Assertiveness

LUMBACA, SAMANTHA JANINE D.

Assertiveness

LUMBACA, SAMANTHA JANINE D.

Definition:

Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive. Confident declaration or affirmation of a statement without need of proof referring the person's rights or point of view without assuming a position of dominance or submissively permit other to bypass one's rights or point of view.

Characteristics of Assertiveness•It should be sincere to create clarity and trust not doubt•Respect for the boundaries of oneself and others•Cooperative in the communication process•Constructive approach to assert one’s point against other views•Balance between aggression and submission•Diplomatic and effective choice of words and lines•Sincere for your interests by expressing your thoughts and feelings.•Demonstrates that you're aware of the rights of others and are willing to work on resolving conflicts with your rights•Direct yet respectful

Benefits of Being Assertive•It gives other people to view your wants and needs.•Keep you away from internal conflict caused by your needs and those of your family always come second. Internal conflict leads to:

StressResentmentSeething angerFeelings of victimizationDesire to exact revenge

•Feels empowered•Does not feel that they are unjustly controlled by others•Projects dignity and calmness in their dealings with other people•Is proactive. They make things happen, rather than reacting or responding to the words and actions of others•Knows their own rights and responsibilities when they deal with others•Avoids apologetic dialog or submissive language and tone•Is able to resist the aggressive, manipulative and passive ploys of other people (Downing, 1995)

The Liberation Cycle of Assertiveness

Intrapersonal

Interpersonal

Systemic

Intrapersonal•Personal abilities•Professional preparation

•Self-inclination•Self – consciousness

Interpersonal•Balance of outlook with others

•Concerned for other’s interest and needs

•Conventional ways with others

•Fair with initiation •Cooperative•Constructive

Systemic•Planning with the common goals

•Organizational designing and management

•Teamwork and reliance•Interdependency

Behavior Patterns

•Assertive Behavior – Involves standing up for personal rights and expressing thoughts, feelings and beliefs I a manner that is direct, honest and appropriate ways which do not violate another person’s right.•Passive Behavior - Involves in violating and neglecting one’s own rights by failing to express honestly their thoughts, feelings and beliefs consequently permitting others to violate oneself. Expressing such an apologetic, diffident, self-effacing manner that others disregard them. In the Filipino setting: “Mahirap na, magugulohan tayo noon.” “Samok na sad kaayo, pasagdi na lang.” •Aggressive Behavior - Involves standing up for personal rights and expressing thoughts, feelings and beliefs in a way often dishonest, usually inappropriate, and always violates the rights of other person.

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