seven lessons in personal marketing i learned from pickup artists

Seven Lessons in Personal Marketing I Learned From

Pickup Artists

Alan Stevens

nerdhiveindustries.com

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The seduction community is an ad-hoc collection of men that try to trick women into having sexual intercourse with them.

Merlin Mann

Men are just ugly women you don’t

want to sleep with.

Mystery

All sales is nothing more than making

friends.Shane Pearlman

Who are thesePickup Artists?

mysterypua.net

Mystery

doubleyourdating.com

David DeAngelo(Eben Pagan)

myspace.com/neilstrauss

Neil Strauss

rsdnation.com

Tyler Durden

artofattraction.com

Lance Mason

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

Nature has not designed you for the world in which you now live.

Mystery

Beware of Your Lizard Brain

http://www.flickr.com/photos/aknock/4511438903/

Karl Rohnke’s CSP ModelComfort Zone

Stretch Zone

Panic Zone

Mystery

Confidence is not the goal.

Competence is.

We miss 100% of the shots we don’t take.

Wayne Gretsky

They can’t eat you.Bob Parsons

http://www.flickr.com/photos/darwinbell/536974319/

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

http://www.flickr.com/photos/my-misc-pics/5157196374/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/icandyartstudio/800171450/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfllaw/639442917/

Your primary goal must be your own enjoyment.

Jeanne Martinet

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

Frames13 year olds

Bette Davis

Kid Sister

Underwear

The Host

http://www.flickr.com/photos/trojanguy/3259035554/

OMG, an exercise!

flickr.com/photos/dougcoulter/3839242262

Are you chasing butterflies?

http://www.flickr.com/photos/lordcuauhtli/2180205334/

http://www.flickr.com/photos/90982314@N00/4693959409/

Your purpose in any mingling situation is to

have fun.Jeanne Martinet

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

Give people insight into

themselves

Enter a set at the same or slightly higher energy as the

people in the group.

Neil Strauss

Reach people at an

emotional level

Seek rapport not approval

rap·port /raˈpôr/Noun:A close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other's feelings or ideas and communicate well.

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

Talking is the only means you have of

conveying your personality

Speak slowly, with pauses

and enthusiasm

Consider Joining Toastmasters

www.toastmasters.org

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

http://www.flickr.com/photos/avlxyz/2435646997/

Practice your mingling on the socially challenged.

Jeanne Martinet

Get into a talkative mood and practice talking to everyone.

Mystery

1. It’s OK to talk to strangers2.Lean Back3. Prepare your mental frame4.Provide Value5.Talk to groups6.Get warmed up7.Have a plan

I. Avatar

II. Story

Be yourself

but be your best self.Style

http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Peacock_Milwaukee_County_Zoo.jpg

http://www.flickr.com/photos/betsyweber/5355040879/in/set-72157625823025718

Story Topics• Did something fun with a girl• Did something you weren’t supposed to

and got away with it• Had something funny/scary/exciting

happen on a trip• Took charge of a situation• Stood up to someone for someone else• Organized something exciting• Had someone’s back• Got out of an awkward situation• Did something nice for someone• Did something spontaneous• Accomplished something you are proud of• Saw something funny/scary/exciting

Source: venusianarts.com

doubleyoursalesnow.com

WARNING

Source: Pragmatic Thinking and Learning

Dreyfus Model of Skills Acquisition

http://www.flickr.com/photos/hubmedia/2141860216/

Resources

Game On

www.gameondvd.com

http://www.flickr.com/photos/sred/433674856/

The “N” Word

Networking is doing favors for

other peopleMerlin Mann

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