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Connecting Success and Happiness

You earned $10 Million per year?

Would you be successful if:

You would be about 65 and one of only .001% of Americans.Top 1% of Americans averaged $380,354 in 2010.

Sacrifice?

“…Slightly happier than the average person”

…And then you could be happy!

So how much happier would you be?

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Happier people: • Get more job interviews• Get better jobs with more autonomy, meaning, and

variety• Show superior job performance and productivity• Are better at managerial jobs• Are less likely to burnout• Run organizations that are more productive and more

profitable• Make more money

From the book Happiness at Work

“…pleasure is external and happiness is internal. Pleasure is an event, while happiness is a state of mind.”

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Pleasure vs. Happiness

“Happiness is not in our circumstances but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are”

John B. Sheerin

“Happiness is more than a mere pleasurable sensation. It is a deep sense of serenity and fulfillment.”

Mathieu Ricard

Because pleasure connects you to

happiness...

Why do we need to

know the difference between pleasure

and happiness ?

…Until it doesn’t

PLEASURE DISCONNECTS FROM HAPPINESS WHEN:

1. The pleasure is illegal, unethical, or immoral.

2. You over-indulge (e.g., food, alcohol, video games)

3. Your focus on pleasure excludes happiness activities

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Take Control of Your Life

“Autonomy - the feeling that your life, its activities and habits, are self-chosen and self-endorsed.“

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Major Contributor

to Happiness:

Know what you can control and what you can’t control

Own your… Consequences …and your Successes

In that millisecond between action and reaction…

Other Areas of you can take control of your life Positive Thinking Health Exercise Diet Flow Mindfulness Strengths and Virtues

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Who invented the Light Bulb?

Edison

How many people were with him?

30

How can you be:

Happier

Healthier

and Live Longer

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50% Longer

“Relationships constitute the single most important factor responsible for the survival of homo sapiens”

Berscheid

“Like food and air, we seem to need social relationships to thrive.”   

Ed Diener, Robert Biswas-Diener

You influence a friend’s happiness ~15% You influence your friend’s friend’s happiness ~10%

Christakis and Fowler - Connected

Bottom line: Nurturing positive relationships is good for your happiness and the happiness of those around you.

Building Positive Relationships

1. Practice Charity2. Practice Gratitude3. Practice Vulnerability4. Live 100/0 Principle

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Do you ever feel like

Sisyphus?

This is your

Brain on Purpose

This is your Brain

Any Questions?

1. What do you care about deeply?2. What do you love to do?3. How can you use your strengths to make a

difference in the world?4. Who is one person you can help?5. Prayer, Meditation, 15 Minutes of Silence

Finding Your Purpose

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If you know where you are going (definition of self) you will try harder when you fail. If you fail at something that is not in your “definition of self” you don’t try harder. Brunstein, Joachim, Gollwitzer

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Implement with Discipline Every Day“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.” Jim Rohn

"In fact, the brain starts working less and less," says Duhigg. "The brain can almost completely shut down. ... And this is a real advantage, because it means you have all of this mental activity you can devote to something else.“

Activation Energy

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“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” 

— Robert Collier

“Success is a Journey …not a destination”

-Arthur Ashe

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I Believe in You!