habits #6 & #7

7 Habits of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:Highly Effective People:From Rock to From Rock to Water LogicWater Logic

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Synergy in Nature?

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION

TRUSTTRUST

Synergistic (Win/Win)

COOPERATIONCOOPERATION

Respectful (Compromise)

Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win)LowLow

HighHigh

LowLow HighHigh

4 Levels of Interaction

• Hostility (1 + 1 = -1, -10, -100!)

• Defensiveness (1 + 1 = ½)

• Compromise (1 + 1 = 1½)

• Synergy (1 + 1 = 3, 10, 100!)

Habit #6

Synergize

Principle #6:

“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts”

1. They are always WILLING to search for a better solution

Are we caught in the

Intelligence Trap?

Unfortunately, many people with a high intelligence actually turn out to be poor thinkers. They get caught in the ‘intelligence trap’, of which there are many aspects.

For example, a highly intelligent person may take up a view on a subject and then defend that view (through choice of premises and perception) very ably.

The better someone is able to defend a view, the less inclined is that person actually to explore the subject.

So the highly intelligent person can get trapped by intelligence - together with our usual sense of logic that you cannot be more right than right - into one point of view.

The less intelligent person is less sure of his or her rightness and therefore more free to explore the subject and other points of view.

2. They’re always LISTENING and RESTATING the other position(s)

3. They value, and thus create, more NEW IDEAS

• You feel new energy and excitement

• You see things in a different light

• You feel the relationship has transformed

You know there’s synergy when…

What We’re Used ToWhat We’re Used To What We Need To What We Need To Get Used To…Get Used To…

Either/Or Thinking Both/And(And/Also) Thinking

Argumentation Exploration

Universal AbsoluteTRUTH

Relationally Constructed Perspectives

Linear LogicalCertainty Thinking

Multi-Loopy CreativePossibility Imagining

Habit #7

SHARPEN THE SAW

IndependenceIndependence

DependenceDependence

InterdependencInterdependencee

PUBLICVICTORY

PRIVATEVICTORY

Seek First to Understand

… Then to beUnderstood

Synergize

Think Win/Win

Put First Things First

Be Proactive

Begin with the End in Mind

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Please take an A4 paper each

(Be as specific as possible)

Assume you’ve had a heart attack in the last month.

How would you approach nutrition and exercise?

Assume that everything you say about people will be heard

by them.

How would this change the way you speak?

No. 1 reason people leave their jobs is No. 1 reason people leave their jobs is poor relationship with managerspoor relationship with managers

Ability to Ability to solve problems solve problems togethertogether is the major factor is the major factor contributing to satisfactioncontributing to satisfaction

Lifespan rises in proportion with amount of contact we have with close friends

Assume your knowledge and skills will be obsolete in two

years (or less).

What would you do about your own learning?

Assume you have only a year to live.

What would you do?

Sow a thought, reap an action;Sow an action, reap a habit

Sow a habit, reap a characterSow a character, reap a destiny

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