bmyfd`t km tmmalrt& toixiamxi roi bmyfd lffm{

toi r`m{ tm eift. Toyr oix alecfs {myfd rii oix lr Ai`tmy l`d `mt

Elbji`wci. Tolt {lr kmmd.

Firr bltr j`m{c`k Elbji`wci eil`t relffix bol`bi roi {myfd eift c`

toi ecddfi ma l bm`qixrltcm` mx kit reift myt.

Roi txcid tm rfc~ toxmyko l ai`bi& hyt toi rfc~~ixs acro

kmt c`tm toi {ls. Ct rfctoixid myt ma oix kxc~ l`d aiff c`tm l

bfye~ ma hyroir.

Ai`tmy dibcdid `mt tm km latix ct m`bi emxi: roi {lr`+t

kmc`k tm ilt toi acro l`s{ls& gyrt rom{ maa l hct tm oix

axci`dr.

C+ff gyrt fit ct hibmei aixtcfcwix& roi bomri& txmttc`k l{ls.

'''

Hfyi ey`boid oix ty`l. Tol`j Kmd es m{ìxr lxi rtcff oixi& roi

tomykot.

Ecd`ckot+r m{ìxr old esrtixcmyrfs dcrl~~ilxid& l`d Ecd`ckot

xi~mxtid oilxc`k toie tlfjc`k lhmyt l (qlbltcm`(& {ocbo `mì

ma toi bltr jì{ eil`t.

L`s{ls& l `cbi flds old lxxcqid lt ocr omyri& l`d

rtlxtid tm aiid oce. @mt lr eybo ammd lr {olt ocr m{ìxr

klqi oce& `mt lr oilftos l`d l~~itcwc`k& hyt idchfi. Lt filrt

oi {myfd`+t rtlxqi.

L alecfclx rol~i& dxc~~c`k {it& rfc~~id toxmyko toi

ai`bi. Ai`tmy,


16/21

Tol`j Kmd toi r`m{ olr eiftid& Ai`tmy tomykot& xifciqid. (Ois&

Txyihfyi,( roi blffid& om~c`k Hfyi {myfd`+t xy` l{ls fcji l bm{lxd.

Hfyi l~~xmlboid oix blytcmyrfs. (Oc. Smy blt& roi ei{id |ycitfs.

(Oc& Ai`tmy xi~fcid& l`d {cto l rc`jc`k oilxt& xilfcwid tolt toixi{lr`+t l hm{f ma ammd {lctc`k amx oix.

(Rixqir smy xckot& Hfyi ei{id. (C kyirr myx m{ìxr kmt l`kxs. [iff&

dm`+t txs tm ilt ecì.(

Yòl~~cfs& Ai`tmy byxfid y~ c` oix hlrjit. Dxc~%dxm~. Cbs%bmfd {ltix

dxc~~id axme oix tlhhs tlcf& l`d l rocqix {i`t dm{` oix r~cì.

Dxc~%dxm~. Ai`tmy txcid tm xyaafi toi {ltix myt ma oix ayx& l`d rittfid

dm{`. Lt filrt roi old oix eiitc`k {cto ^xc`bi tmemxxm{ tm fmmj amx{lxd tm.

Dxc~%dxm~. Dxc~%dxm~.


17/21

Ai`tmy xmffid c` toi r`m{ lr dl{` tc`tid toi rjs l xltoix aitboc`k

roldi ma ~c`j. Roi old {mji` y~ rm ilxfs& lt l tcei {oi` iqixsmì ifri {lr

lrfii~& rm tolt `m mì {myfd rii oix filqi lr Elbji`wci. Roi om~id toi

r`m{ {myfd rtcbj tm oix ~ift l`d hfmbj oix reiff. Kc`kixfs& roi rtxmffid

dm{` tm toi flkmm`.

([oiiiiiii,( [octi ayx hfmbjid oix qci{ amx l ribm`d lr ^xc`bi rjltid

hs. (Ois& Elbji`wci,(

Ai`tmy fil~t m`tm toi cbi l`d rtlxtid rjltc`k latix ^xc`bi. (Tocr cr toi

fcai,( Roi ~lrrid ^xc`bi& jcbjc`k y~ cbi l`d r`m{ c` ocr hi{cfdixid albi.

Tyx`c`k oix oild hlbj tm romyt l (bltbo ei ca smy bl` lt ^xc`bi& Ai`tmy

ji~t m` kmc`k.

Ryddi`fs& ^xc`bi+r isir {cdiìd. ([ltbo myt& Elbji`wci,( Tmm flti.

[cto l eyaafid eim{& Ai`tmy lbbcdi`tlffs rjltid m`tm toi xcqixhl`j

l`d oct l fye~ ma dcxt. Omxxcacid& roi rl{ toi

r`m{ bmei maa oix ~ift lr roi rlcfid toxmyko

toi lcx.

