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Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs The Norwegian Developer’s Conference Oslo, Norway 3 June 2014

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Your inner critic is an unconscious deterrent that stands between the seeds of great ideas and the fruits of achievement, keeping you stuck by telling you you’re just faking it, that others have more talent, that you’ll never achieve the success you seek. Let's take a look at ways to banish your inner critic to give you the mental space and energy to let your true talents emerge.


  • Banish Your Inner Critic Denise R. Jacobs The Norwegian Developers Conference Oslo, Norway 3 June 2014
  • @denisejacobs #ndcoslo #banishyourcritic
  • O hai! Photo: Derek Kearney
  • Upon a time
  • 29 June
  • Instead of creativity Photo from
  • Destructivity
  • The voices in my head were merciless
  • I totally freaked out
  • I shouldn't be writing this I misrepresented myself I don't know enough This should be someone elses book Im going to look stupid Everyone will see that Im a fake What if it's not good enough? What if I'm not good enough? Noreally!
  • 2 days
  • Worked non-stop[email protected]/5827849044/
  • Pushed myself to burn-out[email protected]/4052943367/
  • My internal critical voices
  • Made this happen[email protected]/8230432077
  • Physical evidence of fear
  • A different kind of fear Photo: Denise Jacobs
  • Internalized criticisms + fears
  • = The Inner Critic
  • The troll under the bridge
  • F.E.A.R. =
  • (Also, F.E.A.R. = F*ck Everything And Run)
  • The enemy of creativity
  • Creative brainwaves
  • Know your Brainwaves
  • Stress & frustration
  • Suppress generative impulses in the brain
  • Dampens creative expression
  • How to ID your Inner Critic
  • Not that hard, right?
  • OMG, Im SO busy!
  • I should have done more by now
  • Theyll find out Im a fraud
  • I dont know enough
  • vs. NAILED IT!
  • Impostor Syndrome Paradox
  • It needs to be PERFECT
  • Ill do it tomorrow
  • Really, Ill do it tomorrow.
  • I will do it tomorrow!
  • Feed each other
  • In order for
  • The goal is to manage anxiety so that our energies are used for the productive and satisfying art of creating
  • rather than the destructive and debilitating art of self- torture. - Clare Warmke, Idea Revolution
  • How do we
  • Banish the Inner Critic?[email protected]/4691019168/
  • Eliminate Should/Must/Ought/Have to
  • Say NO to Comparisons
  • Ask it questions
  • Be compassionate
  • Reassign duty
  • Remember your successes
  • (My personal version) Photo: Denise Jacobs
  • Maintain perspective
  • Cop a Power Pose
  • Breaking the loop
  • Perfectionism
  • Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order. Anne Wilson Schaef
  • The real problem
  • Remember finished product
  • vs. process?...
  • The Best vs The most
  • Remember egocentricity
  • You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody. Dr. Maya Angelou
  • Decouple your performance from who you are
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice. - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth
  • Reframe failure
  • And mistakes
  • (maybe even embrace them)
  • Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently. - Henry Ford
  • Humble beginnings Twitter, circa 2006
  • Copy the #fail masters Photo: Denise Jacobs
  • Take steps
  • Fail in private
  • Try again
  • Satisfice
  • Be bad/make it ugly
  • Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore. Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From
  • Perfection Excellence
  • Procrastination
  • The trick is not determining which you are
  • Nor administering a dose of[email protected]/13178367583
  • Increase the meaning/value
  • Mind Tricks[email protected]/5325454434/
  • Dont do it, just get ready to Photo: Denise Jacobs
  • Structured procrastination
  • Time & Space Tricks
  • Eliminate distractions From Shit Black Girls Say,
  • Ignore to focus
  • Tools Browser Extensions Firefox: LeechBlock Idderall Google Chrome: Strict Workflow StayFocusd Aids for digital blocking
  • Airplane mode
  • Make it a Sprint
  • Fill a Quota
  • Remember this: Photo: Denise Jacobs
  • My storys end?
  • February
  • #FAIL
  • I wrote a book! Photo: Denise Jacobs
  • Which created AMAZING things for me
  • Bad dreams
  • The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterdaybut never jam to-day. It MUST come sometimes to jam to- day, Alice objected. No, it cant, said the Queen. Its jam every OTHER day: to-day isnt any OTHER day, you know. from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll
  • Jam = Reward / Satisfaction
  • By sharing my experience Photo: Deloria Jacobs
  • Show you there is an alternative
  • By understanding that
  • Youll look at yourself differently
  • Let yourself create those imperfect, yet amazing ideas
  • Because, after all
  • The End Photo: Denise Jacobs
  • Four Secrets to Enhancing Creative Productivity Banishing Your Inner Critic Reigniting Your Creative Spark Breaking the Perfectionism-Procrastination Infinite Loop My articles for further reading
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  • Thank you!