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Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs The Norwegian Developer’s Conference Oslo, Norway 3 June 2014

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Your inner critic is an unconscious deterrent that stands between the seeds of great ideas and the fruits of achievement, keeping you stuck by telling you you’re just faking it, that others have more talent, that you’ll never achieve the success you seek. Let's take a look at ways to banish your inner critic to give you the mental space and energy to let your true talents emerge.

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Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs The Norwegian Developer’s Conference Oslo, Norway 3 June 2014

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@denisejacobs

#ndcoslo

#banishyourcritic

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O hai!

Photo: Derek Kearney

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Upon a time… http://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365

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29 June http://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/

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Instead of creativity Photo from Flickr.com

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Destructivity http://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/

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The voices in my head were merciless

http://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/

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I totally freaked out

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I shouldn't be writing this I misrepresented myself

I don't know enough This should be someone else’s book

I’m going to look stupid Everyone will see that I’m a fake What if it's not good enough? What if I'm not good enough?

No…really!

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2 days http://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/

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Worked non-stop https://www.flickr.com/photos/53611153@N00/5827849044/

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Pushed myself to burn-out

http://www.flickr.com/photos/44085287@N05/4052943367/

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My internal critical voices http://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/

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Made this happen

https://www.flickr.com/photos/70938871@N05/8230432077

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Physical evidence of fear http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/

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A different kind of fear Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Internalized criticisms + fears

https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682

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= The Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lance_mountain/2849396572/

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The “troll under the bridge”

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F.E.A.R. =

http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg

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(Also, F.E.A.R. = F*ck Everything And Run)

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The enemy of creativity

http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/

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Creative brainwaves http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg

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Know your Brainwaves

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Stress & frustration

https://www.flickr.com/photos/corneveaux/3248566797/

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Suppress generative impulses in the brain

https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046

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Dampens creative expression

http://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/

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How to ID your Inner Critic http://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/

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Not that hard, right?

http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/

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“OMG, I’m SO busy!”

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“I should have done more by now…”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/

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“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”

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“I don’t know enough”

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg

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vs. “NAILED IT!”

https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897

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Impostor Syndrome Paradox

http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/

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“It needs to be PERFECT”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

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“I’ll do it tomorrow…”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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“I will do it tomorrow!”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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Feed each other

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In order for http://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/

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“The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating…

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…rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self-torture. “ - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution

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How do we…

http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/5445602998/

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Banish the Inner Critic?

https://www.flickr.com/photos/31505964@N08/4691019168/

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Eliminate Should/Must/Ought/Have to

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/

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Say NO to Comparisons http://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/

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Ask it questions

http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/

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Be compassionate http://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/

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Reassign duty

http://www.flickr.com/photos/shavawnmarie/1326123397/

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Remember your successes http://www.flickr.com/photos/pocait/2847866615/

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(My personal version) Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Maintain perspective http://www.flickr.com/photos/daikrieg/1294053038/

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*WHATEVER*

http://cdn.makeagif.com/media/1-23-2013/quhKj3.gif

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Cop a Power Pose

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Breaking the loop

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Perfectionism

http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

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“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” ― Anne Wilson Schaef

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The real problem

http://cuttingthecheese.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/26810560251953842_ede18tng_f.jpg

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Remember finished product…

https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/

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vs. process?... http://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/

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“The Best” vs “The most” https://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326

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Remember egocentricity

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“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”

― Dr. Maya Angelou

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Decouple your performance from who you are

https://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878

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Fear of failure

http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/

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“Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth

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Reframe failure

http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717326642/

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And mistakes

https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/

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(maybe even embrace them)

http://www.flickr.com/photos/danielagama_fotografando/4029208908/

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“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” - Henry Ford

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Humble beginnings Twitter, circa 2006

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Copy the #fail masters Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Take steps http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

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Fail in private http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959867550/

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Try again http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

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Satisfice

https://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328

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Be bad/make it ugly https://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684

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“Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore.” – Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

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Perfection ≠ Excellence

https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356

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Procrastination

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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The trick is not determining which you are…

http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/

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Nor administering a dose of

https://www.flickr.com/photos/116357579@N08/13178367583

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Increase the meaning/value

http://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/

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Mind Tricks https://www.flickr.com/photos/32135758@N02/5325454434/

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Don’t do it, just get ready to Photo: Denise Jacobs

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“Structured procrastination” https://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069

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Time & Space Tricks http://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/

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Eliminate distractions

From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I

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Ignore to focus

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Tools RescueTime.com GetConcentrating.com HeyFocus.com

Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd

Aids for digital blocking

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Airplane mode

http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/

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Make it a Sprint

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/

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Fill a Quota

https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/

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Remember this:

Photo: Denise Jacobs

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My story’s end? http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/

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February http://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/

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#FAIL

http://www.flickr.com/photos/eliseporter/2315794956/

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#WINNING! http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/

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I wrote a book! Photo: Denise Jacobs

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https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/9532425040/

Which created AMAZING things for me

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Bad dreams

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“The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday—but never jam to-day.”

“It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to-day’,” Alice objected.

“No, it can’t,” said the Queen. “It’s jam every OTHER day: to-day isn’t any OTHER day, you know.”

— from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll

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“Jam” = Reward / Satisfaction

https://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766

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YOU NEVER GET JAM

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By sharing my experience Photo: Deloria Jacobs

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Show you there is an alternative

https://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144

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By understanding that

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You’ll look at yourself differently

https://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429

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Let yourself create those imperfect, yet amazing ideas

http://www.flickr.com/photos/bcymet/3564484236/

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Because, after all…

https://www.flickr.com/photos/aoberg/9652158212

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The End

Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Four Secrets to Enhancing Creative Productivity www.creativebloq.com/inspiration/four-secrets-enhancing-creative-productivity-9126098

Banishing Your Inner Critic alistapart.com/articles/banishing-your-inner-critic/

Reigniting Your Creative Spark alistapart.com/articles/reigniting-your-creative-spark/

Breaking the Perfectionism-Procrastination Infinite Loop webstandardssherpa.com/reviews/breaking-the-perfectionism-procrastination-infinite-loop/

My articles for further reading

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Thank you! http://www.flickr.com/photos/theredproject/3302110152/