(Elbji`wciAi`tmy, Oyel`%hctix,

Fclx,( ^xc`bi r`lxfid& l`d xl` maa.

Ai`tmy {lr dlwid. Iqixsmì oltir ei&

roi tomykot& l`d C le l eirr. Rfm{fs& roi

~cbjid oixrifa y~ l`d tomykot lhmyt kmc`k omei&

tm oix rchfc`kr l`d oix m{ìxr.

Oix m{ìxr, Yì~ibtidfs& toi txyto dl{ìd m` oix. C romyfd

l~mfmkcwi tm es m{ìxr& amx hctc`k mì ma toie. Hyt& om{= Tois dm`+t

y`dixrtl`d yr bltr[lct,C rolff kcqi toie l ~xiri`t. L`d Ce toc`jc`k ma toi

~ixaibt kcat. L r`m{aflji fl`did m` oix `mri lr l` cdil amxeid c` oix ec`d.


18/21

Roi fmmjid y~. Emxi r`m{afljir. Tocr {lr kmc`k tm hi l oilqs

r`m{rtmxe. Hyt roi old {mxj tm dm. @m hfcwwlxd {myfd kit c` Ai`tmyr {ls.

Ai`tmy. Mjls& roi {lr rmeitceir eil`. Ai`tmy. Lfxckot& roi {lr `mt lr

fmslf tm toi oyel`r lr oix axci`dr. Hyt rtcff& roi {lr

Ai`tmy. Toi blt {om {myfd ìqix kcqi y~& `m elttix {olt.

Roi amy`d toxii acro& t{m hck& mì relff. îxaibt. Roi rtlxtid dckkc`k

toie y~& mì hs mì. Toi omyxr tcbjid l{ls lr roi {mxjid& l`d tmxxi`tr ma

r`m{ rtcff dxcatid dm{` axme lhmqi& `m{ lbbme~l`cid hs om{fc`k {c`d. Cbi

afi{ c` toi lcx lr roi ac`croid dckkc`k y~ toi acxrt acro. @m{ amx toi ribm`d.

R`m{ kmt c`tm oix isir& hyt roi {lr ditixecìd. Ac`lffs& roi ommjid

toi acro myt ma toi bxltix c` toi cbi.

@m{& toi kxl`d ac`lfi. Toi hckkirt acro. Ai`tmyr isir rty`k. Oix oc`dfikr {i`t `yeh. Oix ilxr rtlxtid axiiwc`k. Lt flrt& {oi` roi tomykot roi

{lr lhmyt tm tyx` c`tm l` cbi rtltyi& roi ~l{id toi alt acro myt& l`d m`tm

toi cbi hircdi oix l`d toi t{m mtoixr.

Roi old toxii acro& roc`c`k fcji rtlxr& rcfqix lr toi `ckot emm`& l`d

bmqixid c` difcblti {octi afljir ma r`m{. Ai`tmy rtxykkfid tm ~cbj toie y~&

hyt roi {lr y`rybbirrayf. Roi bmyfd`t ~cbj y~ lff toxii c` oix gl{ {ctomyt

lt filrt t{m rfc~~c`k myt.

Ac`lffs& roi kmt l`mtoix cdil. Roi ~flbid t{m acro mòix hlbj& oifd toi flxkirt mì c` oix emyto& l`d ~xlsid tois

{myfd`+t alff maa.

Rfm{fs& Ai`tmy c`boid oix {ls hlbj omei.

Roi old tm km toi fm`k {ls& tm lqmcd r|yiiwc`k

toxmyko toi tckot ai`bir l`d fmrc`k oix acro.

Rocqixc`k axme toi bmfd& Ai`tmy bfi`boid oix

tiito. @m afljir ma axiiwc`k cbi l`d `m kyrtr ma

bocffs {c`d bmyfd rtm~ oix. Roi old tm km m`,

Toi hcxdr flykoid lt om{ rcffs roi fmmjid

axme toicx {lxe ìrtr c` toi txiir. Ai`tmy amykot

toi yxki tm bfceh l txii l`d dm rmei rixcmyr

oy`tc`k. Ct bl` lff {lct amx fltix. C le dmc`k

rmeitoc`k qixs ce~mxtl`t `m{.


19/21

Ac`lffs& roi xilboid oix bmws& {lxe omei& l`d ~flbid toi acro m` toi

{c`dm{rcff amx toi oyel`r tm rii. Gy`cmx& Siffm{& Afyaa& l`d Hfyi bxm{did

lxmy`d tm rtlxi lt toi acro& l`d Ai`tmy aift l hyxrt ma ~xcdi.

Toi oyel`r c` toi jctboi lff toxii ma toiekl~id lt toi acro& l`d

Ai`tmy tomykot tois y`dixrtmmd oix l~mfmks. Hyt& ti` ec`ytir ~lrrid& l`d

`mhmds blei mytrcdi tm bm`acxe oix ryr~cbcm`r.

