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Banish Your Inner Critic

BCAMA Vision Conference Vancouver, BC 31 March 2016

Denise Jacobs

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@denisejacobs#BCAMAvision @bcama

#banishyourcritic

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Want the slides? Go here:

Creativedo.se/bcama-ic

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Photo by Derek Kearney

Wait…What?!

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Founder + CEO, The Creative Dosehttp://TheCreativeDose.com/

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Upon a time…http://www.behance.net/gallery/Once-Upon-a-Time/2918365

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29 Junehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/jblndl/3154255478/

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I was going to be an author!Photo: Denise Jacobs

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Instead of creativityPhoto from Flickr.com

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Destructivityhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/kevygee/3265941065/

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The voices in my head were mercilesshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4887528060/

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I totally freaked out

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I shouldn't be writing thisI misrepresented myself

I don't know enoughThis should be someone else’s book

I’m going to look stupidEveryone will see that I’m a fakeWhat if it's not good enough?What if I'm not good enough?

No…really!

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2 dayshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/fiery-phoenix/8428079916/

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Worked non-stophttps://www.flickr.com/photos/53611153@N00/5827849044/

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Pushed myself to burn-outhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/44085287@N05/4052943367/

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My internal critical voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/mikeapalooza/553545517/

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Made this happen

https://www.flickr.com/photos/70938871@N05/8230432077

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Physical evidence of fearhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/

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A different kind of fearPhoto: Denise Jacobs

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Internalized criticisms + fears

https://www.flickr.com/photos/remoto/5313967682

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= The Inner Critic

https://www.flickr.com/photos/acerriteno/3484093889/

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F.E.A.R. =

http://cdnpix.com/show/imgs/7a361666e107cd36656d5a66ea2e4e80.jpg

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Or…

https://twitter.com/Phishtitz/status/474661495935365120

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YES! (…and…)https://www.flickr.com/photos/willsan/3780293130

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The enemy of creativity

http://www.flickr.com/photos/richardwinchell/130344669/

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Stress & frustration

https://www.flickr.com/photos/corneveaux/3248566797/

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Suppress generative impulses in the brain

https://www.flickr.com/photos/birthintobeing/11841180046

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Thoughts =https://www.flickr.com/photos/57375589@N05/9046508025/

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Electrical impulses =http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Neuron-matrix.png

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= Brainwaves!http://uniteunderfreedom.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Brain-waves.jpg

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Know your brainwaves

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Blocks creative expressionhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8156999698/

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How to ID your Inner Critichttp://www.flickr.com/photos/lambdachialpha/203904103/

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Listen for internal critical talkhttp://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/

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“OMG, I’m SO busy!”

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“I should have done more by now…”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/automania/126698126/

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“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”

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vs. “NAILED IT!”https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897

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“It needs to be FLAWLESS”http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

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“I’ll do it tomorrow…”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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“I will do it tomorrow!”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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Feed each other

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Meet your inner critic

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1) Write down one fear around your creativity

https://www.flickr.com/photos/quinnanya/5788826472/

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https://www.flickr.com/photos/dhinson/1290445055/

2) Crumple paper into ball Then…

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3) Throw across the room!http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-b1-baSAE8ZI/VDM3BbuiaFI/AAAAAAAABKk/l91FBGvSgkA/s1600/IMAGE_437.jpg

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Anthing sound familiar?Photo: Denise Jacobs

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You’re in good companyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/17843347@N05/4610644207/

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Afflicts ALL of us!

http://comediansincarsgettingcoffee.com/jimmy-fallon-the-unsinkable-legend-part-2 (@ 8:15)

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“…I don’t have what these people want to see – they want to see a funny guy! That’s not me.” - Jerry Seinfeld, Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee

https://www.flickr.com/photos/97477873@N00/13016287284/

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To cause Disruption

https://www.flickr.com/photos/86979666@N00/7829098984/

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We need to unleashhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/designandtechnologydepartment/4771136128/

