who am i (understanding ourselves for our neighbors)

WHO AM I? WHAT AM I?

FORMATION for Parents of 1st CommunicantsSt. Joseph the Worker Parish

November 3, 2013 Sta. Cecilia Elementary School

Understanding Ourselves for Our Neighbors

LOVE

GOD

SELF - LOVE"the instinct or desire to promote

one's well-being”

The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language

SELF - REGARD

amour-propre (self-regard) is the mainspring of all human activities

-- François de La Rochefoucauld (French author of books on human nature and conduct)

SELF - ESTEEM• a person's overall evaluation or

appraisal of her or his own worth (halaga).

• what one believes to be true about the self; Self concept = self-perception

• May be positive or negative ; how we feel about our self

ACTIVITY – Introduce Yourself(small group sharing) (10 mins)

EMPATHIC

A N G I EIRRITABLE

SELF - ESTEEMAbraham Maslow

“What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.”

“The fact is that people are good. Give people affection and security, and they will give affection and be secure in their feelings and their behavior.”

SELF - ESTEEMErich Fromm

love of others = love of ourselves

“Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not

capable of loving themselves either.”

SELF - ESTEEM“Every human being, with no

exception … is worthy of unconditional respect of

everybody else; he deserves to esteem himself and to be

esteemed.”

-- Carl Rogers

SELF - ESTEEMMy uniqueness as a person

The way I am put together by God makes me the only one of my kind in the whole world. There is

no one exactly like me.

To maximize myself without comparison to others is my greatest contribution to God’s creation.

P SYC H E

totality of the human mind-- both the conscious and the

unconscious

STRUCTURE OF THE PSYCHE(SIGMUND FREUD’S MODEL)

IDinstinctual

drives (unconscious)

SUPER-EGO a person's conscience,

based on societal norms & morality.

(conscious) Mediates between ID and SUPEREGO,

resulting in action/behavior

EGO

EGO

IDEXTERNA

L REALITY

COMPULSIVE CONFIGURATION(children or adolescents)

SUPER-EGO Pros/cons, right/wrong

EGO

IDEXTERNAL REALITY

RIGID CONFIGURATION

SUPER-EGO Pros/cons, right/wrong

EGO

IDEXTERNA

L REALITY

MATURE / ADULT CONFIGURATION

AFFECTIVITY

The ability or tendency to experience feelings (positive or negative), and to react to them.

SPIRITUAL CORE

POLARITIES OF AFFECTIVITY

ANGER

LOVEWEAKNESS

STRENGTH

GOD’S LOVE

POLARITIES OF AFFECTIVITY

ANGER

LOVEWEAKNESS

STRENGTH

PRINCIPLE OF TRANSCENDENCE OF OPPOSITES

I am neither good nor bad. I am both.I am neither spiritual nor sensual. I am both.I am neither generous nor selfish. I am both.I am neither a saint nor a sinner. I am both.

But God accepts me, forgives me, and loves me just as I am. And I can accept, forgive, and love myself and others. Not because they are perfect, but because

they are being perfected by the healing love and power of God.

SELF-AC TUALIZATION

OWNING STRENGTHS SURRENDERING TO WEAKNESS EXPRESSING LOVE ASSERTING ANGER

Liberating the person from being stuck on one affective polarity

THE FULLY ACTUALIZED PERSON OF CHRIST

STRENGTH / Courage(Jn 18:28-40/Lk 23:1-12/Mk 14:53-65)

WEAKNESS / Humility(Mt 26:36-55 / Mt 27:45-50)

LOVE / Compassion(Mt 14:13-21 / Lk 7:11-17 / Mt 12:1-8)

ANGER / Confrontation With Caring(Mt 21:12-17 / Mt 23:13-39)

THANK YOU VERY MUCH!