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“You cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless you change.”

–Les Brown

“One may go a long way after one is tired.” – Proverb

“Perseverance is not a long race; it is many short races one after another.” Walter Elliot

Vital skill that we all need to master in order to be successful in this world

The continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition

Trials come in all forms and they will ALWAYS be there!

Motivation

The psychological feature that arouses an organism to action toward a desired goal and elicits, controls, and sustains certain goal directed behaviors

What motivates you?

"It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.“ Alan Cohen

“In three words I can sum upeverything I've learned about life: it goes on.” Robert Frost

…whether you choose to keep up or not!

In order to play the game…

Career Rules Life Skills Rules

AdaptabilityResponsibilityLifelong Learning

Expect the UnexpectedAdaptabilityInterdependencePurposefulnessResourcefulnessResilience

Career RulesJob Security doesn’t existAdaptability

◦Change – domino effect◦Adapt or perish

Responsibility◦This means YOU!

Lifelong Learning◦Healthy response to change

Life Skills RulesExpect the Unexpected

◦Not just a good skill, but a crucial skill

Adaptability◦Curve balls can’t derail you

Interdependence◦There are times in your life when it IS

appropriate to lean on others

Life Skills RulesPurposefulness

◦Choose wiselyResourcefulness

◦Find different ways to get your needs met

Resilience◦If a door doesn’t open…

“Become addicted to constant and never-ending self-improvement.” – Anthony J. D’Angelo

What do you see in your mirror?

ProcrastinationThe bad habit of putting off until

the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday. -Napoleon Hill

Creates higher levels of stress and sends all those stress hormones coursing through your body, wearing it out faster

The world today is littered with an abundance of distractions that can diminish an individual’s productivity

Where does all my time go??

“Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get out of.”

“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” Benjamin Franklin

Cognitive distortions – AVOID!All-or-nothing thinking

“Either I find a job that pays $50,000 or my whole job search is a waste of time!”

Overgeneralization◦ “I performed poorly in my last job interview. I’ll

never find a suitable job!”

Mental filter◦ Dwelling on that one answer to that one

question in an interview that didn’t go well

Discounting the positive◦ Job searching requires that we share the

positives

Cognitive distortions – AVOID!Jumping to conclusions

◦Mind reading & fortune tellingMagnification/Catastrophizing

◦Blow things out of proportion Emotional reasoning

◦Feel bad and find reasons to back that up“Should” statementsLabeling

◦“I’m a bad interviewer.” “I’m no good at writing.”

Personalization & Blame◦Blaming only yourself or blaming others

Don’t let negativity get to you!He was fired by a newspaper

editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas”

His famous secret chicken recipe was rejected 1,009 times before a restaurant accepted it

What is your support system like?

“You can learn a lot about a person by the company that they keep.”

Whether you choose to believe it or not…

We take on the characteristics of the people we surround ourselves with

We resemble the members of our inner circle in our speech, actions, thoughts or mannerisms

Surround yourself with people that you can LEARN from and EMULATE!

When life’s currents try to sweep you underneath start kicking as hard as you can, for as long as you can, until you find yourself swimming in calmer waters!

Attitude determines your Altitude

How far do you want to go in life?Something as trivial as a bad

attitude can rob you of opportunities

Your attitude is the key…Will help you…Look for the positive in a

situation no matter how dire the circumstances

HAVING A HARD TIME?

Make your list!

Seriously… start a list!Right now!

Really want to put this gratitude stuff into practice?

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.

Beautiful people do not just happen.