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Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

WelcomeWelcome

Sex

Supported by

“On Track” Community Health Project

Mallee Track Health & Community Service

Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

What WE are looking at today

Sex / Lust / Choice

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What is Sex?Male or Female

Communication between couples

Pleasure between couples

Demonstration of Feelings/Affection

Provides Intimacy

Making Babies or Just for FUN

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So Why do

Adolescents

have Sex?

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Why Girls and Boys Experienced Activities

46%

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WHY NOT?

Reason Boys Girls% of Responses % of Responses

Not ready / interested 36% 35%

“It’s Illegal” 28% 11%

Safer 19% 39%

Parents 17% 15%

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Year 10 Boys and Girls Experiences

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Would you practice safe sex?

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Yes

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Reasons For Not Practicing Safe Sex

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Affected bydrink / drugs

Forgot acondom

Pressure not to Think it’s betterw ithout acondom

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Do you need someone to talk to?

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Who would you like to speak to?

43%

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What is Love?It is based on friendship, affection, mutual respect, admiration, thoughtfulness, sharing and caring

Involves good communication and listening

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Does not involve any physical, emotional or sexual violence

Is not instant or perfect

Love at first sight is more likely to be lust at first sight

Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

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What is Lust?Is a physical response that involves sexual arousal

It is being “turned on” sexually

Is a short-term emotion

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Can get you into trouble (ie lust can make you do something you wouldn’t normally do, eg not using a condom)

LUST ...Is not always love

You can love and lust at the same time, but they are not the same thing

Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

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Do YOU have a

CHOICE?

YES or NO

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The Choice is YOURS

3 A’s

Abstinence

Activity

All the Way

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What is sexual activity?Masturbation …..?

Kissing, Pashing …..?

Feeling, touching someone else ….?

Mutual masturbation …..?

Oral sex …..?

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Or

All the WAY

Anal intercourse …..?

Bonking, sexual intercourse …..?

Source: Bernard J. Denner

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Sexual Activity

Needs

Permission or Consent

Source: Bernard J. Denner

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Questions to ask ….

If you are thinking of having sex ...

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Do I feel old enough and responsible enough to be doing this?

Am I doing this for me or for him / her?

Am I prepared to use a condom?

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If something goes wrong and we become pregnant, am I prepared for that responsibility?

Am I just trying to prove something to myself or him / her?

How will I feel about him / her afterwards?

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How will I feel about myself?

Has Sex - Solved the Problem?

Has Sex - made me Feel Better?

Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

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What is sex for?

There are several main answers to the question “what is sex for?” and many people feel that the ‘true’ answer is a combination of these:

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•Sex is for the survival of the species (human beings).

•Sex is for making babies.

•Sex is part of partnership; it cements the relationship.

•Sex is showing feelings of love or affection between people.

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•Sex is for pleasure.

•Sex is better between committed couples.

•Good Sex is more than just Bonking.

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The Perils of Sex

Without Love

and

Unprotected Sex

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•Unwanted Pregnancy

•Sexual Diseases

•Interrupted Study

•Alienation from friends

•Depression

•Being used

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Always check the Use By Date on condoms to ensure that they are effective.

Use a lubricant to ensure condom doesn’t break.

The Pill does not always WORK

•Medication

•Drunk and Vomit

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Adolescence

is a

GOOD TIME

of Life

ENJOY IT