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Dr Emma Gonsalvez

Art of Counselling

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Orientation

GREATEST THINGS

Best day

Greatest sin

Best gift

Meanest feeling

Greatest need

Greatest teacher

Worst bankruptcy

Easiest thing to do

Best part of one’s religion

Greatest trouble maker

Today

Fear

Forgiveness

Jealously

Common sense

One who makes you love learning

Lack of motivation

Find fault

Gentleness and cheerfulness

One who talks too much

The greatest teacher is

ONE WHO MAKES YOU LOVE LEARNING

Observation of the Students

Motivated

Or

De-motivated?

AcademicD1Low CompetenceHigh CommitmentD2Some CompetenceLow CommitmentD3High CompetenceVariable CommitmentD4High CompetenceHigh Commitment

PersonalAbsenteeismDrug /AlcoholSex and PornographyLack of interestResistancePeer pressureRelationshipsLove life

Scenario of India

Past Present

Future

IS THERE A NEED FOR CHANGE?

66 years ago Now ???????????

What do you feel?

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Hope ?

Or

Despair ?

A call to teachers to make a difference in the world.

Information for the formation of the person

Vision and Mission of Educators

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The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.

– Albert Einstein

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To mature is to create,

To create is to grow endlessly.

To exist is to change,To change is to mature,

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Essential Questions

WHO NEEDS COUNSELLING?GOAL OF COUNSELLINGWHAT IS COUNSELLING?

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Who Needs Counselling?

EVERYBODY, WHO IS WILLING TO BELONG TO THE MAINSTREAM OF CHANGE.

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Goals of Counselling

Autonomy in responsible

decision makingProblem

ManagementUsing

ResourcesOpportunity

DevelopmentManagement of one’s life

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What is Counselling?

BRAINSTORM

• Challenge to change• An invitation to a quality of life

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The term Counselling has been used to mean

Preventive

Curative

Guidance Teaching

Problem Management

Healing

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• Relationships• Process• Facilitation• Change

Integral of

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Therapeutic Relationship

It is the unique and dynamic process through which one individual assists another to use his or her inner resources, towards actualizing one’s potential for a meaningful life.

IT ISBEING WITH

MOVING WITHSEARCHING WITH

FOR A QUALITY OF LIFE

RELATIONSHIPSPROCESSFACILITATIONCHANGE

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ProcessRELATIONSHIPSPROCESSFACILITATIONCHANGE

Problem management

Explore /Clarify

Find Cause

Solution

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Issues are difficult,Before they are easy

I need it more than I

fear it

FacilitationRELATIONSHIPSPROCESSFACILITATIONCHANGE

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Change is the essence of life.Be willing to surrender what you are,

for what you can become.

RELATIONSHIPSPROCESSFACILITATIONCHANGE

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Definition of Counselling is

An invitation to a quality of life

An interpersonal relationship

A process

Facilitating

Change from ineffectiveness to effectivenessThat requires motivation, technology, and resources

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Counselling Technology

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SKILLED-HELPER MODEL

CLIENT’S PERSPECTIVE

CURRENT SCENARIO

SENSITIVESTAGE I

NEED FEELINGS

BEHAVIOUR

COMMUNICATION

AE – I

EXPLORATION & CLARIFICATION OF

PROBLEM

DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOUR CHANGED TO CONSTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOUR

Overview

IDENTIFYING CAUSEDISCREPENCIES

DISTORTIONFAULTY BELIEFS

GAMESSELF-DEFEATING TENDENCIES

LACK OF MOTIVATION

PREFERRED SCENARIOSTAGE II

SENSIBLENEW PERSPECTIVE

CHALLENGING

AE – II

CHOOSINGSEQUENCINGPRIORITISING

OBSTACLESIMPLEMENTING

EVALUATIONRE-CYCLE IF NECESARY

FUTURE SCENARIOSTAGE III

STRATEGY

GOAL SETTING

PROGRAMMING

SMART

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STAGE I - Sensitive

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SENDER

///Noise

RECEIVER

///Noise

Expresses Experience

verbally Non-verbally

Pays Attention &Actively listens

Decoded message(Need, Feelings, Behaviour)

Effective Communication

Message is Congruent

Encoded message(Need, Feelings, Behaviour)

Verbally non-verballyReacts+ve or -ve

RespondsEmpathy AE-1

ObstaclesPartialSelectiveInterpretive

Being Sensitive

Stage I-Current ScenarioThe Communication Process

Responses

• Advise• Passive Listening

Positive Negative

• Acknowledge

• Door Opener

• Reflecting

• Paraphrase

• Empathize

• Inform

• Analyze• Criticize• Deny• Generalize• Interpret

• Probe

• Judge• Moralize

• Sermonize• Sympathize• Threaten

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STAGE II - Challenging

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-NEW PERSPECTIVES

CLIENTS ARE CHALLENGED TO BE SENSIBLEAND DEVELOP

-DYNAMIC SELF -UNDERSTANDING-GOAL (S)

PRE-REQUISITE FOR CHALLENGING – IDENTIFY CAUSE (AE II)

Stage II – Challenge

DISCREPENCIESDISTORTIONFAULTY BELIEFSGAMESSELF-DEFEATING TENDENCIESLACK OF MOTIVATION

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Stage III - Strategy

What : Goal setting

How : Programming

When : Implementing

Follow-up : Evaluation

Stage III - Action Plan

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Goal - What

Criteria-specific, practical, realistic, measurable and time bound /SMART

Programme - How Building on Resources and Options using Brain Storming, Supporting, Balance Sheet (Pros and Cons for self and others)

Criteria Check Choosing from Options Sequencing/Prioritizing (Urgent and Important – sub goals)

Obstacles

Implement - When Follow up and evaluation

THE CLIENT IS FACILLITATED TO BECOME AN AUTONOMOUS RESPONSIBLE DECISION MAKER

Action Plan

• RESPECT

• GENUINENESS

• SOCIAL INFLUENCE

ATTITUDES OF THE COUNSELLOR

Vision and Mission

“Being to Become Whole”

achieving

Physical BalanceMental Serenity

Emotional EquanimityIntellectual IntegritySpiritual Wellbeing

Teacher’s Maxims

HE WHO DARES TO TEACH SHOULD NEVER CEASE TO LEARN.

TRUE NOBILITY LIES IN BEING BETTER THAN YOURSELF, NOT OTHERS.

Ripple Effect

Better PersonBetter Institution

Better NationBetter World

If there be Change, let it begin with me

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Thank You. God Bless You!