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Both start insidehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/arselectronica/13994747444/

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https://www.flickr.com/photos/nrbelex/2247397943/

“You must be unintimidated by your own thoughts because if you [try to create] with someone looking over your shoulder, you'll never [create].” – Nikki Giovanni

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How do we…

http://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/5445602998/

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Banish the Inner Critic?https://www.flickr.com/photos/31505964@N08/4691019168/

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You can’t outrun the voiceshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/wester/504925076/

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Imposition Mentalityhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/bethscupham/7328405210

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Eliminate “Have to/Should/Must/Ought”

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/

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Replace with “I choose/ I decide/ I will”https://www.flickr.com/photos/mstry-2525-gst/3312199285/

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Comparison Syndromehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/kharied/3315558702/

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Say NO to Comparisonshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/suvodeb/2559017400/

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“You cannot compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.”

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You & what you produce is unique

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Establish boundarieshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/thisisawakeupcall/5595296868/

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(Btw, this your new mantra…)http://www.spunkysapphire.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/photo-1-e1406074730116.jpg

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Beat Impostor Syndrome

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Impostor Syndrome Paradox

http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/

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You will only experience impostor syndrome when you are competent and skilled.

(re-read this as many times as necessary.)

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Inner Critic psychology hackshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/insk/3884826712/

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Ask it questionshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/opensourceway/4749432145/

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Be compassionatehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/wrote/2646295354/

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Reassign duty

http://www.flickr.com/photos/shavawnmarie/1326123397/

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Cop a Power Pose

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“Our bodies change our minds, our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.”- Amy Cuddy, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are” TED talk

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Breaking the loop

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Perfectionismhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/

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“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.”― Anne Wilson Schaef

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The real problem

http://cuttingthecheese.files.wordpress.com/2012/06/26810560251953842_ede18tng_f.jpg

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Perfectionists focus on the finished product…

https://www.flickr.com/photos/phatcontroller/3667889959/

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Rather than the processhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/spyndle/474122586/

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“The Best” vs “The most”https://www.flickr.com/photos/villify/10871945326

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Clear the pipes: Morning Pageshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/juliejordanscott/4970674253//

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Be bad/make it uglyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/kpwerker/6051104684

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Embrace the “SFD”Twitter, circa 2006

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Perfection ≠ Excellence

https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356

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“Don’t let perfect become the enemy of good.”– Voltaire

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Decouple performance from identityhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/krissen/6824608878

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Satisficehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/sleepyvalley/3650673328

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Remember:

https://twitter.com/dickelippe/status/581204005013078016/photo/1

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Judgment Dreadhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/jdlasica/12825451433/

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Remember egocentricity

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Reframe fear of failurehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/

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http://culturecatch.com/files/images/after-earth.jpg

“Fear is not real. It is a product of the

thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand

me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.”

- character of Cypher Raige, After Earth

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Embrace failure and mistakezhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/

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“Being right keeps us in place. Being wrong forces us to explore.” – Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From

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Copy the #fail mastersPhoto: Denise Jacobs

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http://www.flickr.com/photos/seandreilinger/959864706/

Take steps, #FAIL; Go again!

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“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”- Henry Ford

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Procrastination

http://www.flickr.com/photos/irrezolut/2311904560/

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The trick is not self-identifying…http://20px.com/blog/2013/09/06/a-field-guide-to-procrastinators/

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Nor administering a dose of

https://www.flickr.com/photos/116357579@N08/13178367583

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Procrastinators are NOT lazy

https://www.flickr.com/photos/code_martial/4145914957

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The unknown can be paralyzing

http://hub.salford.ac.uk/energymonitoring/wp-content/uploads/sites/7/2012/01/known-knowns1.jpg

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Pro tip: Reframe the unknownhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/jonmelsa/3000222387/

