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Applicatons of Rising Strong as a Spiritual Practce
Based on Brene′ Brown’s research, andBarb’s interpretaton
(does not necessarily refect The PACE class’s opinions)
Barb Petsel LPC, FT, RN, CDWF1
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My personal
interpretaton and
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Admission of my self talk…Vulnerability is scary!
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Readings:A. Ephesians 4: 32Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you
B. Galatans 5:22-23But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patence, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control
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C. Colossians 3:12 So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patenceD. Proverbs 3:3Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of yourheart
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SPIRITUALITY recognizing and celebratng that we are all inextricably connected to one another by a power greater than all of us, and that connecton to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion
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Inability to face failure and discomfort leads to perfectonism, making excuses, blaming and ratonalizing --- which prevents people from learning from their failures, disappointment and heartbreakInstead, face failure with self compassion, curiosity and ability to learn
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Choices when you feel you do not belong:
1. You live in constant pain and seek relief by numbing it or infictng pain on others
2. You deny pain and your denial ensures you pass it on to others (those around you or your children)
3. You fnd the courage to own the pain and develop a level of empathy and compassion for yourself and others that allows you to spot hurt in a unique way9
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RevolutonRumbleReckoning
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Brown says that true belonging, “requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can fnd sacredness both in being a part of something and in standing alone when necessary.”
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Getng closer to people diferent than ourselves includes:
Setng boundaries
Practcing trust and truth in oneself & others Learning the art of listening
Being more curious than defensive or judgmental13
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Belonging- the innate human desire to be a part of something larger than usTRUE belonging- When we present our authentc, imperfect selves to the world. Our sense of belonging is never greater than our sense of self-acceptance.It’s difcult standing alone in the wilderness of uncertainty, vulnerability, and critcism, but we are connected through love and the human spirit
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“Fitng in” vs. “Belonging”
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TRUE BELONGING- the spiritual practce of believing in and belonging toyourself so deeply that you can share your most authentc self with the world and fnd sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alonein the wilderness. True belonging does not require you to change who you are,it requires you to be who you are.
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Armoring up-
1.Because we are not comfortable with emotons andvulnerability is seen as weakness
2. Our experiences with previoustrauma has taught us that vulnerability is actually dangerous
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Chandelier-ing
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Bouncing Hurt with anger or blame
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Stockpiling
Keep packing down pain.The body wins every time.
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Numbing
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High Centering
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The UmbridgeLight and dark are not integrated. Overly sweet and accommodating when I feel resentful, hurt, frustrated, etc.Say yes when I mean no. Sometimes my niceness is inauthentic and I can feel like a ticking bomb.
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“US “ vs. “THEM” cultures create feelings of
spirituality-disconnecton(a diminishing sense of
shared humanity)
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To mess up,Be
misunderstood, etc.
Permission slips
To be authentc
To not be popular
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Story of pain by grieving man26
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We are connected to one another through the same spiritual story
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DEHUMANIZING and HOLDING PEOPLE ACCOUNTABLE are mutually exclusive
Our faith asks us to fnd the face of God in everyone
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Boundaries- Learning to set, hold and respect boundaries. The challenge is letng go of being liked and the fear of disappointng people
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Boundaries (Bill Gaultere)Jesus accepted:1.Basic needs (food, sleep, naps, walking)2.Support from friends3.Solitude4.Singular Focus (This people, This place, This tme)5. Pace of lifeJesus Said No to Inappropriate BehaviorDemandsEnttlementBaitng Questons 30
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Reliability Learning how to say what we mean and mean what we say. The challenge is not overcommitng and overpromising to please others or prove ourselves
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Accountability:Learning how to step up, be accountable, takeresponsibility, and issue meaningful apologies when we are wrong. The challenge is letng go of blame and stepping out of shame.
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Vault: Learning how to keep confdences, to recognize what’s ours and what’s not. The challenge is to stop using gossip, common enemy intmacy, and oversharing as a way to hotwire connecton.
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Integrity: Learning how to practce our valueseven when it’s uncomfortable and hard. Thechallenge is choosing courage over comfort in those moments.
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Nonjudgment: Learning how to give and receive help. The challenge is letng go of “helper and fxer” as our identty and the source of our self-worth.
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Generosity: Learning how to set theboundaries that allows us to be generousin our assumptons about others. The challenge is being honest and clear withothers about what is okay and not okay.
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Trustng others & Self TrustB BoundariesR ReliabilityA AccountabilityV Vault (not sharing info that is not yours to share)I IntegrityN NonjudgementG Generosity
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4 elements of true belonging:
1. People are hard to hate close up. Move in.2. Speak truth to BS. Be civil/constructve3. Connect with strangers.4. Strong back. Sof front. Wild heart.
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CONFLICT RESOLUTION (Dr. Michelle Buck Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern Univ.)
Agree to disagree quickly shuts things downAddress underlying intensionsDistnguish between past, present, and future: “Where are we now?” Most important turning pt. is focusing on the futureFalse belief is “Your are with us or you are against us”
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CONFLICT TRANSFORMATION- (NOT confict resoluton)
Takes courage to be open-minded LISTEN to LEARN MORE about the other person’s PERSPECTIVE“Help me to understand why this is so important to you”“Tell me more.”
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Live out the paradox of love tough and tender excited and scared brave and afraid…
Showing up in our vulnerability and courage & being ferce and kind
Straddling the tension of the world’s struggles , fghtng for justce and peace, and cultvatng joy 42