ten habits highly healthy homes of habit 9 speak the truth speak the truth exodus 20:16

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Habit 9

Speak TheTruthSpeak TheTruth

Exodus 20:16Exodus 20:16

Exodus 20:16Exodus 20:16

Do not testify falsely against

your neighbor.

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Situation Ethics

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Proverbs 6:16-19Proverbs 6:16-1916 These six things the Lord hates, Yes, seven are an abomination to Him: 17 A proud look, A lying tongue, Hands that shed innocent

blood,

Proverbs 6:16-19Proverbs 6:16-1918 A heart that devises wicked plans, Feet that are swift in running to evil, 19 A false witness who speaks lies, And one who sows discord

among brethren.

Hebrews 6:18Hebrews 6:18

… it is impossible for God to

lie.

Psalm 31:5Psalm 31:5

Into Your hand I commit my spirit;

You have redeemed me, O

Lord God of truth.

John 14:6John 14:6

Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one

can come to the Father except through me.”

John 4:24John 4:24

God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in

truth.

John 8:44John 8:44For you are the children of your father the Devil, and you love to do the evil things he does. He

was a murderer from the beginning and has

always hated the truth.

John 8:44John 8:44

There is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of

lies.

Ephesians 4:25Ephesians 4:25

We are part of the same body. Stop lying and start

telling each other the truth.

Colossians 3:9Colossians 3:9

And stop lying to each other. You have given up

your old way of life with its habits.

Psalm 101:7Psalm 101:7

I will not allow deceivers to serve me, and liars will not be allowed to

enter my presence.

Lying is simply an intention to mislead

When you tell a half-truth, you’re

telling a whole lie!

You can lie by falsifying

informationor you can lie by withholding information

Why We Lie

Why We Lie

The Cruel

Lie

The Cruel

Lie

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Motivation:

Resentment

Motivation:

Resentment

This is the kind of lie you tell

to get

revenge

This is the kind of lie you tell

to get

revenge

GOSSIPthe

unnecessary bearing of

information

GOSSIPthe

unnecessary bearing of

information

Before you speak …

Before you speak …T

HINK

THINK

Before you speak …

Before you speak …Is it ….Is it …. T

HINK

THINK

rue?rue?

Before you speak …

Before you speak …Is it ….

Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….

THINK

THINK

rue?elpful?rue?elpful?

Before you speak …

Before you speak …Is it ….

Is it ….Is it ….

Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….

THINK

THINK

rue?elpful?nspiring?

rue?elpful?nspiring?

Before you speak …

Before you speak …Is it ….

Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….

Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….

THINK

THINK

rue?elpful?nspiring?ecessary?

rue?elpful?nspiring?ecessary?

Before you speak …

Before you speak …Is it ….

Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….

Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….Is it ….

THINK

THINK

rue?elpful?nspiring?ecessary?ind?

rue?elpful?nspiring?ecessary?ind?

Proverbs 26:20Proverbs 26:20

Fire goes out for lack of fuel, and

quarrels disappear when gossip stops.

Proverbs 17:9Proverbs 17:9

Disregarding another person’s faults preserves

love; telling about them separates close friends.

The Cowardly

Lie

The Cowardly

Lie

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Motivation:

FearMotivation:

Fear

This is the kind of lie you tell

to escape

consequences

This is the kind of lie you tell

to escape

consequences

Proverbs 29:25Proverbs 29:25

Fearing people is a dangerous

trap, but to trust the Lord means

safety.

The Conceited

Lie

The Conceited

Lie

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Motivation:

InsecurityMotivation:

Insecurity

This is the kind of lie you tell

to impress others

This is the kind of lie you tell

to impress others

Proverbs 10:19Proverbs 10:19

Don’t talk too much, for it

fosters sin. Be sensible and turn

off the flow!

The Calculated

Lie

The Calculated

Lie

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Motivation:

SelfishnessMotivatio

n:

Selfishness

This is the kind of lie you tell

to manipulate

others

This is the kind of lie you tell

to manipulate

others

Proverbs 26:28Proverbs 26:28

Watch out for anyone who tells lies and flatters —

they are out to get you.

Romans 16:18Romans 16:18Such people are not

serving Christ our Lord; they are serving their

own personal interests. By smooth talk and glowing words they

deceive innocent people.

The Convenient

Lie

The Convenient

Lie

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Motivation:

Laziness

Motivation:

Laziness

This is the kind of lie you tell

to avoid

involvement

This is the kind of lie you tell

to avoid

involvement

Psalm 34:12-13Psalm 34:12-1312 Do any of you want

to live a life that is long and good? 13

Then watch your tongue! Keep your

lips from telling lies!

ways we must

speak the truth

ways we must

speak the truth44

11tell the truth

completely

tell the truth

completely

Proverbs 10:10Proverbs 10:10

Someone who holds back the truth causes

trouble.

Proverbs 28:23Proverbs 28:23

In the end, people

appreciate frankness more than flattery.

22tell the truth

consistently

tell the truth

consistently

Ephesians 4:15Ephesians 4:15

Let our lives lovingly express the truth in all

things – speaking truly, dealing truly,

living truly.

Proverbs 11:3Proverbs 11:3

… people who can’t be trusted are destroyed by

their own dishonesty.

33tell the truth

lovingly

tell the truth

lovingly

Ephesians 4:29Ephesians 4:29

Speak only what is helpful for building

others up, according to their needs, that it

may benefit those who listen.

When you shoot an arrow,

dip itin honey

first.

- Old Arab Proverb

When you shoot an arrow,

dip itin honey

first.

- Old Arab Proverb

A.People change easier and faster when you speak the truth in a spirit of love.

A.People change easier and faster when you speak the truth in a spirit of love.

Changing OthersChanging Others

B.People always perceive truth without love as an attack on them, which causes them to resist it and become defensive.

B.People always perceive truth without love as an attack on them, which causes them to resist it and become defensive.

Changing OthersChanging Others

Ask yourself …

Who am I trying to benefit?

Ask yourself …

Who am I trying to benefit?

Changing OthersChanging Others

Absolute statements and exaggerations always POLARIZE conversations and

PROHIBIT constructive

communication.

Absolute statements and exaggerations always POLARIZE conversations and

PROHIBIT constructive

communication.

Changing OthersChanging Others

Real communication

+ Real determination

= Progress

Real communication

+ Real determination

= Progress

Changing OthersChanging Others

Proverbs 13:17Proverbs 13:17

Reliable communicatio

n permits progress.

44tell the truth

tactfully

tell the truth

tactfully

Proverbs 12:18Proverbs 12:18

Sharp words cut like a

sword, but words of

wisdom heal.

HONESTY

means that everything you

say must be true, not that

everything true must be said

HONESTY

means that everything you

say must be true, not that

everything true must be said

TIMINGis everything in

solving problems in a marriage or in

a family

TIMINGis everything in

solving problems in a marriage or in

a family

Ecclesiastes 8:6Ecclesiastes 8:6

There is a right time and a

right way to do everything …

The beginning of honesty is

the confession

of dishonesty

The beginning of honesty is

the confession

of dishonesty

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Reputation

Character

… is what others think I am

… is what I really am

… is what I am when others are looking

… is what I am when no one is looking

… will last for a lifetime

… will last for eternity

… is what impresses people

… is what impresses God

Matthew 12:34Matthew 12:34

… for the mouth speaks

what the heart is full of.

Habit 9:

Speak The Truth

Habit 9:

Speak The Truth