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Increase the meaning/valuehttp://www.flickr.com/photos/eyeliam/2460475510/

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Mind Trickshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/32135758@N02/5325454434/

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Don’t do it, just get ready toPhoto: Denise Jacobs

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“Structured procrastination”https://www.flickr.com/photos/superamit/1043379069

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Time & Space Trickshttp://www.flickr.com/photos/indraw/4857101224/

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Eliminate distractions

From “Shit Black Girls Say”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXDpfhehb6I

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Ignore to focus

https://www.flickr.com/photos/massimobarbieri/3998455558/

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Browser Extensions (Firefox) LeechBlock Idderall Browser Extensions (Chrome) Strict Workflow StayFocusd Website Blocker

Tools RescueTime.com HeyFocus.com

Aids for digital blocking

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Added bonusHeyFocus.com

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Airplane/Do Not Disturb mode

http://www.flickr.com/photos/pieterouwerkerk/699475144/

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Make it a Sprint

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lucamascaro/4975166968/

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Fill a Quota

https://www.flickr.com/photos/teosaurio/3392883329/

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Remember thisPhoto: Denise Jacobs

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My story’s end?http://www.flickr.com/photos/sonialuna/2942020058/

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Februaryhttp://www.flickr.com/photos/doug88888/3709856898/

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#FAILhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/dafnecholet/5374200948

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#WINNING!http://www.flickr.com/photos/clappstar/6297835482/

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I wrote my first book!

Photo: Denise Jacobs

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https://www.flickr.com/photos/thatconference/9532425040/

Which created AMAZING things for me

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Disturbing dreamshttps://www.flickr.com/photos/agroffman/4613265988

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My own inner creative childPhoto: Deloria Jacobs

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Always reaching for perfectionPhoto: Denise Jacobs

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“The rule is, jam to-morrow and jam yesterday—but never jam to-day.”

“It MUST come sometimes to ‘jam to-day’,” Alice objected.

“No, it can’t,” said the Queen. “It’s jam every OTHER day: to-day isn’t any OTHER day, you know.”

— from Through the Looking Glass & What Alice Found There, by Lewis Carroll

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“Jam” = Reward / Satisfactionhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/macati/2180421766

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YOU NEVER GET JAMhttp://www.alice-in-wonderland.net/alicepic/through-the-looking-glass/2book42.jpg

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By sharing my experiencePhoto: Deloria Jacobs

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Show you there is an alternativehttps://www.flickr.com/photos/buttersponge/4955768144

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https://www.flickr.com/photos/9422878@N08/9220121158/

“The creative adult is the child who survived after the world tried killing them, making them ‘grown up’….

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…The creative adult is the child who survived the blandness of schooling, the unhelpful words of bad teachers, and the nay-saying ways of the world.” – Ursula K. L Guin

https://www.flickr.com/photos/theburiedlife/2167001643/

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By understanding this truth

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You’ll look at yourself differentlyhttps://www.flickr.com/photos/edenpictures/3460562429

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Let out all of your ideas

https://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8115237421/

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Because, after all…

https://www.flickr.com/photos/aoberg/9652158212

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So go and disrupt something!

http://www.flickr.com/photos/bcymet/3564484236/

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The EndPhoto: Denise Jacobs

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My upcoming book!

Banish Your Inner Critic

Get on the list! DeniseJacobs.com/InnerCritic

Identify and Eliminate Mental Blocks to Unleash Creativity

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THE CREATIVE DOSE A Creativity + Innovation Collective

Creative Thinking + Problem-solving

Creative Collaboration Team Communication + Cohesion

Professional Development + Speaking Coaching

TheCreativeDose.com@thecreativedose

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Get the slides!

Creativedo.se/bcama-ic

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Connect + Collaborate With Me!

Photo used with permission: http://www.flickr.com/photos/aarronwalter/4629078087/

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And finally…

http://www.flickr.com/photos/27620885@N02/2609974180/