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Moon Parenting

By: Dr. Swati Lodha

Moon Parenting

• MOON means Patience Discipline and Balance. MOON PARENTS mean Patient Parents Disciplined Parents and Balanced Parents.

What is Moon Parenting?

Moon Parenting is

crescendo presence

Moon Parenting is a

responsibility, a gift

Moon Parenting is

perennial

Moon Parenting is

an emotion

Know your

children…

Joyful Copycat Phase(0-4 years)

See saw Phase(8-12 years)

Snake and Ladder Phase(16 years and up)

Blotting Paper Phase(4-8 years)

Tug Of War Phase(12-16 years)

The World of Children

Child

INTERNAL

EXTERNAL

Temperament

Psyche

Parents

Peers, Technology, Lifestyle

NATUR

URTURE

Temperament of childrenTemperament is formed by the characteristic traits that a child is born with.

Temperament

Activity Trait

Regularity Tr

ait

Withdrawal Tr

ait

Intensity Tr

ait

Effort control

Mood Trait

Attention Trait

Adaptability Trait

Persistence Tra

it

What do children teach us?

Children teach us…

To love, to feel secure

Curiosity and spontaneous application of learning

Enthusiasm for

everything

The power of N

OW To forget and to forgive

To be natural and

to be transparent

Know your parenting style

Disciplined, persistent children.

Insensitive, conceited children.

Are you a SUPER parent ?

Mantra – Achievement matters Failure is unacceptable.

Know your parenting style

Are you a DESIGNER parent?

Mantra – We buy all that is best –Expensive and Exclusive – for our kids.

Experienced children, exclusive credentials Shallow children, superficial perfection

Know your parenting style

Are you a BULLETPROOF parent?

Mantra – We will protect and support the child all the way, come what may.

Secure children, deeply attached to parents. Risk averse and indecisive children

Know your parenting style

Are you a YES parent?

Mantra – I want to be a nice parent, not nasty.

Happy and loving children Impulsive Children, Unrealistic expectations.

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Are you a POLORISED parent?

Mantra – Mother and father, the twain shall never meet.

Adaptable children

Insecure, Emotionally alienated children.

Know your parenting styleAre you an ISLAND parent?

Mantra – Sorry, children are not on our agenda.

• None• Children raise themselves up.

Ten principles of ParentAbility1. Ask yourself: Why do/did I want children?2. Prepare yourself to have a crescendo presence in the lives of

your children.3. Develop your ability to disambiguate your childhood

memories.4. Improve the ability to strike a balance.

Parents

Emotional Imbalance

Lifestyle Imbalance

Family Imbalance

Moral Imbalance

Financial Imbalance

ParentAbility Continued…

5. Improve your ability to admit your mistakes and to take yourself lightly.6. Develop a liking for consistent learning and consistent up gradation. 7. Show. Exemplify.8. Master the ability to have a clear, crisp and concrete communication with your child.9. Love yourself the way you are.10. Develop the attitude to show Gratitude.

Five Disciplines

Five Foundations

Five RightsFive Truths

Five C

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itmen

ts

The POWER Of

How to be a MOON PARENT….

What is Parenting?

Parenting is: • Loving children without any condition.• Observing children without any prejudice.• Encouraging children without any comparison.• Empathizing with children without any

suggestion.• Guiding children without any expectation.

Parenting is perennial

• Parenting has a beginning but has no end.• A parent has to be a pillar of

patience, encouragement and discipline for the first two decades.• A parent has to be a reservoir of

love and care forever.

Moon Parenting is crescendo presence

• Moon Parents follow the phases of Moon .• Their presence in the beginning years of their child’s life

resembles the full moon phase• As the child grows up, his freedom rises while the presence of

parents reduces, just the way the Moon enters its waning gibbous phase.

• By the advent of teenage , the child becomes more decisive and parents start to guide subtly, resembling a half moon.

• During college days, the child becomes more self reliant and parents become shock absorbers in this waning crescent phase.

• Presence of parents reach a new moon phase when the child settles down professionally.

Moon Parenting is crescendo presence

Parents enter the life of their child again when he needs them or become a parent himself, just the way the Moon enters its waxing crescent phase.Their presence should increase further as grand parents, enriching the lives of their grandchildren.They become a wonderful bridge between their children and grandchildren during the waxing gibbous phase.With the right set of values , children let their parents reach the full moon phase in their twilight years.

Home

Parenting is a responsibility, a gift

• For Moon Parents, Parenting is a big responsibility but a bigger gift.

• They are responsible for fulfilling their needs but not all their desires.

• They are responsible for making them self confident and self reliant but not to make them invincible and entitled.

• BEING A PARENT is a gift of nature to the parents. BECOMING A PARENT is a gift they give to themselves and their children.

Parenting is an emotion

• An emotion is an energy which makes the mind work.

• Moon Parents possess this emotion which gives them the strength to consistently love, encourage, observe, empathize with and guide the children , irrespective of the children’s response.

• Emotion of a moon parent towards his child is never similar to the emotion of a child towards his moon parent.

Joyful Copycat Phase

Children copy what they see.Children see what we make them see.

Blotting paper Phase

Children absorb whatever comes their way- Approval, Appreciation

or Criticism- from parents, teachers, friends or anyone and

perceive themselves accordingly.

See saw PhaseInput Output

Encouragement and Discipline

Expectation and Judgment

Criticism and Punishment

Excessive love and Protection

Confidence and Zeal

Anxiety and Obstinacy

Aggression Overconfidence and Arrogance

Tug Of War Phase

Passion v/s pragmatism

Friends v/s Family

Snake and Ladder Phase

Happiness

Money

This is the final but the most slippery phase out of childhood.

Disciplines

•Moral Discipline•Health Discipline•Psychological Discipline• Time Discipline• Learning Discipline

Five Foundations

•Value Life• Know Yourself•Accept and Assert, positively• Self Regulate Yourself•Have Humor

Five Rights

• Right to Dream• Right to Think and Try• Right to Fail and Try again• Right to Express• Right to be a Child first, a

performer later

Five Truths

• Your success and happiness are as personal as your toothbrush is.

• Nobody can hurt or insult you without your consent.

• Use technology but do not get used by it.• Value money but value relationships

even more.• Less is More! (not for grades)

Five Commitments

• Commitment towards the World.• Commitment towards the Country.• Commitment towards the Society.• Commitment towards the Parents.• Commitment towards the Self.