Lt flrt& roi oilxd toi hlbj dmmx

bxilj m~i`& l`d toi el` roi old

hctti` {lfjid myt. [cto ACQI hm{fr

ma ty`l, Oi ~flbid toi hm{f {cto toi

emrt ty`l c` axm`t ma Ai`tmy& l`d&

latix l ei{ ma tol`jr& roi rtlxtid

ey`boc`k m` ct kxltiayffs. Sye,

Latix oix eilf& Ai`tmy byxfid y~ c` oix hid& ayff l`d bm`ti`t. Roi old

`iqix aift rm ibiffi`t hiamxi.


20/21

Ai`tmy {lr iltc`k l dibi`t hxiljalrt ma emyto%{ltixc`k ty`l&

bocbji`& l`d blt ammd ec. @mt lr emyto%{ltixc`k lr toi eilf toi `ckot

hiamxi& hyt ois, @m ìid tm hi kxiids.

Hfyi {lr gmsayf lhmyt Ai`tmy+r l~mfmksSmyqi ~xmqi` smyxrifa l

txyi blt ma Fi Fiel` Flji&C {myfd olqi ìqix tomykot smy {myfd dm

rmeitoc`k tocr `cbi amx myx m{ìxr& Ai`tmy& Ce rm ~xmyd ma smy& itb.

l`d `m{& roi {lr kcqc`k oix lbj`m{fidkc`k l`d i`bmyxlkc`k fmmjr axme toi

bmxìx ma oix isir& {ocbo {lr olxd. @mtoc`k fmmjid firr lbj`m{fidkc`k l`di`bmyxlkc`k toi` l fmmj axme toi bmxìx ma smyx isir.

Hyt Ai`tmy dcd`+t blxi. Roi jì{ oix rcrtix eil`t {iff. Siffm{ l`d

Gy`cmx old hii` `mddc`k `cbifs lt oix lff `ckot l`d emx`c`k y`tcf Ai`tmy

tmfd toie tm rtm~ hiblyri roi {lr laxlcd toicx oildr eckot ~m~ rtxlckot maa,

Afyaa old hii` ~yxxc`k fcji eld iqixs tcei roi {lr lxmy`d oix.

Oix alecfs old hii` rm `cbi tm oix. Ca m`fs...Ai`tmy fmmjid y~ lt toi

rjs.

L {octi bfmyd dxcatid c`tm toi rol~i ma l

{octi blt& lttxlbtcqi l`d {iff%kxmmeid {cto fm`k

{octi ayx. T{m omfir c` toi bfmyd amxeid rjs%

hfyi isir.

Ca m`fsoi{lr oixi. Tolt {myfd gyrt elji

oix dls. Ai`tmy tomykot lhmyt toi oyxtayf

`leir oi old blffid oix& l`d oix ilxr dxmm~id

dm{` rldfs.

Ca oi xilffs blffid ei lff tomri hld toc`kr&

oi ~xmhlhfs dmir`+t fmqi ei& roi tomykot. Roi

emyxàyffs rtlxtid iltc`k lklc`& ck`mxc`k Hfyi+r

i`bmyxlkc`k rcdi{lsr rtlxir. @m{& oix ammd tlrtid fcji blxdhmlxd.


21/21

Ryddi`fs& toixi {lr l xyrtfi c` toi hyroir& l`d Ai`tmy tyx`id

lxmy`d rolx~fs. L ~lcx ma alecfclx rl~~ocxi isir rtlxid hlbj lt oix& l`d oix

oilxt rjc~~id l hilt.

(^...^xc bi=( Ai`tmy rtyttixid {cto ~yxi ~filryxi. Oix tlcf t{ctboid

{cto toxcff l`d oix lehix isir rom`i {cto hfcrr& tljc`k tocr kfmxcmyr rckot

rtl`dc`k c` axm`t ma oix lr tmm kmmd tm hi txyi.

(Tolt+r es `lei: dm`+t {ilx ct myt&( blei toi boiixayf xi~fs& l`d l {octi

rol~i rtxykkfid myt ma toi hyroir. Ai`tmyr fmqi fmmjid lr kmmd%fmmjc`k lr

iqix& ibi~t toi albt tolt oi old dcxts hxlehfir l`d filqir rtybj c` ocr {iff%

kxmmeid fm`k ayx.

(C oilxd {olt smy dcd. C+e ~xmyd ma smy. C gyrt blei tm rls tolt C+e

rmxxs lhmyt blffc`k smy lff ma tomri eil` toc`kr( ^xc`bi l~mfmkcwid& hyt

Ai`tmy hyttid c` {cto l` mqixibctid& xltoix Hfyi%fcji r|yilf.

(Ct+r mjls, C amxkcqi smy& Roi `ydkid ocr afl`j ol~~cfs& l`d tois hmto

~yxxid. Ai`tmy rckoid {cto ifltcm`.

Lff oix {mxj {lr {mxto ct.

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