the good parent: mentorship in the jungle presented by: dr. chris harper

The Zoo Revolution

The Good Parent: Mentorship in the Jungle

Presented by:Dr. Chris Harper

The Zoo

What is the Zoo Revolution

The Power of a Cage

1. Clinical Depression2. Learned Helplessness

The Results of Cages

How Did We Get To the Zoo?

The History of Organizations

The Machine

This company runs like a “well oiled machine”

Efficient, Effective, Productive

The Machine

The workers within an organization are simply viewed as “parts” that can be replaced or

upgraded as needed.

“You are replaceable”

TheHawthorne Studies

1927….. The year that we discovered people

The Family

A group consisting of parent/parents and children living in a household

A group of people related to one another by blood or marriage

Family

“These definitions are based on how you are related, not based on how you relate”-Dr. Chris harper

“They are based on groupings not functions within the group!”-Me

“Functional or Dysfunctional”-You

Re-thinking family

Latin: Famulus…..familia……. Family

“A household of servants”

The Zoo“Revolution”

Moving from cages to jungles!

You can be a “family” in a zoo!

You must be a “Famulia” in a jungle

The Power of Influence

Hans the Horse and the Super Rats

The Blue/Brown Studies and Pygmalion in the classroom

The Good ParentModel

The Theory of the Looking Glass Self

The Stanford Prison Guards

Stanley Milgrim

Little Believers

Knowing – Doing - Believing

The Parable ofThe Wineskins

It does no good to pour new wine into old wineskins, for they shall break and

the wine be wasted.-Jesus

Little Believers

I Matter – The lesson of identityYou Matter – The lesson of relationship

I Can – The lesson of creativityI Should – The lesson of morality

We is Greater Than Me – The lesson of collaboration

A Tale of TwoParents

“A house divided against itself can not stand”-Jesus

Theory X

People are inherently lazy, unproductive, and avoid work

Leadership Tools: The Carrot and The Stick

Theory Y

Work is as natural as play

Leadership Tools: Relationship and Vision

Martin Buber

Ich – EsIch – Du

Those really are people you are sending emails to!

The Good ParentGoal

To reproduce healthy, mature, responsible, productive members of the

jungle!

The Good ParentMantra

I am not simply responsible FOR those on my team……..

I am responsible TO those on my team-Dr. Chris Harper

The Good Parent Habits

They practice the habit of intentionalityThey practice the habit of present presence

They practice the habit of seeing potentialityThey practice the habit of communicating expectation

They practice the habit of constant kindnessThey practice the habit of authentic appreciation

They practice the habit of loving honesty

The Good ParentQuestions

“How can I help you?”“What do you need”

“How can I make your job easier?”“How can I make your job more fun?”

Mentorship is a Two Way Process

“Better Sheep make better shepherds”-Dr. Chris Harper

FollowershipMaking

Better Sheep

“A great sheep is part child, part thief, and part artist”

- Me

Better Sheep

The Child: Follow the leader

Open your eyes to the world around youClose your mouth, except when it should be open

Listen to your teacher

Better Sheep

The Thief:Takes constructive criticism

Takes responsibility

Better Sheep

The Artist:Make moral choices

Make creative choicesMake the world they inhabit beautiful

Shark Tales and Bamboo lessons

Their ability to grow is related to the cages in which they are placed!

True growth is always deep before it is tall