self esteem and self confidence

SELF ESTEEM AND SELF CONFIDENCE

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SELF ESTEEM AND SELF CONFIDENCE

WHAT IS SELF ESTEEM?Self esteem refers to a positive overall

evaluation of oneself – a feeling that one is competent to cope with life’s challenges and

worthy of happiness

Self concept is what we think

about ourselves

Self esteem is what we feel

about ourselves

Of all the judgements we pass in life, none is more important than the judgements we pass on ourselves. – Nathaniel Branden

To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are.

It's not your job to like me...it's MINE! - Byron Katie

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent – Eleanor Roosevelt

Reflect on these…

FACTORS INFLUENCING SELF ESTEEM

Healthy Self

Esteem

Being Praised

Being listened to

Being spoken to

respectfully

Experiencing success

FACTORS INFLUENCING SELF ESTEEM

Low Self

Esteem

Being harshly

criticized or ridiculed

Being beaten,

yelled at or ignored

Being expected to be perfect

Experiencing failures

Although early life experiences have a major impact on self-esteem, experiences in adult life also play a role.

FACTORS INFLUENCING SELF ESTEEM

CONSEQUENCES OF HIGH SELF ESTEEM

Good mental health

Career success

Organizational prosperity

Profiting from negative feedback

CONSEQUENCES OF LOW SELF ESTEEM

ENVYING TOO MANY PEOPLE

POOR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS

Attain legitimate accomplishments:

Persons must also engage in behaviours

and make choices that are worthy of esteem.

HOW TO IMPROVE SELF ESTEEM

Person establishes a goal

Person pursues the goal

Person achieves the goal

Person develops esteem-like feelings

Be aware of personal strengths

Minimize settings and interactions that detract from your feelings of competence

HOW TO IMPROVE SELF ESTEEM

Talk and socialize frequently with people who boost your self esteem.

Model the behaviour of people with high self esteem.

HOW TO IMPROVE SELF ESTEEM

SELF CONFIDENCE

Self confidence is assuredness in one’s personal judgement and abilities.

Self efficacy refers to confidence in one’s ability to carry out a specific task.

SELF CONFIDENCE and SELF EFFICACY

Self confidence results from 5 sources of information:

1. Personal experiences, or things we have done.

2. The experiences of others, or modeling.

3. Social comparison.

Sources of Self Confidence

4. Social persuasion – the process of convincing another person.

5. Emotional arousal – how you feel about events around you and how you manage your emotions.

Sources of Self Confidence

1. Take an inventory of personal assets and accomplishments.

2. Develop a solid knowledge base.

Strengthening Self Confidence

3. Use positive self-talk.

4. Avoid negative self talk

Strengthening Self Confidence

State the incident/ problem

objectively

Interpret what the incident does not

mean

State what it does mean

Account for the cause of the

incident

Identify positive ways to prevent a

reoccurrence

Use positive self talk

4. Use positive visual imagery

5. Set high expectations for yourself

HOW TO IMPROVE SELF ESTEEM

6. Strive for peak performance

7. Behave as if you feel confident

8. Bounce back from setbacks and embarrassments

HOW TO IMPROVE SELF ESTEEM

9. Strive to develop psychological capital – a state in which you have hope, self-efficacy, optimism and resilience.

10. Avoid overconfidence

HOW TO IMPROVE SELF ESTEEM